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Post by tcu2003 on Dec 3, 2020 9:05:33 GMT -5
Congrats, cktc!! And lol at the wrong phone number - that is totally something I would do!
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Post by tcu2003 on Dec 1, 2020 0:10:19 GMT -5
Happy birthday to E!!
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 30, 2020 20:49:32 GMT -5
November Update:
Checking/Savings: $155k
House: $428k
Retirement: $1.539M
Brokerage: $4.7k
529s: $49.1k
Total NW: $2,176,716
We're up about 9.5% since last month - thank you, stock market!
As usual, the list above excludes our cars, which are worth around $30k combined, but I leave them out because we're unlikely to sell, and need them to get to/from work, kids schools, etc. in the land of suburbia.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 30, 2020 20:45:49 GMT -5
Congrats, rukh! I’m holding out until Monday for my normal month end update. And...... Working on it now!
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 30, 2020 13:35:51 GMT -5
Woot woot!! Way to go!!
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 26, 2020 1:25:00 GMT -5
I'm always barefoot in my house--kick off my shoes within ten steps of crossing the threshold.
I imagine LLBean will have sales for Christmas. Ditto. Once in awhile if I’m really cold, I’ll put on socks, but that is rare.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 26, 2020 1:18:37 GMT -5
Our school district is switching from hybrid back to remote learning for middle and high school students on Monday. Elementary school is still in person, for the moment. My son’s elementary as of last Friday had 2 students with it (out of nearly 500 students), and 2 staff (out of 57), but 10 more staff are out due to exposure. 😳
It wouldn’t surprise me if they switch to hybrid or remote for elementary kids before Christmas, but they have been trying to keep those kids in school, so we’ll see.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 25, 2020 15:04:53 GMT -5
Ugh, let the holiday family drama begin. My sister is now annoyed that no one wants to come to her house tomorrow. We were iffy to begin with if the weather wasn’t going to cooperate enough for us to eat outside, but my niece is in quarantine until 12/1 (her entire class is due to a COVID exposure in the classroom). So yep, we’re out. My mom decided not to go, but still come up and stay with us, so now there’s drama. And sister’s boyfriend’s family also all bailed on dinner at her house.
We’re trying to do the right thing and keep our holiday small - it’s us and my mom. We’re not seeing my ILs at all due to a large indoor/masks optional birthday party many of them attended on Sunday, so we’re definitely not singling out anyone on this.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 24, 2020 20:55:30 GMT -5
Congrats, rukh! I’m holding out until Monday for my normal month end update.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 22, 2020 0:13:48 GMT -5
Anyone have a parent or other elderly family member that uses a non-smart phone and has good volume (aka my mom has some hearing loss but not hearing aids, so want one she can hear well on)? She has a flip phone that is overdue for being replaced, but doesn’t want a smart phone. DH and I would love to get her one for Christmas, but aren’t sure what to get. She has AT&T, so it needs to be a phone that works on their network.
She’s got an iPad mini for FaceTime and games and all that, and doesn’t want or need a smart phone.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 22, 2020 0:11:38 GMT -5
I just ordered a few books for a couple of people on my list from Rainy Day Books - I always want to shop local and am usually not great at it (especially now as I’m trying to avoid stores), so I’m glad that at least a couple of items are from a local small bookstore. They’re only open for shipping and curbside pickup, so I’ll pickup once it’s ready.
I do need to place another Scholastic order before the holidays for C and M, plus some nieces and nephews.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 18, 2020 21:28:23 GMT -5
Every year I get my kids a Christmas ornament that somehow signifies their greatest achievements in that year. I am struggling to find something positive for this year. Did they learn some big new skill? C learned to ride a bike without training wheels in the spring (finally!) so for him, that was a big one, though it seems so long ago now it’s hard to believe that was this year. ETA: his other big thing this year is reading a few Harry Potter books on his own after I read him the first one, and it’s seriously upped his reading level, so for him, anything HP related would also be fitting.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 18, 2020 21:28:23 GMT -5
Every year I get my kids a Christmas ornament that somehow signifies their greatest achievements in that year. I am struggling to find something positive for this year. Did they learn some big new skill? C learned to ride a bike without training wheels in the spring (finally!) so for him, that was a big one, though it seems so long ago now it’s hard to believe that was this year.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 18, 2020 21:26:26 GMT -5
The one that is a dumpster fire labelled 2020. This would be perfect for my boss - do you have a link to where you got it?
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 18, 2020 12:29:58 GMT -5
If you have a Garmin smart watch, the Garmin app also has a period tracker.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 15, 2020 0:42:37 GMT -5
Congrats, shanendoah!!
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 12, 2020 15:21:56 GMT -5
Hey, friends! It's been a long time. Popping in to say hello Hopefully I'll have time to catch up here soon. Hope everyone is doing well!! Sam!!! So good to see you back here!!
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 12, 2020 15:20:55 GMT -5
Congrats, sam!!
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 11, 2020 14:30:54 GMT -5
Working to keep it all together this week after the craziness of last week. We got a message on Sunday evening that daycare is closed due to a staff member getting a positive Covid test. She was last in the building last Tuesday, so I know it wasn't M's teacher or her favorite staff person that she hugs every day as I saw both of them later in the week, so that's good news. But unfortunately, DH and I both had a reading comprehension fail, so when we say they were closed until Wednesday, November 18, we just read that as today. So yep, I totally drove to daycare this morning to find out they're not open and won't be open until next Wednesday. It made sense once I thought about it as I'm sure she was around at least some of the other staff long enough to put some of the others under a quarantine period, so they probably don't have enough staff to open.
I'm also annoyed because we're doing our best to be careful and make choices to keep our kiddos in daycare and elementary school, and not everyone else is doing the same. My sister's kids used to go to this daycare (they are elementary aged now so aged out), and she is friends on SnapChat with the staff member who has Covid, so at least based on her SnapChat posts, I know this staff member has been proceeding about like everything is normal and not taking precautions or trying to limit social activities. DH and I are lucky enough we can keep M home and still continue to remote work/flex our hours and time as needed to get everything done, but several families in our daycare have at least one parent in healthcare at the nearby hospital (the daycare is like 8 blocks from one of the big hospitals) and I know they aren't so lucky.
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 8, 2020 19:42:43 GMT -5
Thanks, everyone. I’ll keep on keeping on.
Azucena, were definitely talking about it, but not seemingly a ton. He is definitely frustrated sometimes that we’re not going to the local science center (we have a membership), seeing his cousins as often as we did before, and things like eating out in restaurants. He’s good about mask wearing, but there are definitely references to “stupid coronavirus.“
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 5, 2020 15:30:23 GMT -5
PDQ
Anyone have any tips for helping a kiddo (8yo boy, 3rd grader) work on kindness - towards others, but also himself as he's quick to call himself stupid or say I'm an idiot when he forgets something or messes up. His teacher emailed us this morning with this:
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I wanted to share with you an incident that occurred this morning during recess. C had told another student they needed to replace her as goalie during recess this morning because she is too short. C and I talked in the hallway after recess about being respectful and keeping negative comments to himself, rather than name calling or saying things that may hurt other people's feelings. We also discussed this not being the first time we have talked in the hallway about being respectful and demonstrating expected behavior. We also talked about the consequence of his unexpected behavior today will be to take a break from soccer this afternoon and to also write an apology note.
Counselor happened to be in the hallway while C and I were visiting so she talked with C as well. He shared with her that it is difficult for him to control his anger and he does/says mean things before he realizes it. They discussed strategies to use in situations when he begins to feel angry, and C decided to try the strategy, taking deep breaths. C also shared with Counselor he did not know what an apology was so they discussed an apology being an effort to let the other person know that they will try all they can to not repeat the behavior and it is also a time to tell them sorry. Deep breathing is a strategy we will encourage C to practice at school, and we appreciate any support you can provide with this at home as well.
Please let me know if you have any questions.
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We definitely do apologies at home, and C has even written a couple of apology notes to the after-school care staff director as C has been rude and disrespectful a couple of times this year to him. It's also the first I've heard that she's had to have other talks with him about being respectful and demonstrating expected behavior, so I'm not sure when/what those are about or I would have addressed it with him then. At his 1st quarter parent-teacher conference, she had positive things to say about him. I definitely believe her - that behavior mimics some of his behavior at home, but I'm not sure how to work on helping him. We've talked about taking slow/deep breaths at home, and he generally refuses to try or says it doesn't help.
We have been talking about best part/worst part/kind thing you did each day at dinner (we do miss some days, but we remember it 4-5 days per week), which I thought was helping, but apparently not. I've had books from the library focusing on kindness, and talked about being helpers. We've also talked about how we feel when we help someone or are kind, so looking for some other suggestions of things to try.
Thanks!
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Post by tcu2003 on Nov 2, 2020 0:25:02 GMT -5
Bollier vs Marshall - but mostly because it’s local to me and I happily cast my ballot for Bollier.
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 31, 2020 22:40:10 GMT -5
My sister invited us over, but we're still undecided. It's her (mostly WFH), her boyfriend (who lives with her, he has to go in to work each day), her daughters (elementary school aged/attending school in person), his son (middle school aged/splits time between his mom's house and sis's house, but he is a fully remote student), and then his mom (my sis says she's taking this seriously, and social distancing well, but I've never met her), and his sister (high or middle school principal, so working in person around a lot of people) and her family (2 kids, also in school in person, and I think a spouse). Plus my mom - who will be staying at our house if we go, but if we don't go, then I'll have her stay at my sister's house. My aunt and uncle typically attend, but have already declined this year as they are very much still social distancing.
I'm just not comfortable attending an indoor Thanksgiving this year with people I don't know and expanding our circle that much. If we get lucky and the weather remotely cooperate (we're in the midwest, so doubtful, but once in a while we get lucky), then we may go and eat outside, and then head home, but not sure yet.
I haven't heard anything about ILs yet, but last year they ended up not celebrating Thanksgiving together, and I'm hoping they'll do the same again this year. If they do celebrate, we will pass, which I think DH will be on board with. We've already been invited to a 1st birthday party for DH's oldest niece's daughter the Sunday before Thanksgiving, which is a hard pass based on everything right now, but especially the "Feel free to wear your mask if you would like" line on the invitation - so clearly, most won't be wearing them. As most of DH's family will attend, plus the niece's husband's family and their friends, I have no interest in seeing anyone in that crowd for at least 2 weeks after the event.
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 31, 2020 22:14:58 GMT -5
October Update:
Checking/Savings: $151k
House: $428k
Retirement: $1.360M
Brokerage: $4.3k
529s: $43.7k
Total NW: $1,986,859
As usual, the list above excludes our cars, which are worth around $30k combined, but I leave them out because we're unlikely to sell, and need them to get to/from work, kids schools, etc. in the land of suburbia.
We are down about 0.46% since September, due to the market.
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 31, 2020 14:36:08 GMT -5
October 31 update Assets Cash $16,211.94 Retirement $147,113.32 House $80,000.00 Car $4,750.00 Stock $5,572.51 HSA $4,666.69 Total Assets $258,314.46 Mortgage $55,345.91 Helco $12,875.58 Car $7,376.05 Total Liabilities 75597.54 Net Worth $182,716.92 Down 635.81 for the month. I wonder who had the nerves of steel to be posting in this thread.... I won't be checking for a while! Kudos to you on your bravery! Look! Then you’ll be happy again when it goes back up!!
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 27, 2020 9:19:14 GMT -5
Target’s catalog came yesterday. Once again - 20+ minutes of peace while my kiddos went through it together. 😉😊
And then 10 more minutes while they went through it with dad to show him what they wanted and had circled. 😂🤣
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 27, 2020 9:17:42 GMT -5
So Candidate A chose his future / now spouse over the company. Sounds like he is loyal. It also sounds like you don't like him. I would wait for the Spring. If still undecided, get input from the team on which they would choose... Candidate A or to work more the next five months? My company asks for my input on new coworker hires. This. I’d ask your staff for their input (or at least one staff member), and then take that into consideration as you decide. Based on what else you’ve shared, I’d either hire neither and wait and post again in spring where you can get better candidates, or hire candidate A.
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 27, 2020 9:07:38 GMT -5
M has had a dry bottom lip and the area right below her lip/above her chin because she keeps licking it. We’ve been using the O’Keefe’s Working Hands (which we also use for her hands when they get super dry from all the hand washing) and it works well.
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 25, 2020 23:20:02 GMT -5
The Amazon toy catalog bought me 20 minutes of peace and quiet while my kids circled nearly everything in site. 😂🤣
I haven’t seen a Target one - now I’m hoping we get one of those as well!
I was amused by some of the things the kids circled. My oldest (8) circled some things for preschool aged kiddos- not happening, buddy, as you’ll be bored with it in 10 minutes. My youngest (4) circled some big Hot Wheels racetrack thing - no issue except she’s never shown any interest in racing any of the Hot Wheels cars we already have. I think they were just circle happy. 😂🤣
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