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Post by cme1201 on May 13, 2011 17:02:52 GMT -5
I am sorry for your loss.
Unfortunatly the decissions you make, make you.
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dianartemis
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Post by dianartemis on May 13, 2011 17:07:21 GMT -5
<<hugs>>
It's always hard losing people you love, regardless of the situation. My condolences on your loss.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on May 13, 2011 17:08:59 GMT -5
The people here would hate him. I don't know about that. Reading your story I just feel bad that he completely wasted his life. |
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on May 13, 2011 17:12:21 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss, Horatio.  |
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Post by Jake 48 on May 13, 2011 17:39:30 GMT -5
sorry for your loss |
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Post by busymom on May 13, 2011 17:48:56 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss Horatio. Often, friends do make mistakes (and hopefully we learn from them). Not easy to lose a friend you've known for years. Been there.  |
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dancinmama
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Post by dancinmama on May 13, 2011 18:35:31 GMT -5
Horatio: I'm so sorry about your friend. Just try to remember the best times that you had with him.
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Artemis Windsong
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Post by Artemis Windsong on May 13, 2011 19:40:26 GMT -5
Condolances on your loss.
I know people who are like that and am sorry to say I have been an enabler by providing housing when they were down and out. Now they think they own the place.
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Post by Waffle on May 13, 2011 21:13:46 GMT -5
That's so very sad. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2011 22:13:35 GMT -5
He must have had good qualities if he was your best friend for so long. What were they?
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Post by schildi on May 14, 2011 0:21:23 GMT -5
<<hugs>> It's always hard losing people you love, regardless of the situation. My condolences on your loss. Well, I second that. Sorry to hear this, Horatio. |
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2011 5:28:12 GMT -5
That's a sad story, Horatio, and no, I don't hate people like that. Your friend could not have had a happy life even though he managed to get money for his basic needs. I watched my ex-husband, a brilliant, gifted inorganic chemist, slide into permanent unemployment and dependency on social programs and (eventually) SS. He died last September and I still can't look at a street person, especially men that age, without thinking of him. While I didn't know your friend, I wonder if some sort of mental illness was involved. We talk about choices and responsibility, but I can't believe anyone mentally healthy would choose that existence.
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Post by gsbrq on May 14, 2011 12:59:35 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss. It does sound as if depression played a role.
I have had people in my life like him, and have had to cut them loose...not because I hated them, but because the frustration and sadness of interacting with them were too much for me. I have compassion for them, but I can't devote my energy to them.
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Gardening Grandma
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Post by Gardening Grandma on May 14, 2011 13:41:13 GMT -5
Horatio,
I am so sorry for your loss.
I would not have hated your friend. I would not have understood him and I probably would have felt he had some mental issues going on. I probably would have felt sorry for him.
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Post by stats45 on May 14, 2011 13:57:25 GMT -5
My condolences on your friend's passing.
I agree with what many of the other posters have said. Many of us are so incensed by welfare dependence or fraud because we see what it does to the individual. Once it changes your incentives for work, creativity, and productivity, it can place your life on an awful trajectory. I have seen it with family and friends.
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Post by SVT on May 14, 2011 16:07:27 GMT -5
sorry for you'r loss |
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Post by mtshastawriter on May 15, 2011 12:30:24 GMT -5
My condolences on your loss as well.
I know that people looking at my DH would have likely thought a similar thing to what happened with your friend. He got on SSDI after a very serious MRSA infection did permanent damage to his legs. But, in addition to the physical injury, he was also a mental health disaster...
He was very seriously overweight and that got worse because he didn't work and was home 24/7.
When he would use the placard to park near the store, because he couldn't walk far because of his legs, a failed knee joint, and because dialysis had run him down, people would stare and I am sure assume that he was just lazy, and parked there because he was fat. Same thing for when he would use the cart inside the grocery store.
Sometimes fat is secondary to other problems that you might not see...
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