lynnerself
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Post by lynnerself on Nov 16, 2015 20:51:42 GMT -5
Well, now not only are we making the 10 hour drive on Wednesday, DH has to stay with his parents for a few days so DD and I will drive back by ourselves on Saturday. I just hope the weather is good.
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moneymaven
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Post by moneymaven on Nov 17, 2015 6:40:28 GMT -5
So right on cue, I get an email from SIL that MIL has decided to host at her home instead of having it potluck style at the previous venue. Just as suspected, the entire song and dance was so that MIL could host. It actually really angers me because MIL has NEVER hosted this in her life and it has never been their tradition. While I realize that things change, I feel like this was her and SIL's passive aggressive way of "taking" the holiday instead of just having an adult conversation about it. I'm definitely not going or taking the kids now.
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lund
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Post by lund on Nov 17, 2015 8:35:26 GMT -5
Well, you shouldn't go there anyway...
Just ignore their little games, and hold on to your TG. And aren't they actually pretty silly?
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yogiii
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Post by yogiii on Nov 17, 2015 8:39:19 GMT -5
If you are hosting a holiday in your home you shouldn't be expected to travel at all, even if it's 10 mins away. You need to host and prep. Whether your DH steps out with the kids for a little to see them is a totally separate call and can certainly be swayed by each individual situation/dynamic.
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Post by honeysalt on Nov 17, 2015 11:17:34 GMT -5
You are giving these people way too much head space. They only have as much power over you as you give them, and right now, you are handing over a lot of your power. Let your husband deal with all of the communication with his family. I am guessing he doesn't manage communication with yours. Part of the reason he hasn't stood up to them is because you have been an effective human shield. When you deal with the communication, invitation, whining and guilt trips he doesn't have to.
Drop the rope. You are clearly building up resentment, which is only hurting you.
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Post by CCL on Nov 18, 2015 10:05:00 GMT -5
Well, now not only are we making the 10 hour drive on Wednesday, DH has to stay with his parents for a few days so DD and I will drive back by ourselves on Saturday. I just hope the weather is good. So do you have to drive 2 cars all that way or spend extra for plane ticket/rental car?
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lynnerself
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Post by lynnerself on Nov 18, 2015 11:55:44 GMT -5
Well, now not only are we making the 10 hour drive on Wednesday, DH has to stay with his parents for a few days so DD and I will drive back by ourselves on Saturday. I just hope the weather is good. So do you have to drive 2 cars all that way or spend extra for plane ticket/rental car? DH will fly home on the 1st. We got a ticket for $96.
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Post by andi9899 on Nov 18, 2015 12:00:52 GMT -5
Well, now not only are we making the 10 hour drive on Wednesday, DH has to stay with his parents for a few days so DD and I will drive back by ourselves on Saturday. I just hope the weather is good. Make sure to get a AAA membership before you leave if you don't already have one.
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