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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 26, 2023 12:00:43 GMT -5
So I went online to change the credit card number in my NEXUS application - but the payment has been received according to the website. Everything has been checked of green and I'm pending review. However, I did not see the charge on my AmEx card.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 26, 2023 11:58:42 GMT -5
I'm way past the window for Paxlovid. Have to start it within 5 days of symptoms. Plus it makes everything taste like metallic dirt I hope Amelia and Maddow are taking good care of you. Apparently for some it can also make them much, much sicker. This happened with a friend of mine, and she wound up in the ER from passing out from dehydration.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 26, 2023 11:56:34 GMT -5
Well, please yourself. She was well thought of, over here. It does show that some people in the party may be thinking more broadly. Just because someone is well thought of doesn't mean that they have to subject themselves to something that made their life a living hell. That's the beauty of things, in the US there is no one to force you to be head of something if you don't want to be. You can choose to walk away and live your own life on your own terms. Sound familiar? Do I wish she'd run? Absolutely. However, unless you saw the racist bullshit that she (and her daughters) had to put up with, you cannot understand why people totally understand why one would choose not to subject themselves to that again in their life.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 26, 2023 11:49:53 GMT -5
Its on lots of sources Chiver. Just a rumour, like I said. So why do you try to make a rumor credible by reposting it? Sarah Palin isn't credible, the Daily News isn't credible. Neither is the NY Post. Michelle Obama has said repeatedly she'd never run for President. I'd believe her over any of the current rumors, even though I think she'd make a phenomenal candidate. However, considering the amount of bullshit she had to put up with just being First Lady, I understand why she has absolutely no interest in living in that fishbowl again.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 26, 2023 11:44:39 GMT -5
Why TF would Michelle want that job? I remember the constant bitching when she was First Lady. How coarse it was to show your bare arms, or wear shorts coming back to the Wh from Camp David on the helicopter. Camp David , which has the word ‘camp’ in the title. I remember someone interviewing a Park Avenue woman after Trump won and she said she was so pleased the new First Lady would bring ‘class’ back to the position. So a former model married to a wealthy white guy is ‘classy’ even though you can buy soft core porn movies featuring her naked and engaging in lesbian activities, while a successful lawyer married to a black guy is gauche. Can’t imagine why Michelle would ever agree to run. Because apparently bare arms of a black lady is SUPER OFFENSIVE, but a completely nude white lady is SUPER CLASSY! /S The world turned upside down.... Especially the arms of an incredibly buff black woman. I'd kill for her arms!
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 25, 2023 13:49:15 GMT -5
... Mister told me yesterday that he called his brother and told him he was handing everything concerning his Dad’s estate over to him. He’d made a spreadsheet of his Dad’s bills and accounts, and how much the bills were, and sent it to his brother. He said his brother was shocked at how much it cost to pay the household bills and for the car. How, when Mister had been telling him all along? He tried to slide it in the conversation that he’d get a checking account (whyyyyy does he not have one?) and give Mister the account info so Mister can pay the bills. Mister said no, you’re on your own, I’m trying to clear up some headspace, I’m not dealing with anything over there. I told Mister his brother’s wife must have paid all the bills when they were married, because Brother does not seem to know how to function as an adult. I knew he was “different”, in the way that very creative or geeky people can be different, and when he had money, it was like a buffer that kept him from having to live in the real world, but good grief. Anyway, I told Mister I felt like he was doing the best thing for himself, giving it all to his brother for him to deal with. Mister has been holding everything together for over a year now, which his brother benefitted from, and it was very stressful for Mister to basically have to take over his Dad’s whole life, so it’s okay for his brother to have his turn now. Especially since it’s his brother that actually needs the house if it can be kept, for him to have somewhere to live, and because of his business space in the back. And since both parents are gone now, Mister doesn’t have to try to protect them or look out for them. The only person that will suffer if his brother doesn’t do what needs to be done and screws everything up, is his brother. His brother tried the excuse again that everything is just so hard because he is grieving, Mister said it was hard on him to handle his parents business this whole time, but he did it. And Brother is just going to have to do it, and grieve later or something. I am proud of him for sticking to his guns during the conversation, I just hope his resolve holds, because I know that’s not the end of it. His brother is going to try to rope him back in and get him to concern himself with all of it again. I’m willing to bet money on that. But since Mister didn’t make the decision out of anger or frustration, or on the spur of the moment, I think he may be done for real, and just ready to free himself and try to move on. so now I am steaming (like smoke coming out of my ears) on behalf of Mister. So brother is grieving? Sure, I do believe that. But what does he think Mister is doing? He too lost his parents. How dare he expect Mister to put his own grief aside so he can have it easier! Brother is lucky there isn't a sister named NastyWoman in that family. I would tear him a new one ... and keep going if I heard just a single "yes but" from him The self-centered such and so!
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 25, 2023 13:41:58 GMT -5
The Daily Mail? Really? No one believes anything this rag puts out, even in the US. It's good entertainment, but not happening.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 25, 2023 12:13:08 GMT -5
My left knee wasn’t the only casualty of yesterday’s fall. Apparently I hit my left hip and shoulder too. Damn……hardwood floors hurt when you fall on them!
Soooo stiff today.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 25, 2023 9:39:04 GMT -5
Everyone has assumed their morning position. Coffee at hand, iPad in use and dog and cat both sacked out on my lap. I peed before sitting down, so the brats shouldn’t need to be disturbed (because who likes disturbing a sleeping animal?). I checked out Harriet’s incision, it looks pretty good and she has been good about not trying to scratch at it.
Chilly, rainy, windy day out today, a good day to make chili but we have pulled pork. It didn’t come off the smoker until after 10 last night rather than the 6 pm we expected, so did a pizza run last night.
I should finish the beanie I have been working on. I have frogged it 4 times! Maybe I shouldn’t have chosen a complicated cable pattern using circular needles the first time. I think I made every mistake one can make using them! Hopefully that’s all out of my system. I went digging in the box of yarn and supplies that I bought to do when I got infected. I have some really nice yarn in there, empty credit card plus narcotics is not a good combo! Anyway, I found the project I was working on before I decided that my attention span wasn’t sufficient to knit. I need to frog it, but I really want to find that pattern, it was gorgeous! The hank of yarn is tangled badly too, but I need to find out how much I have of this yarn.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 24, 2023 15:13:23 GMT -5
TD just tossed a pork butt into the smoker. We are going to be eating pork all week. Now to figure how to repurpose it!
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 24, 2023 13:45:06 GMT -5
We went out to breakfast this morning while DS was at church. We took Harriet along because…..car ride. I thought we’d be back before she got home from church.
Instead, she did a quick panic thinking something happened to Harriet, especially since we took her for a tooth cleaning Friday, and while she was sedated, the vet removed a growth under her chin.
Nope, just wanted to give the mutt at a chance of her favorite activity since last spring. She also got the last of my sausage from breakfast.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 24, 2023 13:29:20 GMT -5
I am tired. DH was arguing with himself all night. He'd stop and I would fall back asleep. Then He'd go again. I was going to smother him with my pillow. Hope whatever the disagreement was about was worth it and he better have won. Freezer space still available.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 24, 2023 10:56:04 GMT -5
I fell out of bed this morning.
Well, not exactly. I rolled out of the waterbed (don’t laugh) to go pee this morning. This is how I get out of bed, to avoid dislocating my hips. Normally, I then use my nightstand as support to stand up. Last night, I left my nightstand drawer open and rather than my left hand going to the corner of the nightstand for support, it slipped off the open drawer, and down I went, hard on my left knee.
I hear this ‘do you need help?’ from TD. No, once I can get onto my hands and knees, I can walk myself up to standing. Luckily, my sister didn’t come charging in, because I made one hell of a thump, and if the thumps didn’t wake her, m6 cussing did.
I now have a nice, bug bruise popping up on my knee.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 24, 2023 10:44:39 GMT -5
Accidentally, or on purpose? Yes. 😄 Did you really tell him that? It made me laugh. 😄 I hope your day goes well. Seriously, I do. Yes. I really told him that. And my poor husband, who was looking to get some, brought up praying mantises, and how the female eats the male after they do it. I may have said "why yes, I think the female rips the males head off." Which may have been enough to kill the mood for DH. We'll see how it goes today. I can't do needy 5 year olds on 4 hours of sleep. I have to teach in a few.
The gentleman caller changed the complexion of next weekend. I was planning on hanging with DH and missy at a cub scout event all day Saturday. I think that's a bad idea. I don't want to invite the possibility of DD1 sneaking out/sneaking a boy in right off the bat. And if DD1 leaves the house, that leaves the peanut alone by herself. She's an immature 11. I'd be OK with it if I were in town and just schlepping, that's one thing. Out of town and an alone and an emergency pops up, and I think is inviting an issue, especially if DD1 "forgets" to tell the peanut she's leaving. And, yes, I know new teenaged couples have been left alone for thousands of years and most of the time nothing goes wrong. And 11 year olds have been locked out of the house all day long in the 80s, and they survived. And DD1 is the kid that never pulls shit, except for the once every 3 years that she tries something, and that's a doozie. She's due for one of those any time now.
And, because she shares like nothing, it's hard to know whether or not I can trust her.
I'm too old for this shit.
I read this to TD, and he added ‘while he continues to hump her’. Apparently doesn’t kill the mood that much!
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 23, 2023 20:41:44 GMT -5
Anyone have a mesh network at home? And a recommendation for a brand? I was getting information overload trying to read about it. We have one. TD bought Deco.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 23, 2023 18:22:55 GMT -5
Good for you, Pink. I love riding my bike. If I had the space, I'd have 3 or 4 different ones. Welllllll, since you gave me an opening to ramble about riding bikes some more…… When I bought my mountain bike, it didn’t take long for me to “outgrow” riding in my small neighborhood. But when I started riding on trails, it became time consuming, on my work days, I had to drive almost 20 minutes home, because even though I had a bike rack on my car, I had no way to secure my bike to keep it from being stolen while I was at work, then I’d make a smoothie and change clothes, and drive at least 20 minutes to a trail. It didn’t take long for me to be able to ride a couple of hours, then I had to drive back home, fix dinner and eat it. I still did it all the time, because I enjoyed it, but it was time consuming. I wished I could just ride straight out my door, somewhere safe. But that wasn’t happening outside of my small neighborhood. When we moved here, at first I was like yayyyy, my neighborhood is HUGE, and there are road signs on the big street running through the neighborhood saying bicyclists can take a whole lane and some of the surrounding larger streets have dedicated bike lanes. But it didn’t take long for me to realize, wait a minute, this is a bunch of hills, and no matter which direction I go when I leave home, Imma have to ride UP a big hill to get back home. I HATE hills. And I most definitely don’t want to have to tackle one to get back home, when I’m already tired. So I lost that enthusiasm quickly lol. I do live closer to the trail I used to ride a lot when I first got started, maybe a 10 minute drive vs 20 or more. But my drive home from work is longer, so the time spent would be about the same. Just because I was curious, after my last post, I went to see what the 2023 model of my road bike costs today. $1600 more! What the world?! At that price, I wouldn’t even be drooling over it, like I was back then. It wouldn’t even be on my radar. I also briefly revisited a bicycling forum I use to cruise, and there is a sub group for the 50yo+ cyclists. I was relieved to see that my frame was one of the ones recommended for old folks like me lol. As long as the frame works for me, I can change/adjust anything else I need or want to. Now I’m curious enough to go see what the current version of my mountain bike costs. Ihad a route I had mapped in/near my neighborhood that I rode after work. Within it was a 5 mile loop, so doing it I could put together a 6, 11, 17 or 23 mile ride depend ing how much time I had when I got home nd it was daylight. I used weekends to load up my bike and ride in the hill country outside of Lexington. My bike is gathering dust. I discovered I can no longer ride a bike because I cannot lift my foot high enough to put it on the pedal.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 23, 2023 18:16:11 GMT -5
I'm putting together a schedule of things to do, places to visit in October, November and December. Mom arrives next week. We plan to visit Lancaster, PA and Hershey, PA. Also going to visit the Essex Steam Train and Gillette Castle. We want to go to American Dream in NJ. Then a lot of local activities. Lots of planning and lots of $$$$ My social life has not been the best lately. A lot of planned activities got cancelled, including an engagement party today due to expected bad weather. It's been pretty mild but we may still get heavy rain and winds overnight. I am now running a Meetup group. It has its good and bad points. You get to go out and meet new people, but at the same time there's a lot of planning involved, and the last minutes RSVP changes and no-shows can be dragging. I think I'm handling it well, but we don't have a large group and I've had to cancel events because nobody signs up. This is an economically depressed area which has a lot to do with that, I think. Someone recommended changing the group location to a more affluent area about 25 miles away. I may do it next year. I want to give this area a chance first. I'm also unsure what to get my mother for her birthday in October. This is a woman who loves surprises and gifts, but she has everything. I've gifted her jewelry, purses, creams, clothes, perfumes, shoes in the past. I'm running out of ideas. I asked her and she said she'll choose her own gift. But I know she loves surprises. I got her a painting from Overstock.com. It's an oil reproduction of a Van Gogh painting. I have one and they are very good quality. But she already knows about that gift. Gift her an experience. Show, ballet, opera, symphony?
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 23, 2023 15:24:50 GMT -5
The Walk of the Penguin MichYou don't want to know how difficult it is to obtain a tourist visa for the USA. I went through the process in May, when I visited Uruguay. My mother's visa has expired in February. She tried to apply online but couldn't do it. She waited for me to arrive so I could help her fill out the application, send it, etc. It took me days to do it. The website was not user friendly at all. You had small printing at the bottom of some pages where you had to check a box "I agree". These were hard to see and would not let you continue with your application until you checked that box. The application was in English. Uruguay is a Spanish-speaking country. Shouldn't the application for a tourist visa be in Spanish? Nobody to call, couldn't go the embassy in person because they wouldn't allow you to enter and talk to a human being. We did it, but it was a struggle. The picture you send has to be xx size, have such and such color background, etc. All very specific. Once you had your application complete (which was 10 screens and asked all kind of questions) and your picture, you had to wait to receive a page with a barcode through email, which you will then attach outside the package you send. Nowhere in the website did it say to wait for that email and a barcode. So we went to drop the package and the lady at the counter informed us we had to wait to receive a barcode. Then you could only use one mail carrier to send your package. You could drop your application package at 3 locations in the country. Granted, it' a small country, but still. Should I continue? No wonder each time I typed American Embassy on my mom's computer search engine, a bunch of cottage industry website popped up, offering to fill out the tourist visa application for a fee. Take home message is that the US visa hoops are comparable to the rest of the world.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 23, 2023 14:16:23 GMT -5
Pissed.
I renewed my NEXUS card using my AmEx card. I got notified yesterday that that card may have been hacked, so they canceled it and are sending me a new one.
The charge for my NEXUS card has not hit my account, which means I need to go in and find out if I can shift how it’s paid. I HATE this website. I had hoped that this charge had slipped in before it got shut down.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 23, 2023 12:03:52 GMT -5
No narcotics in your system. I never received any driving instructions following my hip replacements. I just drove when I felt I could comfortably move my foot from brake to accelerator, and had been off narcotics a few days. I'm certainly not going to drive high. I'm not even taking advil or Tylenol. I took 2 add'l doses of oxy just in case on Thursday but except for immediately after surgery the pain has been very minimal. I was told not to drive for 2 weeks which is what I'm questioning since that isn't spelled out in my discharge instructions. I can sit up fine and move my feet comfortably fast and slow. I'll still wait until I can talk to the office since the discharge instructions have other contradictions. They say I can't lift more than 10 pounds for 6 weeks, but the doctor said 15 pounds and I plan on taking advantage of the extra 5 pounds. My concern would be that if you are in an accident, and you were given post op instructions not to drive, the insurance company could come back and deny any payments. I do know that other countries it is far more stringent than what I have experienced, in some doctors have to sign off on ability to drive. I have never been told after any of my surgeries when I could resume driving. But if it’s in your post op instructions, it’s now a matter of record.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 23, 2023 11:14:38 GMT -5
I know somewhere I'll be smited for even thinking this but I'm getting bored. Im also not sure about my driving restrictions. It isn't on my discharge instructions, but I don't think it's worth calling the on call doc about so I'll try to wait till Monday. No narcotics in your system. I never received any driving instructions following my hip replacements. I just drove when I felt I could comfortably move my foot from brake to accelerator, and had been off narcotics a few days.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 22, 2023 20:05:07 GMT -5
Dinner wasn't good. I baked the roast forever, still tough. It took an hour to cook some potatoes and carrots, carrots were not done. I told hubs at times this stove doesn't work right. He said I cooked pizza in it and it was just fine, sigh. Well bake a cake or cook some meat and see. He says put a thermometer in it and see what the temp is. I'm not paying $2000 for a stove and we are talking about moving. He says I don't have problems with it. It worked ok for awhile, now its acting up again. He says so don't use the oven, sigh. I said should I call a repair person, no, I will fix it, but there is nothing wrong with it. Ok it's one of those days I'm not happy. Now he was saying sell the post office, now he is telling me it won't pass inspection. But he is not about to fix anything there ? I said why don't we wait till Monday and see before we make that statement. I don't know maybe he doesn't feel good or is just being contrary, I don't know. I am going to put the meat in the instant pot and see if I can tender it up. I was looking forward to a good tasting roast, well this isn't one. It sure looked like it would be when raw, I haven't had one in ages. Guess we should have bought it at Odon. Our oven is about 25° off, I bought a $10 oven thermometer and measured the temp at different settings. As a result, when anything goes into the oven, I compensate by adjusting the temp setting. I would not get a new stove for such an easy fix. What kind of roast? These days, I only roast prime rib or a NY strip roast. Otherwise, it gets braised.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 22, 2023 19:57:43 GMT -5
I spent the afternoon on the phone with a company that procures visas. We need visas for both Cambodia and Vietnam next year. We are under time constraints, and I need to figure out time constraints before I start making further reservations. TD decided he wanted to go to Angkor Wat, in Cambodia. We are only in Cambodia for less than 2 days and from where we port, it turns out that it’s easier to get there from Bangkok (where we board) rather than the port. Today, I find out that Cambodia does not provide multiple entry visas. This means I need to submit 2 sets of paperwork (including pics), with different ‘in country’ dates. We need to get 2 visas each for one country we are visiting about 1 week apart. Oh, and the additional visa for the additional day is only going to cost $170 each. As I jump though these hoops , I have to wonder how hard it is to jump though the US visa hoops. You really don't want to know, trust me I’m sure it’s just as hard. I have a friend in Turkey, and since she is ‘special’ (both she and her DH are professors who teach their respective specialties in dentistry) they easily get visas. They have a daughter who is a curator at a museum, and she can’t even get out of Turkey to travel on vacation. It is far easier for us to visit them, than them us.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 22, 2023 17:28:15 GMT -5
I spent the afternoon on the phone with a company that procures visas. We need visas for both Cambodia and Vietnam next year. We are under time constraints, and I need to figure out time constraints before I start making further reservations.
TD decided he wanted to go to Angkor Wat, in Cambodia. We are only in Cambodia for less than 2 days and from where we port, it turns out that it’s easier to get there from Bangkok (where we board) rather than the port. Today, I find out that Cambodia does not provide multiple entry visas. This means I need to submit 2 sets of paperwork (including pics), with different ‘in country’ dates. We need to get 2 visas each for one country we are visiting about 1 week apart. Oh, and the additional visa for the additional day is only going to cost $170 each.
As I jump though these hoops, I have to wonder how hard it is to jump though the US visa hoops.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 22, 2023 14:40:35 GMT -5
I just dropped Harriet off at the vet to get her teeth cleaned. While she is sedated, the lump that was under her chin is getting excised and biopsied. It seemed like a good time to do this, and the lump has grown a bit and changed shape. Getting out to the vet is an exercise in frustration. TD has been taking his dogs here since he moved in in 1996, they are very reasonable but they're out of town (which is probably why they're so reasonable since they're not paying city taxes). Anyway, the main road to the area is under construction, and has been under construction since June. They don't expect it to get done until November. As a result, I have to drive probably 20 miles out of my way to get to the vet. Add to this that so many roads are still under construction and getting there I still wound up going through 3 construction zones where traffic was down to one lane. At least the major construction zone that has been going on since (also) June looks like I can now use this road to go to a specific grocery store. The construction has moved just to the far side of the shopping center it's in. Oh, and the check engine light went on in my car again. It's been checked over and over and over again and I'm convinced that there is a freaking short in the light on the dashboard display. TD knows how to reset it. The construction going on in Seattle is crazy. I was there around a month and half ago and was amazed at how much road and other construction was going on. Yeah, it's nuts there too. Every time we go down, we wind up having to figure out how to get to someplace another way. We have tickets to the ballet in Seattle tomorrow, and I wonder if we'll be able to get there without being rerouted.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 22, 2023 13:38:14 GMT -5
I just dropped Harriet off at the vet to get her teeth cleaned. While she is sedated, the lump that was under her chin is getting excised and biopsied. It seemed like a good time to do this, and the lump has grown a bit and changed shape.
Getting out to the vet is an exercise in frustration. TD has been taking his dogs here since he moved in in 1996, they are very reasonable but they're out of town (which is probably why they're so reasonable since they're not paying city taxes). Anyway, the main road to the area is under construction, and has been under construction since June. They don't expect it to get done until November. As a result, I have to drive probably 20 miles out of my way to get to the vet. Add to this that so many roads are still under construction and getting there I still wound up going through 3 construction zones where traffic was down to one lane. At least the major construction zone that has been going on since (also) June looks like I can now use this road to go to a specific grocery store. The construction has moved just to the far side of the shopping center it's in.
Oh, and the check engine light went on in my car again. It's been checked over and over and over again and I'm convinced that there is a freaking short in the light on the dashboard display. TD knows how to reset it.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 22, 2023 13:30:34 GMT -5
DS is being heavily recruited for my alma mater with a price tag of $80,000. He seems interested. I'm going to have him apply and see what happens. I told him it's SUNY Plattsburgh for him if the private colleges don't open their wallets. That's where I went, and really got an excellent education. In fact, when I moved to Boston after college and started taking masters degree classes at both Harvard and Northeastern, those classes were pretty much a simple review of things I had already learned in my undergraduate. I was quite pissed because I wanted to learn further, not review what I had already learned.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 22, 2023 13:20:25 GMT -5
Grief is not linear. I follow Megan Devine on Instagram. She is a grief counselor and has excellent advice. She gives good advice on how grief affects us. She has a podcast called It's Okay If You Are Not Okay. She has a couple of activity books that includes journaling and drawing your grief. I wish I had known about her when mom died. My therapist told me about that. Grief is not a neat tidy process that checks off boxes. I do somewhat like the five stage of grief because it gave me a way to frame and articulate what I was feeling so the therapist and I could start to work through it. I get why people do not like it though because when used in pop culture it really does come off as a X then Y then Z and you're done get on with your life process. Bargaining is one I find myself stuck in a lot. I didn't understand what I was doing until my therapist explained it's a "What if" game. If I had listened to my gut when I went over on Wednesday and forced my mom to go to the ER (how I would have done that IDK) then would she still be alive? I've gone so far as to shame myself because working at the medical center I read several articles about how women present heart attacks differently than men. I should have been able to pick that up because I have been educated on it. But then there was stupid COVID and she was talking about difficulty breathing. Bob has said the same thing he thought she had COVID at first. What if COVID hadn't been going around would we have figured it out sooner? Stuff like that. I know that she is dead and not coming back so it isn't denial. It's I am playing a game with myself and punishing myself for not choosing a different crossroad. Strange, but I can't believe how accurate this is. My mom died of lung cancer and I can make comparable 'what ifs' to this.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 21, 2023 21:44:49 GMT -5
Right? We could take dual classes in HS like Spanish for college credit but you were really limited in what you could take because the program had just launched. Only a handful of courses counted and it was really scattered/random. Then only so many schools took credits from IWCC at the time. A friend of mine was looking at UNO and found out only three of all the classes she took would transfer. It wasn't even worth the effort she'd put in. Now two years at IWCC are equivalent to the first two years at any Iowa college/university and the University of Nebraska. You are ensured to come in as a junior. Would have made my life SO MUCH EASIER. I told Gwen she's doing it no exceptions. It's an absolute no brainer she can get almost her first two years done free through TJ. That allows the money that has been set aside by my FIL to go further. I am also strongly pushing for her to go to either UNO/L or to a state institution. I am not AS opposed to her going out of state if she agrees to complete the first two years here. Her money won't go as far but it's still not nearly as expensive as if she went all four years out of state. She'd have to figure out how to make up the difference with loans/scholarships though. I put my foot down with DH that we will help if/where we can but I am not taking out any loans. He'll be 55 when she graduates HS. We need to focus on our own retirement at that point and I am not going into it with student loan debt. I said I'd rather she have a few student loans than face having to pay for our nursing home care. We put on our own oxygen masks first. I went to an expensive private school for next to nothing. No loans. expensive schools have more money to give away. My niece #1 got a buttload of money at the private college she wen5 to. Had she gone 3 years, she’d have had enough money. Despite having the credits, she stayed all 4 years so wound up needing a loan for only one year. Not only that, the private college had fabulous connections in helping her get a job when she graduated.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 21, 2023 21:41:15 GMT -5
She is a great advocate for her dad. She took it all the way to the head of the hospital system and asked how did this happen. Nobody on the floor would talk to her because they screwed up. Some of the damage may have been lessened if the right side had started being treated when he first went to the ER. They have promised her some financial compensation to make her go away. She is still negotiating and wants to see how her dad does in rehab. He would need rehab for his left side, but it will probably be a longer stay. He can't call her without the help of someone because he can't hold the phone. That’s why our ODS (Dr) and DD (nurse) tell us to go to large teaching hospitals as they feel there’s more oversight and most recent procedures Just so very sad that her dad had this happen to him It very much depends on where you are at. You would not believe the nightmare I was in at the largest medical center in the state. I really felt if I stayed there, that they’d kill me. I checked out against medical advice.
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