Help me with my cat problems

[Ava]

Mar 31, 2024 10:59:21 GMT -5 chen35 said:

I don’t think it’s fair to say your cat is in a poor situation because you don’t feel the same connection as you did with your prior cat. I’m in a similar situation with our dog. My dog I had before was practically the love of my life, lol. I loved that dog so much. After she passed I didn’t want another dog, but finally caved after a few years because we hoped a pet would help DS7 with his anxiety. So about a year ago we got a puppy.
It’s just not the same. I don’t dislike her, but I don’t feel that same connection. That being said, I love on her and take care of her and she has a good life.
In November we sent her to a training boot camp where she stayed and we didn’t see her for 5 weeks. When the trainer brought her back to us he said I was obviously her person and even with all of the pet reunifications he’s done he’s never seen a dog so excited and content to be back with its owner. So the dog feels loved and is safe. It doesn’t matter that she’s not my soul pet.
You seem like you take great care of Michi. He’s lucky to have you.

Thank you. Your situation is similar to mine.

I love Michi and I do all I can to give him the best life he can have. It's just not the same and I'm missing something.

Michi is happy. Just like your dog, he loves me so much.

I wouldn't give him up. He's safe and happy here. At the same time I think it's not fair for me to be deprived of the companion pet I need because he's here.
He'll live a long and healthy life. I don't see myself postponing an important part of my life for many years.

It's scary to go out and bring another cat home. It could be chaos. Who knows.
It's a very difficult situation for me.

[raeoflyte]

Mar 31, 2024 10:59:21 GMT -5 chen35 said:

I don’t think it’s fair to say your cat is in a poor situation because you don’t feel the same connection as you did with your prior cat. I’m in a similar situation with our dog. My dog I had before was practically the love of my life, lol. I loved that dog so much. After she passed I didn’t want another dog, but finally caved after a few years because we hoped a pet would help DS7 with his anxiety. So about a year ago we got a puppy.
It’s just not the same. I don’t dislike her, but I don’t feel that same connection. That being said, I love on her and take care of her and she has a good life.
In November we sent her to a training boot camp where she stayed and we didn’t see her for 5 weeks. When the trainer brought her back to us he said I was obviously her person and even with all of the pet reunifications he’s done he’s never seen a dog so excited and content to be back with its owner. So the dog feels loved and is safe. It doesn’t matter that she’s not my soul pet.
You seem like you take great care of Michi. He’s lucky to have you.

Quoting just to agree with everything here.

[Ava]

So I haven't made any decisions regarding adopting another cat or fostering with an option to adopt.

I take pets very seriously. They are not a toy or an optional thing. Once I've adopted, I'm all in, for the rest of their natural lives.

I don't think I'm in a good place to make such an important decision.
Michi was just cuddling with me, and I'm so glad he's in my life even if he's not what I need.

I have also considered something I have been always opposed to; buying a cat.
I have always been strongly in the "adopt don't shop" camp when it comes to pets. I also think "you cannot buy a friend".
However, I feel a Bombay cat has all the characteristics I'm looking for on a companion.
The thought fills me with shame and makes me feel like a hypocrite.

At the same time, I already adopted a homeless cat, Michi. 
This second cat would be my emotional support pet. I need to stop being so hard on myself. If getting a Bombay brings me happiness, I should do it when the time is right.

Bombays are expensive, and I can't buy one right now. It is just one of the many ideas floating in my head. I won't make any changes to my current situation until I'm in a good place both mentally and financially.