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Post by finnime on Feb 26, 2019 17:26:48 GMT -5
It's true, though! Sex is so much more appealing and fun when kids are grown and gone. The stress and strain they add to your life is much less, plus you can relax in your own home without concern that you might traumatize your child accidentally if they awake in the night.
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chapeau
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Post by chapeau on Feb 26, 2019 18:19:48 GMT -5
My DH does not look like Bradley Cooper, tho. Just close your eyes and think of England. Or of Bradley Cooper. DH’s name does not sound like Brad. 😆 (or Jeremy, since Jeremy Renner may or may not be my idea of hawt.) And those were the directions for when we weren’t supposed to enjoy it. If I’m going to do it, I’d prefer it be fun. Or at least not un-fun.
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Sam_2.0
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Mar 4, 2019 12:41:19 GMT -5
LOL, You all make me smile. I needed that today. H is being a butt.
In better news, I got the job I applied for. I officially cut over on the 16th, just in time to leave for Austin the next day. And work guy may be going along to the same conference....
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Post by Pants on Mar 4, 2019 13:04:12 GMT -5
LOL, You all make me smile. I needed that today. H is being a butt.
In better news, I got the job I applied for. I officially cut over on the 16th, just in time to leave for Austin the next day. And work guy may be going along to the same conference.... Congratulations! I love you. Also NOPE!
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Mar 4, 2019 13:31:45 GMT -5
hahaha, I know. but hes pretty to look at
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Post by swamp on Mar 4, 2019 13:49:45 GMT -5
hahaha, I know. but hes pretty to look at look at you want. don't taste. Just remember, he leaves his dirty socks in the living room, pees on toilet rim, turns into a whiny baby when he's sick, and farts at the dinner table too.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 4, 2019 13:52:26 GMT -5
hahaha, I know. but hes pretty to look at look at you want. don't taste. Just remember, he leaves his dirty socks in the living room, pees on toilet rim, turns into a whiny baby when he's sick, and farts at the dinner table too. He spills spaghetti sauce and red wine and uses the whitest of white towels (and your favorite white fuzzy sweater) to wipe them up.
He eats all the the deli meat and leaves nothing for you to make a sandwich out of; on days when he knows you don't have the energy to actually cook yourself a real meal.
He will call you every day at 405pm and ask "what's for dinner?" even when he's home and you're at work.
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Mar 4, 2019 14:00:51 GMT -5
sits in the recliner watching TV after dinner scratching his nuts, drinking beer, and belching.
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Sam_2.0
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Mar 4, 2019 14:03:59 GMT -5
hahaha, I know. but hes pretty to look at look at you want. don't taste. Just remember, he leaves his dirty socks in the living room, pees on toilet rim, turns into a whiny baby when he's sick, and farts at the dinner table too. He voted for Trump lol, that should be more than enough
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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 4, 2019 14:22:20 GMT -5
look at you want. don't taste. Just remember, he leaves his dirty socks in the living room, pees on toilet rim, turns into a whiny baby when he's sick, and farts at the dinner table too. He voted for Trump lol, that should be more than enough He had an affair with Kellyann Conway and the DC grapevine has it he is now carrying on with Sarah Huckabee Sanders
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Post by Pants on Mar 4, 2019 14:25:06 GMT -5
look at you want. don't taste. Just remember, he leaves his dirty socks in the living room, pees on toilet rim, turns into a whiny baby when he's sick, and farts at the dinner table too. He voted for Trump lol, that should be more than enough Yeah... I don't think the move for you here is to go from one dude who's too conservative for you to another dude who's too conservative for you.
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Post by swamp on Mar 4, 2019 14:34:23 GMT -5
He voted for Trump lol, that should be more than enough He had an affair with Kellyann Conway and the DC grapevine has it he is now carrying on with Sarah Huckabee Sanders that was just mean, lol.
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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 4, 2019 15:00:58 GMT -5
He had an affair with Kellyann Conway and the DC grapevine has it he is now carrying on with Sarah Huckabee Sanders that was just mean, lol. And proud of it
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Post by azucena on Mar 4, 2019 15:21:55 GMT -5
I was going to play the game but then figured Sam won and then I read NastyWoman's post. Cannot stop laughing.
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Post by redwagon on Mar 8, 2019 21:19:51 GMT -5
I just read this whole thread and wow. I wish you only happiness, Sam. You deserve it. Whatever that ends up meaning.
And how lucky are all of us to have this community of support? ❤️
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Wisconsin Beth
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 13, 2019 9:02:28 GMT -5
How are you doing Sam_2.0? Getting all your transitioning stuff done at work? Panicking about packing for Austin?
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Mar 13, 2019 9:22:35 GMT -5
Trying to get things handed off at work. Old boss pulled me into planning for a new project for the next 4 weeks, so that's going to be fun trying to balance that with new job. SOOOOOOO ready to head out to Austin though. Its a conference, so it wont be like real work. Should be a nice break from things for a minute. Old boss AND new boss are going too, so that should also help keep me out of trouble, lol. Too many people around. I also didn't get the same hotel as most of the group so another lady and I are staying together a bit away from the conference.
H is doing ok - he's slacking a bit on helping to take care of stuff around the house, but he comes back in line with reminders that he needs to help. He did join the gym and started working out & eating more healthy. We saw his parents over the weekend and his dad has lost 50lbs in the past three months. I think that was a good motivation for H to get more serious about his weight and where he was headed. I got back on my Zoloft and have an apt with the doctor to go over that a bit more in May. My prescription for it was for PPD and it had ran out, but I think I still need it. Or something, if not that particular thing.
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Post by andi9899 on Mar 13, 2019 9:28:51 GMT -5
What's up with everyone going to Austin? I have another friend who is going there for work. She doesn't work where you do though.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 13, 2019 9:30:24 GMT -5
Yeah, I started my meds back up a couple years ago. I figure I'm on it for life. I'm on a low dose (like 50mg) daily and most days I'm ok.
My talk therapist says I'm moving in the right direction and I'm doing the right things with regards to the kids and trying to manage them as we move from toddlers to more tween-ish kids. Still not looking forward to C's conference tonight with his teacher.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 13, 2019 9:32:20 GMT -5
What's up with everyone going to Austin? I have another friend who is going there for work. She doesn't work where you do though. SxSW?
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Post by andi9899 on Mar 13, 2019 10:14:16 GMT -5
What's up with everyone going to Austin? I have another friend who is going there for work. She doesn't work where you do though. SxSW? I'm lost. What does that mean?
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Post by justme on Mar 13, 2019 10:15:28 GMT -5
I'm lost. What does that mean? South by Southwest it's a huge music festival - though now it also has film and food and other stuff. It's a huge reason why I wouldn't mine moving to Austin. They also have the Austin City Limits festival that's almost as big.
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Mar 13, 2019 10:15:43 GMT -5
South by Southwest
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Mar 26, 2019 22:15:17 GMT -5
Logging. No judgement. No comments needed.
H came home tonight. Drunk and high. I'm so fucking over it.
The kids will be ok, right? I'll make it being a part-time parent? Fuck. I'm so miserable. But theres part of me that is more comfortable with the fucked up reality that I know than the one I dont. The unknown is so scary.
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Post by oped on Mar 26, 2019 22:19:14 GMT -5
It is scary. But fucked up this or fucked up that are not your only options. You CAN have not fucked up. You deserve it. The kids deserve it,
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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 26, 2019 23:03:43 GMT -5
Logging. No judgement. No comments needed. H came home tonight. Drunk and high. I'm so fucking over it. The kids will be ok, right? I'll make it being a part-time parent? Fuck. I'm so miserable. But theres part of me that is more comfortable with the fucked up reality that I know than the one I dont. The unknown is so scary. Not only will the kids be ok, YOU will be ok. It will be hard for a while but you can do this. And while it won't be right away, you will be happy again. what ever your choice we will be here for you.
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Post by justme on Mar 26, 2019 23:24:04 GMT -5
Kids are fucking resilient as hell. They'll value their mother being happy.
My cousin is recently divorced, to a military husband and he moved for a new post before she had the money to follow. Tore her up until she could follow, but those kiddos are happy - I'm fb friends with her ex - and I'm sure they're happy their parents aren't fighting all the time.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 27, 2019 3:08:41 GMT -5
Logging. No judgement. No comments needed. H came home tonight. Drunk and high. I'm so fucking over it. The kids will be ok, right? I'll make it being a part-time parent? Fuck. I'm so miserable. But theres part of me that is more comfortable with the fucked up reality that I know than the one I dont. The unknown is so scary. I’m sorry 😐
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 27, 2019 5:24:46 GMT -5
I’m sorry, Sam. But yes, your kids will be more than okay, and so will you.
FWIW, my sister is going through a divorce (he cheated and left her), and her daughters (almost 6 and almost 10) are adjusting so much better than anyone expected. There are still rough moments, but they also saw the tension and now they see their mommy happy. And my sister has more mental energy for everything because she’s not dealing with the day-to-day crap of her ex.
You’re an incredibly strong woman. You can do this.
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Post by chiver78 on Mar 27, 2019 5:25:48 GMT -5
I'm sorry.
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