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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 20, 2016 0:44:37 GMT -5
Debt, between Zib and Mich you have the answer -> buy the chair, put it in the best spot and park your own behind in it. It IS supposed to be very comfortable and once you are in it, you won't be able to see the chair. DH will have won the battle but lost the war
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Mar 20, 2016 5:55:51 GMT -5
Turn your house into mid century modern and it will look amazing.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 20, 2016 6:15:12 GMT -5
In DH's former marital home it was located right off the kitchen into a lounging area. In our rental home before we bought our own home he had it in the bedroom. In our home it was first on the den then it went to what I refer to as my woman's cave. I used it more than he did. I read up there, wrapped presents. Had my little stove for when it got cold. The one I have doesn't have fully upholstered arms. They're open. If you really don't like it, put throws and blankets all over it. I used to have to fight the cat to sit in it. I'm very short and it fit me and DH was very tall like his father and it fit him. Maybe it's uncomfortable for in betweeners?
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Post by Tennesseer on Mar 20, 2016 9:07:58 GMT -5
Boy-this thread sure has (Eames chair) legs.
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Post by mamasita99 on Mar 20, 2016 10:09:49 GMT -5
He obviously really really wants the chair in the LR. I suggest just sucking it up for now, sticking it inn the LR, and go on fro there. It will be obvious that the chair is there because someone really loves it!
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Mar 20, 2016 10:18:38 GMT -5
So, I'm going to ask a question, because debthaven , you are one of the most reasonable, thoughtful, practical people I know on these boards. I live in France vicariously through you, and I have read with great admiration all of your financial moves, the launching of 3 of 4 of your children, your travels, your concern for your students and the way you have reached out to support your friend upon the death of her DH. I would sincerely be honored to be your friend in real life. That said, however, you seem to have some very strong feelings about...a chair. You even dropped an F bomb or two. About a chair. That's all very uncharacteristic of the "you" you show on these boards. Is it possible that you are still angry (and very, very, reasonably so) about the bike accident and the toll it has taken on your DH, and you, and your family, and how the past 5.5 years have been so swallowed up in his recovery, that the chair is just a convenient emotional punching bag? You have been so strong and so supportive during your DH's recovery. IIRC, you almost lost him. And, IIRC, he struggled with deep depression for a good stretch afterward. Have you been holding your breath for 5.5 years and the chair is the proverbial straw? I would let him have the chair. It clearly means a great deal to him. And, maybe, if he has residual pain, he might find some comfort in it. No, the Eames style does not fit most decors -- it is very definitely planted in mid-century modern, which is an acquired taste. Yes, it will stand out in your living room. But, that's ok. Just tell people who look at it questioningly that you bought it for you DH because he loved it and you wanted to show him how much he means to you. Because he does mean that much to you -- so much, you took your anger over the bike accident out on the chair...and still bought it. Put the accident behind you all and make peace with it by buying the chair. Easier said than done, I agree. But, it's over, he is safe, he is mostly recovered, he's modified his career and his life because of it, you all survived an incredibly difficult time and you've now come out the other side. Look forward -- I wish you only good things ahead. Life is too shor to let a chair mar it.
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Post by milee on Mar 20, 2016 10:20:49 GMT -5
I think you need to get some coping advice from underwater chloe. She survived it when her husband got one of those Godawful couches with the built in cup holders, speakers and iPod docking stations. So she probably has some advice on how to deal with this.
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Post by plugginaway22 on Mar 20, 2016 11:39:47 GMT -5
Debt, get him the chair and have the largest birthday party ever!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Mar 20, 2016 12:41:22 GMT -5
Buy zibs chair at a discount....
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Mar 20, 2016 12:54:17 GMT -5
Buy zibs chair at a discount.... She will probably pay more to have the chair shipped to France than it is worth. It cost us $800 to ship 4 bar stools from KY to WA. We didn't know it was going to cost nearly as much as we paid for them as to ship them when we bought them.
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Post by quince on Mar 20, 2016 13:08:07 GMT -5
Either way someone is getting what they want without thinking of what the other one wants. If you put your foot down about NOT having the chair, he doesn't get what he wants. If he puts his foot down about having the chair, YOU don't get what you want. I'd side with him in this case, because for you, it's something you'll have to see, and it's not gory or pornographic. For him, it's something he wants to sit in, so use, so I think there's more utility in something used than something viewed. If it was a piece of art you disagreed on I'd be more on the fence, probably coming on the side of no.
If he ends up NOT using it, I think it should be put in storage, obviously, because big piece of furniture in a room to look at that one partner doesn't want? Fuck that.
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Post by formerroomate99 on Mar 20, 2016 13:20:53 GMT -5
debt, having a set of ovaries does not give you the right to unilaterally dictate your home's decorating decisions. I'm sure your DH can point to at least a half dozen things you've bought with a similar level of disgust, but men learn early on that if they want to live with a woman, they need to suck it up and learn to deal. I suggest you do the same.
This sort of thing is exactly my husband's taste. And when we first got married, I felt the same way about this type of furniture. And DH still feels that my overstuffed Lazy Boy chair is ugly. But we've compromised on this issue, like adults, and so should you. I've kept my lazy boy chair and he's kept his Fraiser furniture.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2016 13:34:54 GMT -5
Is it "my living room" or "our living room"? It seems like it is only "our living room" when the OP gets everything she wants and the spouse simply caves in. Maybe he doesn't like some of the furniture either. Let go of "my living room" for once and truly let it be "our living room" and get the darn chair. I doubt that when he is dead hopefully far in the future, the people standing around at the funeral will focus on whether your living room was ugly or not because of the one chair he wanted.
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Post by debthaven on Mar 20, 2016 14:10:18 GMT -5
I've decided to get the chair.
GRG frankly, no it has nothing to do with the accident. It's just because it is butt ugly (to me) and absolutely doesn't go with OUR LR.
Marinauser everything in the HOUSE and not just the LR was either chosen or agreed on by both of us. When we got together (we were both married before) we agreed not to have any furniture or artwork that we both didn't like. This is the first time one of us is not respecting that long-standing agreement. I'm going to live with it anyway.
debt, having a set of ovaries does not give you the right to unilaterally dictate your home's decorating decisions. Agreed! But it works both ways, having male genitals doesn't either. This is the first time in 25 years together we've ever had this issue. We have never unilaterally made any decorating decisions before, and I'm not happy that DH is now.
I'm sure your DH can point to at least a half dozen things you've bought with a similar level of disgust Sorry but you'd be absolutely wrong about that.
But as I said before, I've decided to live with it.
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Post by debthaven on Mar 20, 2016 14:17:16 GMT -5
It seems like it is only "our living room" when the OP gets everything she wants and the spouse simply caves in.
That's a pretty nasty comment. Why are you ASSuming that everything we own was MY decision, rather than OUR decision?! This is literally the first time we've ever disagreed on anything for the house. I would never expect or want him to live with something he thinks is ugly, and I would have preferred not to have to do so either.
But, DH is important to me, so I'll get the chair. Hopefully it will become an acquired taste.
Also we are planning to eventually turn the downstairs bedroom into an office / guest room / music room. So hopefully one day the chair can go in there (as Adela and POM suggested).
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Post by Opti on Mar 20, 2016 18:04:49 GMT -5
I'm glad you decided to get the chair. Its not the ugliest thing I've ever seen so I can't fully empathize with how you feel. Ecru leather furniture might make me a bit unhappy and I don't think the chair looks right in lighter leathers, but I like modern and this chair is iconic in black leather.
Not sure where you are getting it from, but found options you can play with had you been getting it in the US. I don't know how your LR is set up, but perhaps you could come up with a complimentary color you both could live with? I thought this combo was OK.
www.hermanmiller.com/product-configurators/eames-lounge-chair-and-ottoman.html#
Ack, can't post the pic. I tried it with luggage leather and Santos Palisander Veneer. You can get it in white ash but it doesn't look like an Eames chair to me which might be a plus for you and a negative for DH.
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Post by debthaven on Mar 20, 2016 18:06:28 GMT -5
Thanks Opti but yes he wants it in the iconic black and palisander.
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Post by Opti on Mar 20, 2016 18:09:57 GMT -5
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Post by Opti on Mar 20, 2016 18:12:55 GMT -5
Thanks Opti but yes he wants it in the iconic black. Not surprising. You can always have a nice ecru colored throw you put on it when he's not in it.
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Post by debthaven on Mar 20, 2016 18:13:31 GMT -5
Haha!
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Post by milee on Mar 20, 2016 18:18:09 GMT -5
OMG, that thing would give me nightmares! It looks like it's made from the skin of a fat guy and his spirit is angry and trying to come back to life to get his revenge. If I wandered out into my living room and found that, I'd shriek and run away like it was chasing me.
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Post by swamp on Mar 20, 2016 18:19:58 GMT -5
It's just a chair. It makes him happy. Life's too short to care about a butt ugly chair.
DH has one.
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Post by debthaven on Mar 20, 2016 18:23:34 GMT -5
Swamp I've come to the same conclusion. But I bet your DH's is in a study or man cave, not in the LR. ETA: This evening, after I decided that indeed life was too short and I'm going to order the chair, DH told me that once we do up the downstairs bedroom, if I still hate it, he'll put it in there. Life is funny. I'm sure I'll get used to it but I do appreciate him saying that. :-)
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Post by swamp on Mar 20, 2016 18:24:40 GMT -5
Nope. In the LR. In what we call The Sheldon Spot. Good view of the TV, the fron door, the slider, good ventilation.
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Post by Opti on Mar 20, 2016 18:26:47 GMT -5
OMG, that thing would give me nightmares! It looks like it's made from the skin of a fat guy and his spirit is angry and trying to come back to life. If I wandered out into my living room and found that, I'd shriek and run away like it was chasing me. I almost wonder if its some art project on the nature of upholstery and time passing. Or something. The upholstered front leg bothers me the most when I look at it.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 20, 2016 18:34:46 GMT -5
OMG, that thing would give me nightmares! It looks like it's made from the skin of a fat guy and his spirit is angry and trying to come back to life to get his revenge. If I wandered out into my living room and found that, I'd shriek and run away like it was chasing me. Jabba the hut
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 20, 2016 18:36:07 GMT -5
Nope one of the "children" wants it because it's worth money.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2016 18:40:18 GMT -5
Seriously looks like a deranged clown body draped over that chair with his head back and I'm waiting for him to pop up and kill me...
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Post by debthaven on Mar 20, 2016 18:43:47 GMT -5
Nope one of the "children" wants it because it's worth money.
Ours won't because it'll be a replica. For anyone who cares, there is one company in the US and one in Europe (Italy I think but I'm can't remember. I knew last week when I priced them) who have the official Eames "license". They are about 7K euros here. The replicas are about 1K. DH and I generally hate the idea of replicas, but what he likes about the chair is the design, and that replica is apparently a very faithful reproduction.
Sorry it's late here, I'm heading off to bed.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Mar 20, 2016 18:46:31 GMT -5
Milee called it! I had thought of it before I got to the second page of the thread.
We purchased a sectional for our great room. DH really wanted brown leather. I did not. At all. However, we purchased the house that I wanted--though DH is not unhappy at all with the house. So, I compromised on the leather sectional. Then we went shopping. I was willing to compromise with two of the leather sectionals we found. DH wanted a third. Really really really wanted it. I was so sad. I did not want that thing in our house at all. He was so excited though. I measured it twice in the store hoping it wouldn't fit. It would. That was three years ago.
As soon as it was put in the house, I realized it really was just fine. I'm actually sitting in it right now. Yes, I would prefer a cloth, indigo couch but this one really is both functional and fits our combined styles.
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