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Post by taz157 on Aug 26, 2019 22:30:15 GMT -5
Can someone kindly link me to a good wet/dry shaver for dd11 please? I've heard these are good for beginners but don't know which one to buy and they're not super cheap so I don't want to have to buy a second one. I'm in the market for 1 for myself as I don't like the one I have now. I rarely use it, but I would still like to have it for just in case. Currently, my DD is too young to shave, but I give it another 3 years or so before she starts (i.e., when she starts middle school).
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Post by gs11rmb on Aug 27, 2019 7:09:11 GMT -5
Last night went well. I apologized for forcing her to get dressed that morning and promised it would never happen again. If she had to go to school in her PJ's then that would be her choice. I mentioned that her teacher and I had been discussing her distress and that we both thought it was related to her reading skills. She said that was "part of it". She wouldn't or couldn't articulate any other part. She does like her teacher and classmates so that's a positive. I also told her that we would try a reading program that wouldn't involve her classmates and she liked the idea. oped after the teacher's suggestion, I did some Googling on Kumon and found pretty mixed reviews. People seem to either love it or hate it and there's no in-between reactions. We'll give it a try. It's only 30 minutes a day and if it doesn't work or, more importantly, it makes her even more miserable then we'll quit. I know reading will come in time but her lack of ability is causing her real distress and that's what I want to address more than anything. This morning was better. After breakfast she started yelling again that she wasn't going to go to school and buried herself under the pillows on my bed. Last night she'd played outside in the rain and then put on shorts and t-shirt rather than PJ's and slept in them. I told her she could just wear those clothes if she liked. I also asked if she wanted to just sit and cuddle for a while, which she did. We just sat on the bed for five minutes and chatted about various things including what's currently happening to Despereaux (the book her teacher is reading to the class). I asked her if she wanted to change her clothes and she did and proceeded to get ready. I'm sure it helped that I let her have a Klondike bar as an after-breakfast snack . She got in and out of the car and waved quite happily before walking into school. I breathed a sigh of relief. Who knows what tomorrow will bring.
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Post by oped on Aug 27, 2019 7:17:53 GMT -5
You didn’t say how old she is?
Could I send you some assessment tools and could you record her responses on audio or video? I know that sounds weird... there are certain errors or gaps that point to need to mature and others that point to need for intervention.
Persinally, I’d request an evaluation at the school first. I think it’s a bad practice for a teacher to first suggest an outside fee service over school based interventions.
Whatever you decide though, I wish you luck.
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Post by gs11rmb on Aug 27, 2019 7:25:53 GMT -5
oped she'll be 7 on Sunday. I'd be very happy to get your assessment tools. I can PM you my email address if that's easier. Thanks!
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Post by oped on Aug 27, 2019 7:39:41 GMT -5
Ok. But at 6 I’m betting on maturity it’s really not unusual for kids not to read till 8 and I’ve known many that are closer to 10-11... just remember your goal isn't an early, but lifelong reader. I’ll email a pdf. You can share your results but not the blank forms because it is proprietary to the program I use. I have to tutor reading this am but I’ll scan when I’m back. Eta when I say maturity here I mean cognitive maturity. Do they use a phonics based program at school?
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Post by gs11rmb on Aug 27, 2019 7:47:44 GMT -5
They use SRA, which I think is phonics based. I also am leaning toward maturity and while I've been concerned for a while my real worry is the distress that lack of progression is causing her.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 27, 2019 8:45:27 GMT -5
School started today. I am probably more anxious than Abby is. She got nervous at Kids & Co because there aren't a lot of kids there on the first day so there was nobody to play with(tomorrow will be a cluster though) but Gwen stepped right up and took over. Abby got a little teary so I sat her down, gave her a big hug and reminded her she has been excited to start school and in a couple of hours she'll get to meet all new friends in her classroom. Meanwhile sissy is here and all the teachers at Kids & Co know you and want to make sure you have a good time. Fingers crossed. Ugh I used to get stress hives when I was in school thinking I had forgotten everything and was too stupid to go back. Now I'm getting hives worrying about my kids.
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Post by Pants on Aug 27, 2019 9:20:22 GMT -5
I'm afraid I'm going to have a school rejector in K as well.
Yesterday was her first day in pre-k (new class, same school). She couldn't wait to push my ass out, even though I was supposed to stay for a welcome breakfast.
Today we're back to "I don't want to go to school", having to visit all of her previous classes before drop-off, and being a cling monster when I try to leave her in class.
It's a wonder I ever get to work on time, honestly.
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Post by Pants on Aug 27, 2019 9:24:39 GMT -5
School started today. I am probably more anxious than Abby is. She got nervous at Kids & Co because there aren't a lot of kids there on the first day so there was nobody to play with(tomorrow will be a cluster though) but Gwen stepped right up and took over. Abby got a little teary so I sat her down, gave her a big hug and reminded her she has been excited to start school and in a couple of hours she'll get to meet all new friends in her classroom. Meanwhile sissy is here and all the teachers at Kids & Co know you and want to make sure you have a good time. Fingers crossed. Ugh I used to get stress hives when I was in school thinking I had forgotten everything and was too stupid to go back. Now I'm getting hives worrying about my kids. Wait you mean you didn't forget everything during the summer? Just a little ADHD humor.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 27, 2019 9:26:13 GMT -5
School started today. I am probably more anxious than Abby is. She got nervous at Kids & Co because there aren't a lot of kids there on the first day so there was nobody to play with(tomorrow will be a cluster though) but Gwen stepped right up and took over. Abby got a little teary so I sat her down, gave her a big hug and reminded her she has been excited to start school and in a couple of hours she'll get to meet all new friends in her classroom. Meanwhile sissy is here and all the teachers at Kids & Co know you and want to make sure you have a good time. Fingers crossed. Ugh I used to get stress hives when I was in school thinking I had forgotten everything and was too stupid to go back. Now I'm getting hives worrying about my kids. Wait you mean you didn't forget everything during the summer? Just a little ADHD humor. Even in grade school I had Imposter syndrome apparently. I read a book about it was like Charlie Brown in Charlie Brown Christmas "THAT'S IT!"
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Post by finnime on Aug 27, 2019 9:27:46 GMT -5
Best to all of you school-starters and soon-to-start-schoolers. My DS is 25 and DD, 33, so I've lost the rush of anxiety a new school year ushers in. It does still feel like a new year, though, in September, not January.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 27, 2019 10:29:48 GMT -5
Last night went well. I apologized for forcing her to get dressed that morning and promised it would never happen again. If she had to go to school in her PJ's then that would be her choice. I mentioned that her teacher and I had been discussing her distress and that we both thought it was related to her reading skills. She said that was "part of it". She wouldn't or couldn't articulate any other part. She does like her teacher and classmates so that's a positive. I also told her that we would try a reading program that wouldn't involve her classmates and she liked the idea. oped after the teacher's suggestion, I did some Googling on Kumon and found pretty mixed reviews. People seem to either love it or hate it and there's no in-between reactions. We'll give it a try. It's only 30 minutes a day and if it doesn't work or, more importantly, it makes her even more miserable then we'll quit. I know reading will come in time but her lack of ability is causing her real distress and that's what I want to address more than anything. This morning was better. After breakfast she started yelling again that she wasn't going to go to school and buried herself under the pillows on my bed. Last night she'd played outside in the rain and then put on shorts and t-shirt rather than PJ's and slept in them. I told her she could just wear those clothes if she liked. I also asked if she wanted to just sit and cuddle for a while, which she did. We just sat on the bed for five minutes and chatted about various things including what's currently happening to Despereaux (the book her teacher is reading to the class). I asked her if she wanted to change her clothes and she did and proceeded to get ready. I'm sure it helped that I let her have a Klondike bar as an after-breakfast snack . She got in and out of the car and waved quite happily before walking into school. I breathed a sigh of relief. Who knows what tomorrow will bring. That's a good sign! Snuggles are a big way E and I reset.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 27, 2019 10:58:08 GMT -5
We have new neighbors with kids. Nice family, but definitely an adjustment. Their 10 year old girl loves that there are so many kids on the block to play with and plays with E a lot. But the age difference and lack of boundaries is a bit of a struggle. I've told the 10yo repeatedly not to pick up or hold down the cat, I have to intervene when she isn't listening to the kids trying to follow our rules or respecting the boundaries the kids ask of her, and had to tell her that my conversations and rules with E are between us and not up for discussion with her--and then continue to get a dozen questions of why and reasons we should do something else after that. Oh, and told her and her brother that they weren't allowed to watch tv through our window (literally standing right outside the window to watch and hear the tv). They moved in Saturday. I am not going to be known as the nice mom, and will probably have to talk to her parents and ask them to assist.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 28, 2019 8:14:31 GMT -5
Dh is driving to the mountains today with his parents. He wanted to pull the kids out of school for it which I opposed. He's been trying to plan this (small) road trip with his parents for 2 years, but they couldn't make a day for it until the kids were back in school? I just can't see the justification of pulling them out for that. (They live 10 minutes from us and are retired. We've tried to involve them in all kinds of things with the kids).
My cup of frustrations is spilling over and my cup of patience is ridiculously low.
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Post by gs11rmb on Aug 28, 2019 8:16:13 GMT -5
That's crazy raeoflyte! What on earth are they thinking? When's the next school break for the kids? You could suggest they recreate the road trip with the kids at that time.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 28, 2019 9:37:08 GMT -5
The trip their doing will close shortly after labor day usually, but they can certainly do another day trip to the mountains. If it was family from out of town I'd probably feel differently, but there is no shortage of opportunities for them to spend time with the kids. I think it is a family trait that they just expect everything to fall into their time table. They all get irritated when the others do it, but all of them, including dh fall into that attitude by default. I wish I had seen that pattern before, but now that I do, and I've tried everything I can think of to accomodate, I just can't deal with it anymore.
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Post by chen35 on Aug 28, 2019 9:37:16 GMT -5
Oh Rae, that is so frustrating! It was literally just summer vacation a few weeks ago.
And good luck with the neighbor kids. They sound like a handful!
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Post by Pants on Aug 28, 2019 17:39:18 GMT -5
That is very annoying.
I have little patience for anything my in laws do at this point, but this would drive me up a wall. If it was literally any time BUT the first 2 weeks of school, I’d probably let them go. But FFS.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 29, 2019 7:15:00 GMT -5
Abby told me yesterday all about a girl with brown hair in a pony tail and she had a pink pony tail holder that she played with during recess. I asked if she got a name. .. no.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 30, 2019 7:29:13 GMT -5
Abby is pissed at my parents. She asked me the other night when she gets to go back to grandma babysitting her and I told her sorry but she's in school now. That lead to her glaring at my parents all last night and refusing to talk when I took her over there.
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Post by azucena on Aug 30, 2019 8:26:09 GMT -5
DD11 scored 12 points in her vball match last night. So proud of her because she initially didn't want to play because her 5th grade year was rough since it was a brand new sport for her. I'm glad she can see that if she practices at something she can get better - that's the main lesson I want her to get from sports.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 30, 2019 9:50:03 GMT -5
The kids bathroom smells like a sewer. 🤢 I think someone peed their pants and puts them in the laundry basket. It was rank.
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Post by taz157 on Aug 30, 2019 10:56:36 GMT -5
DD11 scored 12 points in her vball match last night. So proud of her because she initially didn't want to play because her 5th grade year was rough since it was a brand new sport for her. I'm glad she can see that if she practices at something she can get better - that's the main lesson I want her to get from sports. Does she use a regular size volleyball or a smaller size volleyball due to being in 5th grade? My DD is in 3rd grade and wants to play volleyball but doesn’t like the regular volleyball as it’s too hard.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 30, 2019 12:37:12 GMT -5
C is signing up for band at the school and picked trumpet. Gawd help us! Although I'm glad he picked brass over woodwinds. Dh and I both played trumpet, but not well and not for long. Too much glory day crap if he started on clarinet or sax. He really wants to learn harp which I'm sure is a zelda thing. I might have to get him some string lessons so he can try some others out too.
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Post by gs11rmb on Aug 30, 2019 12:55:20 GMT -5
C is signing up for band at the school and picked trumpet. Gawd help us! Although I'm glad he picked brass over woodwinds. Dh and I both played trumpet, but not well and not for long. T oo much glory day crap if he started on clarinet or sax. He really wants to learn harp which I'm sure is a zelda thing. I might have to get him some string lessons so he can try some others out too. What does that mean?
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Post by steph08 on Aug 30, 2019 13:13:15 GMT -5
I played clarinet for 9 years of elementary and high school band! Woot! Go woodwinds!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 30, 2019 13:21:57 GMT -5
I never played an instrument but DH was first chair trumpet in high school.
He still has the trumpet and it's in excellent condition so I'm trying to steer the girls that way.
Nope Gwen wants to do cello.😒
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 30, 2019 13:38:48 GMT -5
I played flute in HS, out of 3 kids one plays sax (and pretty much anything you throw at him, including my flute), one plays the radio and the other plays guitar. But, go woodwinds!!
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 30, 2019 14:36:46 GMT -5
C is signing up for band at the school and picked trumpet. Gawd help us! Although I'm glad he picked brass over woodwinds. Dh and I both played trumpet, but not well and not for long. T oo much glory day crap if he started on clarinet or sax. He really wants to learn harp which I'm sure is a zelda thing. I might have to get him some string lessons so he can try some others out too. What does that mean? Dh, (and possibly me too) reliving his glory days through the kids. Plus the comparisons from family. I want them to have their own experiences without our baggage.
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Post by CCL on Aug 30, 2019 18:31:12 GMT -5
The kids bathroom smells like a sewer. 🤢 I think someone peed their pants and puts them in the laundry basket. It was rank. Aren't kids great?
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