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Post by bean29 on Sept 21, 2021 11:00:22 GMT -5
I am very worried about Beth, especially as I remember she was a smoker at one point. I think she was being treated at Froedtert which has a very well know Cancer treatment Center, so she hopefully has the best doctors around. Continued prayers for Beth and her family. I think her kids are just Middle school ages. Sending More Prayers.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Sept 21, 2021 12:23:29 GMT -5
Her daughter is in 8th grade and son in 6th.
I was very sad to see she got covid on top of everything else. I'm pretty sure she was one of the first to get vaccinated, but her immune system has to be shot with all the cancer treatments.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Sept 21, 2021 14:54:50 GMT -5
Beth's husband just posted that she passed away this morning.
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Post by anciana on Sept 21, 2021 14:55:44 GMT -5
Beth's husband just posted that she passed away this morning. Oh, no
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Post by taz157 on Sept 21, 2021 15:29:49 GMT -5
Beth's husband just posted that she passed away this morning. Oh no! 😭🥀
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Post by saveinla on Sept 21, 2021 15:34:01 GMT -5
Really sorry to hear - her poor kids.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Sept 21, 2021 15:40:09 GMT -5
He said they can't have a service right now because their son has Covid. Heartbreaking.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 21, 2021 15:43:37 GMT -5
He said they can't have a service right now because their son has Covid. Heartbreaking. Why do good people get so much piled on them at once.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Sept 21, 2021 15:44:32 GMT -5
Exactly.
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Post by finnime on Sept 21, 2021 15:52:33 GMT -5
Oh no, that's terrible. I'm shocked.
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Post by tcu2003 on Sept 21, 2021 17:15:08 GMT -5
I just saw the news on FB as well. So tragic and sad. My heart hurts for her kids and husband.
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Post by azucena on Sept 21, 2021 17:37:01 GMT -5
Dammit
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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 21, 2021 18:36:48 GMT -5
I just saw the news on FB as well. So tragic and sad. My heart hurts for her kids and husband. Me too. Just doesn't seem possible.
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Post by gs11rmb on Sept 22, 2021 8:47:11 GMT -5
That's terrible news. I'm so sorry for her husband and kids. Beth will be missed.
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Post by steph08 on Sept 22, 2021 8:51:39 GMT -5
Today, DD7 told me that "she wanted to get a job so she could stay home all day" instead of go to school! I'm like - what do you think I do? Watch cartoons and eat ice cream all day? No, I sit at a stupid computer until my butt hurts and then I get you off the bus!
I think she's having a hard time with the transition to 2nd grade and more work and less play. Plus I know she's bored - she was tested for gifted late last year and qualified, but I haven't heard anything since. I'm calling the school today about that. And also I know one of the girls keeps telling her no when she asks to sit next to her at lunch and is just rude in general (DD got a Peppa Pig book at the book fair, and the other girl called it a baby book). DD seems to be fine hanging out with other people, but I'm watching that girl and making sure DD doesn't start doing things like that.
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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 22, 2021 10:39:52 GMT -5
Ds has been sick all week. I'm annoyed I didn't insist on a covid test on Monday at the office, but he still couldn't go to school at this point. We're still waiting for his strep results and he had a pcr this morning. Last night sucked. He's still just up and doing schoolwork now though. I love the ability to work and do school from home, but sick days are ruined.
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Post by anciana on Sept 22, 2021 12:44:03 GMT -5
Ds has been sick all week. I'm annoyed I didn't insist on a covid test on Monday at the office, but he still couldn't go to school at this point. We're still waiting for his strep results and he had a pcr this morning. Last night sucked. He's still just up and doing schoolwork now though. I love the ability to work and do school from home, but sick days are ruined. So sorry to hear your son is still sick! Hang in there! Please, check your DM
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Sept 22, 2021 15:41:02 GMT -5
I love the ability to work and do school from home, but sick days are ruined. So are snow days! Last year there were a couple days where the weather looked like it wasn't going to be great the next day and the school told all the students to take their Chromebooks home. If school was cancelled they'd Zoom.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Sept 22, 2021 15:53:25 GMT -5
I love the ability to work and do school from home, but sick days are ruined. So are snow days! Last year there were a couple days where the weather looked like it wasn't going to be great the next day and the school told all the students to take their Chromebooks home. If school was cancelled they'd Zoom. Our district continued having snow days for all--even the remote students--last year. Their embrace of snow days is actually kinda annoying, 'cause they always start with a throwaway one for no good reason.
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Post by taz157 on Sept 22, 2021 17:03:43 GMT -5
Our district is letting kids have snow days this year and no virtual learning. Granted, there's no virtual learning if you have a sick day or are quarantined either this year. Last year, our district did virtual learning instead of snow days and parents FLIPPED OUT! Personally, I'd rather kids get out earlier than dragging the school year out. With the virtual learning, my DD was done by 2:40pm. She would NOT have been outside playing in the snow the entire time.
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Post by tcu2003 on Sept 23, 2021 21:37:51 GMT -5
So are snow days! Last year there were a couple days where the weather looked like it wasn't going to be great the next day and the school told all the students to take their Chromebooks home. If school was cancelled they'd Zoom. Our district continued having snow days for all--even the remote students--last year. Their embrace of snow days is actually kinda annoying, 'cause they always start with a throwaway one for no good reason. Our snow days days were also supposed to be virtual learning days. Of course, due to rolling blackouts, the too weather days we had (which were really due to cold, not snow), ended up being weather days instead of virtual days because they couldn’t guarantee every kid would have power when needed to zoom in. Oh, the irony….
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 24, 2021 7:42:14 GMT -5
I am so tired and angry anymore.
DH and I got in a fight over kid sick time last night. We are trying to be responsible parents and keep our kids home whenever they show any signs of being sick since pretty much ANY symptom now could possibly be early COVID.
However we are running into issues with our jobs because they have declared COVID over and want us moving on with our lives. My mother and MIL understandably don't want to be taking chances babysitting sick kids right now even though they are both vaccinated.
Since DH can work from home it seems to be a no brainer than he take over kid duties during this time. He is required to go in two days a week and yeah it's bad optics to an extent but he's not going to get fired. He's not taking sick he is ON the clock he's just at home. My job does not afford the flexibility it did when I worked at the univeristy.
So we ended up getting in a fight because his mother pressed him on why can't I take sick days, his job is important (because mine is for what silly fun time money?). So he started going on about how I am not doing my fair share of the parenting duties.
EXCUSE ME?! For the first eight years I took every sick day, every daycare call, every dental/doctor appointment, every snow day and you are saying that because for the first time ever YOU have to shoulder that burden I am somehow not contributing?! Yes UNMC had a generous leave policy but I got called out a few times, I was still expected to work and my job isn't one I pack up and take with me.
This all fucking sucks and I hate being a parent right now. He challenged me about what would we do if he couldn't take time off. Well we'd be screwed just like millions of other parents out there in the world you entitled ahole. But we're NOT. I am far from the non-contributor in this relationship when it comes to parenting and I am sorry that you've been expected to finally step up. Eventually this god damn pandemic has to end and we can go back to being more flexible and having some help. Until then we're going to have to play the who comes out looking slightly worse optics game.
And I am tired of his mom right now. She's turned into a miserable old bat who constantly tries to stir the pot/find drama. This isn't 1950 where DH is the bread winner and I'm only working so I can afford a new dress. We need both our incomes and with DH's work history it's critical that I remain as stable as possible. The fact YOU think your son is an innocent downtrodden husband is not my problem and please quit feeding him that line. I don't need to deal with that right now too.
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Post by finnime on Sept 24, 2021 8:20:18 GMT -5
You're right, of course, NomoreDramaQ1015. Working parents also have the shortest possible stick in the choice of who does what. Like I did when I was a single parent, and millions of others do, your DH is going to have to tend to your DDs when needed and make it up at work when he can. Do you have sick time you can take when your kids are sick? Does he? One company I worked for encouraged us to do that when needed. That's all I have. Vent away.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 24, 2021 10:28:20 GMT -5
He does but it is on a point system. He CAN work at home without taking sick time so it doesn't cost him anything. It "looks bad" because they want him in the office two days a week but per their own attendance policy they can't really discipline him because he's on the clock working.
I get THREE sick days a year. Vacation has to be planned in advance and if Peacock is already off I will not be approved because it's required one of us be here during work hours. So me leaving today would not happen because Peacock already has it off. Vacation is not supposed to be used for sick time.
So I'm in a bind when it comes to taking sick days anymore. This is the first job I've had since we had kids where this has been an issue so no he has not "always" done it. It's just in the last year which is an exception to the rules for everyone.
It also bugs me because I made the decision to leave the university for everyone. Better pay and I am not out of a job every 3 years. Yet they do nothing but bitch because they got so spoilt by me being able to do EVERYTHING parenting wise that it was massive culture shock when I couldn't. I miss the university every day anymore and this is reminder of how much my work life sucks compared to how it used to be. I left FOR YOU, stop trying to reinforce in my brain what a terrible decision that was. Welcome to being a working parent you got lucky and I was able to shield you from it for 8 years.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Sept 24, 2021 10:40:40 GMT -5
He does but it is on a point system. He CAN work at home without taking sick time so it doesn't cost him anything. It "looks bad" because they want him in the office two days a week but per their own attendance policy they can't really discipline him because he's on the clock working. I get THREE sick days a year. Vacation has to be planned in advance and if Peacock is already off I will not be approved because it's required one of us be here during work hours. So me leaving today would not happen because Peacock already has it off. Vacation is not supposed to be used for sick time. So I'm in a bind when it comes to taking sick days anymore. This is the first job I've had since we had kids where this has been an issue so no he has not "always" done it. It's just in the last year which is an exception to the rules for everyone. It also bugs me because I made the decision to leave the university for everyone. Better pay and I am not out of a job every 3 years. Yet they do nothing but bitch because they got so spoilt by me being able to do EVERYTHING parenting wise that it was massive culture shock when I couldn't. I miss the university every day anymore and this is reminder of how much my work life sucks compared to how it used to be. I left FOR YOU, stop trying to reinforce in my brain what a terrible decision that was. Welcome to being a working parent you got lucky and I was able to shield you from it for 8 years. Aside from any unethical or possibly illegal solutions, I got nothin’. Many, many hugs.
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Post by azucena on Sept 24, 2021 10:56:34 GMT -5
Drama - I'm so with you on the same complaints. Your husband needs to tell his mother to butt the eff out. Hard to do I know, but I think you've had some luck in the past stressing that he needs to protect your smaller family's relationships first.
As a preschool teacher, DH has to maintain the classroom teacher:kid ratio at all times, so he can't ever skip out for kid things. He could call in sick to tend to them, but I'm still wfh and our kids are big enough that they don't typically need sick attn so that's not very helpful. Meanwhile, I'm handling their schedules and most of the day to day appts and kid stuff. I carry the benefits and my net paycheck is almost exactly 5x bigger than his. So at the end of the day, it's clear who's job we need to protect. Fortunately, I've established myself so I have more leeway than most. I'm like Drama though in that I'm just plain tired of always making it work.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 24, 2021 11:24:30 GMT -5
She's your stereotypical 1950's housewife she doesn't get that I am not working so I can have pocket change for a pretty dress. I work to pay our bills AND I am the one that carries our health insurance so if we're going to protect a job it's mine. Especially given our respective word track records just in the time we've been together. Yes we have worked passed them and he's doing better but if you think we're going to put my job on the line you got another thing coming.
FIL has laid into her about that before when she's made comments within his ear shot. He said she doesn't get it she never worked a day in her life. He's also called out DH before on the topic. Which I appreciate.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Sept 24, 2021 12:30:03 GMT -5
Yeah, I'm not getting why there's an issue at all if he only has to go into the office two days a week. I'm assuming the kids aren't home sick all week?
I'm glad Carrot is old enough that I can just leave him home alone if he's sick, because I got no back up person for that. It's always been just me.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Sept 24, 2021 12:45:37 GMT -5
Half of my job title when I was hired was "Payroll". All I've done was train for it, and cover for the main payroll lady's long summer vacation out of the country. She didn't go last year, due to covid, but she went this summer. As I was reviewing with her early July, she mentioned she's also need some help in the office the payroll when she came back. I agreed, because, hello--job title. Boss said it was my #1 priority. Weeks later, my DH announces he's going into the office that day to train some new person. Um, no, I already had told him I needed to go in. He says he'll switch it, then a months later it's happening soon, and he snaps at me that he said he was going in, and I was going in the next day. Um no, the next day was never an option for what I needed to help with. He ended up staying home that day, but his attitude about it still pisses me off, though. 90% of the time, I'm adjusting my schedule to accommodate him, and I'm the keeper of all the kids' schedules.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 24, 2021 12:58:37 GMT -5
Yeah I just tried to explain that and I am pretty sure it went completely over his head based on his response. Abby is sick today on a day he is supposed to be in office. According to him I am abusing his work from home by asking he deal with Abby while I come in. I need to "stand up to my company" and "exercise my right to take leave" because it's putting an unfair burden on him. Umm. . .I am really starting to think he has the same sexist views of women working as his mom does because I don't remember any thank yous or consideration when I was doing it all by myself for most of their lives. It was just well you have the more flexible job so you have to deal with it. Which was true but now that the roles are reversed I'm abusing his flexibility. Why can't you switch days with someone then if it is that big an issue that you MUST be in two days a week? Why not go in on a Saturday to make it up or a Sunday? You are salaried so you are not bound to a certain set of hours. I am pretty sure it's not an issue so long as he is meeting his goals and actually working at home but his is the man's job.
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