Do you call 'em on it?

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

This afternoon, we had tickets to the symphony.  We could only find one ticket, so TD dropped me off at the ticket office to get a replacement while he went to park.

There were 2 open windows and one line feeding both windows.  There really wasn't any room in there for 2 lines.  I got at the end of a line of about 6.  Not a big deal.

I was next up in line and an elderly woman went directly to the window that was just opening up.  I tapped her on the shoulder and told her that the line was behind me and the 3 who had walked in after me and before her.

She was pissed, and rude as hell to me.  I just shrugged my shoulders and took my turn, but she bitched to everyone who would listen that it was her turn.  Others looked like they just tuned her out.  Her comment to me was that she was just getting a ticket replaced that she left at home, but then so was I?

I got the feeling that she had done this before, but no one had called her on it.  

[zibazinski]

Guess she thought because she was old and out of time, her need was greater.

[Deleted]

I call them on it. And folks that do that have the strangest ability to behave as if I'm the one doing the wrong thing. I guess it takes big ovaries to try it in the first place so they just keep up with the bluff.

ETA - I jumped a line at the hotel recently because my key card did not work for my room. I needed to get into the room for the washroom quite desperately. I got some annoyed comments from those in the line but it was an exceptional situation.

[sesfw]

She probably has.  They know how to do things like this.  If it were truly an oversight she would have apologized and gone to the back of the line. 

If this is a habit it will continue.  Hope you don't bump into her again.

[Tennesseer]

You did nothing wrong.  Age does not excuse a lack of courtesy.

[CCL]

I would have said something to her as well and my husband would have told me to "Be nice." Lol.

[gooddecisions]

Nov 23, 2014 22:29:34 GMT -5 CCL said:

I would have said something to her as well and my husband would have told me to "Be nice." Lol.

We might the same person.

[TheOtherMe]

I would have called her on it.  

My 90 year old dad is oblivious to lines when I take him shopping.  He gets the line where I take him to eat.  He has embarrassed me, but most people have been kind when I apologize for him.  He can't hear well enough to hear me.  I tell him about it in the car and he says he won't do it again, but he does.

[Formerly SK]

Nov 23, 2014 21:45:44 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

You did nothing wrong.  Age does not excuse a lack of courtesy.

X 1000

[teen persuasion]

Nov 23, 2014 22:42:39 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

I would have called her on it.  

My 90 year old dad is oblivious to lines when I take him shopping.  He gets the line where I take him to eat.  He has embarrassed me, but most people have been kind when I apologize for him.  He can't hear well enough to hear me.  I tell him about it in the car and he says he won't do it again, but he does.

My DH tried to jump the line waiting to use the self checkout at the grocery store a few days ago.  He was oblivious to the short line of people waiting to see which one would open next.  I called him back, especially since we had a cart of items and those waiting had only an item or two.

In this case, there really wasn't an obvious place to form a line to feed to the next open self checkout, since the store filled the space between with stuff.  I really hate when stores place displays, etc, in areas that impede circulation.

[whoisjohngalt]

I call people on things all the time.  My husband is pretty worried that I'll end up dead soon.

Just this weekend I told a guy that parking on two spots was not his birth right.  He called me a bitch.

[olderburgher]

You can give someone your place in line or respect or... but they have no right to demand on it.

[cael]

People are so annoying. Once last spring in the coffee shop, I was in line with several people in front of me. They have 2 registers but you form one line, and the second register will call for the next person. This older woman came in (and not old enough that she didn't know what she was doing) and walked straight by everyone to the second register. We all looked at each other and spoke loudly about how rude she was for doing that and at least once I said right to her "there was a line, you know" but she just like, looked at us then turned back to the counter. Clearly knew she was in the wrong, didn't care. We talked about it loudly straight up until she walked out with her stuff.

A lot of the time I just ignore stuff like that, but as I've gotten older I've started to care way less what anyone says to me or thinks of me, so I've gotten bolder.

[NancysSummerSip]

Nov 23, 2014 22:38:18 GMT -5 gooddecisions said:

Nov 23, 2014 22:29:34 GMT -5 CCL said:

I would have said something to her as well and my husband would have told me to "Be nice." Lol.

We might the same person.

We're triplets. I would have done the same.

Having just dealt with a very temporary disabling situation (surgery on both legs, which forced me to use a cane a few times) I can tell you that while some people are nice and understanding, some people suck. Case in point: after surgery #1, with right leg encased in bandages, I went to the grocery store. I was getting out of the passenger side of my car. I'm wearing shorts, so it's easy to see the fully-bandaged leg. It's midafternoon, plenty of spaces in the parking lot, but an old geezer in a Caddy insists he has to have the space next to me, and honks and curses because I am too slow in moving out of his way. Made me want to stick around, wait until he was inside and then slash his tires. That way, he could have kept his stupid parking space awhile.

Point is, stupid people are everywhere, and they also tend to be selfishly blind to other people's issues or considerations. It usually comes back to get them in some form of divine karma, though.

[milee]

You weren't wrong to call her on it. 

Last week, I was waiting at a red light for a long time and the woman behind me must have just stopped paying attention and rolled into the back of the boat trailer I had attached to the back of my car. It happens and I wasn't angry, but did want to get her information so she could pay to repair the lights and hitch. She was very annoyed with me and acted like it was all my fault. Even when I suggested that she probably didn't want to run it through her insurance but instead just pay the shop directly for the repairs. No problem, lady, I was trying to save you a ticket and the ding on your insurance, but if you want to play it like that - let's go...

[milee]

Nov 24, 2014 10:09:29 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Nov 23, 2014 22:38:18 GMT -5 gooddecisions said:

We might the same person.

We're triplets. I would have done the same.

Having just dealt with a very temporary disabling situation (surgery on both legs, which forced me to use a cane a few times) I can tell you that while some people are nice and understanding, some people suck. Case in point: after surgery #1, with right leg encased in bandages, I went to the grocery store. I was getting out of the passenger side of my car. I'm wearing shorts, so it's easy to see the fully-bandaged leg. It's midafternoon, plenty of spaces in the parking lot, but an old geezer in a Caddy insists he has to have the space next to me, and honks and curses because I am too slow in moving out of his way. Made me want to stick around, wait until he was inside and then slash his tires. That way, he could have kept his stupid parking space awhile.

Point is, stupid people are everywhere, and they also tend to be selfishly blind to other people's issues or considerations. It usually comes back to get them in some form of divine karma, though.

My favorite is when people get feisty and antsy about getting the closest parking space at the gym. Seriously, peeps? You're about to go exercise - it won't kill you to park a few more feet away and walk an extra 50 yards.

[Wisconsin Beth]

I find that I stand up for my kids more than myself.  The kids will come to me upset that someone skipped them on the slide or whatever.  "Did you tell them not to skip you?"  "no"  "Ok, try that if it happens again." 

We're also working on ordering at fast food restaurants.  Generally, it's the ice cream that comes with the kid meal at Culver's.  So I send them up to the line for ice cream (usually a separate register in good weather) clutching their coupon in their sweaty hands.  So it's more or less a kid friendly atmosphere.  And I'm about 5 feet away just in case.    yeah, yeah, I'm working on the hovering thing. 

[gooddecisions]

I'm pretty sure I'm going to need a new car soon or go into witness protection because I honk my horn at dummies driving every morning for ignoring their yield sign. You know, that big red triangle sign that means yield to all incoming traffic. It's not just there for no reason.

[bobosensei]

There are a lot of selfish people in the world, and they don't get better with age.  In fact, I think the aging process makes some people even more entitled to be rude and inconsiderate.  In most cases I probably wouldn't say anything unless not doing so was going to make the issue worse, but in general I just accept that whatever line I decide to stand in will take the longest because it relieves me of anxiety or feeling like I should have gotten into a different line.

[NancysSummerSip]

Nov 24, 2014 10:13:40 GMT -5 milee said:

Nov 24, 2014 10:09:29 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

We're triplets. I would have done the same.

Having just dealt with a very temporary disabling situation (surgery on both legs, which forced me to use a cane a few times) I can tell you that while some people are nice and understanding, some people suck. Case in point: after surgery #1, with right leg encased in bandages, I went to the grocery store. I was getting out of the passenger side of my car. I'm wearing shorts, so it's easy to see the fully-bandaged leg. It's midafternoon, plenty of spaces in the parking lot, but an old geezer in a Caddy insists he has to have the space next to me, and honks and curses because I am too slow in moving out of his way. Made me want to stick around, wait until he was inside and then slash his tires. That way, he could have kept his stupid parking space awhile.

Point is, stupid people are everywhere, and they also tend to be selfishly blind to other people's issues or considerations. It usually comes back to get them in some form of divine karma, though.

My favorite is when people get feisty and antsy about getting the closest parking space at the gym. Seriously, peeps? You're about to go exercise - it won't kill you to park a few more feet away and walk an extra 50 yards.

  Actually, I was supposed to be walking after surgery. So we should have parked out farther. But my husband, AKA the dude who drives around and around until he finds his perfect space, insists on one next to a curb.

[NoNamePerson]

I've had little ole ladies and men break in front of me. I just tell them where the back of the line is - nobody cuts in line with this little ole lady 

[Bonny]

Absolutely Mich!

My MIL definitely plays the little old lady manipulative card whenever she can. She gets away with it often enough that it encourages her.

[shanendoah]

I also call people on it.

One time, I was in a very long line at a Papa Murphy's to pick up a pizza I had called in advance to order. A woman walks into the store, looks at the line, and then walks right to the front. I don't think I was the only one who said anything (this was 10 years ago), but we, as a crowd, pointed out that the line was back here. She looked at us and was like "but I'm just picking up". "So are we" said about half the line. She was not happy.

Last year, "jumped" the line once at an airport gate. I had accidentally left a pillow Pop Tart made me on a plane. I made it to my other gate (where they were starting to board) before I realized it. I had to run back to my original gate, where they were getting ready to board another flight. There were two gentlemen in line waiting to speak to the agents. I asked both of them if they minded me cutting, as I had left something on the plane. They were both fine with it. So when the next agent was available, I went up. The agent then told me the other two gentlemen were first (which I totally appreciate), and I explained that I had asked them if I could go first, I had left something on the plane and my next flight was already boarding. They got me my pillow, and I ran back to my new gate and actually made it on the flight.

So I've cut. But I asked permission to cut.

[toomuchreality]

I was standing in line for a concert in the canyons once. Most of the others in line were off duty cops. When some of them decided to join their buddy in front of us, I said something like, I hope you aren't thinking about staying in line there. They looked back at me sheepishly and moved back to where they had been.
Seriously?! I didn't bust my butt to get there early, then stand in line all that time, just to let 20 people go before me that hadn't.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

I was thinking that she was elderly, that I should just let her go.  Only thing is that it is probably more difficult for me to stand in line as her.  

My problem didn't take long to resolve as we have season tickets, they just printed out another one as all the info and our seats were in the computer.  I don't think I was at the window more than a minute....and it was likely that she would have been just as fast.

I did get the feeling from the guy a the window that this sort of thing was not uncommon.  At 50, TD and I were some of the youngest in the audience!

[milee]

Nov 24, 2014 11:34:54 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

I was thinking that she was elderly, that I should just let her go.  Only thing is that it is probably more difficult for me to stand in line as her.  

My problem didn't take long to resolve as we have season tickets, they just printed out another one as all the info and our seats were in the computer.  I don't think I was at the window more than a minute....and it was likely that she would have been just as fast.

I did get the feeling from the guy a the window that this sort of thing was not uncommon.  At 50, TD and I were some of the youngest in the audience!

Yes, I'm usually more willing to just let it go if it's an older or impaired person.  In one of our ladies' sailing groups, we have some older women that still sail with us into their 80s.  On the race course, even if they commit a flagrant foul or go out of turn, we all let it go, give them room and pray that we're still able to sail at that age. 

In fact, my girlfriends and I all have plan on how we'll sail when we're 80.  We will have large bejeweled life jackets with the number "80" on them in huge print.  We will start the race whenever we damn well please and sail whichever direction fits our whim at the time without worrying too much about the other boats in the way.  If the other boats yell to protest, we'll just smile and reply, "80!" 

So maybe I'm paying it forward being understanding now and hoping others will be understanding of me at that point...

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

I've jumped the line too....but I've asked.

A few years ago, I was flying through Houston and needed to change terminals to catch my connection.  Only problem was the tram to change terminals was stuck on the tracks, and no trams were moving after 30 min (I suspect a bunch of people missed flights).

The only way to change terminals was to go through security, cut through the basement of a hotel, and go through security again.  Between waiting for the tram, the long hike between terminals and I had waited about halfway through the security line and realized I had less than 10 min to get to my flight.  I grabbed an agent, explained what happened and they moved me up and through......but I explained what happened along the way.

[CCL]

Nov 24, 2014 10:09:29 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Nov 23, 2014 22:38:18 GMT -5 gooddecisions said:

We might the same person.

We're triplets. I would have done the same.

Having just dealt with a very temporary disabling situation (surgery on both legs, which forced me to use a cane a few times) I can tell you that while some people are nice and understanding, some people suck. Case in point: after surgery #1, with right leg encased in bandages, I went to the grocery store. I was getting out of the passenger side of my car. I'm wearing shorts, so it's easy to see the fully-bandaged leg. It's midafternoon, plenty of spaces in the parking lot, but an old geezer in a Caddy insists he has to have the space next to me, and honks and curses because I am too slow in moving out of his way. Made me want to stick around, wait until he was inside and then slash his tires. That way, he could have kept his stupid parking space awhile.

Point is, stupid people are everywhere, and they also tend to be selfishly blind to other people's issues or considerations. It usually comes back to get them in some form of divine karma, though.

You're supposed to give them the finger when they do that
Really, why don't places just have those red velvet queue rope thingies like banks used to have?

[NancysSummerSip]

Nov 24, 2014 12:14:54 GMT -5 CCL said:

Nov 24, 2014 10:09:29 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

We're triplets. I would have done the same.

Having just dealt with a very temporary disabling situation (surgery on both legs, which forced me to use a cane a few times) I can tell you that while some people are nice and understanding, some people suck. Case in point: after surgery #1, with right leg encased in bandages, I went to the grocery store. I was getting out of the passenger side of my car. I'm wearing shorts, so it's easy to see the fully-bandaged leg. It's midafternoon, plenty of spaces in the parking lot, but an old geezer in a Caddy insists he has to have the space next to me, and honks and curses because I am too slow in moving out of his way. Made me want to stick around, wait until he was inside and then slash his tires. That way, he could have kept his stupid parking space awhile.

Point is, stupid people are everywhere, and they also tend to be selfishly blind to other people's issues or considerations. It usually comes back to get them in some form of divine karma, though.

You're supposed to give them the finger when they do that
Really, why don't places just have those red velvet queue rope thingies like banks used to have?

We have liberal gun carry laws here. I had no idea whether he had an Uzi in the Caddy. Hey, you never know with these people.

[ponomo]

I got called out once by a very grumpy women, but she was wrong! During the holidays Kohls uses a rope system so you form one line and they call you to the next empty register. The whole entire rest of the year you pick your register and stand in the line behind it. We'll it was January, the single line system was gone (ropes and all!)so I walked up to a register line to pay. A lady yelled at me for cutting the line! I then explained to her they only do lines that way during Christmas, she was not understanding it.