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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 12, 2012 14:33:25 GMT -5
But you won't care because that's what the pill does for you.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2012 14:34:08 GMT -5
There is a new pill for that - it's called Fuckitall. I hear it works wonders. Side effects include anal leakage, constipation, dehydration, frequent urination, headaches, nausea, heartburn, rash, impotence, excessive gambling and caring about it all. ;D no no no... it's supposed to have conflicting side effects: increased energy diarrhea increased appetite constipation decreased appetite fatigue
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Post by swamp on Dec 12, 2012 14:34:32 GMT -5
I will always care if I smell like poop.
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Post by skubikky on Dec 12, 2012 14:34:38 GMT -5
Huh??? I've yet to meet those parents..... I would be happy to introduce you to my MIL. Her quest for grandchildren is not to be dampened with reality. If you don't want children don't have any. Tell your MIL to MYOB and go and live in peace.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2012 14:35:11 GMT -5
I will never take a pill with a listed side effect of "anal leakage" think of it as getting a free colonic.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 12, 2012 14:36:38 GMT -5
anal leakage, constipation, dehydration and frequent urination are all conflicting.
And it's also supposed to have a side effect that is the exact opposite of what it is supposed to do. That's why Fuckitall makes you care about it all.
But you don't know that because you'll be blinded by my awesome ad that has absolutely nothing to do with the actual medication and will probably invovle people dancing in sunny fields.
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Post by swamp on Dec 12, 2012 14:38:27 GMT -5
Cialis will make me take a bath on a beach with an old man while staring into the sunset. And Levitra will allow me to throw a football through a tire swing.
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Post by susanb on Dec 12, 2012 14:39:04 GMT -5
I would be happy to introduce you to my MIL. Her quest for grandchildren is not to be dampened with reality. If you don't want children don't have any. Tell your MIL to MYOB and go and live in peace. My MIL is really pretty nice, but she thinks having kids isn't that hard because her mother lived down the street from her and did all of the grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning laundry and errands for her until she was in her fifties! She worked as a teacher, but essentially had free full time help. Fortunately and unfortunately, she lives a couple of time zones away/
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 12, 2012 14:40:53 GMT -5
Flonaise makes you hallucinate. You think every bee you see talks and sounds an awful lot like Antonio Banderas.
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Post by giramomma on Dec 12, 2012 14:41:23 GMT -5
But a new paper shows that parents fool themselves into believing that having kids is more rewarding than it actually is. It turns out parents are in the grip of a giant illusion. I DO think some parents pollyanna parenting a lot. I was talking to one mom once, and she said "Huh, today is the day I found out I was pregnant with my first. That wasn't a good day." I was pleased to see that someone was real about parenting. Most of the time, it's "Oh, come on, babies are SUCH a blessing. They are SO worth it. You know, everything WILL just work out. Child number 7 was the LIGHT of my life-never have any regrets even though it meant we couldn't blah blah blah" I'll admit, after having my last child, that I question how wise the decision was at least once a week. Of course my youngest is completely awesome, etc, etc. But, DH and I are paying a huge price for it. I don't think that cost should simply be ignored.
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Post by swamp on Dec 12, 2012 14:41:54 GMT -5
Flonaise makes you hallucinate. You think every bee you see talks and sounds an awful lot like Antonio Banderas. I hear Puss in Boots.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 12, 2012 14:45:56 GMT -5
I don't think that cost should simply be ignored
I don't either but once the kid is here there is not much point in my sitting around wallowing in it because a study told me that my world is an illusion and here is the truth.
I can think of a million things I'd rather do with the money I send to daycare every month, but that didn't stop me from having a kid.
No point in stressing about it now.
My reaction when I got a positive result was "Holy shit, what did I just do!?"
Either have kids or don't and everyone has their own reasons either way. I don't need a psychological article to justify how expensive kids are and therefore I am not going to have any.
Or vice versa.
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Post by swamp on Dec 12, 2012 14:46:57 GMT -5
I cried, and it wasn't tears of happiness. And we had been trying for 3 years.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2012 14:48:22 GMT -5
I cried, and it wasn't tears of happiness. And we had been trying for 3 years. my wife did the same.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 12, 2012 14:48:29 GMT -5
I proceeded to panic and go to Walgreens and buy three more tests. I was so sure one would come out negative. And we'd been trying for a kid so it wasn't like I was unaware I could end up with a positive pregnancy test.
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Post by susanb on Dec 12, 2012 14:49:17 GMT -5
But a new paper shows that parents fool themselves into believing that having kids is more rewarding than it actually is. It turns out parents are in the grip of a giant illusion. I DO think some parents pollyanna parenting a lot. I was talking to one mom once, and she said "Huh, today is the day I found out I was pregnant with my first. That wasn't a good day." I was pleased to see that someone was real about parenting. Most of the time, it's "Oh, come on, babies are SUCH a blessing. They are SO worth it. You know, everything WILL just work out. Child number 7 was the LIGHT of my life-never have any regrets even though it meant we couldn't blah blah blah" I'll admit, after having my last child, that I question how wise the decision was at least once a week. Of course my youngest is completely awesome, etc, etc. But, DH and I are paying a huge price for it. I don't think that cost should simply be ignored. It seems like the messages we hear are very different based on our parenting status as well. Drama has made it clear in this thread that she gets negative messages about her decision to parent. Now that I am heading towards 35, friends and family often tell me how not having children may be the biggest mistake of my life and I will spend my senior years in regret. I know they just want what is best for me, and I appreciate their perspective, but I guess it is just one of those decisions that people will judge no matter what.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 12, 2012 14:52:09 GMT -5
I guess it is just one of those decisions that people will judge no matter what. Pretty much. And like anything else there is probably an article out there that states the exact opposite of what this one says. It all comes down to what you and your partner want to do. We had all the hypothetical discussions, we were certainly not naive enough to think that a kid wouldn't have a huge impact on us economically. But we went ahead and had one anyhow. Which is pretty much exactly what the article says most people will do. So why I need to be told I am delusional I have no clue. I was perfectly aware of that already.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 14:52:48 GMT -5
So how long before this gets labeled as a disease and we see commericals for drugs to treat "parental illusion disorder". Would it make the kids go away? Or just numb the pain a bit... I think it'll will just numb the pain until kids go away...aka marriage, job out of state etc... I am always so mad when they say 'you gave birth to a child and your life is changed! drastically! forever!' And it is always sounds negative. I wanted to scream 'NO YOUR LIFE DOESN'T CHANGE DRASTICALLY!!!' - it is your life still WITH child who was just born!!! What ta heck? You get a dog - you walked them, feed them and play with them and take them to a vet. No one tells you that 'having a dog will change your life drastically forever!' but about kids all you hear is that nonsense. NO! My life was the same. Plus my daughter! And you hear this from a person who got a child only because her husband wanted to have it...I wasn't 'talking to my belly' kind of prego. However I hate to hear those sad voices saying that having a child about to kill you...
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 12, 2012 14:53:56 GMT -5
At least the child will eventually grow up and leave the house. I am stuck with the dogs till they die.
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Post by susanb on Dec 12, 2012 14:56:58 GMT -5
Loony, you are the best. Usually when people say having a kid will "change your life drastically forever!" I think they mean it will change it in a positive way. Now I know that it might be negative.
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Post by swamp on Dec 12, 2012 14:56:59 GMT -5
Would it make the kids go away? Or just numb the pain a bit... I think it'll will just numb the pain until kids go away...aka marriage, job out of state etc... I am always so mad when they say 'you gave birth to a child and your life is changed! drastically! forever!' And it is always sounds negative. I wanted to scream 'NO YOUR LIFE DOESN'T CHANGE DRASTICALLY!!!' - it is your life still WITH child who was just born!!! What ta heck? You get a dog - you walked them, feed them and play with them and take them to a vet. No one tells you that 'having a dog will change your life drastically forever!' but about kids all you hear is that nonsense. NO! My life was the same. Plus my daughter! And you hear this from a person who got a child only because her husband wanted to have it...I wasn't 'talking to my belly' kind of prego. However I hate to hear those sad voices saying that having a child about to kill you... but my life did change. I stopped playing softball because I didn't think I should be out playing ball 2 or 3 times a week while my husband was home with the kids. I stopped playing in golf tournaments on weekends because I'd rather spend the time with my kids. I couldn't just go out on the jet ski on a whim because you can't take an infant on a jetski. We didn't go away for weekends like we did before because the kid doesn't really care to go to a concert.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 14:58:32 GMT -5
I saw an interesting documentary not too long ago. It weighed the happiness of parents vs non-parents. Turns out, the non-parents were happier. The parents were only happy when their kids were asleep. Add my discovery about 99% of families that aren't happy and DIE!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 12, 2012 14:58:47 GMT -5
I couldn't just go out on the jet ski on a whim because you can't take an infant on a jetski.Well technically you could but you'd probably get in trouble for it. The majority of decisions we make in life rarely have only good or only bad outcomes. I can thiink of several negative ways getting married has impacted my life. I can also think of positive ones. I can think of negative ways going to college has impacted my life, I can also think of positive ones. It's up to you what decision you decide to make and what consequences/changes you want to live with.
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Post by sheilaincali on Dec 12, 2012 14:58:50 GMT -5
In true YM fashion (even though this was years before I knew about you all) I bought the cheapest test the store had. Then when it came out positive I was sure it was a faulty test because it was so cheap. I sent DH to the store to buy more and ended up taking/doing 4 pregnancy tests in total before I'd believe it. Even then I waited until I had confirmation from the Doctor. I had the whole "what have we done!" moment for the first few months of the pregnancy.
That being said- I don't remember months of sleepless nights with the Boy. I don't have any real memories of having to clean up vomit or anything like that. He's a pretty low-key kid. That being said every time my BFF tells me about my 1 year old nephew being sick or being up all night or being fussy or anything I think "better you than me". I would not be amused if I were to find out I was having another kid- especially since DH had a vasectomy years ago.
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Post by swamp on Dec 12, 2012 14:59:30 GMT -5
I couldn't just go out on the jet ski on a whim because you can't take an infant on a jetski.Well technically you could but you'd probably get in trouble for it. good point............
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Post by sheilaincali on Dec 12, 2012 15:02:33 GMT -5
Hey Now! You aren't supposed to take kids to Rock Concerts? Oops. Better go home and apologize to the Kid. He has seen quite a few people in concert. In fact we get pissed when it's an "over 18" show because that means he can't come with us. It's probably bad when we reminisce about concerts and is asks if "Jimmy Buffet was the one with the bad weed" Seriously FYI- Buffet pot smokers go for total skunk weed. Jack Johnson and Tom Petty fans tend to spring for the good stuff.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2012 15:03:06 GMT -5
Add my discovery about 99% of families that aren't happy and DIE! When did the 1% get immortality too?
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Post by swamp on Dec 12, 2012 15:04:11 GMT -5
Hey Now! You aren't supposed to take kids to Rock Concerts? Oops. Better go home and apologize to the Kid. He has seen quite a few people in concert. In fact we get pissed when it's an "over 18" show because that means he can't come with us. It's probably bad when we reminisce about concerts and is asks if "Jimmy Buffet was the one with the bad weed" Seriously FYI- Buffet pot smokers go for total skunk weed. Jack Johnson and Tom Petty fans tend to spring for the good stuff. My kids are 5 and 6, I'll take them to a concert now, but I wouldn't take them as infants. This summer I saw Kiss and Motley Crue. Lots of people brought their 5 to 10 year olds and dressed them up in full Kiss regalia. It was awesome.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2012 15:10:44 GMT -5
parenting is WAY harder than I thought it would be. DS is a huge handful. As much as I would like another child, I don't know if I can handle it emotionally right now. And since I want to be done by 35, it may not happen.
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Post by Taxman10 on Dec 12, 2012 15:11:56 GMT -5
Yay, yet another article that informs me I am an idiot for having children. Guess some lab had to justify keeping their funding. No one said you are an idiot; but just stating a fact: Parents tend to make parenthood sound easier than it is.Why do you think so many women suffering from postpartum depression are so ashamed and afraid to come out: Because so many women out there are screaming to the world that they should be happy, grateful, this is the best moment of their lives and feeling any other way is WRONG! They do?? I thought everyone made parenthood sound harder than it is?? How many studies have there been about the "costs of parenthood" and all the stressful decisions - when to have kids, SAH vs working, BF vs bottle, co-sleep vs. crib, discipline, etc.... Really parenting isn't that difficult, people of done it for 1000's of years, only in the last 30-40 years have we been told we're doing it all wrong ;-)
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