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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 9, 2011 15:38:52 GMT -5
I was answering the question in the thread name, not answering according to the OP's situation. Oh, gotcha. when did you get so snarky anyway? I've always been this snarky. I think. I mean, for as long as I've been posting on the boards anyway.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Mar 9, 2011 15:46:01 GMT -5
Not to sidetrack the thread, but the notion that homeschooling will keep the kid off drugs is naive. I have a very sweet, well intentioned cousin who homeschooled her daughter all through school. At 16 she became addicted to heroin and she became pregnant the following year. Back to the topic at hand....
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Mar 9, 2011 15:48:00 GMT -5
Staying in local public schools isn't necessarily the wrong answer.
The difference is that (apparently) your schools were not marginal and they well prepared you for a difficult college curriculum in engineering. The OP has already said that his school is not a good school and he's bored with what he's learning.
This would be a not so clearcut situation if the OP's son was in a good school that challenged him academically.....but he's not.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 9, 2011 16:18:24 GMT -5
I say tour the school with son, do any activities they might offer for prospective students... maybe even a trial run, and let him see... and you can move back if need be.
For what its worth, i have friends who can afford to send their kid to such a place and did, and the kid asked to come back to public after a semester... he wasn't even a scholarship kid, so not that stigma, but the high powered environment was too much for him...
On the other hand i think it could be just what he needs... its so hard to know what is the best fit... not knowing the specific kid, populations, school... but i would think you'd regret not trying it, more than your'd regret trying it and see...
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Post by Deleted on Mar 9, 2011 16:22:27 GMT -5
And homeschool kids are generally as socialized if not better than their schooled peers ... for whoever that was?...
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 9, 2011 16:33:46 GMT -5
I suppose it depends. I want to tour the school and talk with the people who offered the scholarship to find out if my kid is a token or if she is really considered gifted. I'd also make sure to talk with the teachers she already has to find out if she is truly bored because she unchallenged or is there something else going on?
Not saying that is the case with the OP, but I see a lot of people who are like "Oh my kid is bored because he is GIFTED" and there are A LOT of reasons why a child could be bored in school besides being gifted. Before I uproot her and plunk her down in a gifted school I'd want to know I am putting her in an environment where she will thrive.
If I felt satifised my kid was being courted because she's gifted and that the boredom problems aren't from something else, I'd give it a go and she can always drop out and go back to her old HS after a year if she doesn't like it.
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Post by illinicheme on Mar 9, 2011 16:54:52 GMT -5
Staying in local public schools isn't necessarily the wrong answer. The difference is that (apparently) your schools were not marginal and they well prepared you for a difficult college curriculum in engineering. The OP has already said that his school is not a good school and he's bored with what he's learning. This would be a not so clearcut situation if the OP's son was in a good school that challenged him academically.....but he's not. Absolutely. I was just responding to southernsusana's anecdote that did not specify the quality of the local school in question. Also, for good students, the school doesn't necessarily need to be the best in the world. As long as the school isn't actively harmful, talented students are going to succeed even if they don't have the most amazing teachers or every opportunity in the world. In the OP's case, I'd probably give the private school a shot. (What is it though, with private high school not having band programs? Band is awesome!!!) ;D
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Post by haapai on Mar 9, 2011 17:21:29 GMT -5
This might come in handy if your kid goes to chi-chi prep.
It helped a lot that my parents assured me that I was wicked smart before I started going to that private school. I got a lot of Cs that first quarter and I wasn't used to that.
The material was taught and tested for at a much higher level. It took me a while to change the way that I listened to teachers. I was used to teachers doing the bulk of their testing on the first half of what they had to say about a subject. That is, after a certain point, it was entirely possible to half-listen to them and be none the worse for. Only a handful of questions on the test or quiz would cover the later remarks and those might be extra-credit questions. At prep school you had to keep listening. You would be tested on the entirety of the lesson and even some stuff that only appeared in the textbook.
Sometimes the material being taught appeared to be deliberately grade-shifted a couple years forward. If you asked about why you were studying something a grade or two earlier than your peers in public school, you'd probably be told that this was necessary to accomodate APs and language courses. Maybe this was true, maybe it wasn't. The AP frenzy hadn't really taken off yet and I wondered sometimes if this was a deliberate attempt to make the lives of students who had just transferred in as uncomfortable and bumpy as possible.
Things got a lot easier the second year. I'd learned that I would be tested on the hard stuff and I was no longer trying to make up for a gap. (I landed up graduating in the top 5% of the class using scale that gave a big bonus for accelerated and AP classes, but you never could have predicted that on the basis of my freshman grades.)
It also helps to be undeniably good or very interested in at least one subject. Word gets around that you're not a total idiot and that helps a lot.
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Post by isabella on Mar 9, 2011 17:32:11 GMT -5
OP laralei has your child already tested into the school and qualify academically? That should be first thing on your to do list getting an appointment for your child to be tested and accepted. Have you asked about the financial aid package, requirements and submitted your financials and income tax returns to the school? Do you know what the tuition is per year? The private school my DS attends requires at least 50% of the full tuition from the parents resources if they are seeking financial aid. A phone call to the Admissions Director will settle a lot of questions on affordability, eligibility for admissions, available space for the incoming grade level of your child. There may be requirements for current teacher recommendations that need to be submitted prior to testing that you should be working on. Let us know what the school requirements are for admissions. Good luck in making your decision! eta ... to answer your question "would you send your child to an exclusive private school' Yes, I sought out the most pretigious private college prep school in my area, pay full tuition, and has been the best educational experience that I could give my child. DS will be well prepared for college.
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Post by 2kids10horses on Mar 9, 2011 18:01:03 GMT -5
illini,
I have to agree that Band is awesome. You learn more than just music in Band.
I my case, I have an over acheiving child, in Band, that wants to be a professional muscian. I am thinking of pulling her out of her public High School, and sending her to a private Arts school where she can get her High School degree, and be exposed to College and Graduate music students.
She excels in academics, and can pass the State Graduation Tests, now. Sending her to a school where she is NOT the best muscian will challenge her to get even better.
I used to play tennis. I was on a college team. Occasionally, I would play against guys who were on the Pro Circuit, or Satellite Circuit. They were awesome! Playing against them raised the level of my game immensely. After playing against the Pros, I would crush my peers. For a while. Then my game would revert back down, because it wasn't getting stimulated like it was with the Pros.
(Likewise, when some of my friends "retired" off the Pro Circuits, their games diminished, too. It takes top level competition to stay at that top level.)
Anyway, my point is, we're assuming this private school will have better teachers, and better students. A child put into this environment will naturally improve if he chooses to compete.
If the student has lots of friends at his existing school, it is likely he has good social skills and will develop lots of friends at the new school.
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Post by debtheaven on Mar 9, 2011 19:18:02 GMT -5
To me this question is also a no-brainer. Your child has an opportunity to attend a better school than he does now, and you are wondering if this is a good idea?!
My only concern would be if he was granted financial aid and for some reason that aid were to be revoked even if your financial situation did not change. But I remember evoking that question with GG, and she told me it would not be an issue (paraphrase), so hopefully it would be the same for your son.
ETA: The money issue will be an issue wherever your son goes, even if it's to a local, carpy school. Some kids have more, and some kids have less. I always tell my kids (I have four kids and I've had to tell them exactly the same thing despite them attending three different MSs/ HSs: "Yes some kids have more, and some kids have less. Guess what, some adults have more, and some adults have less. So deal."
Wouldn't you rather your kid be at school with smart rich kids than not-so-smart rich kids?!
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Post by luckyme on Mar 10, 2011 14:34:14 GMT -5
There have been many good posts here.
DS is leaving middle school and entering HS. He will be in the honors program with the tough curriculum, so he will definitely be better off than the lower grades. There are far more choices in the prep school, a lot more clubs, and I understand the teachers are far more involved than in the public schools.
I know of some of the families who send their kids to the prep schools; have run into them through sporting programs. Do NOT like most of the ones I met. Also, the financial differences are huge. We are lower income, and there is no way on earth we could afford the $12K/yr price tag on the prep school. So there is a huge economic disparity between my son and most of the kids who attend.
As a parent you want to give your kids the best, and a great education is one of them, which is why I briefly considered the prep school. The testing was free, so it didn't hurt to see if he would qualify. A lot of families do it.
But after much consideration, and his input, he won't be attending. He enjoyed the testing, but now that we've come down to actual attendance, he's not for it. I, personally, don't like the social atmosphere I believe he would have been living with. I was recently talking to a mom whose son attends, and if her son didn't love going, she would pull him, for that reason.
I may regret this, but for now it seems right.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 10, 2011 14:40:05 GMT -5
Your son's input is pretty important in this case. My feeling is that at this age kids are old enough to want to "own" their decision and be motivated to make it work because it was their choice. That's certainly why DS did well at the military school- he knew he needed a change and when 2 schools accepted him, he chose the one he ultimately attended. (One included John McCain and Norman Schwarzkopf among its graduates; the one he chose included Donald Trump and John Gotti, Jr. among its alumni. ) And the decision not to attend the private school is reversible. Your DS would just have to adjust to being a new kid.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 10, 2011 14:46:17 GMT -5
I find middle school to be a waste of space, a transitional holding pen till they are "mature" enough for high school.
In that scenario I'd have DD start out in the public HS and see how she did, maybe it is just the middle school and its teachers that were crap (that was my experience).
What matters at the end is the name on DD's diploma. So if she found herself unchallenged and I found the school to be lacking we could always move her her sophomore year and have her graduate from there.
If he doesn't want to go I think it is the right decision to not force it. I know a lot of kids in college whose parents "made" them go and they would talk in class about how they were trying to fail out on purpose to stick it to their parents.
Not to say your son would do such a thing, but it seems like when parents try to force a certain education on their kids it backfires in their face.
He can always change his mind, HS is four years.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 10, 2011 19:21:02 GMT -5
Ultimately it's a decision you and your son have to make, but I would point out one thing. I, personally, don't like the social atmosphere I believe he would have been living with. I was recently talking to a mom whose son attends, and if her son didn't love going, she would pull him, for that reason. Notice how you and the other mother are worried about the income disparity, but her son who attends loves going? You might be projecting your own insecurities or worries about the money thing when it really isn't an issue at the school. If it's not a good fit for your son, fine, I'm sure he'll do well wherever he goes. It would be a shame to ignore an opportunity based on an unfounded fear though.
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Post by debtheaven on Mar 10, 2011 19:37:30 GMT -5
I can't help but feel that your own reticence has colored your son's wishes. I guess that's inevitable.
DH and I "pushed" DS1 slightly, against my ex's wishes. DS1 knew the deal at 11 (this was for an international MS / HS). Me and DH (his step dad, the man who raised him) wanted him to go to that school, his biodad didn't want him to commute.
My DS1 fought like heck with his dad. He loved his dad enough to want his blessing, but not enough to renounce going to that school. He FINALLY got his dad's blessing, after the second trimester.
After HS he went to OxBridge. DS1 NEVER would have gone if we hadn't encouraged him to go to that stellar International school. But, he was totally up for it.
Your son sounds like a great kid, I'm sure your son will thrive, wherever he is planted. I totally get not "railroading" them, but I don't get not "stretching" them.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 10, 2011 19:43:55 GMT -5
Many are the offspring of Alpha men and women and are socialized to lead, all very well and good when speaking about gifted adults who have learned etiquette and tact, not so good when applied to a mouthy kid who wants to appropriate the social status mom or dad painfully earned. Many rich kids think they run the joint, including the other kids and school staff as well. I know that's the stereotype that's always portrayed, but have you ever actually gone to a hoity toity-ish private school? I personally haven't. I grew up a poor kid in so-so public schools. Maybe the stereotype is right, maybe it's not, I have no idea. That's the point though. I'm pretty sure there's some old saying about books and covers that would seem to apply to this situation... maybe one of you older wiser posters would know it?
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Post by debtheaven on Mar 10, 2011 19:51:27 GMT -5
Dark, the main reason I don't like that rich / poor argument is that as all us YMers know, you can spend your disposable income any way you choose. And I would guess that your kid (or the OPs kid, or GG's kid) is highly unlikely to be the ONLY kid on scholarship.
As kids grow up, you (I don't mean you per se, I mean "one") will prioritize their money differently.
And if you're really concerned about being "poor" in whatever situation, good luck with that. You or your kids will always be poor to somebody, and rich to somebody else. When our DS3 was (really) little, he'd cry because so and so said they live in an apt and we live in a house, so that means we are rich. Then so and so would say hey I have designer clothes and two gaming systems and two HUGE flat-screen TVs and DS3 would cry because we were poor LOL.
I guess you just can't win LOL.
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Post by debtheaven on Mar 10, 2011 20:11:04 GMT -5
Tough, I live in the Parisian equivalent of LI. And I know LI well, my sister lives there and my two nieces grew up there. (Five towns) It's all a question of priorities. Living in an area like that with NO disposable income? Yes, that would be tough. So they could either create a bit of their own, or else move. ETA: It is a shame money cannot buy class.I humble disagree.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 10, 2011 20:13:56 GMT -5
Countless digs along the lines of "Why do you have x number of sneakers when I have x to the ten power sneakers or "so and so shops in MACYs" have been heard. A certain amount of that happens everywhere though. I did a big chunk of my schooling in a dink ass town in AZ that nobody outside the state has probably ever heard of or cares about. Easily half the town probably qualifies for assistance. You'd have the kids who's parents could just barely afford for them to get school clothes at JC Penny making fun of the kids who's parents had to do their shopping at Walmart. Keep in mind the kids doing the teasing still live in a dink ass town in the middle of nowhere, and their parents don't really make all that much more money than the "have nots". It wasn't really a big day to day issue for most students though. Unless you live in a communist country, there's going to be some income disparity no matter where you send your kid to school. That's all I'm saying. If the kids on the higher end of that disparity are especially vicious in a certain school, then I could see not wanting your kids exposed to that every day. If you don't know though, I wouldn't assume they are just because the disparity exists. There's income disparity where her son goes to school now, and as far as we know it's not an issue.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Mar 10, 2011 20:19:01 GMT -5
In my experience, a great deal of arrogance often attends wealth. Many are the offspring of Alpha men and women and are socialized to lead, all very well and good when speaking about gifted adults who have learned etiquette and tact, not so good when applied to a mouthy kid who wants to appropriate the social status mom or dad painfully earned. Many rich kids think they run the joint, including the other kids and school staff as well.
And they simply may not. I attended a private school for my last 2 years of HS. 90% of the kids I went to school with made far more than my parents. However, I don't EVER remember any of them throwing their money into my face and I don't EVER remember feeling like a lessor person because of my parent's lack of wealth.
The OP's child is given a fantastic opportunity that could open a multitude of doors for the boy - the least of which is getting a far better education than he'd be getting at a public school. The idea that *some* students *may* be snooty to him is not a good reason to turn down such a good education.
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Post by debtheaven on Mar 10, 2011 20:21:35 GMT -5
Dark, what I'm trying to say is that income disparity will ALWAYS exist. It up to you (and Loop of course) to set up the track that you want your kids to be on.
If a particular school is really bad, yes, of course you need to get your kid out ASAP. This happened to us with our DD. That school worked out well for the majority of non-academic kids in our area. Sadly, it sent DD into a downward spiral into hell. I think that is the one thing I will never forgive myself for, not having seen that one coming.
Thank Gd three years later she is doing great now! Got into our first choice of college for her. And thank Gd for having the disposable income to help her (therapy, getting her into another school ASAP, saving for college, etc).
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Post by debtheaven on Mar 10, 2011 20:30:23 GMT -5
OMG Tough, I am SO sorry, I never suggested that YOU bite me! I meant that is what I try to tell my kids!
SO MANY apologies and now I will read the rest of your post!
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Post by debtheaven on Mar 10, 2011 20:36:39 GMT -5
Tough
My sister did not have the income your siblings seem to have. She was widowed relatively young (at 50), her DH was 55.
She was all "woe is me, my DD1 won't have this, my DD2 won't have that". Plus my dear sister's heart was just broken, they were SO happy together. I miss my late BIL every day of my life.
I guess I tried to "toughen" both her and my nieces up. IE what we know / learn here. Everything is a choice. You can't have everything. Money is finite. So you need to make the right choices.
I am so very sorry if my post sounded offensive to you, believe me it was not my intention. I usually stay up way too late and visibly I need to stop that LOL.
And again, apologies for the "so bite me"! I reread my post and it does indeed appear directed at you. ACK! NOT my intention, for sure!
No wonder you are miffed, you have every right to be! I hope you will forgive me.
ETA By the way, you forgot Stuy. ;-)
Seriously, I'm really sorry. I have to stop posting so late at night.
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Post by isabella on Mar 10, 2011 21:12:30 GMT -5
for those who want to bash the 'rich families and their kids' Who do you think donates the money, volunteers their time and effort to the fundraisers for the kids who get financial aid from the school? I'll give you a clue, it isn't the families receiving financial aid that donate the most money, time and effort. The wealthiest of families at our school have donated so much to enrich all the students educational experience at the school. They are the first to volunteer to lead committees for the different fundraisers, assist with different clubs and student organizations. Many of the families that don't get financial aid make many sacrifices to send their children to the school to get the best education around my area.
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Post by stats45 on Mar 10, 2011 21:36:29 GMT -5
I don't see where the problem is, and maybe the OP is concerned about fitting in with the other families.
I went on a scholarship from 10th grade to 12th to a great private school. The school was great, the teachers were amazing, but the students were so-so. The families were wealthy, and many weren't that motivated. There was a wonderful education though there for whomever wanted it.
I remember feeling awkward at times, asking for rides because I didn't have a car, not wearing the same clothes, but those things aren't important compared to a good education. I took classes at that school with unbelievable levels of support. It helped set the trajectory for my life.
To comment on Isabella's point, my scholarship was paid for my a group of families. My family was working-class (at best) at that time, and one family in particular was eager to help when they could. I tried my best to pay for things, but they helped pay for competitions, field trips, software, anything you could imagine. I was always told this was part of the scholarship and didn't find out that they had done this until a couple years after I graduated. Some familes were detached and arrogant, but the overwhelming majority were generous with their time, money, and concern.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Mar 11, 2011 12:49:55 GMT -5
As I've previously posted, my DGS attends a college prep academy on financial aid. I volunteer there as much as possible, so I've met some of the other parents (and another grandmother). Some have been very nice; some others a bit snobbish, but I don't care. My DGS is getting a great education. He socializes with one other child outside school - the other boy's dad is a teacher.
!0 or 15 years from now, it won't matter whether he has a lot of friends or not, but it will matter, a lot, whether he got a good education.
Approximately 1/3 of the students get financial aid. Several of the teachers have their children going there - they get the same financial aid as my grandson. I've never noticed any different treatment on the part of the teachers.
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Post by daylight on Mar 11, 2011 17:49:06 GMT -5
Laralei,
Even though I saw that you seemed to have made up your mind, I decided to comment.
First, I feel that we know very little about your situation to be of any help at all.
Two issues have been discussed at length (or should have been) and you also seem to be focused on these.
Friends - with going to a different HS, your son would most likely lose most of his current friends. Yes, you are right about this. But only you know him well enough to decide whether this will turn him against the prep school or not. Does he make new friends easily? What extracurricular activities does he participate in? Did he make there any new friends? ... Some kids might be loners, but the more I am around younger kids, I feel that it's usually the parents projections that prevent them from successfully making new friends and then the projection becomes reality... Anyway, the majority of kids does make friends easily, so I would not be overly concerned or make decisions based on this alone.
Other kids at prep school - in my admittedly limited exposure to the affluent and very rich, I mostly met arrogant people. Interestingly enough sometimes self-made people can be the most arrogant. And people who were born rich were the worst. But, I've also met nice and kind people, who realized that they did nothing for their wealth (born rich kids) and who were more normal (whatever that means) than my poor(er) friends.
I think the key issue here is your son's potential and how you (and him) can best help him reach that potential. And I'm also talking about characteristic potential here (becoming a good friend to other people, becoming husband material some day). I feel that you want him to attend the local HS because you think that he has a better chance to become a well-rounded person there (and you worry a lot about the wealth/income difference very unnecessarily, but Dark told you all you needed to hear about that). This may or may not be true, we don't know enough to even speculate on this.
However, there are a few other truths out there that you should (re-)consider.
Being bored out of his skull spells trouble. It won't take long before the supressed energy finds other ways... Also, you can make better friends with people who are your peers (academically). I also understand that you don't want to push him too far...but you need to push him (most kids) a little. Teens are not able to raise the expectations for themselves, or rarely. You need to teach them how to do that and by the sounds of it, your son is still learning. How do I know this?
You'll have trouble relating to the school types because I'm from Europe, but here it goes. I started at a local elementary school 2 mins walk away from home. I could read and write by the time I started. I faintly remember being bored then. I was moved to a school for gifted kids after 4th grade (in a mostly working class disctrict, the teachers were amazing though). It was amazing for the first 2-3 years. Then the other kids started to pick on me for being (as one of them told me now, over a decade after graduation) the smartest in all classes. It got to the point when I asked for a transfer to another school in 9th grade in March or so. My mom, who is a socially very shy person, talked to my head of class. My mom was against my transfer because she hated the thoughts of going thru the motions of a transfer (she has trouble ordering pizza as of today). Predictably, my head of class suggested that I stay (as I was bringing in all sorts of first places in competitions...local ones at that point since it was a local and not a national gifted school and I was not good enough in national competitions yet). I stayed. And here, the story gets interesting. By staying, now I know that I have lost a lot academically. And I wish I had transferred from this pov. I graduated from the same school (having national placements in 10th grade and my final year in various subjects and just 3 grades for mid-year tests that were not A+++ during the whole final school year - I totally should have transferred). As I said above, the teachers were amazing and I could not have wished for better teachers at all. But I missed peer pressure (the academic one, not the one I had to face daily), also I was told every single day by someone that I don't need to be that good. I had only one friend, a guy who had a crush on me, and three girlfriends, who tried to be friends with me, but we had a lot of difficulty finding common interests. On the plus side I learned two foreign languages at proficiency level (mostly by myself, English is my third language), I was well-read since I read a lot in my free time and during the classes I was excused from (foreign languages, classes I had national placements in). I was not just bored with classes, I got chucked out for being smart by the teachers...they felt that my classmates would not participate in classes because they were intimidated by me and you could legally excuse kids with national placements or language exams, esp. both.
On the minus side (still academically), when I started university (we have university straight after HS, mine would be considered an "Ivy-league" uni in the US), I had to realize that people who attended fancy prep schools know a lot more than me in certain subjects (Philosophy, History to name a few), because they were more challenged, they had more peer pressure, they had more friends with similar interests, from whom they could learn. Having heard for over 5 years that I don't have to be that good also got to my head and I could have graduated with a much better average (I did well, but did not excel). I wanted to have friends, finally, and I was ready to give up the better grades for friends. This was also a silly thing to do, since (not so surprisingly) my (new) friends at university were bright people with whom I had common interests, and who were in constant awe when I averaged below A+, because I always seemed smart while conversing or studying together. But I just couldn't deal with being disliked for almost over a decade. It did not help that I had no idea how to study for university subjects. The good but not excellent average cost me a few group memberships at the university, which probably cost me better jobs (that I am now trying to transfer to from my current job, which is still considered to be high-level but not the highest).
If you're still with me, now I'll tell you why I don't mind that much that I did not transfer. My head of class is an excellent teacher. She organized all sorts of extracurricular stuff for us (theatre, dancing, hiking, museum visits) and lectured us on family life, friends, rights and obligations and life in general on these outings. Today, she is my friend (despite the huge age difference, she is retired but still teaching now) and as good as a second mother to me.
I have very little contact to my former HS classmates, most are still envious of me, I guess. My university friendships are still intact. Most of my university friends come from families that are much more well-off or affluent than mine is. It was never ever an issue. I realize that people aged 18-23 are much more mature than kids aged 14-18 but I can't imagine wealth and status being an issue that would have made me quit any school.
I guess that the bottom line is that you need to find the school that will help your son reach his potential. And if you have to get over your fear of being called poor by other kids or their parents or looked down by them, so be it.
I would also once again call your attention to the fact that my decision not to transfer to a better school still has an impact on my working life today. It's not that I have a job that I'm bored with. It's that I have a job where my immediate boss told me that he is jealous of me because I'm smarter than him approx. 3 months into my employment. By the time I realized I had to find a better job because he is selling my work as his own, the economy tanked. We have about one offering per month in my area (which is a capital city), and I'm competing with the kids (adults), who went to the better prep school, who were group members during uni years and who were possibly laid off from even higher profile firms than mine.
This is a very difficult situation you are in, and I hope you at least try to find out more about the prep school or other prep schools. I think your son would profit from them, even if you can't imagine being the mom to a prep-schooler.
I apologize if my recollection of my school years sounds like bragging... I had more than my share of hating/insults etc. and paid a very high price for it. Also, I probably would have been considered normal in a better prep school. Good luck!
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 11, 2011 20:40:22 GMT -5
Personally, I don't want to put laurel wreaths on the brows of all the "sainted rich." I have given as generously of my time, and I don't have two cents to rub together. I don't think anyone here is saying that we need to. Some of us are saying that we shouldn't assume they're all snobbish asshats just because they have money. Bias and narrow mindedness are ugly traits no matter who you target with them.
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Post by debtheaven on Mar 11, 2011 20:59:55 GMT -5
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