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Post by Opti on Jan 2, 2024 18:41:56 GMT -5
Work on it.  I said the article was interesting and not that only the women (or men) who post on the Money board should change their resolutions. Please don't poke her or anyone. Many folks are stressed beyond their limits after the holidays, and it tends to hit women more than men because of societal assumptions. OK? I saw nothing wrong with your post which is standalone and not in response to anything. However there seems to be a bunch of hair trigger things going on here and in RL ... |
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 2, 2024 18:45:22 GMT -5
Work on it. no thank you. |
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Post by Tennesseer on Jan 2, 2024 18:49:35 GMT -5
Work on it. no thank you. You left out the last part of my quoted post. |
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 2, 2024 18:52:11 GMT -5
Work on it. I said the article was interesting and not that only the women (or men) who post on the Money board should change their resolutions. Please don't poke her or anyone. Many folks are stressed beyond their limits after the holidays, and it tends to hit women more than men because of societal assumptions. OK? I saw nothing wrong with your post which is standalone and not in response to anything. However there seems to be a bunch of hair trigger things going on here and in RL ... It's really not that serious, but yearly threads on new years resolutions Always have a bunch of anti-resolution posts. Just.....unnecessary. And the theme of that article was so self congratulatory. I will not click it. and I judge them harshly. |
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 2, 2024 18:53:08 GMT -5
You left out the last part of my quoted post. because I have no comments on it. |
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Post by Tennesseer on Jan 2, 2024 19:05:14 GMT -5
You left out the last part of my quoted post. because I have no comments on it. You're forgiven. One of my 2024 resolutions: forgive others who flip out over nothing. |
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 2, 2024 19:19:41 GMT -5
What the article states is the reason I don't make resolutions. When I did try, I failed by the end of January and felt like a failure. It's better to leave well enough alone and go with the flow. Sorry.  I am more of an intention person than resolution type. I also do not start stuff in January because its inconvenient for me personally and January is more of a reflection time. I'm sure you come up with goals and meet them. Its probably just other times during the year. I really don't mind too much if resolutions don't work out. Changing behaviors and habits can be difficult. I've found that New Year's Resolutions really help me to identify themes and importance in my life. If something comes onto my list 3 or more years, that's telling me something. Similarly, if I do something for 3 weeks and then fall off that wagon - I got in 3 weeks and that's something. Seems like I have specific things and specific times of the year or life events when those things come up. NYE is one of those times I take stock of most of the things I wanted to be doing or working on but due to being busy I keep losing the thread of. Maybe I'll weave it for a while and lose it again. It'll come back at another time during the year or next NYE - or a future NYE. If it never does then it wasn't too vital for me! If you never have guardposts where you stop and take stock of things - it could lead to drifting for a very long time without realizing how much time is passing. NYE, spring, fall/back to school, pre holidays, soltices and equinoxes are milemarkers that help me navigate my time, and I like the NYE tradition in particular. |
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 2, 2024 19:25:53 GMT -5
because I have no comments on it. You're forgiven. One of my 2024 resolutions: forgive others who flip out over nothing. I asked for no pardon and accept no forgiveness. Sidebar: Where is your progress on world peace? If new years resolutions are foolish and wasted efforts, certainly your pestering shenanigans is more wasteful! |
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Post by lurkyloo on Jan 2, 2024 19:53:42 GMT -5
This is so condescending. what the hell is so threatening about having people reflect on themselves and how they'd like to tweak their life in the new year? I can't spend 10 minutes jotting down a few things I'd like to accomplish in 2024 without someone saying "wait! stop! take that 10 minutes and save the world!" Right back atchya! why didn't this author do that instead of writing this drivelly piece? Why didn't YOU Tennesseer save the world from bigotry instead of posting on this thread - yet again! - to drag down a few random people spending perhaps mere seconds to type out - oh gee, I'd like to take walk every day this year. Why didn't YOU do something more useful than once again clogging up our resolutions thread with your anti-resolution sentiments? Most of us here are women and mothers. Meaning we are putting other people first all the fucking damn time. Go do something about bigotry right now! Tell us how much you accomplished towards that lofty goal in the 5 minutes it would have took to type up some resolution. Unless you are suggesting that we also give up the time we are trying to devote to our health and wellbeing? If that is the case, I'll have more choice words for you. Toning down your temper is not one of your resolutions this year I see. I found it fairly obnoxious as well. In keeping with my philosophy, I tend to walk away from opinions I disagree with rather than wasting energy arguing about something I find mildly distasteful yet unimportant. It’s my own small contribution to fighting climate change, mood/atmosphere edition  |
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Post by Tennesseer on Jan 2, 2024 19:56:02 GMT -5
You're forgiven. One of my 2024 resolutions: forgive others who flip out over nothing. I asked for no pardon and accept no forgiveness. Sidebar: Where is your progress on world peace? If new years resolutions are foolish and wasted efforts, certainly your pestering shenanigans is more wasteful! Where did I say "resolutions are foolish and wasted efforts"? I only said I don't make them because I would break them. Never said resolutions were foolish or wasted efforts especially for everyone. |
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Post by Tennesseer on Jan 2, 2024 19:59:18 GMT -5
Toning down your temper is not one of your resolutions this year I see. I found it fairly obnoxious as well. In keeping with my philosophy, I tend to walk away from opinions I disagree with rather than wasting energy arguing about something I find mildly distasteful yet unimportant. It’s my own small contribution to fighting climate change, mood/atmosphere edition And that is your right to find the article obnoxious. But do you also shoot the messenger for posting an article and who only said it was interesting? |
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 2, 2024 20:00:51 GMT -5
Someone is seriously overreacting.
Might need to chill.
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Post by resolution on Jan 2, 2024 20:42:29 GMT -5
My original plan was to go to the gym every morning and then do a chore in the afternoon, but it didn't survive contact with the weekend. So the new plan is to have that routine on the weekdays and then spend Saturday hanging out with my husband and our normal Sunday mass and brunch with friends.
Even though my original plan wasn't successful, I will still be better off for having starting it, and eventually should find a successful routine.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 2, 2024 21:31:12 GMT -5
Toning down your temper is not one of your resolutions this year I see. I found it fairly obnoxious as well. In keeping with my philosophy, I tend to walk away from opinions I disagree with rather than wasting energy arguing about something I find mildly distasteful yet unimportant. It’s my own small contribution to fighting climate change, mood/atmosphere edition next time I resolve to follow your example! |
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Post by giramomma on Jan 2, 2024 21:31:49 GMT -5
Re: The do something bigger than yourself.
Places in my neck of the woods are pretty desperate for volunteers.
Even in our kids' school, the decline in parent volunteers has been tremendous over the past decade.
When my oldest was in kindy, there were fights over parents volunteering for stations, field trips, and parties.
Now, I am seriously shocked. There is absolutely 0 competition with the missy.
Scouting, too...
Folks just want to write their (obligatory) checks and call it a day.
Money isn't enough to make the world go around.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 2, 2024 21:33:19 GMT -5
Someone is seriously overreacting. Might need to chill. I think the term you are looking for is gay repartee. |
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Post by swamp on Jan 2, 2024 22:12:13 GMT -5
Work on it. I said the article was interesting and not that only the women (or men) who post on the Money board should change their resolutions. Rukh has a point. I am so fucking sick of being an afterthought to myself. I am burnt. I have no fucks left to give. if spending 30 minutes at the gym after work or in my lunch hour makes me happy, then I’m going to do it. Unfortunately I neeed a resolution to tell myself it’s ok to do that. |
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Post by giramomma on Jan 3, 2024 8:20:36 GMT -5
I think it's easier for me, because volunteering for me, is doing something for myself.
I feel better after it.
Knitting/crocheting sbit up to donate is also for me. I am a happier/more balanced person when I craft.
I can't actually say the same about exercise.
Different strokes for different folks.
Resolutions aren't enough to prioritize/honor myself.
It took getting cancer to right that ship.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jan 3, 2024 9:04:15 GMT -5
Work on it. I said the article was interesting and not that only the women (or men) who post on the Money board should change their resolutions. Rukh has a point. I am so fucking sick of being an afterthought to myself. I am burnt. I have no fucks left to give. if spending 30 minutes at the gym after work or in my lunch hour makes me happy, then I’m going to do it. Unfortunately I neeed a resolution to tell myself it’s ok to do that. Lurky  swamp. We all know what we “should” do. Especially for moms in a sandwich generation situation, the shoulds pile up fast and the energy doesn’t keep up. I just spent a week and a half and five days of PTO making sure everyone else was taken care of and had a magical Christmas. giramomma has me dead to rights-I’m happy to throw money around (including to these worthy change the world causes thankyouverymuch) but commitments have to be rationed and prioritized because I have nothing left in the tank at the end of the day as it is. I no longer want to be gira or MPL when I grow up, I just want to be a well funded lump on the couch for a while. Motivation is where you find it. If it takes a new year’s resolution to remind you to put your own oxygen mask on, so be it and get the f***er on before you asphyxiate. |
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 3, 2024 9:20:07 GMT -5
I found it fairly obnoxious as well. In keeping with my philosophy, I tend to walk away from opinions I disagree with rather than wasting energy arguing about something I find mildly distasteful yet unimportant. It’s my own small contribution to fighting climate change, mood/atmosphere edition And that is your right to find the article obnoxious. But do you also shoot the messenger for posting an article and who only said it was interesting? The point is you do it every year. You couldn't leave it alone when someone didn't like your article. Women don't need resolutions to rein in their tempers. We've been doing that for a century. |
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Post by Tennesseer on Jan 3, 2024 9:49:38 GMT -5
And that is your right to find the article obnoxious. But do you also shoot the messenger for posting an article and who only said it was interesting? You couldn't leave it alone when someone didn't like your article. Women don't need resolutions to rein in their tempers. We've been doing that for a century. Please point out my comments about resolutions from every past year on these boards. My time though to wait for your detailed reply is limited. TYIA. |
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 3, 2024 10:15:37 GMT -5
The point is you do it every year. You couldn't leave it alone when someone didn't like your article. Women don't need resolutions to rein in their tempers. We've been doing that for a century. Please point out my comments about resolutions from every past year on these boards. My time though to wait for your detailed reply is limited. TYIA. I obsolve Rae of any such thing! Nonsense! |
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Post by giramomma on Jan 3, 2024 10:49:58 GMT -5
Rukh has a point. I am so fucking sick of being an afterthought to myself. I am burnt. I have no fucks left to give. if spending 30 minutes at the gym after work or in my lunch hour makes me happy, then I’m going to do it. Unfortunately I neeed a resolution to tell myself it’s ok to do that. Lurky swamp. We all know what we “should” do. Especially for moms in a sandwich generation situation, the shoulds pile up fast and the energy doesn’t keep up. I just spent a week and a half and five days of PTO making sure everyone else was taken care of and had a magical Christmas. giramomma has me dead to rights-I’m happy to throw money around (including to these worthy change the world causes thankyouverymuch) but commitments have to be rationed and prioritized because I have nothing left in the tank at the end of the day as it is. I no longer want to be gira or MPL when I grow up, I just want to be a well funded lump on the couch for a while. Motivation is where you find it. If it takes a new year’s resolution to remind you to put your own oxygen mask on, so be it and get the f***er on before you asphyxiate. FWIW, MPL and I still have our lump on the couch days. I just don't talk about it as much here. Because it's not as interesting, to me. Aside from a few hours of interview prep, I knitted, stitched, and crocheted and DH and I went out to eat and watched 3 episodes of the Morning Show. |
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 3, 2024 10:57:16 GMT -5
The point is you do it every year. You couldn't leave it alone when someone didn't like your article. Women don't need resolutions to rein in their tempers. We've been doing that for a century. Please point out my comments about resolutions from every past year on these boards. My time though to wait for your detailed reply is limited. TYIA. You're right Tenn - I'm not going to go through 12+ years of posts and maybe it's only the last 2 years that you are so exuberant to dismiss those that like resolutions. But the point still stands. It's why - when I hadn't seen Chloe's thread - I started a resolution thread I felt the need to start it with a disclaimer. It's one thing to chime in and say you don't do resolutions. Or if you had shared the article as something you were personally considering. But as far as I can tell you have *at least* 2 years of poo-poo'ing resolutions for no reason and ignored every post that posters have tried to explain their why to you. It reads as very condescending. So if you mean it differently- care to explain? |
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Post by lurkyloo on Jan 3, 2024 11:24:13 GMT -5
I found it fairly obnoxious as well. In keeping with my philosophy, I tend to walk away from opinions I disagree with rather than wasting energy arguing about something I find mildly distasteful yet unimportant. It’s my own small contribution to fighting climate change, mood/atmosphere edition And that is your right to find the article obnoxious. But do you also shoot the messenger for posting an article and who only said it was interesting? Bless your heart. |
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Post by lurkyloo on Jan 3, 2024 11:25:35 GMT -5
And that is your right to find the article obnoxious. But do you also shoot the messenger for posting an article and who only said it was interesting? The point is you do it every year. You couldn't leave it alone when someone didn't like your article. Women don't need resolutions to rein in their tempers. We've been doing that for a century. millennia. FTFY  |
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Post by lurkyloo on Jan 3, 2024 11:29:47 GMT -5
Lurky swamp. We all know what we “should” do. Especially for moms in a sandwich generation situation, the shoulds pile up fast and the energy doesn’t keep up. I just spent a week and a half and five days of PTO making sure everyone else was taken care of and had a magical Christmas. giramomma has me dead to rights-I’m happy to throw money around (including to these worthy change the world causes thankyouverymuch) but commitments have to be rationed and prioritized because I have nothing left in the tank at the end of the day as it is. I no longer want to be gira or MPL when I grow up, I just want to be a well funded lump on the couch for a while. Motivation is where you find it. If it takes a new year’s resolution to remind you to put your own oxygen mask on, so be it and get the f***er on before you asphyxiate. FWIW, MPL and I still have our lump on the couch days. I just don't talk about it as much here. Because it's not as interesting, to me. Aside from a few hours of interview prep, I knitted, stitched, and crocheted and DH and I went out to eat and watched 3 episodes of the Morning Show. I’ve binged so much Greys Anatomy over the past week that I’m ready to do my first solo lap chole and am mentally correcting the actors’ pronunciation |
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Post by azucena on Jan 3, 2024 11:39:28 GMT -5
FWIW, MPL and I still have our lump on the couch days. I just don't talk about it as much here. Because it's not as interesting, to me. Aside from a few hours of interview prep, I knitted, stitched, and crocheted and DH and I went out to eat and watched 3 episodes of the Morning Show. I’ve binged so much Greys Anatomy over the past week that I’m ready to do my first solo lap chole and am mentally correcting the actors’ pronunciation Did you also decide who to sleep with next? |
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Post by Tennesseer on Jan 3, 2024 11:51:51 GMT -5
Please point out my comments about resolutions from every past year on these boards. My time though to wait for your detailed reply is limited. TYIA. You're right Tenn - I'm not going to go through 12+ years of posts and maybe it's only the last 2 years that you are so exuberant to dismiss those that like resolutions. But the point still stands. It's why - when I hadn't seen Chloe's thread - I started a resolution thread I felt the need to start it with a disclaimer. It's one thing to chime in and say you don't do resolutions. Or if you had shared the article as something you were personally considering. But as far as I can tell you have *at least* 2 years of poo-poo'ing resolutions for no reason and ignored every post that posters have tried to explain their why to you. It reads as very condescending. So if you mean it differently- care to explain? So you are prone to gross exageration or out right lying about other posters. Got it. And bless your heart too. Seriously- all this over an article I said was interesting and never said was true. Only interesting. I do see most of you really needing some new year resolutions. But they are not what you think you need to implement. |
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 3, 2024 12:02:07 GMT -5
You're right Tenn - I'm not going to go through 12+ years of posts and maybe it's only the last 2 years that you are so exuberant to dismiss those that like resolutions. But the point still stands. It's why - when I hadn't seen Chloe's thread - I started a resolution thread I felt the need to start it with a disclaimer. It's one thing to chime in and say you don't do resolutions. Or if you had shared the article as something you were personally considering. But as far as I can tell you have *at least* 2 years of poo-poo'ing resolutions for no reason and ignored every post that posters have tried to explain their why to you. It reads as very condescending. So if you mean it differently- care to explain? So you are prone to gross exageration or out right lying about other posters. Got it. And bless your heart too. Seriously- all this over an article I said was interesting and never said was true. Only interesting. I do see most of you really needing some new year resolutions. But they are not what you think you need to implement. Really impressive reply. Says a lot. |
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