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Post by NancysSummerSip on Mar 4, 2019 19:53:26 GMT -5
Went into work today. HR boss had the sense and decency not to have a staff meeting today (it would have been kinda rude of him to point out that boyfriend dude was gone). Another co-worker, Hot Mama's friend "K" left late in the morning, not sure why, but she was in tears when she left. It's a common state for her. I simply cannot imagine crying in the office. Unless there's a death or serious illness in your family or among your friends, and if that's the case, get the heck out of there and go deal with it. This one seems to be able to turn on the tap and elicit sympathy for pretty much anything. I find it offensive and ineffective, personally. Do it enough times, and I am just totally unmoved by it. I'm not an unsympathetic person. I just save it for when it's worthy.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 5, 2019 8:47:16 GMT -5
I cried at work twice during my career. Both times, I headed to the bathroom and got myself back together. I don't even know if anyone saw me.
That was over a span of 25 years. Both times were in my younger years.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Mar 5, 2019 9:52:04 GMT -5
I've never cried at work but I did go down the hall to the ladies room once and scream at the top of my lungs!! In my late 20's. Sure made me feel better and somewhat childish at the same time.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Mar 5, 2019 11:00:57 GMT -5
Twice here, too. Once at the mortgage company when I got laid off the next business day after I asked my supervisor if I still had a job (mid 90's when the rates started going back up and many were getting laid off). It wasn't the laid off part that upset me, it was the she lied to me part. I was young. Now I realize the powers that be sometimes have to keep mum about such things. I'm of the mindset of never let them see you cry. Like TheOtherMe said, that's what bathrooms are for.
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Post by chiver78 on Mar 5, 2019 11:17:33 GMT -5
maybe once or twice, but in the first decade of my career when I reported to the asshole. if I felt like I might tip over the edge, I would go for a short drive (lots of back roads in the area). open the sunroof, blast the tunes, sing at the top of my lungs. that usually did the trick to compose myself.
ETA: there was one day, toward the end before he got fired, where it was a toss up if I'd lose it with tears or reach over to strangle him. I kept my shit together, walked back to my desk and whipped the sunglasses I'd had on my head into the open corner of my cube desk so hard I shattered them. then, I grabbed my keys and walked out for a drive. my "big brother" across the aisle, and the other guy next to me both kind of looked over to see if I was okay. we all had a bitch session over coffee when I got back from my drive. both of them could only shake their heads when I explained where that little explosion came from. that's not me, at all. I don't throw things.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Mar 5, 2019 11:32:40 GMT -5
Once at the insurance company I started at before opening my own agency, on an already stressful day, a client had me so upset and frustrated, I got off the phone, tossed my headphones, and marched into the agent's office and asked for the day off the next day. He had NO clue how stressful being out on the floor was as we girls kept him in a bubble. He's all, "Why, what's going on?"
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Post by chapeau on Mar 5, 2019 13:28:05 GMT -5
I have teared up at work once in my career. Even the day I got laid off (it’s possible I tried to do the jump and click my heels together on the way out the door, actually). My completely psycho boss yelled at me for something she did and instead of my usual “thank you, ma’am” I found myself almost crying. My work BFF and I went to lunch and in the middle of eating she asked if I was hormonal. And 8 months later DD arrived. I hadn’t even realized I was late until she asked. I’m totally a go to the restroom and scream or go for a walk around the block person though. Back when I had disposable income I’d up the auto transfer to my taxable investment account every time I got aggravated at the office. That was a concrete way to reduce my frustration.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Mar 5, 2019 16:23:17 GMT -5
I have teared up at work once in my career. Even the day I got laid off (it’s possible I tried to do the jump and click my heels together on the way out the door, actually). My completely psycho boss yelled at me for something she did and instead of my usual “thank you, ma’am” I found myself almost crying. My work BFF and I went to lunch and in the middle of eating she asked if I was hormonal. And 8 months later DD arrived. I hadn’t even realized I was late until she asked. I’m totally a go to the restroom and scream or go for a walk around the block person though. Back when I had disposable income I’d up the auto transfer to my taxable investment account every time I got aggravated at the office. That was a concrete way to reduce my frustration. Along the lines of transferring money, I park my new truck where I can see it on the way to the ladies room throughout the day. Seeing it reminds me of why I do what I do, put up with what I do, and how far I've come.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 5, 2019 16:55:30 GMT -5
I cried at work twice during my career. Both times, I headed to the bathroom and got myself back together. I don't even know if anyone saw me. That was over a span of 25 years. Both times were in my younger years. Both times were when I was with the IRS. I remember each time clearly. The first time I was mad and had not yet learned not to cry when I'm mad. The second time I was confused and didn't expect the tears. The tears shocked me. Both times were when I had PMS, so I guess I should not have been too surprised that I was crying.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 5, 2019 21:59:52 GMT -5
I hid in the animal room until I could cool off most of the time. My boss figured it out and said she used to do the same thing. I had legit reasons to be down there and nobody ever wanted to help so it worked out.
I cried at my current job. I found out via facebook my best friend's 6 year old son died over my lunch break (NOT a good way to tell people). I held it together for about 48 hours then lost it over something unrelated. I did open up about what I was actually upset about so they wouldn't think I can't handle the work.
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Post by Celeste on Mar 5, 2019 22:19:25 GMT -5
You are lucky you can control your crying. I can't control it, whether I am sad, mad, embarrassed, or frustrated. I wish I could. I know I am embarrassing myself and look like an idiot. At that point I'm furious with myself and cry because I am angry. I hate it. I certainly don't do it to elicit sympathy. If it makes you feel better, I get no sympathy either.
I love the fact that nobody here will ever see me cry.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 5, 2019 22:36:18 GMT -5
I can't control it either especially under high stress. I'm human and I figure the more important thing is to show I can bounce back.
I've gotten better over time at recognizing it and excusing myself but I can't control it all together.
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Post by Celeste on Mar 5, 2019 23:30:50 GMT -5
I can't control it either especially under high stress. I'm human and I figure the more important thing is to show I can bounce back. I've gotten better over time at recognizing it and excusing myself but I can't control it all together. e Yeah, I spent more time in the bathroom in 6th grade than Moaning Myrtle.
Now I try to distract myself and cover awkwardness with humor. So here we go: Better?
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Post by weltschmerz on Mar 6, 2019 1:33:38 GMT -5
You are lucky you can control your crying. I can't control it, whether I am sad, mad, embarrassed, or frustrated. I wish I could. I know I am embarrassing myself and look like an idiot. At that point I'm furious with myself and cry because I am angry. I hate it. I certainly don't do it to elicit sympathy. If it makes you feel better, I get no sympathy either.
I love the fact that nobody here will ever see me cry. I cry when I'm very frustrated. I wish I didn't. I also hate it. I also cry at SPCA commercials, but that's normal.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Mar 6, 2019 10:39:37 GMT -5
I hid in the animal room until I could cool off most of the time. My boss figured it out and said she used to do the same thing. I had legit reasons to be down there and nobody ever wanted to help so it worked out. I cried at my current job. I found out via facebook my best friend's 6 year old son died over my lunch break (NOT a good way to tell people). I held it together for about 48 hours then lost it over something unrelated. I did open up about what I was actually upset about so they wouldn't think I can't handle the work. This. I found out my favorite great uncle passed away on Facebook thanks to one of my aunts. When my grandma became increasingly ill, that same aunt (grandma's daughter) had to tell the social media world all about it. I put the kibosh on it by posting, "Glad something isn't seriously wrong with my grandma! What a way to find out!" She apologized when I went to see grandma for the last time.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 6, 2019 10:57:20 GMT -5
We found out about the death of my cousin's husband two weeks on Facebook. My cousin had sent me a message that he was in hospice and wouldn't live much longer. I do wish somebody would have called instead of letting me find out on FB.
When my aunt died last summer, my cousins had a hard time finding a cell phone number for either me or my sister. Finally talked to an aunt who had mine so they called and told me. She had said that call to the other aunt was her last hope at finding a number for us and she would have used FB messenger, but she didn't want to do that. I told her I was glad they called.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 6, 2019 15:22:07 GMT -5
My friend didn't post it the father of her kid did. I've wondered if she knew he did that because she came back really quick on her own page with she didn't want to talk about it.
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Post by Celeste on Mar 8, 2019 10:38:21 GMT -5
Dear Powers-that-be, I'm not happy with the way this body has worn over the years. I want a refund or a replacement. Why is no one manning the service desk? Ticked Off (and rickety)
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Mar 8, 2019 11:45:03 GMT -5
So smurfin'
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Post by dogmom on Mar 8, 2019 11:55:34 GMT -5
Dear Co-workers in the Estimating Department, Why must you wait until the last minute, then projects on my desk and tell me you need them by close of business today? I’m confident you had this information long before today. While we are discussing this, also helpful would be additional information (like a description with the random part number you pasted and copied into an e-mail from a faded blue print). Thanks.
Dogmom
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Mar 9, 2019 16:11:07 GMT -5
And speaking of crying in front of others.... Dear Ed, I have to say I am not surprised by your news about your impending divorce. Shock, maybe. But not surprise. I hoped that by seeing a CFP it would help your wife understand why a family of five cannot live like kings if only one parent (you) is working, while the other (her) spends like the bank account has no limits. She blew through her dad's money in three years; it was supposed to last her much longer than that. You work too hard to keep financing a lifestyle that she deserves because she's entitled to it, not because of a contribution of hard work. Your kids are all in school full time and you are facing three college educations soon. That should have been enough to get her out of the mall and working.
I am really, really sorry about this. I sent you to the financial expert, hoping it would save your marriage, which you told me was in trouble years ago. I feel really bad that it did not. Once you have worked through all of this, I personally think there will be women happy to be with you. Heck, if I were single and 20 years younger, I'd be on your doorstep already .
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Post by busymom on Mar 9, 2019 18:44:53 GMT -5
Dear Dude at the Beach: There are 2 restrooms conveniently located right next to each other. It was quite obvious that you are a man. So, why did you run into the ladies room to do your "business". I had the misfortune to be in the stall next to you, so I know you were facing the toilet when you peed. Plus, the hairy legs were a big clue, even before you rushed out of there when you were done. And, you were old enough that I'm pretty sure it wasn't a college student dare. Next time, stick you your own restroom. (On the positive side, at least he didn't appear to be doing anything weird, like filming people in the neighboring stalls.) Signed, Tired of Idiots at the Beach (we're already at too many to count)
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Mar 9, 2019 19:13:44 GMT -5
Dear Dude at the Beach: There are 2 restrooms conveniently located right next to each other. It was quite obvious that you are a man. So, why did you run into the ladies room to do your "business". I had the misfortune to be in the stall next to you, so I know you were facing the toilet when you peed. Plus, the hairy legs were a big clue, even before you rushed out of there when you were done. And, you were old enough that I'm pretty sure it wasn't a college student dare. Next time, stick you your own restroom. (On the positive side, at least he didn't appear to be doing anything weird, like filming people in the neighboring stalls.) Signed, Tired of Idiots at the Beach (we're already at too many to count) OMG and ewwwwwww.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Mar 9, 2019 22:33:13 GMT -5
Dear former owner, You surrendered your dog today. The rescue told you we were full, and you replied, "I guess she's on her own, then". Since we were afraid you would just her outside somewhere, I agreed to foster her. You adopted this dog from a different rescue, because we turned you down a year ago since we found you had given away a cat you adopted from us, in violation of the contract you signed. Someone looked at your Facebook page today, and there is a touching meme on it about how you would never give away your dog, because they are family. Well, I guess you divorced this young dog.
Signed, She's better off without you.
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Post by steff on Mar 10, 2019 2:13:21 GMT -5
With the crying thing, I never was much of a crier and if I did, it was always somewhere alone. Considering the well documented bat shit crazy women in my family, I fully expected to get the crazy rage on when I went menopausal. Instead I got the weepy menopause. I cry over EVERYTHING now. Not a full on sob cry, but way too many tear up/tears running down the cheeks moments on a daily basis. I cry over happy stuff, I cry over cute stuff, I got all teared up the other day over a dead racoon in the road. While my brain is going "WTF you're crying AGAIN? get it together ya dingbat!". Then there was the full on sobs last week over a jar I couldn't open and then proceeded to accidentally break & spill spaghetti sauce all over my counters & floors. But I think that one was well deserved. I sat on the floor picking up glass having a good full on cry.
It completely sucks!
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Post by andi9899 on Mar 10, 2019 9:25:31 GMT -5
Dear former owner, You surrendered your dog today. The rescue told you we were full, and you replied, "I guess she's on her own, then". Since we were afraid you would just her outside somewhere, I agreed to foster her. You adopted this dog from a different rescue, because we turned you down a year ago since we found you had given away a cat you adopted from us, in violation of the contract you signed. Someone looked at your Facebook page today, and there is a touching meme on it about how you would never give away your dog, because they are family. Well, I guess you divorced this young dog.
Signed, She's better off without you.
I hate people.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 10, 2019 9:33:13 GMT -5
Dear former owner, You surrendered your dog today. The rescue told you we were full, and you replied, "I guess she's on her own, then". Since we were afraid you would just her outside somewhere, I agreed to foster her. You adopted this dog from a different rescue, because we turned you down a year ago since we found you had given away a cat you adopted from us, in violation of the contract you signed. Someone looked at your Facebook page today, and there is a touching meme on it about how you would never give away your dog, because they are family. Well, I guess you divorced this young dog.
Signed, She's better off without you.
I hate people. So do I.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Mar 10, 2019 17:24:25 GMT -5
There's a reason I volunteer with dogs, not humans. A very nice young family met her today, and will be adopting her on Thursday, after the dad gets back from a quick business trip.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 11, 2019 14:31:18 GMT -5
We got Charlotte from the pound. Breaks my heart when I think about her origins. She still has her moments. I felt terrible when I went to dry her off after being outside in the snow and she flipped her lid.
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Post by andi9899 on Mar 11, 2019 15:15:47 GMT -5
How is she now? Has she figured out that you guys are decent people who will be keeping her forever yet? I think it was about 8 months in when a switch seemed to have flipped with Macy. It was like she realized she was safe and let herself get comfortable.
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