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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 11, 2018 14:35:51 GMT -5
My department is doing a secret santa thing which I don't care for, but since I'm one of 2 remote employees I feel like I have to jump on any and all team building activities. I'm secret santa for my boss. Mid 20's, just came back from maternity leave with her 2nd kid so she has a 2 year old and a 4 month old at home. I know almost nothing else about her. She seems to have kind of a "punky" style appearance wise and she likes to craft. She makes little gifts for everyone--but random stuff you'd find on pinterest. I have no idea if she sews or knits, or scrapbooks, etc. What on earth do I get her for about $20? I meant to send her hooded towels for her boys, but haven't gotten them made yet and I don't know that I want that to be part of the secret santa, although now timing on it would be weird. I hate buying people gifts... How about a steampunk pen holder? www.etsy.com/listing/527173345/pen-holderdesk-tidy-steam-punk-dragon?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=steampunk+pen+holder&ref=sr_gallery-1-7That's super cute! I just can't even think what she has at her desk though.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 11, 2018 15:52:27 GMT -5
Why do kids cloths go from 7-8 to 10-12? And what on earth am I going to dress E in until the 10-12's aren't 3 sizes too big (but 7-8's can't shrink even a millimeter without getting too small?)
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Post by muttleynfelix on Dec 11, 2018 15:56:30 GMT -5
Why do kids cloths go from 7-8 to 10-12? And what on earth am I going to dress E in until the 10-12's aren't 3 sizes too big (but 7-8's can't shrink even a millimeter without getting too small?) I'm running into the same problem with Ben.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2018 16:04:26 GMT -5
It's impossible to find clothes that fit my 8 year old. He's so tall and skinny. I ordered him some 10-12 elastic waisted cargo pants from Land's End for Christmas and just laughed when they arrived. They'll be stored away until next year. I don't know what he's going to wear. His Dad gives me crap about him running around with highwater exercise and sweat pants, but those are the only things that fit him in the waist and they are all size 8.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 11, 2018 16:15:17 GMT -5
It's impossible to find clothes that fit my 8 year old. He's so tall and skinny. I ordered him some 10-12 elastic waisted cargo pants from Land's End for Christmas and just laughed when they arrived. They'll be stored away until next year. I don't know what he's going to wear. His Dad gives me crap about him running around with highwater exercise and sweat pants, but those are the only things that fit him in the waist and they are all size 8. Adjustable waist pants saved my skin until my kid got to be almost 6 feet tall. (This year) Some Old Navy boys pants are even still long enough - for another 5 minutes - with him.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2018 16:22:52 GMT -5
It's impossible to find clothes that fit my 8 year old. He's so tall and skinny. I ordered him some 10-12 elastic waisted cargo pants from Land's End for Christmas and just laughed when they arrived. They'll be stored away until next year. I don't know what he's going to wear. His Dad gives me crap about him running around with highwater exercise and sweat pants, but those are the only things that fit him in the waist and they are all size 8. Adjustable waist pants saved my skin until my kid got to be almost 6 feet tall. (This year) Some Old Navy boys pants are even still long enough - for another 5 minutes - with him. I'll have to check Old Navy. He has some jeans that seriously have that elastic end hanging 6 inches, I have it buttoned that far back on the elastic. He HATES it. Says the elastic bands irritate him, so he normally just wears sweats.
My first kid was in all Husky clothes, so I have nothing for hand me downs in pants or jeans.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 11, 2018 16:28:31 GMT -5
Adjustable waist pants saved my skin until my kid got to be almost 6 feet tall. (This year) Some Old Navy boys pants are even still long enough - for another 5 minutes - with him. I'll have to check Old Navy. He has some jeans that seriously have that elastic end hanging 6 inches, I have it buttoned that far back on the elastic. He HATES it. Says the elastic bands irritate him, so he normally just wears sweats.
My first kid was in all Husky clothes, so I have nothing for hand me downs in pants or jeans.
Chances are good that he'll have hanging elastic, mine did. Mine hated it too. Slim cuts help but you still have a ton of the elastic. I think you can loop it back over the button once more sometimes to contain the end. ETA: or just cut it off and not worry about it if he's going to get too tall before he gets too wide.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 11, 2018 16:32:45 GMT -5
I'll have to check Old Navy. He has some jeans that seriously have that elastic end hanging 6 inches, I have it buttoned that far back on the elastic. He HATES it. Says the elastic bands irritate him, so he normally just wears sweats.
My first kid was in all Husky clothes, so I have nothing for hand me downs in pants or jeans.
Chances are good that he'll have hanging elastic, mine did. Mine hated it too. Slim cuts help but you still have a ton of the elastic. I think you can loop it back over the button once more sometimes to contain the end. ETA: or just cut it off and not worry about it if he's going to get too tall before he gets too wide. this is what I do for my tall, skinny DS. Also he hates real buttons on jeans so almost all his non-workout style pants are cargo style that just pull up. Crazy 8s have pretend buttons on the jeans up til the really big kid sizes so I picked up 2 pairs.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 11, 2018 16:37:24 GMT -5
For all of DS's elementary and middle school years, they had to wear real pants. Khaki/navy pants. For all of those years he complained and whined about the elastic and the pants. IDK how long it took him to learn to operate in the bathroom without pulling his pants down. I probably don't want to either. Now they can wear anything aside from pajamas in every level except elementary.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2018 16:42:22 GMT -5
For all of DS's elementary and middle school years, they had to wear real pants. Khaki/navy pants. For all of those years he complained and whined about the elastic and the pants. IDK how long it took him to learn to operate in the bathroom without pulling his pants down. I probably don't want to either. Now they can wear anything aside from pajamas in every level except elementary. Ok. So, good to know my kid is not the only one doing that. Buttons and zippers are not his friends.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 11, 2018 16:50:52 GMT -5
For all of DS's elementary and middle school years, they had to wear real pants. Khaki/navy pants. For all of those years he complained and whined about the elastic and the pants. IDK how long it took him to learn to operate in the bathroom without pulling his pants down. I probably don't want to either. Now they can wear anything aside from pajamas in every level except elementary. Ok. So, good to know my kid is not the only one doing that. Buttons and zippers are not his friends. Fine motor skill were not DS's friends for a long time. It improves. Slowly.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 11, 2018 17:03:17 GMT -5
Elastic band pants are what we use for C, although we're struggling with him right now too. He's tall and truly not skinny, but skinnier than a 10-12 I guess because those fall down.
With E I can cinch up the waist band, but the crotch hangs down to her knees and she has a puddle of pants at her ankles. It's ridiculous. Or she's in leggings that are an inch above her socks.
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Post by tcu2003 on Dec 12, 2018 9:27:41 GMT -5
Started my day off winning at parenting - on the bright side, both kids were mad at both of us, not just me, so there’s that. M was angry about her water cup. The one she wanted leaks like crazy, so we wouldn’t give her that one in the car. C was angry because he had two sausage with his breakfast, and didn’t like when we told him he couldn’t have more. He told us we were the “worst” - clearly, he’s going to have to come up with more creative insults if that made us the worst parents ever. 😉
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 12, 2018 12:24:27 GMT -5
Ive been using the closet in the guest room to hide presents and things. It is so cluttered in there & the kids are scared of it, so its a decent hiding spot. Aly came walking out the other day with a toy from there and I asked where she'd found it. "In the 'NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS' closet " Hahaha, little shit.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 12, 2018 13:10:59 GMT -5
Another kid funny - last week I was in Atlanta for work. Aly told me Saturday, "Mom, you can just say "Lanta". We know you were at Lanta." HAHAHA!
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Post by azucena on Dec 12, 2018 17:27:50 GMT -5
Sam - those are fantastic! We often don't tell our kids about upcoming plans including vacations because we don't want to hear about how much longer til whatever. Instead we say we are going to 'Nun ya' as in None of your business or 'didn't tell ya'. Backfires sometimes though when they answer us back with these same destinations LOL. Can't remember where I saw someone talking about a book called 'Baby Monkey, Private Eye'. It's almost 200 pages and 5 chapters but I'd consider it an easy reader as there are very limited words on each page. We just picked it up from the library queue last night and DD6 and I thought it was hysterical. She was able to read most of it www.amazon.com/Baby-Monkey-Private-Brian-Selznick/dp/1338180614
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Post by oped on Dec 12, 2018 18:12:52 GMT -5
Doing dictation with my tutor girl last week we were spelling kick and she wanted to use a c and asked why she had to use the k choice and i told her it's not a rule we learn for a long time, but she'll find out that ca, co, cu have hard c sounds, but when you put a c with i or e it usually softens the c and it makes an s sound.
She just shook her head. I said don't worry about it, that rule is a long time away. She said, I am never going to learn that rule. I told her, eventually. She looked at me with those eyebrows raised and said, I already forgot everything you said. lol. I'm having too much fun teaching her to read. I do love a smart ass.
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Post by TheHaitian on Dec 13, 2018 19:52:35 GMT -5
We have a Dr appointment scheduled for 12/25 for DW with a surgical Dr. Since I have known her she has been wanting a breast reduction and she is finally ready to do it.
After the consult the Dr said it takes about 2-3 weeks to get it approved by the insurance company and schedule it. My wife has to go to Bermuda for a friend’s 30th in March and somewhere in there we were talking about trying for #2... so not sure about how that is going to work!
Not stressing it really, the more we talk about it the more we are ok waiting a little bit longer if needed or accepting being a 1 and done family... I think she really still wants a #2 though.
As for our little #1, she has decided that waiting for Christmas morning to open her gifts was overrated. We forgot she was no longer a baby so left some of her gifts under the tree... MIL sent us pictures today of Carlie under the tree unwrapping her gifts like it was no one else business! Live and learn....
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Post by NastyWoman on Dec 13, 2018 20:21:53 GMT -5
We have a Dr appointment scheduled for 12/25 for DW with a surgical Dr. Since I have known her she has been wanting a breast reduction and she is finally ready to do it. After the consult the Dr said it takes about 2-3 weeks to get it approved by the insurance company and schedule it. My wife has to go to Bermuda for a friend’s 30th in March and somewhere in there we were talking about trying for #2... so not sure about how that is going to work! Not stressing it really, the more we talk about it the more we are ok waiting a little bit longer if needed or accepting being a 1 and done family... I think she really still wants a #2 though. As for our little #1, she has decided that waiting for Christmas morning to open her gifts was overrated. We forgot she was no longer a baby so left some of her gifts under the tree... MIL sent us pictures today of Carlie under the tree unwrapping her gifts like it was no one else business! Live and learn....
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 13, 2018 22:19:43 GMT -5
I'm so burnt out. And I feel like a spoiled brat saying that because I have a sober husband and a new job which is exactly what I wanted but I still want to hide in a cave somewhere.
We're on our first week of DH being 100% sober and it's been awful. Mood swings feeling sick he's pretty much holed up in the bedroom.
I've taken over everything and tried to make things as stress free as possible but that has not been easy on me. I told him I understand and supportive but he can't expect me to smile my way thru it too.
I like my new job but it comes with unique challenges given it's not my area of expertise. I got switched off the bench to more specailized work which I don't know if that's a good or bad sign. I did feel a lot more confident since it utilizes skills I already have. I'm trying to have faith that if there was a serious problem they'd tell me not leave me hanging for another two months before showing me the door.
At any rate two jobs in such a short period is a major adjustment for someone who hates change. It's worse this round because of the physical recovery and the fucking up of my sleep schedule.
Then I'm working hard to give everyone a merry Christmas figuring odds are good my stocking will be empty. Normally this does not bother me but I feel owed this year. And not some crap HE thinks I should want like a stupid manicure set but instead actually listen and get me what I want.
My birthday is next Thursday. I turn 35. I was excited about it till recently with everything going on. I also if I think too hard about my 30s almost being over I have a mini mid life crisis. Stupid I know but I've had a lot of reasons to question my life choices lately.
Then there is my BFF who I'm naturally worried about. DH needs a new headgasket but our EF is in the toilet thanks to his drug spending. My dad is going to help since he misdiagnosed the issue but I still need to.come up with our share. So much for no more CC debt unless the bill comes out to the $700 I got in savings.
Then my other friend may be moving to Chicago. I'm thrilled she has a chance at a tenured position but I'm also super bummed at the thought of her moving and a tad jealous. Not that I will be anything less than happy when talking to her.
I don't feel good I'm not sure if it's weather or a persistent bug. The one time I need it I have no sick time. Which is kinda stupid because it encourages new employees to infect the entire office. I can get not wanting people taking vacation on probation but throwinh a couple sick days in would be handy.
I want to be happy but I can't drum up the energy for more than a spurt here or there.
I'm grateful but not happy if that makes sense.
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Post by swamp on Dec 14, 2018 8:00:51 GMT -5
It makes sense. You’ve had a rough year. It’s ok to wallow.
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Post by azucena on Dec 14, 2018 8:20:57 GMT -5
Putting car repairs on your credit card for a couple of months isn't great but it's nowhere near the end of the world. Just limit it to the repairs and work your way thru paying it off and let go of the guilt.
I hear ya on the Christmas gift thing and if money is tight, it's that much harder to spend on yourself and get yourself something if DH can't right now. Maybe instead you can ask for an experience gift that happens at a later date or even a "freebie" of I want this day all to myself to recharge and that means everyone needs to be out of the house.
Vent away girl. We will listen.
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Post by finnime on Dec 14, 2018 8:29:34 GMT -5
You need time to tend to NomoreDramaQ1015. Let that be your gift to yourself and your DH's gift to you, too.
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Dec 14, 2018 9:46:15 GMT -5
My DH quit his job in March because he hated it, and I told him it was okay with the understanding that he would get something else, anything else. I don't care if it is a part time, low paying retail job stocking shelves. I just want him doing something. Fast forward to December and he is still not working. I have given him job lead after job lead since it is MY JOB to find people job leads that are on UI, and there is always something wrong with the job. He wants a unicorn job. Well who doesn't! I am thinking about telling him that if he doesn't have a different job by the end of March (so 1 year after he quit), then he needs to go back, at least for awhile. Is that unreasonable? This has been stressful for me. We have been lucky I have been able to cover all our monthly bills and had enough money for food and stuff. I find myself getting angrier and angrier with him, and I don't like feeling like that.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 14, 2018 10:00:57 GMT -5
My DH quit his job in March because he hated it, and I told him it was okay with the understanding that he would get something else, anything else. I don't care if it is a part time, low paying retail job stocking shelves. I just want him doing something. Fast forward to December and he is still not working. I have given him job lead after job lead since it is MY JOB to find people job leads that are on UI, and there is always something wrong with the job. He wants a unicorn job. Well who doesn't! I am thinking about telling him that if he doesn't have a different job by the end of March (so 1 year after he quit), then he needs to go back, at least for awhile. Is that unreasonable? This has been stressful for me. We have been lucky I have been able to cover all our monthly bills and had enough money for food and stuff. I find myself getting angrier and angrier with him, and I don't like feeling like that. NO!! What is unreasonable is him still not having a job. Drama has some stress she needs to relieve, should we send her over with the 2 x 4?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 14, 2018 10:18:30 GMT -5
I don't mind spending on myself and I have.
I'd just really like an actual thoughtful gift for once. I put a lot of time into.what I get people.
DH is like my grandma he buys you what HE thinks you should like or wants to buy you. It's like in 14 years still he doesn't know me.
Normally I roll with it Ive given up. This year though I'm really bummed. I've given so much I really don't want another imaginary DQ gift.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 14, 2018 10:22:08 GMT -5
My DH quit his job in March because he hated it, and I told him it was okay with the understanding that he would get something else, anything else. I don't care if it is a part time, low paying retail job stocking shelves. I just want him doing something. Fast forward to December and he is still not working. I have given him job lead after job lead since it is MY JOB to find people job leads that are on UI, and there is always something wrong with the job. He wants a unicorn job. Well who doesn't! I am thinking about telling him that if he doesn't have a different job by the end of March (so 1 year after he quit), then he needs to go back, at least for awhile. Is that unreasonable? This has been stressful for me. We have been lucky I have been able to cover all our monthly bills and had enough money for food and stuff. I find myself getting angrier and angrier with him, and I don't like feeling like that. Totally not unreasonable. You are dealing with A LOT yourself so he can suck it up for a part time job. Seriously. What would he be doing without you.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 14, 2018 10:38:20 GMT -5
We're slow at work so I was assigned "shadowing" another department and finangled it to work with a friend who trained me in the business over 15 years ago. She's known me since before dh was an h, and has been a sounding board for all of my frustrations. Yesterday was a particularly bad morning at home, although I hadn't brought that up with her but she repeatedly asked if I'd be better off divorcing him. Said my issues with him have always been the same and she worried I'd never be happy. I would be better off emotionally in many ways. The kids would adjust because they'd have to. Financially I'd probably be destroyed, but better now than later I guess. I don't think dh is capable of being single. I imagine he'd have a gf or bf moved in before the moving boxes were unpacked. Hell before the moving boxes arrived. That's really what scares me. At least now I have control and I can mitigate his yelling and overreacting to some degree. We should probably try counseling again, but I'm over extended as it is. He needs to put in the work and I can tell he isn't willing to.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 14, 2018 10:47:26 GMT -5
Not unreasonable Nuttin. I don't know if it's enforceable though. You're going to have to think of what to do if come March he doesn't cooperate.
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Post by TheHaitian on Dec 14, 2018 11:02:52 GMT -5
My DH quit his job in March because he hated it, and I told him it was okay with the understanding that he would get something else, anything else. I don't care if it is a part time, low paying retail job stocking shelves. I just want him doing something. Fast forward to December and he is still not working. I have given him job lead after job lead since it is MY JOB to find people job leads that are on UI, and there is always something wrong with the job. He wants a unicorn job. Well who doesn't! I am thinking about telling him that if he doesn't have a different job by the end of March (so 1 year after he quit), then he needs to go back, at least for awhile. Is that unreasonable? This has been stressful for me. We have been lucky I have been able to cover all our monthly bills and had enough money for food and stuff. I find myself getting angrier and angrier with him, and I don't like feeling like that. Wow.... if I ever get divorced and you do too... we should date I could use a break from work!
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