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Post by The Captain on Oct 16, 2015 8:30:13 GMT -5
I'm pretty familiar with churches like that. In fact people leave them all the time because they find the teachings to be fundamentally flawed. As a parent mother I would never stand by and let anyone beat my child to death while there was breath in my body. Protection of your children is something that's hardwired into both humans and animals to ensure the survival of the species. She's being charged with manslaughter, and by my read of the article she actually participated in the beating. She actively took part in beating her own child. Let me repeat that - she actively took part in beating her own child to death. No way in hell would I want the "I'm too meek to not beat my child" line of bull to ever become a valid defense. This is pathetic. Her son is dead because she did nothing to stop it and in fact participated in the act. I also note we're very willing to give the poor meek woman a buy because she's obviously incapable of taking care of her own weak woman mind. Her husband, subject to the same supposed brainwashing and mind control doesn't get a buy, however, because he should have been able to throw off the shackles of the church's teaching. No, there's no double standard around here. Not a double standard when women are trained, from childhood,mto be submissive to men. The men do not receive that kind of brainwashing. I did not read, anywhete, that she took an active part. Rather that she failed to step in. May I have a link please? From the original article in the OP: Deborah Leonard stands charged with manslaughter in the death of her 19-year-old son, Lucas, but her lawyer Devin Garramone, said he believed other people caused the fatal injuries.
Look up the legal definition for manslaughter. You will find that it is not a charge that is brought against bystanders. That, in addition to the above statement by the woman's own lawyer tells me she participated in the beatings. Yea, she beat her own son, she just isn't the one who killed him. And hell yes it is a double standard. You give the woman a buy because she can't overcome her "conditioning" but then stated: Why does she get understanding for not going against church programming but the husband has "no excuse whatsoever".
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 17:48:55 GMT -5
Travel isn't a priority for us right now. We do weekend trips here and there. The biggest trip was a few years back. Disney cruise/park combo. DH will probably tell you about the time he got to go to France and England. So did I, but I was working so didn't have much free time.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 17:45:17 GMT -5
Coddled Kids Crumble: Colleges see big lack of resilience among students www.foxnews.com/us/2015/10/15/coddled-kids-crumble-colleges-see-big-lack-resilience-among-students/In the continuing infantilizing of America’s young people, colleges report having to warn kids when they are going to talk about something that might be mentally troubling in class, with a so-called “trigger warning.” That way, in theory, a past victim of abuse or violence would be warned when graphic or violent material might be coming their way.
Are you freaking kidding me? Having to announce trigger warnings to college age adults? Gawd help me, I'm a hard ass with DD. At least now there's something to point to as it being a good thing.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 17:35:39 GMT -5
I'm pretty familiar with churches like that. In fact people leave them all the time because they find the teachings to be fundamentally flawed.
As a parent mother I would never stand by and let anyone beat my child to death while there was breath in my body. Protection of your children is something that's hardwired into both humans and animals to ensure the survival of the species.
She's being charged with manslaughter, and by my read of the article she actually participated in the beating. She actively took part in beating her own child. Let me repeat that - she actively took part in beating her own child to death.
No way in hell would I want the "I'm too meek to not beat my child" line of bull to ever become a valid defense.
This is pathetic. Her son is dead because she did nothing to stop it and in fact participated in the act.
I also note we're very willing to give the poor meek woman a buy because she's obviously incapable of taking care of her own weak woman mind. Her husband, subject to the same supposed brainwashing and mind control doesn't get a buy, however, because he should have been able to throw off the shackles of the church's teaching.
No, there's no double standard around here.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 16:58:28 GMT -5
Really? That gives her a free pass?
It is a fundamental truth that a mother is supposed to protect their children.
Sins of omission are just as bad as sins of commission.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 13:30:23 GMT -5
I will admit there are things that seem a little mind boggling when you stop and think about it. My grandparents raised 6 kids, all going to catholic schools, sent 4/6 of them to college, and owned a house in a nice suburbs....all while my grandpa was working as an employee at a department store (not management). For periods of time, my grandma also worked at a department store as well. They definitely roughed it when it came to certain things...small house, no vacations, no extra income, etc. But that is mind-boggling to me?!? I think this is a good example of how the security of the middle class has deteriorated over the last generation. I know we like to blame all the overspending and all the stupid examples like the teacher in the article, but realistically would this even be possible today if a family were financially prudent in all other areas? The middle class of today is very different from the middle class back then. Two cars instead of one (or none). Washing machine and drier. TV, cable, internet, smart phones etc. Eating out more than once a month (if that). DD had a classmate who was the oldest of 5 (yes five!!!) girls. All went to catholic school and the mom was a SAHP. In reality the three youngest went pretty much for free. When her friend would come over for a sleepover there was no interest in the WII or other electronic stuff because they didn't have that at their home. Uno and board games were her thing along with art. The Dad was a sales rep for some type of tool company (like snap on but not them) so yea, he got a company car. I don't know what he makes but they seemed to do ok.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 12:46:37 GMT -5
(bangs head on desk) - Welts - not everyone has unlimited resources. If you have an Amazon account they will let you know when the prices changes on something if you put it in your shopping cart, you don't have to hit the order key to keep watch on things (I do this often). You may also find this helpful: www.cnet.com/news/20-tools-for-price-watching-and-protecting/I don't have unlimited resources, either. However, I wouldn't go through all that trouble to save 5 bucks. But that's just me. I'm gonna guess you never had to choose between putting $5 in the gas tank to get to work or having milk in your fridge either. I'm happy for you, really I am. Again not everyone is so blessed. Besides, you were on his living cheaply thread so I have to assume you either have no memory at all or lack any sensitivity towards others. Because the alternative would be that you're acting like an ass, and I really don't want to be right on that one.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 12:24:31 GMT -5
(bangs head on desk) - Welts - not everyone has unlimited resources. If you have an Amazon account they will let you know when the prices changes on something if you put it in your shopping cart, you don't have to hit the order key to keep watch on things (I do this often). You may also find this helpful: www.cnet.com/news/20-tools-for-price-watching-and-protecting/
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 12:04:26 GMT -5
$32,400 for 2 in private school even with a staff discount.... I am pro-education as the next person, but if you are complaining you are broke, maybe spending $16,200 after discounts per child in private school is not the way to go. Since you are paying $17,000/year for a great public school you seem to like for your disabled child, maybe you can send the other 2 kids there too. There, I just saved you $32,400 Yea, I missed this - which makes no sense whatsoever.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 11:50:41 GMT -5
I read as much as I could--maybe 25%. Then I just started scrolling down and say, "blah, blah, blah" to myself. The guy makes 6 figures, I think he said, and his wife works as well. Sorry if I don't feel too sorry for him. Lots of jobs suck. There's sucking while working all summer too, and then there's sucking with summers off. Choose your poison, and don't spend every dime you make. Were you in my head while I was reading? And what exactly is a "medically surprising" child? He mentioned being ok with the taxes because he had a learning disabled child in a good school system. Personally, I'm over the "You should feel guilty because I'm not paid as much as I think I should be, to go into a profession I choose" articles. So, he didn't go broke because: 1. He was an adjunct for years before he decided he had to get serious about earning a living 2. He had four kids (already covered). At least he admits this is financially stupid. 3. He had a kid presumably with medical issues and maybe having to spend more on as special needs (because you can't say your kid made you broke) 4. Spending a lot on kids education (I presume college because you pay high taxes for a good school district) even though kids would get free tuition where mom works. Yea, it's our fault he's broke.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 9:44:38 GMT -5
At my first job I signed up to contribute enough to get the maximum match (6% of salary). Every other year or so after that I added about half my raise and hit the max sometime in my early 40's.
Current employer is top heavy so I don't get to contribute much to the 401(k) on a pre-tax basis. Fortunately we have a roth 401k and I'm not limited as to how much I can stash in there (it's not deductible though).
If you start and keep building then you really don't notice it. Unless you look at your paycheck and see how much is going into retirement.
The trick is to not let your standard of living increase as fast as your salary.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 15, 2015 8:56:33 GMT -5
Woof = yes
Meow = no (though the story broke my heart!)
Litter = done!
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 14:15:05 GMT -5
Fortunately I don't have enough to go to the biologics. Not sure I'd want to anyway
DH has it severe enough he qualifies. They required he be on methotrexate first before they'd approve it.
He came *thisclose* to having to be admitted to the hospital with a bronchial infection while on it. Took him three months to get over it.
He changed his mind about pursuing a biologic, he said the psoriasis is ugly but at least it won't kill him.
The steroid cream works on some of the patches but they do nothing for the more severe ones.
I'll pass onto him the tea tree oil/glycerin idea and see if he'd be willing to give it a try. I also would suggest a product called Dermal Therapy. It doesn't clear things up, but it does moisturize and slow down the cell regeneration so that all you have is red patches, no scale. It's lotion, though - so I can't use it on my scalp for extended times without making my hair look like a mess. The home concoction I use works faster like a sprint so I can get away with 3 treatments a week, while the Dermal Therapy is more like a marathon solution.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 14:03:54 GMT -5
Gotta hand it to you Nancy, you sure know how to find the headlines...
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 14:02:24 GMT -5
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 13:36:38 GMT -5
I can't see that site from work and I need some puppy pictures dangit!
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 12:50:54 GMT -5
Sorry, I was only trying to bite you, but I killed you. Bad zombie. pffth! Amateur...
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 12:45:54 GMT -5
I have psoriasis and have tried so many different things to get it in check. Right now a home remedy of glycerin, tea tree oil, and coconut oil is the only thing that provides some relief.Tea tree oil sends my psoriasis into the stratosphere. I remember trying it and it winding up 500% worse after a few treatments. I'm lucky in that my patches are usually fairly small, but I have found that prescription meds work the best. I use a clobetasol solution (it's alcohol based, so not gummy) when I get patches on my scalp, and desonide on my skin. That's the same as Olux, right? It does clear things up when I use it. Problem is the flare up comes right back the second I stop. My dermatologist had me stop using it because he is worried about long term side effects. I've used it on and off for several years now. Steroid based solutions seem to be the only thing that will clear thing up, but they're not a long term solution. Well salicylic acid works too but I'm not desperate enough to try some of the home remedy's I've read about. Fortunately I don't have enough to go to the biologics. Not sure I'd want to anyway. I'm constantly amazed by how differently everyone reacts to the same thing. It's a miracle drugs work at all, given how individual body chemistry is.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 12:01:53 GMT -5
Yep. I call it my hookah. One cat knows the sound of it when I fire it up and comes running for the guaranteed lap. Two hits last night got me clear. Still clear today (crosses fingers). Is there like mutant pollen floating around or something? Yes, dammit. Damned snowbirds from Chicago brought it down here. Grrrr! Most of the emoji's don't work at work. So please picture me sticking my tongue out at you.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 11:07:59 GMT -5
JFC!!! I went off the antibiotics two days ago, and off the prednisone yesterday. Yes I finished the full course. I'm wheezy and coughing again today. Going home on time and straight to bed. Whatever the hell this is, I'm so done with it. Captain, I am so sorry. I've BTDT more times than I can count. Do you have a nebulizer at home? Yep. I call it my hookah. One cat knows the sound of it when I fire it up and comes running for the guaranteed lap. Two hits last night got me clear. Still clear today (crosses fingers). Is there like mutant pollen floating around or something?
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 9:36:44 GMT -5
Ok, tagging isn't working right now... Pink Cashmere, Steff, and Sweetdreams (and any other business folks out there). Please please please! get labels for your products. DH and DD went out of town last weekend on a coaster trip and stopped at a craft fair. DH knows how much I love bath bombs so he got a set of 5 for me from a vendor. I used one last night, it was the best freaking thing ever. The water was so soft, the scent was very light (I can't handle heavy scents) and there was something else in there (moisturizer) that made my skin so soft. DH spent over an hour trying to figure out who the vendor was because there was no label. No receipts either as the vendor only took cash. IF I had contact information that vendor would already have a huge ass mail order because I'd be giving this to my friends and stocking up for myself. So now I sit sadly looking at the four remaining bombs and wondering how long I can hold out on using them .
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 9:30:18 GMT -5
Sounds like two of the seven dwarves are covered. Same here, but it is allergy season. The guy in the office next to me and two of my staff sound like crap. I hope whatever it is, it goes away soon.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 8:34:27 GMT -5
Woof = nope
Meow = nope
But once again, I got the litter right!
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 8:15:41 GMT -5
Inspired by tskeeter's post here: ymam.proboards.com/post/2342001I would love to learn how to make Canadian bacon! Suggestions - ideas? Do you have a special skill you think someone here may benefit from - or do you have something you'd like to learn more about? According to friends and family (esp my MIL!!!) I have mastered the art of crispy chicken skin. Let me know if you're interested. Here you go, Cap... Just follow the link. www.susanminor.org/forums/showthread.php?311-Canadian-BaconThis recipe is written for use with a smoker. You don't have to smoke the cured pork loin (use the loin, not the tenderloin). You can just roast it in the oven at 225 degrees until it gets to the recommended internal temperature. I don't bother to tie the loin before I smoke it. Tieing the loin makes the shape more round, like commercial Canadian bacon, but it dosn't change the flavor/texture. You will see that some parts of the Canadian bacon are darker colored than other parts. This is normal. It's caused by the difference in the muscles that make up the loin. (Part of what makes commercial Canadian bacon so expensive is that they trim away the muscle that makes the darker bacon. I find that I like the flavor of the darker bacon more than I like the lighter bacon.) If you want a sweet, maple flavor, brush the pieces of pork loin with dark maple syrup before roasting. I suppose that you could also inject the loin with dark maple syrup diluted with a bit of water after the loin is roasted. And then let it sit in the refrigerator for a few days so the flavor can distribute in the meat. After smoking and an over night stint in the refrigerator, I slice this into thin slices, seal in a FoodSaver pouch, then freeze. It'll keep in the freezer for about a year. You could also use simple zip bags, but it won't keep as long because air the the zip bag will cause freezer burn. But, you should be good for a couple of months. Or, you could make this in about one pound pieces, freeze, and then slice as you use. In some areas, you can find Morton Tender Quick (a blend of salt and curing agent) in the grocery store, with the salt and spices (look for a dark blue 1 pound paper bag). I expect that outdoor stores, such as Cabella's, Bass Pro Shops, or Gander Mountain, may also carry it. I've ordered it from Amazon, and I think that WalMart's webstore also carrys it. And then there are the web stores that sell sausage making supplies. Did you hear the low groan that just came from the Midwest. That. Looks. AWESOME! DH and I have a meat grinder and sausage stuffer. We're doing some experimenting and I think Canadian bacon has to get added to the list. We also have a foodsaver thingy so freezer burn isn't an issue. Thanks!
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 8:12:23 GMT -5
argh, not likely any time soon since I just bought a house. but we'll put this one on the back burner for a big PB meetup. andi9899 and chiver78 - hey!!! I want in on this too. PLUS the Chicago area is smack dab in the middle of everything. Easy peasy!
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Post by The Captain on Oct 14, 2015 8:08:39 GMT -5
I'd like to say I'd pick it up and calmly hand it back to him with a raised eyebrow.
In reality I'd probably bitch slap him after kicking him in the jewels and telling him never to come near my daughter again.
Hey, just being honest.
(Thanks NOT!!! for putting that scenario in my head)
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Post by The Captain on Oct 13, 2015 16:45:49 GMT -5
JFC!!!
I went off the antibiotics two days ago, and off the prednisone yesterday. Yes I finished the full course.
I'm wheezy and coughing again today. Going home on time and straight to bed.
Whatever the hell this is, I'm so done with it.
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Post by The Captain on Oct 13, 2015 15:04:45 GMT -5
I have mastered the perfect pomegranate margarita punch. How do you accomplish this perfection? What's the trick? Recipe? Please share - I need some perfection in my life.
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