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Post by oped on Dec 8, 2018 21:32:48 GMT -5
Sigh. DD#2 likes a boy. I’m meeting him tomorrow at a Speech & Debate meet. And...?
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Post by tcu2003 on Dec 8, 2018 22:15:18 GMT -5
Sigh. DD#2 likes a boy. I’m meeting him tomorrow at a Speech & Debate meet. And...? Ditto!
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Post by Works4me on Dec 8, 2018 23:56:48 GMT -5
Yeah - what they asked!!!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 9, 2018 21:58:13 GMT -5
And my husband blew yet another headgasket. Dad is not sure how but is pretty sure it's repairable.
He's going to help with the cost since he misdiagnosed the original problem. So much for getting rid of our CC debt. I just consolidated and now we're going to have a balance again thanks to the car.
Sure could use all that money blown on kratom over the past three months. That would pay for a gasket upfront.
Then I've been on my own while he is going thru withdrawals. I've got what I wanted he is sober but it's sure not making my happy. Pretty sure I got stress hives popping up so I took an antihistamine and will take another tomorrow.
I had a good time shopping with the kids and seeing the gingerbread display at the Mormon tabernacle so that's something. I feel like an ass because my mood doesn't last very long.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 9, 2018 22:13:11 GMT -5
My moods are decent until I walk in the house.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 9, 2018 22:20:54 GMT -5
Hugs, drama and Beth ♡
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 9, 2018 22:23:13 GMT -5
I had a great time with the kids. Then I came home.
The irony was not lost on me concerning the discussion I had with DH about feeling lonely and all weekend he's been holed up sleeping.
I know he's going thru some bad stuff and I said I'd be supportive but that doesn't mean I'm not miserable.
The car was just more awesome news. Can't wait to hear his mother make back handed comments about my dad's mechanical skills when it's likely DH was stupid again and ignored a little problem till it became a big one.
That's also why our two year old $450 lawnmower is now a hunk of junk. I've never met another person who is this stupid when it comes to mechanical stuff and taking care of their shit.
Want to know how many cars I've blown up? Zero. My dad? Zero. His dad? Zero.
DH has destroyed THREE cars in the 14 years we've been together. Also blew out his truck's brakes to the tune of $850 because he didn't think that noise was an issue..for five months.
I swear if she says something I'm done playing nice. I got nothing to spare right now to cater to her old lady bullshit.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 9, 2018 22:54:17 GMT -5
Sorry that was harsh. I just have no one to talk to. I have yet to find an Anon meeting that works and with our new $3k deductible and DH needing therapy me going just to talk is out. My friends got their own problems.
So you guys are the lucky ones between eating my feelings and trying to shop them away.
Considered drinking but that seems like an incredibly stupid habit to bring into the house given the current situation.
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Post by oped on Dec 9, 2018 23:12:59 GMT -5
I know someone mentioned harder topics in kids books. Has anyone read TheWar That Saved My Life... I just started it. The mom is really abusive. I’m not sure what age group I’d use it for? It’s well written, Newberg honor... but could be triggering...
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Post by CCL on Dec 10, 2018 0:47:58 GMT -5
Sorry that was harsh. I just have no one to talk to. I have yet to find an Anon meeting that works and with our new $3k deductible and DH needing therapy me going just to talk is out. My friends got their own problems. So you guys are the lucky ones between eating my feelings and trying to shop them away. Considered drinking but that seems like an incredibly stupid habit to bring into the house given the current situation.
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Post by ners on Dec 10, 2018 7:02:05 GMT -5
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 10, 2018 7:11:46 GMT -5
Sorry that was harsh. I just have no one to talk to. I have yet to find an Anon meeting that works and with our new $3k deductible and DH needing therapy me going just to talk is out. My friends got their own problems. So you guys are the lucky ones between eating my feelings and trying to shop them away. Considered drinking but that seems like an incredibly stupid habit to bring into the house given the current situation. Heaven knows I've used up more than my fair share of therapy hours here jump on in anytime. It's not the same, but everyone here is always helpful. Hugs to you ♡
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 10, 2018 8:04:37 GMT -5
We're here for each other. So talk away Drama. And to be honest, sometimes hearing about someone else having problems takes my mind off my own. Or I get suggestions on how to approach something similar.
I overslept again. Thank God my job doesn't really care as long as I put my hours in.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 10, 2018 8:29:56 GMT -5
Not being allowed any time off is super rough right now. If I was still at the university Id tell them I'm taking the next week off and crash.
This move was for the best. I'd likely be dead if I was still at the hospital.[br. I'd rather deal with all this here than there.
Compartmentalizing has been a challenge the past couple days and I haven't built up the street cred yet to have off days. So I gotta work on that.
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Post by andi9899 on Dec 10, 2018 9:18:18 GMT -5
If it makes you feel better I had it out with one of the supervisors at my PT job this weekend. I told him I knew how to do my job and to get off my ass and that I really didn't appreciate being micromanaged. So see, you're not the worst employee in the world. I'm currently wearing that crown.
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Post by swamp on Dec 10, 2018 9:20:31 GMT -5
Sorry that was harsh. I just have no one to talk to. I have yet to find an Anon meeting that works and with our new $3k deductible and DH needing therapy me going just to talk is out. My friends got their own problems. So you guys are the lucky ones between eating my feelings and trying to shop them away. Considered drinking but that seems like an incredibly stupid habit to bring into the house given the current situation. based on some of the enabling crap she's pulled, it's not harsh. Not harsh at all.
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Post by swamp on Dec 10, 2018 9:22:12 GMT -5
I really think I have some Seasonal Affective Disorder issues. I HATE HATE HATE November with a passion, and December's only redeeming quality is Christmas. January and February blow, and March gets better.
Right now, it gets dark at 4:30.
I think I need to get one of those lights.
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Dec 10, 2018 9:29:26 GMT -5
I got DH one of those lights off of Amazon and it seems to be working. It cost me $100 but it has been $100 well spent.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2018 10:02:37 GMT -5
I can't stand winter either and it's not the cold or the snow, I can deal with that. It's the getting dark at 4. I come to work in the dark and leave work in the dark. I always get all happy on December 21st because I know from there on out the days will be getting longer again...sloooowly.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2018 10:15:27 GMT -5
Sorry that was harsh. I just have no one to talk to. I have yet to find an Anon meeting that works and with our new $3k deductible and DH needing therapy me going just to talk is out. My friends got their own problems. So you guys are the lucky ones between eating my feelings and trying to shop them away. Considered drinking but that seems like an incredibly stupid habit to bring into the house given the current situation. I think it's better for you to vent here even if it's harsh, if it'll help you to not be unintentionally harsh IRL. I can only only speak for myself, I don't mind reading any of your vents. Even when I don't have any advice, I always send good vibes to the posters here that are having a rough day or going through a rough spot in life. I don't always post that I'm doing so though.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2018 10:21:52 GMT -5
I can't stand winter either and it's not the cold or the snow, I can deal with that. It's the getting dark at 4. I come to work in the dark and leave work in the dark. I always get all happy on December 21st because I know from there on out the days will be getting longer again...sloooowly. I do NOT like winter at all. It doesn't get as cold here as it does where you live, but I hate cold weather nevertheless. All the dreary days, and getting dark so early every day, it really does affect my mood and mental state. I think bears have the correct approach to winter. And I feel the exact same way you do about December 21st. When I know the days are about to (slowly) start getting longer, I feel like help is on the way lol.
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Post by oped on Dec 10, 2018 10:41:23 GMT -5
I really think I have some Seasonal Affective Disorder issues. I HATE HATE HATE November with a passion, and December's only redeeming quality is Christmas. January and February blow, and March gets better. Right now, it gets dark at 4:30. I think I need to get one of those lights. It’s been worse than normal this year. it was like the time changed and the weather turned on a dime all at once.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Dec 10, 2018 10:45:12 GMT -5
I got one of the SAD lights from Amazon. It does wonders for my mood.
Today is sunny so my mood isn't down. It will be as the sun goes down and will be on every cloudy day until spring.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 10, 2018 10:54:08 GMT -5
I hate it getting dark at 430. I love working from home, but literally holing up in the basement for 45 hours a week probably isn't helping a lot of things. I meant to have a plant stand and light in here, and a fish tank. Some life besides me and the spiders. I should look into one of those lights.
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Post by tcu2003 on Dec 10, 2018 10:54:36 GMT -5
Hugs, drama. As others have said, feel free to vent or “talk out loud” here anytime you need to.
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Post by swamp on Dec 10, 2018 10:58:00 GMT -5
I really think I have some Seasonal Affective Disorder issues. I HATE HATE HATE November with a passion, and December's only redeeming quality is Christmas. January and February blow, and March gets better. Right now, it gets dark at 4:30. I think I need to get one of those lights. It’s been worsethan normal this year.it was like the time changed and the weather turned in a dime all at once. OMG, yes. WE didn't have fall. It went from 100 degrees to 30 degrees in a week.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2018 11:09:33 GMT -5
It’s been worsethan normal this year.it was like the time changed and the weather turned in a dime all at once. OMG, yes. WE didn't have fall. It went from 100 degrees to 30 degrees in a week. And where I am, we didn't have spring this year either. It just sucked all around.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 10, 2018 11:11:42 GMT -5
TCU - we have a couple fidget cubes. H got them off Amazon. Super cheap. Rae - Aly has nightly meltdowns too. H took her to the play therapist this week and her assessment was that she's just 7 and its normal. But OMG. She will scream at us for an hour or more each night. Its the craziest thing. The boys, otoh, literally get set down into bed and we walk away. At least they are easy. That's good to hear. I think it most comes down to being tired, although laying down earlier doesn't mean she is falling asleep earlier so far. I think we'll just have to read a whole lot more. C was my meltdown child this weekend. I've never been so frustrated with either of my kids. If this is a glimpse of teen years I'm terrified. He would not listen to anything while intentionally doing things to annoy me--which he very freely admitted to doing. I don't know how long he cried when I insisted he take a shower, and that was just 1 session. I guess at least they aren't losing it at the same time for the most part.
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Post by oped on Dec 10, 2018 11:13:25 GMT -5
I have Carex Day-Light Classic Bright Light Therapy Lamp - 10000 LUX - Sun Lamp Mood Light.
Son has Circadian Optics Lumos 2.0 Light Therapy Lamp | Ultra Bright 10,000 Lux Full Spectrum LED.
At least we are almost to equinox. Only two weeks more shortening then we can slow march toward longer daylight.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 10, 2018 11:21:02 GMT -5
We still celebrate Yule by going to a drumming up the sun ceremony. It's at Red Rocks ampitheater which is gorgeous anyway, and being there for sunrise is amazing even when its freezing.
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