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Post by finnime on Feb 17, 2020 15:37:04 GMT -5
minnesotapaintlady, was it you who was very concerned about her DS entering high school, believing he just might not make it? It did work out well for him in the end.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2020 15:39:31 GMT -5
He actually knows what he wants to do. If you ask him he'll tell you quite specifically the area he'd like to be in. I just don't think he's ready to do what it takes to get there.
I don't know. I guess all I can do is cross my fingers. I think if I started bringing up gap year at this point his dad and grandparents would wig out. I do plan on having a serious heart to heart with him soon about how he really feels and give him an out.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2020 15:43:50 GMT -5
minnesotapaintlady , was it you who was very concerned about her DS entering high school, believing he just might not make it? It did work out well for him in the end. LOL Yes. I guess I'm just a worry wart.
But to be fair, his first year of high school was rough!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2020 15:45:10 GMT -5
My DS took a gap year. I really encouraged him to get accepted at a school he wanted then defer the admission for a year. Do all schools allow you to defer?
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Post by finnime on Feb 17, 2020 15:48:11 GMT -5
My DS took a gap year. I really encouraged him to get accepted at a school he wanted then defer the admission for a year. Do all schools allow you to defer? I think they pretty much all do. DS was accepted at 6 schools, all competitive, and they all allowed deferment, including financial aid. ETA: DS also knew what he wanted to do/major in. He just wasn't ready to jump on the next car on the train to the rest of his life. He needed the time out. He's doing crazily well now, at 25.
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Post by taz157 on Feb 18, 2020 18:40:31 GMT -5
For those of you that get a magazine subscription in the mail, what magazines do they like? DD was getting Highlights but she wasn’t reading it anymore and my SIL stopped subscribing her to it anyway (so good timing without prewarning me). FWIW, DD is 8.5. I was thinking Girls World, but there’s only 6 issues in a year. I was hoping for something monthly.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 19, 2020 11:06:20 GMT -5
I really think c is faking sick but dh is going for it. Of course dh is always sick and always believes they have the same bug. I insisted on a strep test today which dh balked at but made the appointment. Right when it was time for school to start e starts in with the headache complaints that haven't come up at all before and works herself into a sobbing fit. Got her off to school eventually but I'm annoyed.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 19, 2020 11:10:38 GMT -5
For those of you that get a magazine subscription in the mail, what magazines do they like? DD was getting Highlights but she wasn’t reading it anymore and my SIL stopped subscribing her to it anyway (so good timing without prewarning me). FWIW, DD is 8.5. I was thinking Girls World, but there’s only 6 issues in a year. I was hoping for something monthly. C loves the National Geographic Kids magazine - which reminds me I need to renew it. I do think it’s only every other month, though.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 19, 2020 11:12:48 GMT -5
For those of you that get a magazine subscription in the mail, what magazines do they like? DD was getting Highlights but she wasn’t reading it anymore and my SIL stopped subscribing her to it anyway (so good timing without prewarning me). FWIW, DD is 8.5. I was thinking Girls World, but there’s only 6 issues in a year. I was hoping for something monthly. C loves the National Geographic Kids magazine - which reminds me I need to renew it. I do think it’s only every other month, though. We don't get any subscriptions but this is the one we would do. The kids like to read the regular national geographic my parents get if the subject is interesting.
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Post by azucena on Feb 19, 2020 12:12:11 GMT -5
DD11 used to get highlights. She currently gets sports illustrated - they have a kids version but she prefers the regular one and we just remove the swimsuit issue. I also got her Reader's Digest for Christmas. It's thinner than it used to be, but she likes it. Just ordered Brio but haven't got our first copy yet www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/brio-magazine/ I was going to get her American Girl magazine but it's gone out of print so Brio seemed like a good substitute. We also get clubhouse that DD11 reads quickly and DD7 spends a lot more time on. www.focusonthefamily.com/clubhouse-magazine/
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 19, 2020 14:12:18 GMT -5
Okay, just signed C up for National Geographic Kids and it is 10 episodes a year. They also have a National Geographic Little Kids so I decided to try that for M as I think she’ll love it.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 20, 2020 9:30:07 GMT -5
When you book your kids into summer camp things that are sorted by grade level, do you use the grade your kid finished or the grade they will be starting in fall?
K's got like 3 things that are all on the same days/times this summer. She's in 6th grade now. Does it really matter if she's in the 4-6 grade groups or the 7-? grade levels? Esp. when we're talking about a Harry Potter themed camp? The vball camp she needs to be in the older group, I know that.
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Post by gs11rmb on Feb 20, 2020 9:45:18 GMT -5
It's always been my experience that they group kids by the grade they will be starting in fall.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2020 9:45:58 GMT -5
Every camp I ever booked went by grade entering in the Fall. Having said that, I'm sure they wouldn't insist you followed that except for maybe sleepover camps.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 20, 2020 9:58:44 GMT -5
These are like 2 hour sessions, for 4 or 5 days. It's not really camp but I don't know what else to call it.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2020 10:00:54 GMT -5
Would she want to do the camp with kids 1-3 years younger than her? If she doesn't care, just ask them if it's ok if she's in the younger group. I'm sure they'd be fine with it. Carrot is on a swim team and practices with the beginners even though technically he should be in the intermediate, but the time slot works a lot better for us.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 20, 2020 11:07:12 GMT -5
I usually go with grade entering too.
I'm trying to talk C out of one day camp that is for 5-10 year olds and he'll turn 11 during that week. But he wants to do it. And then complains that kids aren't mature. Ugh.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 20, 2020 11:21:20 GMT -5
If we put her in the Harry Potter one for 4-6, she can take vball with 7-8 or do the build, decorate and launch a rocket one.
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Post by gs11rmb on Feb 20, 2020 12:10:00 GMT -5
If we put her in the Harry Potter one for 4-6, she can take vball with 7-8 or do the build, decorate and launch a rocket one. Does she care about being with the younger students? My daughter wouldn't like that at all (insert eye roll). Before trying to figure that one out maybe you should put in a call to the school and see if they'll let her take the 4-6 camp. The camp where my girls go over the summer (as well as the one offered where I work) are rigid about the grade/age groups.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 20, 2020 18:13:35 GMT -5
We're going to try the school for after school care for E one day a week since the neighbors who have been watching her that afternoon are moving. If it goes well I'm tempted to make that our summer plan for her for the 2 days that dh works. They can't do C's medical care but he can be on his own (with me working in the basement) pretty independently. Would save us so much money and I wouldn't be frantically trying to clean the house mid week to have it babysitter ready.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 21, 2020 11:11:55 GMT -5
K made it into the NJHS! She found out yesterday. Her best friend did not make it. I don't know why. If K knew, she's not telling me. Which is ok. It's not really my business anyway.
K also found out yesterday that her vball coach was wrong about the tournament - K's team isn't invited. Her coach is going to be coaching the 8th graders there and is taking 2 of the 7th graders with her. So K's a bit bummed about that. This makes Sat. her final vball game for the season. And my life gets a bit easier for a bit.
I told the ninja gym coaches that we want to sign her up for the kids competition in March. They're excited for her. C's not sure if he wants to or not. He'll probably decide a couple weeks beforehand. That's ok, I can work with that. If he decides not to compete, that's fine too. He got his hands on the bars for the 7 foot lache at class last night. He may have been the only one to get hands on it. He fell but he made contact.
I spent the ninja class time working on my bell music. I marked 1 piece that we're playing for Easter. The 2nd one I need some help in reading the music so I'm going to look it over with Mom on Sunday. I filed all the old pieces of music into my binder. I sorted the Easter music that I never filed from last Easter into a separate place for this Easter. Sometimes procrastination works in my favor.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Feb 21, 2020 12:15:29 GMT -5
Congrats to K!
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Post by bean29 on Feb 21, 2020 12:33:29 GMT -5
Yes Beth, Congrats to K! NJHS is quite an honor. On the Day Camp, I agree call the school and see what they say. I am a bit inclined to say with the range being 4-6 and your DD going into 7th that it may not be the best experience for her. What do they do in a Harry Potter Day Camp Class anyways? I take it your DD is willing to participate in Day camp?
OC runs a really good summer school program. My kids pretty much were willing participants in Grade School years, but by Middle School, it was a no-go. When DD was about your DD's age she participated in a play as a summer school program. They really did a great job and the girls seemed to really enjoy it.
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Post by anciana on Feb 21, 2020 13:07:42 GMT -5
Beth, congrats to K, what a wonderful news! From a little bit I know, the kids that were invited/nominated to NJHS were normally accepted as being invited/nominated seemed somehow being vetted in. The only one I know that wasn't accepted was applying on her own without an invitation. It can be a lot of fun being part of the organization and put her in contact with other kids she might not run into otherwise. On the summer camps, my kids didn't like being with the younger kids as much as being with the older ones no matter what the theme was
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 23, 2020 16:54:13 GMT -5
My house is quiet right now. DH is napping. K is pounding out homework. C is doing something quiet in his room, best not to ask what or he'll be begging for more xbox time and he's done with that for the day.
Thanks everyone. I'll do that.
I'm going to go make lasagna for dinner. And parboil some brats, then grill them the rest of the way done.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 24, 2020 9:04:10 GMT -5
C's team got their asses kicked in vball. They got a total of 5 points in 3 sets/matches/games. We couldn't return their serves. My former SIL teaches at the school that beat them, so I was texting her during the game and turned the phone over to K so she got to chat with Auntie L for a bit. I think it made both of them happy.
We thought K's game was her final one. Turns out it's not. But a bunch of the family was there to watch the game, including my Aunt C and her daughter J. It was good to see them.
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Post by finnime on Feb 24, 2020 9:37:57 GMT -5
This is going to be a long brag about my DS, so skip ahead if you like.
DS25 left one mega-tech company for another this year. The first he had done an internship with in college and then worked for 2 years for them. They paid extremely well, including for him living in Manhattan. The second made the proverbial offer he couldn't refuse and he's happy there now, well integrated into the team (he's a software engineer.)
He had taken a gap year between high school and college yet started with over a year's credit from AP coursework. Plus he had a scholarship that more than covered all his tuition. He lost the scholarship after the first year since he didn't maintain a 3.8 GPA, but had enough savings from his year working and his continued working to cover his last 2 years. He actually had 3 jobs at once at one point while he was in school. UMD has an extraordinarily good comp sci program, which he changed to from engineering.
Since he was in high school he had a goal to set up a scholarship for kids more like himself- maybe not stellar grades, but great grades and far-ranging interests and creativity. So this year he set it up: a one-time grant of $10k to a graduating student at his former high school, to be used however the student wants. College not required. It could be used to travel, buy a car, pursue an interest in forestry or sculpture or whatever, including college if that's the goal. He's had several board meetings for the fund and they have been accepting applications. The application requires the student to write about a film character they relate to and in what ways. This is a very competitive high school so it gives some students who aren't conventionally amazing an opportunity to shine.
The recipient will be announced at the awards ceremony at the high school in April. The grant will be funded every year going forward with an eventual plan to increase it.
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Post by saveinla on Feb 24, 2020 9:51:11 GMT -5
finnime - that is so great for your DS to do that. You should be proud of yourself.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 24, 2020 10:16:17 GMT -5
What a night last night. Had to talk my dad off a ledge. He was back to yelling about selling the resturant which caused a fight with my mom, understandably. It just so coincided with him having to go out to my grandma's (his mom) which never ends well. So we had a long talk. I asked him if he's viewing it more as his "second job" than he owns the place. I said that I can say it now as an adult, you were a dick when you worked two jobs. I said I wonder if doing it again now is a trigger. I also asked him which do you want to be, you are 58 do you want to deal with the stupid crap at your current job and try to keep hunting for another one till you retire or do you want to be your own man? You've built a community with this place and it means a lot to people, personally I'd rather give up corporate life than this. If I didn't have kids and the mortgage I'd quit in a heartbeat and just work the front of the business. DH asked me if I saw the irony in what I was telling dad. Yes, yes I did thank you. Totally realized I was looking in a mirror and that I saved myself $300 an office visit having the epiphany last night instead of in a doctor's office. You're welcome. I don't think he will sell it but he's got to stop with the tantrums. I pointed out to him that DH, myself and my brother (despite his bad habits) are capable of running the place so if he needs a weekend or two to do things then go ahead. We need to know in advance preferably but we can take over. I said it's not a burden when it's for family and quite different from when great uncle used to leave dad holding the bag when we were little. Don't know if he will take me up on it but I put it out there. I told him at least wait a year. That's the first major hurdle and what people advise to do when making big decisions. I also said put a date on the calendar to quit your other job, you can always change your mind but at least then you feel like you have an out which can go a long way to relieve stress. I flipped the hospital the bird as soon as I had a start date for here.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 24, 2020 11:19:34 GMT -5
Well my mom is still pissed at my dad which I get. We're back to when I was a little and they were always five minutes from divorce. Not my circus anymore when it comes to that subject.
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