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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 15:52:55 GMT -5
I think what's really going on is that the flood of hormones that new parents get, which is what causes total amnesia about the sucky parts of having a screaming poop factory suddenly added to your house, get less potent over time or you build up a resistance to them. So with the first kid they work better, and you mentally block a lot more of the suck. With each subsequent kid you remember more and more of the suck.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 15:54:40 GMT -5
That's stupid! I know plenty of parents with 3 and more who are well managing kids, finances and household... You also seem to know an inordinate number of people who ask you for business and financial advice, so I'm going to take that comment with a grain of salt....... I also know lawyesr who don't have time to post in forums every 5 min...
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 15:56:04 GMT -5
Sarcasm, look it up.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 12, 2012 16:00:20 GMT -5
My first was also the difficult baby, the 2nd was a cake walk. DS, my oldest, has been the most laid back teenager so far. So, I'm expecting DD to be hell on wheels during her teens. ;D ETA: Can't tell stories about 3rd one, he didn't live with us until he was almost 3. Toddler stories I got
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Post by muttleynfelix on Dec 12, 2012 16:02:12 GMT -5
Yes, within a month we will be a family of 4 (actually 3 weeks from tomorrow I'll be induced if she doesn't come by then). I'm already scared shitless about #2 as it is. I guess it is payback. I was way too confidant about DS and the first year was a nightmare. This time I'm scared to death.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 16:07:57 GMT -5
swamp ate it from my hand...(well, you can take half-a-credit)
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 12, 2012 16:08:59 GMT -5
Muttley, you'll be too tired to notice if it's going badly
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Post by happyhoix on Dec 12, 2012 16:10:43 GMT -5
My first was also the difficult baby, the 2nd was a cake walk. DS, my oldest, has been the most laid back teenager so far. So, I'm expecting DD to be hell on wheels during her teens. ;D ETA: Can't tell stories about 3rd one, he didn't live with us until he was almost 3. Toddler stories I got I had a pretty well behaved kid and yet there were times I wished I could box him up and ship him someplace far off. My sister's second kid was one of those hell on wheels kids that was diagnosed with a variety of stuff, from ADHD to OCD - all the alphabet stuff. Wore my ass out to be around her for any more than an hour or two. I kind of felt guilty that I got off so lucky with DS - he wasn't near the terror her DS2 was - but then, I know my limitations, I stopped at just the one...
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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 16:10:43 GMT -5
mutt, customer just got a baby and she was late. Night before she was supposed to be induced she got it as 1-2-3. I think nervs did it for her. Be well and get it easy!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 12, 2012 16:12:42 GMT -5
If I'd have had DD first I would have never had another child. This is when I was certain GOD had a sense of humor aimed specifically at me.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Dec 12, 2012 16:20:52 GMT -5
Are parents delusional or just grossly sleep deprived? If they are delusional it's because there is no return policy and they know it's a lifer situation.
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Post by kgb18 on Dec 12, 2012 16:22:16 GMT -5
Even though DD was much more difficult than DS has been so far, she still was a good baby. But I haven't forgotten any of the bad stuff.
All the people who say you forget the pain of childbirth ... Yeah, I call total bullshit on that one. I didn't forget one little bit. As a matter of fact, it made me more nervous to have DS. I think I had a bit of PTSD from DD's birth.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 12, 2012 16:23:47 GMT -5
My first was also the difficult baby, the 2nd was a cake walk. DS, my oldest, has been the most laid back teenager so far. So, I'm expecting DD to be hell on wheels during her teens. ;D ETA: Can't tell stories about 3rd one, he didn't live with us until he was almost 3. Toddler stories I got DS was troublesome till about 18 or so, DD after being such a dream - typical teenage deal - I got no break on that one. DS is now a complete delight at 22. Maybe a third seems like a nice family addition since all the hard work is almost over? lol! Oh the 3rd one in my house has been, by far, the most difficult and not just because I'm the step parent. He's the ADHD one that puts the H in ADHD
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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 16:25:26 GMT -5
POM, you don't really think parents are sleep deprived? Like not ALL parents are sleep deprived, right? Because IF there are 2 parents who are normal people - one can ALWAYS take care of the kids for OTHER to have sleep. I hear that 'I can't get enough sleep' from a lot of people whos kids are far away from home and people who don't have kids etc... It is just waaaay for people to get attention or whyever they are doing it... Parent ar no parent - person wants to sleep - they can find a way! Pay babysitter and go sleep at the Hotel or parents or friend's house while they are at work! There are ways!
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Dec 12, 2012 16:30:44 GMT -5
POM, you don't really think parents are sleep deprived? Like not ALL parents are sleep deprived, right? Because IF there are 2 parents who are normal people - one can ALWAYS take care of the kids for OTHER to have sleep. I hear that 'I can't get enough sleep' from a lot of people whos kids are far away from home and people who don't have kids etc... It is just waaaay for people to get attention or whyever they are doing it... Parent ar no parent - person wants to sleep - they can find a way! Pay babysitter and go sleep at the Hotel or parents or friend's house while they are at work! There are ways! The ones doing it right seem to be. You aren't sleep deprived? Ever? I may have some very bad news for you.
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 12, 2012 16:31:00 GMT -5
You also seem to know an inordinate number of people who ask you for business and financial advice, so I'm going to take that comment with a grain of salt....... I also know lawyesr who don't have time to post in forums every 5 min... Tloonya, you're running off at the mouth again. It's not necessary to call others' opinions "stupid", and it's not necessary to make derogatory comments about how often posters might post. If you can't post without insulting other posters and getting into battles, we'll see how another vacation will suit you. This one might be a bit longer than the last. I'm not going to keep this up, so make up your mind. mmhmm, Administrator
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 16:42:08 GMT -5
Whoa.. it just got all serious up in here. I'm out.
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Post by kgb18 on Dec 12, 2012 16:53:53 GMT -5
Silly me! I've been doing in all wrong. Instead of parenting and taking care of my babies in the night, I should be paying a babysitter to sleep over and going to a hotel. I can't believe I didn't know that.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 12, 2012 16:59:36 GMT -5
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 12, 2012 17:00:08 GMT -5
kgb - its called a night nanny You can pay someone to come in & take over all night-time duties so that you can sleep. The group on Babycenter that I had joined had some lovely debate about parents that hire these nannies.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 17:02:26 GMT -5
mmhmm, Dark didn't mind it, we always do this to each other! Right Dark? Where did you go? And I did not say anyone was stupid. I said the thought was... Ok, sorry I got carried away...and for my post to swamp....she said people can't come to me for an advise its like calling me stupid IN THE FACE! So she can do it and I can't? Well...is not fair! Not fair!!! I am soooryyyy:'( No, kgb. Curing sleep deprivation can be done at ANY time of the day! Surprised? Can't sleep at night? Sleep whenever your partner can take over your duties. You don't have to be sleep deprived if you don't want to. But its often seems that people WANT to say 'I can't sleep' for attention and sorries from others.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 17:03:22 GMT -5
POM! What news?
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 12, 2012 17:11:54 GMT -5
Tloonya, I'm not going to argue with you. You know your tendencies as well as I do. Watch what you post and there won't be a problem.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2012 17:12:58 GMT -5
kgb - its called a night nanny You can pay someone to come in & take over all night-time duties so that you can sleep. The group on Babycenter that I had joined had some lovely debate about parents that hire these nannies. I think if you have two working parents and you can afford it, it is a great investment.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Dec 12, 2012 17:13:57 GMT -5
Yay, yet another article that informs me I am an idiot for having children. Guess some lab had to justify keeping their funding.
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 12, 2012 17:27:07 GMT -5
To me, there's nothing wrong with parents taking a night off once in awhile, if they can do so. Raising kids is a big responsibility and that brings a lot of stress. If one can afford it, I imagine a night away from it all can make things much easier and more enjoyable. Still, for most of us, we want to be home with our kids and worry about them if we're away. It's kinda a Catch 22.
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Post by kgb18 on Dec 12, 2012 17:31:54 GMT -5
Surely you are not serious, and you're just being difficult for the sake of being difficult.
mmhmm, Taking a night off every now and again is definitely a good idea. Having DD sleep over at my MIL's is fine, but I don't want to send DS until he's sleeping through the night. She already helps us and my SIL with her kids so much, I don't want to put more on her.
I don't think we have "night nannies" in our area. I've never heard of such a thing. And I really can't afford one right now.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 17:34:23 GMT -5
Discretion is the better part of valor and all that. It looks safe now though. Don't worry, I kind of have your back...
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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 17:44:37 GMT -5
Discretion is the better part of valor and all that. It looks safe now though. Don't worry, I kind of have your back... You mean you'll have me back? ;D
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2012 17:48:44 GMT -5
Surely you are not serious, and you're just being difficult for the sake of being difficult. mmhmm, Taking a night off every now and again is definitely a good idea. Having DD sleep over at my MIL's is fine, but I don't want to send DS until he's sleeping through the night. She already helps us and my SIL with her kids so much, I don't want to put more on her. I don't think we have "night nannies" in our area. I've never heard of such a thing. And I really can't afford one right now. When my brother and sister were babies (I remember because I was 18 and 19... What was my mother thinking I will never know) they had a system that worked fine for them: night on and night off. One would be on night duty while the other slept and vice versa... Or one would take the first 4 hours and the other the remaining. No need for both of them to be up at the same time because it wouldn't get my siblings to stop crying or go back to sleep any faster. Nights my mom had to do overnights and my dad needed to sleep I would tap in. My sister was the easy one, change her diaper, feed her, lay down on the couch with her laying on my stomach and her head next to my chest/heart. My heartbeat would sooth her and within 20-30 minutes she would be out again. Sometimes we spent the night on the couch sleeping like that because it wasn't worth going to bed when I knew in 2 hours she would wake up.
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