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Post by teen persuasion on Jul 26, 2017 23:45:04 GMT -5
Of course, our newest current "neighbors" are the crew installing a secondary water transmission line on our side of the street. We've been marking their progress up the street for months. A few weeks ago they dropped big steel pipes along our frontage. Then they wrapped them. Then they parked BIG equipment at the end of our driveway. Today our house had its own traffic light. Tomorrow I expect digging to hit our south property line, and probably cross our driveway and front yard. Too bad we probably won't be home to watch; hopefully we'll get out for swimming lessons and work before they dig up the driveway.
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Post by steph08 on Jul 27, 2017 8:40:49 GMT -5
Our last house, we had one neighbor within a mile of us. They were about 100 yards behind our house. Besides the wife being a little nosy, they weren't really a problem. They were an older couple. Eventually she died and he moved to a nursing home.
Our current house, we live on an acre and the closest neighbor is about 100 yards away. Sometimes they yell and supposedly one time police were there at 2 am, but we slept through it. One other neighbor told us they do drugs, but we don't know if it's true. We ignore them.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 27, 2017 8:46:26 GMT -5
Some of the stories are scaring me. I want to sell and down size in 3 years, but I'm worried about sharing walls. I would love to have a duplex like my older sister owns. She rents one side and snowbirds in the other. the only connecting walls are the kitchen and the sitting area. There is a carport between each unit. My mom lives in a duplex and loves it. The other side have a 9 year old boy and you'd never know it inside the house. She does hear the kid and his friends playing outside. That doesn't bother her at all. She does have a fence in the backyard, and the kid has knocked to ask to get his ball. She said yes and he doesn't have to keep asking each time. Keep in mind, my mom has no pool or dog. Also, she's considering taking down the fence (was there when she bought it last year). My house is a townhouse/duplex. Each side owns their own house. I have never heard anything from the other house in 8 years. Neighbor told me when I first moved in that the fire wall between our homes was very thick and to let him know if I ever heard anything. ETA: When neighbor was selling, he came and asked me if I ever heard them. They had a newborn by this time. I told him I had never heard them except when they were on their patio. That is because it is very close to my bedroom window.
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Post by trippypea on Jul 27, 2017 9:24:49 GMT -5
For 7 yrs, I've lived in a townhouse, with neighbors on both sides. It used to be a family of 5 on one side and an older, single lady on the other. I never heard a peep out of the older lady, and the family, usually only if they were out on their deck, which abuts my bedroom.
The people who moved in where the family was is another family. Not sure how many people actually live there because there are always different people coming or going. They have 1-3 kids, but they are rarely outside, so I don't hear that much from them. We share a few walls (part of living room, dining room, part of kitchen) on the first floor, but not the second. They are nice people, but they are horrible about yard maintenance. They cut the grass when it is really high, blow it all over my driveway, and don't sweep it up. The last guy did the same thing, so apparently lots of people think that is ok!
A couple who are around the same age as us moved into the house of the older lady. We similarly share the living room wall, dining room wall, and a small portion of the kitchen wall. Then their bedroom wall butts up against our loft wall, but we never hang out in there. We get along with them well enough, and are friendly. However, I never realized how THIN the walls are before they moved in!
They fight. A LOT. And he curses. A LOT. And you can hear every word. Then, they also have sex. Downstairs, and LOUD. Try explaining the weird noises coming from next door to the kids, lol.
I try to never raise my voice because I am afraid they will hear me too, though you would think if they could hear US, they would tone it down over there...
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 27, 2017 9:49:58 GMT -5
I guess I don't think it's that big of a deal if a kid comes into my backyard to get a ball? If the kid is destroying property, sure I would be upset. But just going back there isn't a big deal. Of course our neighbors know we don't have a big dog or a pool. Having either of those might change my mind. I'd rather the kid just go get it then bug me by ringing the doorbell. I guess that's just my introversion talking. our next door neighbor objected to the repeated returns to get the ball. The kids have little to no aim or control. They need to play in a different spot until they develop it. I'm with my neighbor on this. This is the neighbor who called my dd a bully a while ago so we're sort of on neutral terms right now.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 27, 2017 9:59:01 GMT -5
For 7 yrs, I've lived in a townhouse, with neighbors on both sides. It used to be a family of 5 on one side and an older, single lady on the other. I never heard a peep out of the older lady, and the family, usually only if they were out on their deck, which abuts my bedroom. The people who moved in where the family was is another family. Not sure how many people actually live there because there are always different people coming or going. They have 1-3 kids, but they are rarely outside, so I don't hear that much from them. We share a few walls (part of living room, dining room, part of kitchen) on the first floor, but not the second. They are nice people, but they are horrible about yard maintenance. They cut the grass when it is really high, blow it all over my driveway, and don't sweep it up. The last guy did the same thing, so apparently lots of people think that is ok! A couple who are around the same age as us moved into the house of the older lady. We similarly share the living room wall, dining room wall, and a small portion of the kitchen wall. Then their bedroom wall butts up against our loft wall, but we never hang out in there. We get along with them well enough, and are friendly. However, I never realized how THIN the walls are before they moved in! They fight. A LOT. And he curses. A LOT. And you can hear every word. Then, they also have sex. Downstairs, and LOUD. Try explaining the weird noises coming from next door to the kids, lol. I try to never raise my voice because I am afraid they will hear me too, though you would think if they could hear US, they would tone it down over there... I think it's time to raise your voice.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Jul 27, 2017 10:26:02 GMT -5
I guess I don't live my life constantly worrying that someone may sue me for what I think is something irrational. Honestly, no snark, I probably should. Well I've seen it far too often in my line of work. Something happens and then people are bringing me a summons asking what to do. In this day in age people are very quick to sue. It's much easier than working or taking responsibility for your own actions. My clients have asked if it would be better if they had so and so sign an agreement, etc. I tell them it doesn't matter who signs what, in this litigious day and age, they can still be sued and end up in court.
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Post by tskeeter on Jul 27, 2017 17:14:42 GMT -5
Yeah, if someone was occasionally coming into my yard to get a ball, it had better be VERY occasionally. If I have a fence I would not be pleased with people jumping it on the regular. If kids I don't know are running through my yard regularly I would be getting a fence. Not because they might trip and break something, but because fucking respect other people's property! One of our houses was the only yard in the area without a back fence. Kids used our yard to travel between our neighborhood and the neighborhood behind us. At first, it bothered me that the kids used our yard as their shortcut. Then I realized that the kids coming and going were a great burglary deterrent. Without the privacy of a fenced back yard and the frequent kid traffic, nobody was going to be breaking in the back side of our house. There were lots of other more attractive targets.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 28, 2017 1:14:59 GMT -5
Well, one of my neighbors in back of me has the light from hell in their backyard that shines ever so brightly into my bedroom window like a searchlight but at least I don't listen to a barking dog constantly and have unsupervised children running through my yard.
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Post by ners on Jul 28, 2017 6:12:32 GMT -5
I vowed to never be the neighbor that did not return balls or get angry when children retrieved them.
There is an empty lot on one side of my house. The first Thanksgiving I lived here the neighbors had their grandchildren playing baseball and the ball came in my yard. My car had been parked in my driveway. Went out to put he car in the garage. The kids were very apologetic. I said no problem just let me get my car out of the way. I later learned that previous owners were very anal about people in their yard. Going as far as to put up signs not to walk thru the or on the yard.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2017 7:04:58 GMT -5
Well, one of my neighbors in back of me has the light from hell in their backyard that shines ever so brightly into my bedroom window like a searchlight but at least I don't listen to a barking dog constantly and have unsupervised children running through my yard. Yeah, I've got a few neighbors across the lake who have bright lights. I can understand wanting some lighting to deter burglars but they could be smaller and focused on the entry points. Drove me crazy during the months after I had new bedroom windows installed and before the plantation shutters were put up. We had barking dogs in the old house. None in this one, thank heaven, but when I kept my windows open in May and June the "music" of the Canada geese woke me up every morning. Still better than lawsuits, poison ivy and old cars in the yard!
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 28, 2017 7:06:21 GMT -5
For 7 yrs, I've lived in a townhouse, with neighbors on both sides. It used to be a family of 5 on one side and an older, single lady on the other. I never heard a peep out of the older lady, and the family, usually only if they were out on their deck, which abuts my bedroom. The people who moved in where the family was is another family. Not sure how many people actually live there because there are always different people coming or going. They have 1-3 kids, but they are rarely outside, so I don't hear that much from them. We share a few walls (part of living room, dining room, part of kitchen) on the first floor, but not the second. They are nice people, but they are horrible about yard maintenance. They cut the grass when it is really high, blow it all over my driveway, and don't sweep it up. The last guy did the same thing, so apparently lots of people think that is ok! A couple who are around the same age as us moved into the house of the older lady. We similarly share the living room wall, dining room wall, and a small portion of the kitchen wall. Then their bedroom wall butts up against our loft wall, but we never hang out in there. We get along with them well enough, and are friendly. However, I never realized how THIN the walls are before they moved in! They fight. A LOT. And he curses. A LOT. And you can hear every word. Then, they also have sex. Downstairs, and LOUD. Try explaining the weird noises coming from next door to the kids, lol. I try to never raise my voice because I am afraid they will hear me too, though you would think if they could hear US, they would tone it down over there...I think in some ways, you end up being your own downfall in a situation like this. You are considerate and try to be quiet, so neighbors don't have to listen or hear you. Because od this, the loud guy has no clue just how well you hear EVERYTHING that goes on, over at his place. He may be under the impression that you/others are as loud as he is. But because he doesn't hear you, he assumes you don't hear him either. -Just a thought. Maybe not a good one.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 28, 2017 8:33:45 GMT -5
Well, one of my neighbors in back of me has the light from hell in their backyard that shines ever so brightly into my bedroom window like a searchlight but at least I don't listen to a barking dog constantly and have unsupervised children running through my yard. I agree. Dogs that bark constantly and unsupervised childern screamng and running amok, are two of the things that irritate me the MOST! I worry about being decent and not stepping on others toes a lot. So it it bothers and confuses me, when they aren't concerned about doing the same to/for me. My wants and needs are equally as important as theirs. Parents that think I want to have to constantly deal with their children, who are behaving less than ideally, because they can't be bothered with supervising their little darlings themselves. Instilling some basic fundamentals along the way (having respect for others and their things/space and privacy, to name a few) are dead wrong. They are your children and your responsibility. Not mine. And although you may think little Johnny, or Mary's constant screaming, or crying is endearing, I probably do not. If you and your children are in a public place, you need to make some attempt to control their behavior. Not everyone thinks it's cute. I can deal with things getting a little out of whack once in awhile, as long as I feel like others are making an attempt at doing their part too. Being considerate of others. Don't send your little darling outside, to fend for themselves and never expect any backlash. Your cute kids, by riding their bikes up and down in the parking lot, or their scooters etc, are causing major stress and headaches for everyone else, as they attempt to get their cars and themselves in and out of their garage, or their parking space and the like. Trying to do that while dodging groups of unsupervised children, who think they are watching for people and cars, when they really aren't watching all that closely, or being all that careful, is a big deal. More than once this summer a child has crashed in to me. Hard, while they were riding their scooter, or rollerskating etc, a little to fast and without supervision. Thus, there was absolutely no control and they ran right into, or over me. I was walking on the sidewalk. I had been walking on the sidewalk. I didn't jump out from behind a bush, or a tree. I was in clear veiw. They just weren't paying attention and didn't care. We both ended up getting hurt. Unfortunately, I think I came out on the bad end of the stick. If they are your kids, they are your responibility. Plain and simple. I'll try not to bother you, or be mean to your kids /have a negative effect on your lives, if you and your wretched little bastards (COMPLETLY kidding about that! haha ), try not to have a negative effect on me and my life. Consideration has to be made by everyone, for eveyone else, if we are to make this life work.Ahhh... my tangent of the day. (Sorry -Not sorry.)
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Jul 28, 2017 10:40:44 GMT -5
Well, one of my neighbors in back of me has the light from hell in their backyard that shines ever so brightly into my bedroom window like a searchlight but at least I don't listen to a barking dog constantly and have unsupervised children running through my yard. In our previous house, this was an issue as well so I finally went and introduced myself to the lady of the house. I had my professional clothes on, brought her a business card and put my personal cell number on it. After the initial pleasantries, including her saying if her dogs ever bother us (one is a hound dog-I know ) let her know, I mentioned the fact they may not realize their back porch light shines very bright and illuminates our master bedroom. She was a bit stunned at first, but it worked for several years. Then they started keeping it on again, after apparently changing to a different bulb? My observation was out of all 6 other houses, no one else behind us kept their back porch on, so why them?? A general comment: I will add neighbors from hell don't happen just in the city. Even on our 40 acres, the neighbor's dog across the way woke me this morning with it's barking. Our BR window is open, though.
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Post by milee on Jul 28, 2017 11:28:30 GMT -5
The light thing can be a real PITA. People seem to fall into two irreconcilable camps - those who want it dark at night and those who never want it dark. There is no bridging this divide - we can only hope these two extremes can learn to coexist. I happen to be in the camp that thinks it gets dark for a reason... dark is good. Things cool down, people get a chance to sleep, helps to regulate the difference and changes between day and night. Dark is nice and quiet. Different things come out - like the cool little owls that live in my yard or the bats that eat the mosquitoes and even the weird stuff like possums. Dark is good. But I have two neighbors (one next door and one across/diagonal across the water) now that seem to think dark is evil and fight it like their lives depend on it. One of them seems to think it's important that his house and property be lit sufficiently that it's visible from outer space. Sigh. We're not talking about a few lights on a pathway that turn off after a few hours or a motion detector that lights the way when people are around - we're talking about fully lit, crazy bright 24/7. I hate it. But it's their yard. And I comfort myself with the fact that they're both older than I am and will probably die at some point. (It also doesn't help that the PITA next door one is also the one that has two dogs that will bark at me the entire time I'm out working in my own yard. )
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 28, 2017 11:41:02 GMT -5
you live next to Clark Griswold?
I'm one of those people who needs it to be dark at night. It helps me sleep better and stops DS from whining that he shouldn't have to go to bed when it's not dark. Blackout curtains are my jam.
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Post by milee on Jul 28, 2017 11:47:06 GMT -5
you live next to Clark Griswold? I do. And this isn't one or two misdirected porch lights... it's thousands of dollars worth of professionally installed landscaping lights. Uplights, downlights, highlights... The one across the water has about 1/3 of his yard covered by multi-level pool and hardscape. It's gorgeous and incredibly expensive. Guess if you spend $150k+ on your pool/outside area, it needs to be fully lit 24/7. I can sleep OK, I just don't think the lighting is good for the wildlife and frankly, I hate that some of it shines into my yard. I like the dark and the privacy. One of my favorite times to run is at night in the neighborhood when it's totally dark. Not only is it much cooler, but it's quiet and you can see all sorts of things that aren't out during the day. From different things that bloom to animals that only come out at night, it's different. There's a reason it gets dark at night. Clark is missing out.
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Jul 28, 2017 12:04:46 GMT -5
Not mine, but my poor sister's... She has been fighting a slowly-escalating war with her neighbor since he moved in about 2 years ago. They share the main part of a Y-shaped driveway and apparently the neighbor prefers to do a 3-point turn straight over into S/BIL's part of the driveway (over a 2' strip of grass) rather than back out of his own part. BIL planted some trees there and they didn't faze him... then he put some decorative boulders down and the neighbor moved them. The neighbor likes to leave his hose on all day to "water the lawn" (flooding S/BIL's lawn), burns plastic trash, has raucous parties in the middle of the week, and pretty much fulfills every bad neighbor stereotype you could think of. Earlier this week, BIL discovered several dead squirrels inside their yard where the neighbor had been shooting them off the fence with an air rifle. BIL called the sheriff, but nothing came of it. This is all in a suburban neighborhood with 1/3-acre yards. My sister is ready to move, I think. How many of you have bad neighbor stories? Have any of you ever been the bad neighbor? (I have, we had quite a menagerie of unleashed animals when I was younger.) It's definitely made me realize how easy it is to take good neighbors for granted--and there seems to be so little you can do to control the situation, no matter how much land you have or how expensive your house is. My crazy neighbor poisoned and killed my daughter's cat, poisoned my nephew's dog (but she lived) and poisoned and killed my across-the-street neighbor's dog. He liked to lurk along the fence line, listening and trying to see. He would open my gate and let the dogs out, so I had to change the way my fence latched and locked. He would demand to know who had been to my house driving a such-and-such car. He informed his other next door neighbor that they had too many people at their house and some of their guests needed to leave. One day he was throwing rocks at my house, I poked my head out of a window and told him to knock it off and that he needed a good psychiatrist. A little while later, the police showed up at my door as he called and claimed I threatened to "beat him up". I had security cameras installed, and within a year his mother sold the house and they moved. What a happy day it was, too.
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Post by flamingo on Jul 28, 2017 15:42:43 GMT -5
My crazy upstairs neighbor was a stripper and druggie. She was quiet enough, but she had people over all the time. One of them decided in the middle of the night that it was a good idea to lean over her balcony railing and throw up on my porch. She also used our trash cans as her trash cans and will them with her maggot covered trash. They eventually got evicted 6 months into us being there. We lived in a downtown high-rise once where a neighbor was renting his place through AirBNB. That never bothered me. However, it was against the condo rules and the condo board got pissed about it and tried to blame DH and I since this was happening with a unit on our floor. NOPE. Not happening. Not us. That took a while to sort out. Oh, and we had another neighbor who worked night shift, so slept all day. He called the cops regularly for noise complaints from outside the building. We lived in downtown Chicago where people would set up on the corner with their drums (or buckets and drumsticks) or guitars or whatever for tips. I mean, I get that some of these folks didn't have permits, but I'm not sure what he thought was going to happen when he moved in to this building. He told us he was from Chicago, sooooo, he really should have known better. I remember many times riding the elevator up with the unlucky cop who had to take this guy's noise complaint Where we live now is mostly ok. My DH gets mad b/c our our neighbors throw their cigarette butts on the ground near our door. But, when I remind him of the above instances, he mostly cools his jets about it.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 30, 2017 5:13:52 GMT -5
Not mine, but my poor sister's... She has been fighting a slowly-escalating war with her neighbor since he moved in about 2 years ago. They share the main part of a Y-shaped driveway and apparently the neighbor prefers to do a 3-point turn straight over into S/BIL's part of the driveway (over a 2' strip of grass) rather than back out of his own part. BIL planted some trees there and they didn't faze him... then he put some decorative boulders down and the neighbor moved them. The neighbor likes to leave his hose on all day to "water the lawn" (flooding S/BIL's lawn), burns plastic trash, has raucous parties in the middle of the week, and pretty much fulfills every bad neighbor stereotype you could think of. Earlier this week, BIL discovered several dead squirrels inside their yard where the neighbor had been shooting them off the fence with an air rifle. BIL called the sheriff, but nothing came of it. This is all in a suburban neighborhood with 1/3-acre yards. My sister is ready to move, I think. How many of you have bad neighbor stories? Have any of you ever been the bad neighbor? (I have, we had quite a menagerie of unleashed animals when I was younger.) It's definitely made me realize how easy it is to take good neighbors for granted--and there seems to be so little you can do to control the situation, no matter how much land you have or how expensive your house is. My crazy neighbor poisoned and killed my daughter's cat, poisoned my nephew's dog (but she lived) and poisoned and killed my across-the-street neighbor's dog. He liked to lurk along the fence line, listening and trying to see. He would open my gate and let the dogs out, so I had to change the way my fence latched and locked. He would demand to know who had been to my house driving a such-and-such car. He informed his other next door neighbor that they had too many people at their house and some of their guests needed to leave. One day he was throwing rocks at my house, I poked my head out of a window and told him to knock it off and that he needed a good psychiatrist. A little while later, the police showed up at my door as he called and claimed I threatened to "beat him up". I had security cameras installed, and within a year his mother sold the house and they moved. What a happy day it was, too. Holy crap! That guy sounds AWFUL! I would hate living next to someone like that! Growing up, the woman across the street from our house was the worst busy body I've ever known. She knew everyone's business and constantly was telling on everyone. Constantly. It didn't matter if it was day, or night, you could bet she saw whateverr you were doing, and was going to tell your parents about it. Saturdays and Sundays were no exception and age didn't matter. She was always harping on the kids in the neighborhood to be quiet, because her husband slept during the day. Just a general PIA. Speaking of having too much company (sort of)... One time I went over to my BF house. I was probably in my late 40's at the time. None of the houses had off street parking, so everyone parked on the street. Usually this wasn't a big problem. That particular day, 2 cars were parked in front of his house, so I couldn't. Instead, I parked in front of the house directly across the street. A man came out of the house and told me I couldn't park there because there was too much traffic. Huh? I thought maybe I heard him wrong and I didn't want any trouble, so I asked what he said. He told me again, I needed to move my car. This time he said it was because his landlord had told them there was too much traffic. This was a very quite street, with very little traffic. And I was thinking, it's a public street. You can't tell people where they can and can't drive, or park for that matter, if it isn't on your property. I was really confused and I was getting irritated. I explained where I was going and began to walk away. He started screaming and coming after me. WTF?! So I went back, got in my car, to move it to the other side of his driveway. His wife came out, saying it was okay, I could park there. But by now, I was really frustrated by the guy. I was tired of him telling me where I could and couldn't drive and park, yelling about all the traffic, when there wasn't any. So I moved my car all of about 15 feet, then went across the street, to my BF's. I found out later, they'd been in trouble for dealing drugs and the traffic he was talking about was not the kind of traffic I was familiar with. LMAO I had no idea! bwahahaha
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Post by finnime on Jul 30, 2017 6:46:09 GMT -5
"too much traffic!"
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 30, 2017 7:05:00 GMT -5
My crazy neighbor poisoned and killed my daughter's cat, poisoned my nephew's dog (but she lived) and poisoned and killed my across-the-street neighbor's dog. He liked to lurk along the fence line, listening and trying to see. He would open my gate and let the dogs out, so I had to change the way my fence latched and locked. He would demand to know who had been to my house driving a such-and-such car. He informed his other next door neighbor that they had too many people at their house and some of their guests needed to leave. One day he was throwing rocks at my house, I poked my head out of a window and told him to knock it off and that he needed a good psychiatrist. A little while later, the police showed up at my door as he called and claimed I threatened to "beat him up". I had security cameras installed, and within a year his mother sold the house and they moved. What a happy day it was, too. Holy crap! That guy sounds AWFUL! I would hate living next to someone like that! Growing up, the woman across the street from our house was the worst busy body I've ever known. She knew everyone's business and constantly was telling on everyone. Constantly. It didn't matter if it was day, or night, you could bet she saw whateverr you were doing, and was going to tell your parents about it. Saturdays and Sundays were no exception and age didn't matter. She was always harping on the kids in the neighborhood to be quiet, because her husband slept during the day. Just a general PIA. Speaking of having too much company (sort of)... One time I went over to my BF house. I was probably in my late 40's at the time. None of the houses had off street parking, so everyone parked on the street. Usually this wasn't a big problem. That particular day, 2 cars were parked in front of his house, so I couldn't. Instead, I parked in front of the house directly across the street. A man came out of the house and told me I couldn't park there because there was too much traffic. Huh? I thought maybe I heard him wrong and I didn't want any trouble, so I asked what he said. He told me again, I needed to move my car. This time he said it was because his landlord had told them there was too much traffic. This was a very quite street, with very little traffic. And I was thinking, it's a public street. You can't tell people where they can and can't drive, or park for that matter, if it isn't on your property. I was really confused and I was getting irritated. I explained where I was going and began to walk away. He started screaming and coming after me. WTF?! So I went back, got in my car, to move it to the other side of his driveway. His wife came out, saying it was okay, I could park there. But by now, I was really frustrated by the guy. I was tired of him telling me where I could and couldn't drive and park, yelling about all the traffic, when there wasn't any. So I moved my car all of about 15 feet, then went across the street, to my BF's. I found out later, they'd been in trouble for dealing drugs and the traffic he was talking about was not the kind of traffic I was familiar with. LMAO I had no idea! bwahahaha People like this are why I carry a stun gun. It has a flashlight on it that I can use in the dark. If you get too crazy with me, my flashlight may just bite you.
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bean29
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Post by bean29 on Jul 30, 2017 7:53:01 GMT -5
I doubt that he is missing out. His night vision is probably different than yours. I can see exactly nothing at night without some low lighting. DH's night vision is much different than mine. We are married 25 years this year, and while he makes comments about me being totally blind at night, I sometimes wonder if he really understands.
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milee
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Post by milee on Jul 30, 2017 8:19:24 GMT -5
People definitely have different levels of night vision. I suspect, however, that lighting outside your house and entire grounds up 24/7 enough for people to play baseball at night is more related to his desire to showcase his house and landscaping rather than anything else. Not only that, but even if he can't see well at night, he can at least see that the surrounding neighbors don't do this. It's odd to me that it wouldn't at least occur to him that his bright lights don't just light up his yard, but also spill into everybody else's yard and some are even directly - and obnoxiously - pointed directly at other people's yards. It's rude. Toomuchreality's story about parking reminds me of another one of our neighbors who lives 3-4 houses down the street. He's very nice but totally anal about his yard. No biggie - it's his yard. The funny part is that he'll also subject any vacant property or temporarily empty houses to his lawn care. There is a vacant property diagonal/across from him that he has kept immaculate - down to trimming the bushes into perfect cylinders - for a couple of years now. It's not his and he has no arrangement with the owners, it just bugs him to see it untrimmed. Anyways, a couple of weeks ago, I got home at about 2 AM early on a Monday morning after driving 9 hours home from a regatta. It's tricky to back my boat down my narrow, curving driveway even during the day and I didn't want to bother with it at 2 AM. So I parked the boat, still attached to my SUV along the street in front of this empty property and walked over to my house. There is no HOA and given it's a public road, no legal reason not to park there or in front of anyone's house. It's normal for lawn maintenance crews, guests and other cars to park there and also in front of other houses. By 7:30 AM that same morning, I was walking my son to my SUV to take him to school and found this hyper lawn maintaining neighbor inspecting it. He was very relieved to see me and explained that since he didn't recognize the SUV (I'd recently traded my old SUV in), he had already called the police. Um, for what? I wanted to ask, but I smiled and drove away. Would have loved to hear what the police said about an SUV being legally parked on the side of a public road for less than 6 hours. He's not a neighbor from hell, just a little annoying.
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Post by Sharon on Jul 30, 2017 9:37:59 GMT -5
My next door neighbor is an a** is general but also believes that since they were the first people to move onto the street that they own the street. No one was to park in front of their house since they had lived on the street the longest. This is a public street and we don't have an HOA, as long as you aren't blocking anyone's driveway or the mailboxes you may park on the street. When this guy was healthier he also was speed monitor on the street and if he felt you were driving to fast he would either come down and talk with you or call the cops on you. He was so obnoxious and became so fixated with how this guy drove on the next street over that the cops finally told these two guys that they could only drive on their respective streets. There are two streets that run parallel with two connector streets between them. People drive around the block a lot so they are in the proper position to park in front of their house. This guy has chased off more than one trades person from my house. He harassed my pest control person to the point that they told me they wouldn't be back until the neighbor left them alone. He was threatening to sue because we were chasing all the bugs to his house. Then he was going to sue because we were using pesticides. My Dad's attorney gave him a call and he stopped all that. Another time I had a person out working on the phone lines leading into the house. Neighbor peeped over the fence and saw him so he turned on some recording of these dogs barking and growling. He was laughing about how high the person jumped. The last several years this neighbor has had serious health issues so he isn't outside as much, no one particularly misses him trying to run the neighborhood.
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Post by dee27 on Jul 30, 2017 11:00:34 GMT -5
There are several bossy characters (about 10%) in our community: The older ladies who gossip about everyone and like to think they are in charge of the social activities; the whiners who act like they own the land around their condos, and the residents who think the rules apply to everyone else but them. The silliest episode was when a resident yelled at a worker for the gas company that he could not put the meter in the common area because it was on "her property". A former board member complained about the lack of current board members present at a social activity. He wanted the bylaws rewritten to state that board members must attend all social activities. If anyone wants to see decades-old movies for a surcharge or play cards with a slew of hard of hearing adults, be my guest. Most of the complainers have so much unstructured time that they should volunteer for a worthy cause, preferably off site, that does not serve their own personal interests.
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Post by milee on Jul 30, 2017 11:03:45 GMT -5
There are several bossy characters (about 10%) in our community: The older ladies who gossip about everyone and like to think they are in charge of the social activities; the whiners who act like they own the land around their condos, and the residents who think the rules apply to everyone else but them. The silliest episode was when a resident yelled at a worker for the gas company that he could not put the meter in the common area because it was on "her property". A former board member complained about the lack of current board members present at a social activity. He wanted the bylaws rewritten to state that board members must attend all social activities. If anyone wants to see decades-old movies for a surcharge or play cards with a slew of hard of hearing adults, be my guest. Most of the complainers have so much unstructured time that they should volunteer for a worthy cause, preferably off site, that does not serve their own personal interests. And this is exactly why we go to great pains to avoid neighborhoods in Florida with HOAs. The benefits (and no doubt, the benefits of having a nicely maintained neighborhood are great) do not outweigh the potential downsides which tend to often occur in places like this with huge numbers of retirees that have nothing better to do than measure each other's grass all day.
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Post by beergut on Jul 30, 2017 12:43:24 GMT -5
My parents had a "grouchy old neighbor" in Miami for 40 years or so. The were friendly with him, but he would go to another mutual friend and complain about my parents, so we heard all the stories. He used an edger to draw a small dirt line to separate the yards, and any time a blade of his grass was cut when our grass was cut (especially when my brother was mowing) would result in a complaint. He also would complain about my mom stirring her coffee cup in the morning being loud. I guess my Mom was pretty exhuberant in her stirring, and our kitchen was on the side near his bedroom and must have been when windows were open. We lived on a lake, and the house across the lake (about 1/4 mile away) had lights that would annoy him, so he actually bought a large commercial spotlight to shine at the people across the lake when they had their light on. I'm not sure if the people across the like cared, or if they did maybe the liked the extra light! When we moved into our current house, the neighbors at the entrance to our cul de sac had ~50 blow up Christmas decorations (deflated) in their yard. It was fine when we made an offer on the house on Jan 1, but when we moved in mid Feb they were still there. I think they lasted until March 1 the first year. The last 2 years they have only made it to mid Feb. We are just amused by it, call it the dead Santas. We only see them blown up 1 or 2 times a year. I like this guy!!
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Post by beergut on Jul 30, 2017 12:56:49 GMT -5
We probably are that neighbor. Our kids run through all of the backyards in the neighborhood, but one lady has a fence. So if they are playing ball the damn always goes over the fence. The kids used to go through her gate to get it, but she got mad, so now the kids go over the fence to get. She doesn't like that either. She threatens to call the cops on the kids and had called the cops a couple of times for kids and/or noise related issues. and now we have a puppy that is always barking outside. Also our backyard looks like a with all of the kids toys out there. Masterful troll.
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Post by toomuchreality on Aug 9, 2017 19:19:12 GMT -5
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