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Post by Deleted on Sept 27, 2012 17:32:35 GMT -5
OK, here goes. One time i farted and i lingered a bit cuz i found it to be quite pleasant.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Sept 27, 2012 18:00:07 GMT -5
OK, here goes. One time i farted and i lingered a bit cuz i found it to be quite pleasant. That's probably also the way GAG-a came up with her new perfume scent.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Sept 27, 2012 18:11:28 GMT -5
SL, LMAO!!! That good, huh? ;D north - I'm so sorry for your loss. That is a burden I don't think I could carry. But most moms that I know who've lost a child always think they did something wrong - even when science proves otherwise. almost 40 - and for pulling that off for that long. Who was better?
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Post by constanz22 on Sept 27, 2012 18:47:29 GMT -5
I am pretty much an open book so I don't have many secrets. There is really only one that most people don't know, but it is no big deal. When I was in college I dated brothers at the same time. One was a freshman and one was senior. They pretty much had different friends and different lives. I was able to get away with dating both of them for 3 months before they found out they were dating the same girl. I was embarrassed about dating them both at the same time and didn't want them to find out so I never told anyone except my college roommate (who gave me a high five). I would probably never do that now but it was fun at the time LOL, I dated brothers too...not REALLY at the same time, but they did overlap a bit in between. Brother #1 was more of a casual thing and Brother #2 I ended up in a long term relationship with. We had a pretty interesting night one night. I had started dating #2, but #1 didn't know yet. I told #2 he needed to tell him. They went out drinking at a bar near my house, and lo and behold, #1 shows up on my door step, #2 is calling me to tell me he thinks his brother is on his way there (too late!) so I got to be the one to break the news...interesting night! And the relationship with #2 almost didn't go anywhere after that cuz apparently #1 was talking to him all night that night when they were out about how much he liked me! Yikes...in hindsight, I should've picked #1 (or neither) but #2 was a waste of 4 years of my life I'll never get back...
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Post by 973beachbum on Sept 27, 2012 18:50:16 GMT -5
Reno is in Florida? Hey... I have now shared two... I think some of the readers on here need to ante up... I am really boring. I never smoked pot or took any illegal drug. It isn't a secret IRL but my niece was murdered and we got the joy of living with 4 network news vans outside our front door for I don't remember how long. We still get phone calls whenever something happens with the people who murdered her. Nancy Grace had our phone on her cell and we had her calling for a while. When people Google DH's name the prompt will come up with the word murder as a suggestion and the entire first page is really about them. I can't even describe what it is like to have your worst tragedy documented so other people can watch it for their prurient interest.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 27, 2012 18:59:22 GMT -5
My father committed suicide when I was five. For years and years and years, my aunt (guardian) made me say he died of a heart attack because no good family would associate with me.
At age 23 or so, I fed that BS to an insurance agent, and he gasped. "If your father died of a heart attack at 30, you are totally uninsurable." For the first time, I told the truth.
BS fed as a child takes a long time to eliminate.
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Post by Formerly SK on Sept 27, 2012 20:06:39 GMT -5
Thank you, SK. I still feel guilty about it, five years later. My mom had similar pregnancy issues, so I'll never know if it was bound to happen to me anyway or if I truly did cause it to occur. I never heard of this either - and I rode my bike to work every day with DS. I had to get another bike when I couldn't pedal because my knees were squooshing into my belly. I rode up to 8-8.5 months, and they finally induced labor after I was 3 weeks overdue. Please forgive yourself! Parenting is so hard. DS has autism, and I can think of a bazillion things I may have done to have caused it (heck I got drunk the night before I found out I was 4 weeks preggo). DD was born with a spinal defect....ditto (I wasn't very good about taking my prenatals that first month). There is nothing worse IMO than for a parent to wonder if something they did may have caused their children's death/illness/disability/harm. Those unprovable things just have to linger with us and we have to deal with the effects. Forgiveness is often quite hard, but to not forgive yourself is even worse.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Sept 27, 2012 20:19:15 GMT -5
If I shared my secret, it wouldn't be a secret anymore.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Sept 27, 2012 20:26:52 GMT -5
I'm really sorry for everyone's difficult circumstances. I wish you all peace and that you'll forgive yourselves eventually. I do have a couple of secrets but they are very dark ( none of my doing ) and I know how hard it is to live through difficult experiences and forgive oneself.
North, I have had two miscarriages, one before and one after my daughter, and I almost lost my daughter. I was told by my obstretrician that if a woman has a certain percentage of progresterone to estrogen ( I don't know the percentage ), it can cause a woman to miscarry early. One of my miscarriages was after some vigorous physical activity that was allowed by my obstetrician at the time ( dancing ), and the other one occurred despite keeping my feet up and "resting" all of the time. Both were just spontaneous.
I truly hope you can forgive yourelf. It took me a long time to realize and accept that my dancing was not the cause of my first miscarriage. It was that the fetus wasn't developing correctly, and that was just the time for it to make its transit to a better place. Take care.
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Post by Works4me on Sept 27, 2012 21:16:40 GMT -5
I was married for 5 years in my early 20's. I say I never remarried because I never met the right person at the right time.
However, it is also due to the fact that the vow I made was "until death" and he is still alive. Never felt free to re-marry but have dated and been engaged twice.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Sept 27, 2012 21:26:32 GMT -5
I found out I was pregnant 4 years ago in January. I had just broken up with my fiancee and had been seeing a guy from work. I had an OH SHIT moment when I realized I was pregnant, and I hoped & prayed that it would just "go away" (personal beliefs would never let me get an abortion).
Then I miscarried. I felt god was punishing me for what I had done, and had took my kid as punishment. And I felt horrendously guilty for wishing that my baby would die so that I could save myself the embarrassment of getting pregnant by some guy I barely knew. That baby would be 4 this year. Every September I remember what would have been....
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Post by imawino on Sept 27, 2012 21:32:04 GMT -5
I can't even describe what it is like to have your worst tragedy documented so other people can watch it for their prurient interest. Beach, I'm sorry for your loss, and I agree. Vile, disgusting people. I had barely gotten some tragic news before my phone started ringing from local news. The following days that I spent on my couch, hiding from the world, those fuckers rang my doorbell....sometimes parking the news van down the road in hopes I wouldn't see it and would open the door.
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Post by imawino on Sept 27, 2012 21:34:30 GMT -5
Am I the first person here with a secret who is an asshole? LOL. No, I'm a huge asshole but I don't think I've been able to keep it a secret.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Sept 27, 2012 21:42:26 GMT -5
Yeah, but your asshole is cute.
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Post by imawino on Sept 27, 2012 21:55:26 GMT -5
Yeah, but your asshole is cute. Awwwwww, you say the sweetest things.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 27, 2012 21:56:24 GMT -5
I agree that as parents we always second guess ourselves when something goes not right. I also have never heard bike riding was bad, and I think spontaneous miscarriage happens when its going to happen.
Thanks to everyone who shared so far. Epiphany I enjoyed your list.
I too, unfortunately, am not terribly good at hiding my assholic tendencies.
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 27, 2012 22:19:25 GMT -5
knowing that I do know another YM-er IRL, one I knew long before I found the rest of y'all, I'm going to refrain from sharing my deepest, darkest secret on here. I do want to offer <hugs> to those that need 'em, to those that are at peace with their history like I can finally say I am (it took awhile), and amazing love and kudos to those that have been willing to share so far.
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Post by Works4me on Sept 27, 2012 22:21:27 GMT -5
Chiver - very smart! I need a new name here as mine is too close for my comfort.
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Post by lynnerself on Sept 27, 2012 23:26:25 GMT -5
This isn't a big deal, but I don't share it with my family or co-workers. I vacation each year at a nudist resort.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Sept 28, 2012 0:42:14 GMT -5
Huh... how's the eye candy?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2012 4:33:49 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2012 4:41:28 GMT -5
When I was 18 I was raped by someone I thought was my friend. He had slipped a roofie (is that how you spell it) in my drink. All I know is I woke up and he was on top of me. I freaked out. My friends took me to the ER because I could barely stand. They did a rape kit on me and called the police. In the end I decided not to press charges because I was embarrassed. I didn't want my family to know what had happened. My mom had always told me that the way I acted or the way I dressed was going to get me raped. Do I believe that is why? No. But it is what I thought. So I let him walk. I found out later that I wasn't the only person he did this too. I felt guilty for years because if I would have pressed charges the other girls wouldn't have had to be raped too.
My family still doesn't know what happened to me. I lied when my mom got the bill from the DR and told her that I went into the ER because I was really sick and my friends were scared. I have told my children what happened because I want my girls to be more vigilant than I was at parties.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2012 5:41:45 GMT -5
Let's see. When i attented my all girl's Catholic college for my undergrad i was sitting in the elevator riding it up and down after a particularly fun night of partying. I think i was hollering something, dont' really remember. What i do remember is all the sudden the elevator door opened and their stood Sister Mary whatshername who as the Dorm Supervisor and one of the higher ups. I recall thinking that i should tell her to "F off" but then i thought better of and i somehow realized that would probably not be a good idea, so then i just go up and went to my dorm room! lol
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Sept 28, 2012 6:20:08 GMT -5
Oh yes, I do have a dark secret that, if it had come out, would have cost my parents/me a lot of money. When I was a freshman/sophomore at My State U, home of the Partiers, the legal drinking age was 18, and it was still legal to have keggers in the dorms. (This was when dinosaurs roamed the earth ). We had had a pretty good kegger on our 3rd floor hall, and we had kind of screwed up putting the tap into a new keg of beer, or somehow the tap had come lose, or something happened....anyway, the keg sort of blew up and beer went all over the place. About 5 hours later, those of us who were still conscious, or became conscious, realized that there was about 2" of beer in the common room and up and down the hallway, creeping in under the dorm room doors. We didn't know what to do with it, so I ( YES I ) had the brilliant idea of getting large janitorial brooms and sweeping the beer at one end of the hall down the staircase steps, so we did that. The other end of the hall was very problematic, because it had way more partially dried up beer, beause that was where the common room was, the location of the exploding beer keg. However, my brilliant solution was to recruit some girls to hold the doors of the two elevators open, and three other girls ( including me ) swept the tides of beer INTO the elevators and down into the cracks between the floor and elevator. It all slowly disappeared....we were pretty happy.
A few days later, both elevators came to a stop within hours of each other, and you could smell the sugarized, burned beer.....the repairmen kept saying, " This motor should have been good for x more years. I don't know how this happend...." We all took the stairs up and down and giggled a lot. Nobody squealed.
Sheesh.
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Post by 973beachbum on Sept 28, 2012 7:43:40 GMT -5
I can't even describe what it is like to have your worst tragedy documented so other people can watch it for their prurient interest. Beach, I'm sorry for your loss, and I agree. Vile, disgusting people. I had barely gotten some tragic news before my phone started ringing from local news. The following days that I spent on my couch, hiding from the world, those fuckers rang my doorbell....sometimes parking the news van down the road in hopes I wouldn't see it and would open the door. Ima I hope you have found some peace as well. I always tried to keep in mind that the reporters were doing their job. I couldn't for the life of me figure out why people wanted to see us and rehash the story though. Are the gruesome detales of a teens murder really what people want to read about with their morning coffee or watch during dinner?
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 28, 2012 7:54:04 GMT -5
In a way this is healing to read this as well as scary. It brings back awful memories that I try to bury and, yet, it's nice to know others have gone through hell and survived.
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Post by 973beachbum on Sept 28, 2012 8:19:07 GMT -5
Not only do we have digital cable in the family room, we even have it in the guest room. (gasp!) OK, I have a really dumb question. We finally did get cable (DH said the FIOS bundle was the best internet, yada, yada...), but we only have one TV so excuse the ignorance. If you have cable or FIOS, does it only work on one TV? You have to pay extra for more TVs? I can have as many TV's hooked up for the same price as long as I don't need another "box" type thing that has things like pay channels or on demand with Comcast. So in our case we have 4 tvs hooked up to the cable. One has a DVR attached and one has the box for premium channels and on demand. The other two have the little box that just lets it get the signal. Thoste two tvs just get regular channels and maybe not quite as many. One is on my tv in the bedroom and all I know is I get all the channels that I watch.
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Post by Tennesseer on Sept 28, 2012 9:01:04 GMT -5
My mother died in her mid-fifties and instead of sorrow I felt enormous relief. I didn't then and never have mourned her passing, because she's not worthy of my tears. What makes it hardest is that my extended family, including my dad who worshipped the toilet paper she wiped her ass with, continues to this day to hold her up as a shining example of elegant womanhood.... ...I am now, perhaps surprisingly, on very good terms with my dad. He, too, had been a victim of her manipulative nature, something for which I could hardly hold him responsible. (Except maybe to have grown a pair and stood up to her, but she saw him coming a mile away, and anyway it's all water under the bridge.) Celtic-your post reminded me of this Theodore Hesburgh quote: The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.I think in most cases that is true but not always as you have experienced. My only sister had the same mother/daughter experience as you. My sister and our mother never got along from the day my sister was born. It was only in both of their later years was a grudging truce called. When my mother died my sister flew to the state where she had died. My sister wanted to see her dead body to make sure she was dead and to know she no longer could mentally hurt or harm her. My sister also had final opportunity to tell her how she had psychologically abused her but to also tell her she forgave her. My sister made peace with our mother that day.
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Post by mrsdutt on Sept 28, 2012 9:31:21 GMT -5
I (somewhat unknowingly) caused myself to go into premature labor when I was pregnant with my first child, he was born 2 days later and died. I'd been quite active my whole pregnancy with no medical restrictions. One night after work I decided to go for a bike ride (prior to that I hadn't ridden a bike for about a year). I thought to myself "Gee. I hope riding bike isn't dangerous to my baby..." . The next morning i ended up in the hospital because I was dilating. Nobody in my family knows that I pretty much caused my baby to die, except my DH who was riding bike with me. Two days after we lost the baby, I saw an episode of 'Scrubs' where Turk and Carla were expecting a baby and Carla commented that she couldn't ride an exercise bike because it would put too much pressure on her cervix. Wish I'd seen the episode a few days earlier I'm so sorry.
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Post by movingforward on Sept 28, 2012 9:40:00 GMT -5
When I was 18 I was raped by someone I thought was my friend. He had slipped a roofie (is that how you spell it) in my drink. All I know is I woke up and he was on top of me. I freaked out. My friends took me to the ER because I could barely stand. They did a rape kit on me and called the police. In the end I decided not to press charges because I was embarrassed. I didn't want my family to know what had happened. My mom had always told me that the way I acted or the way I dressed was going to get me raped. Do I believe that is why? No. But it is what I thought. So I let him walk. I found out later that I wasn't the only person he did this too. I felt guilty for years because if I would have pressed charges the other girls wouldn't have had to be raped too. My family still doesn't know what happened to me. I lied when my mom got the bill from the DR and told her that I went into the ER because I was really sick and my friends were scared. I have told my children what happened because I want my girls to be more vigilant than I was at parties. What a terrible experience for you. Kudos for telling your children about it.
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