nidena
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Post by nidena on Jun 10, 2023 8:56:49 GMT -5
Never been married, unless you count the 20 years me and the military were together. I always joke that my bro and dad have been married enough times that I don't need to: they each are on their third wife.
I'm polyamorous but solo poly rather than seeking a nesting partner. I'll never live with anyone again. I love my little house and there isn't room in it for anyone but me and my kitties.
I'm also of a mindset right now that I just don't have the patience to deal with all the initial BS that goes into the first few months of a relationship so I'm not even looking. I do my thing and am satisfied with that.
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laterbloomer
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Post by laterbloomer on Jun 10, 2023 9:31:32 GMT -5
57 on my third long term relationship, 1 traditional marriage, 1 common law and now living together in my house. I call him my ISo (credit to Cronewitch). I'm a serial monogamist. I think the ISO and I are together the rest of his life, he's older with health issues. If he passes I'm not sure what the future holds. I like the company but I'm way less inclined to make compromises than I was so I'm not sure about finding someone.
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blue
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Post by blue on Jun 10, 2023 10:16:59 GMT -5
Never been married, unless you count the 20 years me and the military were together. I always joke that my bro and dad have been married enough times that I don't need to: they each are on their third wife. I'm polyamorous but solo poly rather than seeking a nesting partner. I'll never live with anyone again. I love my little house and there isn't room in it for anyone but me and my kitties. I'm also of a mindset right now that I just don't have the patience to deal with all the initial BS that goes into the first few months of a relationship so I'm not even looking. I do my thing and am satisfied with that.That. Starting a new relationship sucks. It's so awkward.
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finnime
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Post by finnime on Jun 13, 2023 16:56:43 GMT -5
I'm happily on my second marriage. The first was a disaster in the end. Current DH has health issues and is older than I. I cannot imagine marrying again after DH; I'm profoundly lucky in having found him and he, me. I would not willingly edit my life for someone else. DH would never ask me to.
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tractor
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Post by tractor on Jun 15, 2023 9:04:08 GMT -5
It will be 30-years of marriage for me near the end of this year. We're rather boring people, work, sleep, watch TV....most of the time. The rest of the time I spend in the gym so I don't go stir crazy.
If I were to loose my wife (more than just at the store, because that happens all the time), I wouldn't be by myself long, can't stand it, I need close human interaction to survive.
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tallguy
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Post by tallguy on Jun 15, 2023 11:34:49 GMT -5
It's not just a thing. It's a wonderful thing! GF and I have been together over five years, and we both consider it permanent. We have our own houses, which we have been in for decades and love. Neither of us want to move or sell. We have our own money, and our own kids. We discussed very early on that marriage was not something either of us really needed to do again. All it would really do is complicate things. It was going to be difficult enough for her kids to see Mom with "Not Dad." No way I wanted to give them a reason to suspect it was about her money. And neither of us need society's imprimatur to "bless" our relationship. With time and traffic being a hassle, I go over a couple times a week and stay over. We're also together a few months a year at her other house, and whenever we are able to travel. She has mentioned maybe having a commitment ceremony at some point, or living together when we get older and less capable. For now, though, it works wonderfully and we still have our own time as well. Not being together every day also allows us to indulge our differences and we both appreciate that.
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giramomma
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Post by giramomma on Jun 15, 2023 13:13:36 GMT -5
It will be 30-years of marriage for me near the end of this year. We're rather boring people, work, sleep, watch TV....most of the time. The rest of the time I spend in the gym so I don't go stir crazy. If I were to loose my wife (more than just at the store, because that happens all the time), I wouldn't be by myself long, can't stand it, I need close human interaction to survive. We're not all that far behind you. We've been bumping uglies for 26 years, married for 22 in a few.
Realistically, if I had (or have) different outcomes, DH would have absolutely no time to date. We still have a 15, 11, and 5 year old at home.
I contribute a lot towards the marriage. Even with him working part time, there's just no way there would be enough hours in the day. I think we have like 6 more years before things remotely become easier.
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Cookies Galore
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jun 15, 2023 18:58:51 GMT -5
Been with my husband 16 years, married for 10 years this September. We met via Craigslist and met in person at a bar a couple of days later, when I was already out drinking margaritas with friends. He says our first kiss reeked of tequila. But we've been together ever since! No kids, three cats.
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Knee Deep in Water Chloe
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jun 17, 2023 9:51:40 GMT -5
First marriage was a failure going into it. Eight years of legal marriage. DD#1 had just turned 9yo when we finally divorced.
Happily in the second marriage. Co-habitating since June 2008; married since May 2010.
He has two boys; I have two girls. The girls consider him their dad.
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