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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 18, 2021 14:25:40 GMT -5
Things aren't going well over here. My 8 year old pitched a fit about doing school work yesterday like she does every day and I just lost i Big hugs. We were only hybrid for 3 weeks at the beginning of the year and I was more than ready to send my 8yo back to the classroom full-time.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Feb 18, 2021 22:10:33 GMT -5
Things aren't going well over here. My 8 year old pitched a fit about doing school work yesterday like she does every day and I just lost it . Rather than calming the situation down I just escalated everything. I rarely truly lose my temper but all of my frustrations just boiled over and when she started screaming "I don't care" I started screaming back. One of my worst parenting moments, ever. My 12 year old is also missing assignments because she doesn't give a damn anymore. Our school district is the very last one in the state not to have a face-to-face option and there's lots of 'discussions' about how parents want to kill teachers. To be honest, I can't muster up any more sympathy (which I know is terrible) and will be sending my masked kids back as soon as they do have that option. Online learning has been a complete failure for both my girls. Been there, done that. Many not so proud moments. Parenting is stressful enough in normal times (at least it is for me). Tonight Carrot was in one of his moods and I told him I was going to take a shower and if he knew what was good for him, he'd be in bed when I got out. He knew.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 18, 2021 22:49:48 GMT -5
Oh man I've had several screaming with both kids.
I'm human. I own it and apologize. I figure it's a learning opportunity for them to see that people can fight but we can also make up and work things out.
2020 and so far the entire year of 2021 has sucked. I figure if we haven't gone full on Jack Nicholson in the Shining we're doing good. My bar is not very high anymore.
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Post by oped on Feb 18, 2021 22:51:25 GMT -5
Legit conversation once held in my household that comes up on facebook memories now and again:
Son: You remember when you were freaking out earlier today.
Me: Which time?
Son: In the car.
Me: Yeah. What about it?
Son: You didn't realize it, but Crazy Train was playing in the background the whole time and it was hysterical...
At which time the kids both start mockingly acting a replay of said freak out for my benefit...
Apologize, acknowledge the challenging times we are all living under, laugh about it if you can...
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Post by gs11rmb on Feb 19, 2021 9:54:48 GMT -5
Thanks, everyone. These supportive comments remind me why I like this board.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 19, 2021 11:00:54 GMT -5
Legit conversation once held in my household that comes up on facebook memories now and again: Son: You remember when you were freaking out earlier today. Me: Which time? Son: In the car. Me: Yeah. What about it? Son: You didn't realize it, but Crazy Train was playing in the background the whole time and it was hysterical... At which time the kids both start mockingly acting a replay of said freak out for my benefit... Apologize, acknowledge the challenging times we are all living under, laugh about it if you can... We were watching Muppets Now and Miss Pigg had one of her famous breakdowns. Gwen goes "You see that. ..that's you".
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Post by anciana on Feb 19, 2021 13:56:47 GMT -5
I hope we're on the other side of the crisis we've been dealing with for the last few months. I really hope so. Our oldest has figured out remote school as best as possible although it was far from optimal and with some hiccups but manageable. It helps that the school eventually went hybrid. Out youngest has struggled a lot, with a lot of issues and it's been hard and heartbreaking. Really hoping we're on the right track trying to figure out help and keep afloat. At this point we're either very cautiously optimistic or waiting for the other shoe to drop. Just hanging in there, that's all we can do
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Post by finnime on Feb 19, 2021 14:08:18 GMT -5
I hope we're on the other side of the crisis we've been dealing with for the last few months. I really hope so. Our oldest has figured out remote school as best as possible although it was far from optimal and with some hiccups but manageable. It helps that the school eventually went hybrid. Out youngest has struggled a lot, with a lot of issues and it's been hard and heartbreaking. Really hoping we're on the right track trying to figure out help and keep afloat. At this point we're either very cautiously optimistic or waiting for the other shoe to drop. Just hanging in there, that's all we can doIt is in times like this that hanging in there is the equivalent of breaking the marathon world record.
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Post by oped on Feb 19, 2021 14:55:19 GMT -5
Let me know if there is anything I can do, point you towards resources or something? But this is not going to be an optimal year for anyone, its important to remember that and give yourself and everyone else grace.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 22, 2021 14:23:53 GMT -5
Had this conversation on Saturday. We got her a book at Target, apparently Jojo Siwa is now a children's book author too. Abby was so excited. "Look mom it's a JoJo Siwa book BY Jojo Siwa. She wrote this so that means JoJo is real" ..... "Did you think she was pretend like Santa Clause" ... "No because Santa Clause is real" DH: "Way to go dumbass almost blew that one didn't you"
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Post by steph08 on Feb 22, 2021 15:08:16 GMT -5
I think my 6.5yo is finally giving up naps.
She has skipped one here or there, but this weekend she didn't nap and was actually pleasant until bedtime. She's usually a cranky mess by 6:45 on school days / no nap days.
I'm not ready!
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 22, 2021 19:55:21 GMT -5
Lol, drama! C figured it out early, which probably means M will believe in Santa, Tooth Fairy and everything else until she’s a teenager. Okay, maybe not quite that long.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Feb 23, 2021 9:00:55 GMT -5
Lol, drama! C figured it out early, which probably means M will believe in Santa, Tooth Fairy and everything else until she’s a teenager. Okay, maybe not quite that long. Great nephew is 3 years older than his sister. He said he still believed in Santa, etc. until she told him there was no Santa. His parents thought he knew but thought he got more Santa gifts than other gifts. Kids
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 24, 2021 9:14:36 GMT -5
Had Gwen's middle school meeting last night. I was amazed at how much goes into transitioning the kids now and anti-bullying. They even offer the Gay-Straight Alliance as one of their afternoon clubs.
NONE of that existed when I went to middle school. You were thrown straight to the wolves. There was zero attempt at inclusion. The idea about preventing bullying back in the late 90s was to suspend BOTH of you or force you to do "conflict resolution" which was basically giving your bully more ammunition by having to tattle to a teacher in front of them. To this day I still have anxiety about middle school and would get edgy walking in to pick up the kids from summer care. That building had really bad juju for me.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Feb 24, 2021 12:04:56 GMT -5
Got into a screaming match with Carrot this morning, so that was awesome. I'm trying to work from home on this insane data pull that is stressing me out and he's been interrupting me constantly with schoolwork questions which is fine, I don't mind that, but every time I try to help him, I'm either totally wrong or he gets pissed and just deletes everything he did. I was getting to the point where it was "Screw it. You don't want my help, stop bugging me". Well, then it transitioned to him trying to rush through/put off things so he could play on his PS4 instead and that's when the real crazy started. I told him no way on the PS4 until he finished his schoolwork, he objected, I bagged it up to take back to his dad's, and he went into full on toddler temper tantrum, I responded with full on Joan Crawford.
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Post by azucena on Feb 24, 2021 12:31:06 GMT -5
Lots of tempers being lost in my household too. It's a complete drag.
In an unexpected wrinkle, DH and I got in a huge fight last night because his mom and sister invited us on vacation with them beg of June. They want to rent a condo in FL by the beach. So many problems with that, where do I start? - besides being generally dysfunctional, they're covid deniers and we've been very cautious - DH is tired of following 'my' precautions but says he read that Fauci said masks thru all of 2022; um hello I'm just as tired but still want to keep my family safe; not sure that's true and I get that DH is frustrated but this is not the answer - they can only take the trip because they are using tax 'refund' money. SIL gets $6 or 7k back each year while making <20k and paying virtually no taxes. - no emergency fund and we will hear about the next routine beater vehicle 'emergency' a couple of months from now - yeahbut they deserve a vacation just as much as anybody. Uh huh, just not in the $2-3k range that this week will entail. The rest of the refund will promptly be blown on electronics, etc. - his mom isn't in the greatest health and 'only has so many years left'; smoking like a fiend will do that to you; DH makes little effort to reach out to her most of the time because he agrees that she's dysfunctional but all of a sudden let's spend a week with them - we're holding my family at arm's length too; we've seen my nieces twice for a week where each group strictly quarantined for 10 days prior and they are 12-4 so right in my kids' ages. DH's nephew is 14 and niece is 2 so those relationships are never going to be the same regardless - we already have our own vacations scheduled and budgeted
I may just call his bluff and say he can go alone since he's vaccinated which reduces his risk. I don't think he'll make that choice anyway. Such a cluster and friction I don't need.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 24, 2021 12:48:49 GMT -5
One of my most used sentences lately: "you don't usually like my suggestions, so are you sure you want to ask for them?"
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Post by gs11rmb on Feb 24, 2021 12:54:08 GMT -5
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 24, 2021 13:03:39 GMT -5
I'm going to jinx myself, but the kids are being incredibly self sufficient and almost proactive about school work. E finally hit the point in math where she didn't just know the answers and its been tough. Each new topic includes a couple days of slammed chromebooks and storming off because she'll never get it. This morning she's scribbling frantically on scratch paper and turns to me and starts telling me how much its making sense, and what she's getting better at. And that she'll finish lesson 100 today which is always a good day.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Feb 24, 2021 13:52:48 GMT -5
Things have calmed down here and we talked it out over lunch. I am not looking forward to this one as a teenager though. So much harder than his brother.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Feb 24, 2021 20:41:56 GMT -5
Were we just recently talking about poor hygiene in pre-teens? I believe Carrot has officially gone through "the change" and it was quick. He has now decided he loves showers and has gone from having to be forced into bathing once a week to showering almost every night and me telling him to not stay in there until the hot water runs out.
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Post by stillmovingforward on Feb 24, 2021 20:56:45 GMT -5
Were we just recently talking about poor hygiene in pre-teens? I believe Carrot has officially gone through "the change" and it was quick. He has now decided he loves showers and has gone from having to be forced into bathing once a week to showering almost every night and me telling him to not stay in there until the hot water runs out. 🤣 I have an on demand hot water heater. My boys NEVER got out! I would finally go down and flip the pilot off!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 24, 2021 21:57:56 GMT -5
Buy clothes for my kid. Clothes she picked out.
Wears same pair of sweatpants and hoodie. Now says she doesn't like her clothes.
I'm done. No more money on anything but underwear. She can wear the same outfit till it falls apart or she outgrows it.
What the hell was the point? Just to get me to buy stuff? Not falling for it anymore.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 24, 2021 22:36:50 GMT -5
Were we just recently talking about poor hygiene in pre-teens? I believe Carrot has officially gone through "the change" and it was quick. He has now decided he loves showers and has gone from having to be forced into bathing once a week to showering almost every night and me telling him to not stay in there until the hot water runs out. Jealous. C will jump in a shower on his own sometimes, but he says its just to avoid nagging.
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Post by gs11rmb on Feb 25, 2021 8:44:10 GMT -5
Buy clothes for my kid. Clothes she picked out. Wears same pair of sweatpants and hoodie. Now says she doesn't like her clothes. I'm done. No more money on anything but underwear. She can wear the same outfit till it falls apart or she outgrows it. What the hell was the point? Just to get me to buy stuff? Not falling for it anymore. Sounds familiar...
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 25, 2021 12:40:23 GMT -5
Buy clothes for my kid. Clothes she picked out. Wears same pair of sweatpants and hoodie. Now says she doesn't like her clothes. I'm done. No more money on anything but underwear. She can wear the same outfit till it falls apart or she outgrows it. What the hell was the point? Just to get me to buy stuff? Not falling for it anymore. Sounds familiar... I was so tempted to box up all clothes besides the stuff she had on and donate it to Goodwill. If all you want is a pair of sweats and a hoodie you got your wish. Maybe some other kid will appreciate the nice things that I bought you. DH told me pick my battles. So I suppose I won't go that drastic but the answer is NO to any more clothes until it starts to warm up and even then she's going to be heavily curtailed. I don't go crazy buying her clothes but over the course of the last year it's been a few hundred bucks. Nope I'm done. I have no idea when is the last time she changed her sweats out for a different pair of pants. So whatever, I am done. You want to wear one thing constantly you got your wish kid. I'll get her maybe two pairs of shorts for summer to make sure we have ones that meet the dress code for middle school and then she's on her own to scrounge around her floor for the rest.
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Post by oped on Feb 25, 2021 12:49:01 GMT -5
Did someone make fun of the outfit?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 25, 2021 13:12:59 GMT -5
Did someone make fun of the outfit? No. Most of this hasn't even left the house. When it has, like when she goes out with us to work, she gets a TON of compliments. She's in a phase that has gotten progressively worse since March 2019 when she didn't have to get dressed period. I don't mind her living in her favorite hoodie. What annoys me is that she wants new clothes and I buy them because she is growing, then never wears them. She seems to want them for the sake of wanting them and I finally got clued in last night.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 27, 2021 19:55:57 GMT -5
@taz - how are you feeling?
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