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Post by nikiz628 on Apr 25, 2024 12:57:34 GMT -5
Hi everyone! I have been gone and am two pages behind. I wanted to stop in with a quick hello. Same. Things move quickly around here.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 25, 2024 15:29:05 GMT -5
I looked all over the booster seat, never did find a date. I brushed and dusted it off and put it beside the road, it was gone pretty quickly along with the other stuff. If one person is getting all this, they are going to be cluttered, LOL!
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Post by moneysquirrel on Apr 25, 2024 17:13:56 GMT -5
I'm home. What an amazing experience -- inspiring, emotional and spiritual.
Arrived home late Tuesday night. Wednesday was unpacking, laundry and not much else. Every flat surface in the bedroom is still covered with items and I hope to tackle them later tonight or tomorrow. I also need to get to the grocery as the fridge is bare. Had enough in the freezer/pantry to eat for a few days but tomorrow I have to go to the store as I am out of all the basics.
Will check in when I can -- need to get a few things done. Hoping that the swelling in the feet goes away soon. It happens almost every time I travel so not a new experience. I figure it should be ok in a few days.
Til later.
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Post by NastyWoman on Apr 25, 2024 17:18:19 GMT -5
My guestroom is slowly re-emerging. Yesterday I got rid of a few more bags (think shopping bags) of craft materials. Today my many, many photo albums are moving back into place and...once again I am kicking the can down the road. I got divorced just a few months shy of 31 years of marriage. So that was a large chunk of my life and as a result I never felt the need to destroy all photos of my ex. With this purge some scrapbooks related to that long ago wedding have ended up in recycling. However, there is a photo album that was gifted to us. No expensive photographer for us. We were barely out of college. The photos are glued into the album (pertinent detail). I really have no problem letting go of the photos of "us". However, there are also many photos of loved ones. Nice photos, happy photos, 50 year old photos come December. Many of these loved ones have since passed on. I can't remove those photos from the album, and I bring myself to throw out the album yet. So back on the shelf it went. This may be an album my kids will have to deal with as the can rolls slowly out of sight after the kick I gave it.
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Post by debthaven on Apr 25, 2024 17:50:19 GMT -5
NastyWoman I had a similar issue with my wedding album with my ex. Imagine my surprise when my two older boys both wanted it! I'd leave it for your sons. If they get rid of it one day, so be it. You can get rid of other Stuff instead, and leave that to them. Welcome back moneysquirrel ! So happy you had a great trip!
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Post by debthaven on Apr 25, 2024 18:00:46 GMT -5
Kill me now... I agreed to do a class at Job 1 next fall. It's 2h/week, but no written marking. I want to keep my staff/faculty students, so it's better for me to be at school one day/week. Last fall I did 3h/week at Job 1, and 3h/week Job 2, both classes with marking. So this is easier. My goal has always been to cut down each semester. I've already told both jobs that I WON'T do next spring semester. And I mean it.
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Post by jerseygirl on Apr 25, 2024 18:08:33 GMT -5
I was ‘gifted’ with about 20 dolls. Half were Madam Alexander dolls When I was a girl I was wanting a Madam Alexander doll so much! Neighbor girl had about 20 . Closest I got was going to Marshall Fields department store in Chicago at Christmas. The dolls were on display, so pretty
So I’m giving the MA dolls gradually to my little DGD. She loves them!! The others are by designer. Will put these on eBay and see if any interest. I see that they sell on ebay I was successful selling vinyl records. Now I’ll see if I can declutter these dolls
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Post by NastyWoman on Apr 25, 2024 18:18:18 GMT -5
NastyWoman I had a similar issue with my wedding album with my ex. Imagine my surprise when my two older boys both wanted it! I'd leave it for your sons. If they get rid of it one day, so be it. You can get rid of other Stuff instead, and leave that to them. Welcome back moneysquirrel ! So happy you had a great trip! Unless things change drastically I can not see DS1 wanting that album. DS2 would possibly like to have it. They can do whatever they like and no conflict would be a good thing so I am hanging on for now
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 25, 2024 18:36:57 GMT -5
You know me. I would at least want them scanned and have the scans in the hands of the family historians. There are people looking for the people in your photos.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 25, 2024 20:41:28 GMT -5
Kitties are going to miss sleeping with me. Smoke cuddles up at night, but back to their room they will be going tomorrow night.
I am going to try and go to bed earlier tonight, I did take a nap. But if I stay in bed too long my hips and back start killing me.
Going to eat some soup and fix DD a snack.
Yes, I bought something. Temu had the cutest earrings, most $.89 or $1.89. I got several colors and they look like little flowers set in acrylic. They don't look cheap but they sure are. Likely the same stuff sold in Walmart or the discount places. But I am being careful not to add things when I'm decluttering, I am very proud of me, so far!!
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Post by jerseygirl on Apr 26, 2024 8:44:14 GMT -5
No problem selling DSons vinyl records. Disliked the music! The dolls are darling! But we have so much stuff. If my kids have to clear out then these darling dolls will be thrown out or to Goodwill Rather they go to a collector who will enjoy
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 26, 2024 9:39:08 GMT -5
I found out my Beatles collection took so much work to list it and it didn't sell for enough to make it worthy my time to list, sell, package up, etc. I stopped except for high dollar items.
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Post by nikiz628 on Apr 26, 2024 10:09:17 GMT -5
I feel like the only thing I've been decluttering lately is my bank account.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Apr 26, 2024 11:04:05 GMT -5
haapai , we're on this year's thread.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Apr 26, 2024 11:08:08 GMT -5
I am trying to give myself credit for little things instead of my normal "all or nothing" / "anything less than perfection is failure" attitude.
So, I needed a new mid-weight jacket. I found one. I put the one it's replacing in the donation pile! I am not saving it for "just in case". Someone else might be able to use it now.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Apr 26, 2024 12:25:45 GMT -5
I feel like the only thing I've been decluttering lately is my bank account. You and me both! It has been a wild and unsettling ride for me in finance land the past few weeks. My checking went negative twice, and I had to borrow small sums of money once from DD and once from DS to get positive for the day so I didn't get a charge. Talk about feeling like a loser. I really screwed myself over delaying 2 weeks to finish up the big RI project and bill it. The invoice says payment is due to me on the 30, and if I don't get it I wont have the money for my mortgage and other first week of the month bills. Now - it is due the 30th, so fine, supposedly! But my other client has been fantastic with payment for 3 years and then one project I didn't get paid on time. I gave 2 extra days and contacted the person I send invoices to and she got it resolved quickly. So things happen! Just by accident, and needing this payment for the mortgage is killing me right now with stress. The smaller client uses ACH, but while I suggested that to the big client they never replied and I didn't push it. I have always marvelled at the load of mail I get all the time, and the past 2 weeks as I am checking the mail box multiple times per day untie delivery - I have never had less mail. Many days nothing. Once the mail carrier stomped up my porch but when I rushed to check the box was empty. Made me suspicious! So with needing the check so desperately - I am worried they forgot to process it, I'm worried it got lost in the mail, I'm worried someone stole it from the mail, and then it will be weeks/months to resolve it! Meanwhile - loads of extra money are on their way! Project from smaller client money is due in a few weeks, they had a small follow up I will bill for 1-2 hundred need to look at the time spent. My bonus and pay raise coming in June.... And none of it will help me pay the mortgage on May 1st! and then then student loans May 5th....
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Post by nikiz628 on Apr 26, 2024 12:46:23 GMT -5
I feel like the only thing I've been decluttering lately is my bank account. You and me both! It has been a wild and unsettling ride for me in finance land the past few weeks. My checking went negative twice, and I had to borrow small sums of money once from DD and once from DS to get positive for the day so I didn't get a charge. Talk about feeling like a loser. I really screwed myself over delaying 2 weeks to finish up the big RI project and bill it. The invoice says payment is due to me on the 30, and if I don't get it I wont have the money for my mortgage and other first week of the month bills. Now - it is due the 30th, so fine, supposedly! But my other client has been fantastic with payment for 3 years and then one project I didn't get paid on time. I gave 2 extra days and contacted the person I send invoices to and she got it resolved quickly. So things happen! Just by accident, and needing this payment for the mortgage is killing me right now with stress. The smaller client uses ACH, but while I suggested that to the big client they never replied and I didn't push it. I have always marvelled at the load of mail I get all the time, and the past 2 weeks as I am checking the mail box multiple times per day untie delivery - I have never had less mail. Many days nothing. Once the mail carrier stomped up my porch but when I rushed to check the box was empty. Made me suspicious! So with needing the check so desperately - I am worried they forgot to process it, I'm worried it got lost in the mail, I'm worried someone stole it from the mail, and then it will be weeks/months to resolve it! Meanwhile - loads of extra money are on their way! Project from smaller client money is due in a few weeks, they had a small follow up I will bill for 1-2 hundred need to look at the time spent. My bonus and pay raise coming in June.... And none of it will help me pay the mortgage on May 1st! and then then student loans May 5th.... I am so crossing my fingers that ANY of those payments due to you arrive in time. I know exactly how you feel. My H billed a customer a couple weeks ago for a side job he's been working on since Oct/Nov...we're talking like $12,000 in money due to my H. I've been religiously stalking the mailbox too. Getting this check won't just help us breathe, it will help us SOAR. It's much needed right now. I am actually in the middle of balancing my checkbook and paying bills right now. More bills left than money at the moment so I am in "find money" mode. I know that check is coming, the guy is so good to my H. But I am afraid he's just waiting until he sees my H in person again to give it to him. No need, bud, slap a stamp on it and send it over.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 26, 2024 12:46:39 GMT -5
I dropped off another big pile of clean fabric to the free shop. I'm not sure I realized how much I really have. I also have 2 pattern cabinets, they are full of patterns and everything needed for sewing.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Apr 26, 2024 13:02:25 GMT -5
Given my financial situation, I went ahead with billing them 200. Given my only-in-Rukh's-head current pricing - it should have been 350. These rates I set in 2019 and haven't raised them, and have been trying to gear myself up to increase pricing the past 2, maybe 3 years! Under my upgraded circa 2022 ideas, would have been 415. Now given all the inflation, etc. I think it should have 485..but maybe at the end of this year I will put together new price lists.
Honestly - I would have been very likely to let it slide and not bill at all!
Been very worried about losing this client as they have been doing fewer projects me....so my hesitation on raising rates. But I think I need to do it for 2025.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Apr 26, 2024 13:25:07 GMT -5
You and me both! It has been a wild and unsettling ride for me in finance land the past few weeks. My checking went negative twice, and I had to borrow small sums of money once from DD and once from DS to get positive for the day so I didn't get a charge. Talk about feeling like a loser. I really screwed myself over delaying 2 weeks to finish up the big RI project and bill it. The invoice says payment is due to me on the 30, and if I don't get it I wont have the money for my mortgage and other first week of the month bills. Now - it is due the 30th, so fine, supposedly! But my other client has been fantastic with payment for 3 years and then one project I didn't get paid on time. I gave 2 extra days and contacted the person I send invoices to and she got it resolved quickly. So things happen! Just by accident, and needing this payment for the mortgage is killing me right now with stress. The smaller client uses ACH, but while I suggested that to the big client they never replied and I didn't push it. I have always marvelled at the load of mail I get all the time, and the past 2 weeks as I am checking the mail box multiple times per day untie delivery - I have never had less mail. Many days nothing. Once the mail carrier stomped up my porch but when I rushed to check the box was empty. Made me suspicious! So with needing the check so desperately - I am worried they forgot to process it, I'm worried it got lost in the mail, I'm worried someone stole it from the mail, and then it will be weeks/months to resolve it! Meanwhile - loads of extra money are on their way! Project from smaller client money is due in a few weeks, they had a small follow up I will bill for 1-2 hundred need to look at the time spent. My bonus and pay raise coming in June.... And none of it will help me pay the mortgage on May 1st! and then then student loans May 5th.... I am so crossing my fingers that ANY of those payments due to you arrive in time. I know exactly how you feel. My H billed a customer a couple weeks ago for a side job he's been working on since Oct/Nov...we're talking like $12,000 in money due to my H. I've been religiously stalking the mailbox too. Getting this check won't just help us breathe, it will help us SOAR. It's much needed right now. I am actually in the middle of balancing my checkbook and paying bills right now. More bills left than money at the moment so I am in "find money" mode. I know that check is coming, the guy is so good to my H. But I am afraid he's just waiting until he sees my H in person again to give it to him. No need, bud, slap a stamp on it and send it over. We are sisters in mail delivery hopes and stress! Unfortunately - I am way too far behind on everything to soar after this check arrives, but I will be able to breath a whole lot better!! And i still don't know if I owe any taxes, lol! One reason I stopped bugging the tax person is because if I owe, I can't pay it. So if I am introuble there, then a lot of my breathing room will get siphoned away.. But feeling like everything is on hold until this comes in.....
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Apr 26, 2024 13:29:51 GMT -5
For your case nikiz628, could your H call him and say - hey, I'll be in the neighborhood and could swing by to pick up?
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 26, 2024 13:41:37 GMT -5
That was another issue on the rentals with everything going up we were going to have to increase rents. I realize if they rerent a place they will pay more, but sometimes a long time renter seems to not welcome it. Could not continue that way and make a decent profit. I know we will really miss the money but I don't want to be like some of the old landlords that were to old to care for their properties and let them decline. So I know it was the right thing to do, but still, we will miss the income, we already do.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 26, 2024 14:21:15 GMT -5
We are sisters in mail delivery hopes and stress! Unfortunately - I am way too far behind on everything to soar after this check arrives, but I will be able to breath a whole lot better!! And i still don't know if I owe any taxes, lol! One reason I stopped bugging the tax person is because if I owe, I can't pay it. So if I am introuble there, then a lot of my breathing room will get siphoned away.. But feeling like everything is on hold until this comes in..... The sooner you file the tax return, the better off you are, even if you can't pay the taxes. And you might have a refund. You want to get the statute of limitations started.
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Post by jerseygirl on Apr 26, 2024 15:14:40 GMT -5
For those waiting for mail Suggest you sign up for USPS Informed delivery
It sends photos of your mail being delivered that day I like it in bad weather, no need to go to mail box in the rain or ice
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Post by haapai on Apr 26, 2024 15:51:11 GMT -5
haapai , we're on this year's thread. Yes! This is where I belong.
My goal this year is to get my laptop and all of the associated mail and clutter off of the kitchen table and back into my bedroom.
To do that I need to clear out considerable space in my bedroom, especially on the desk there. It is currently covered with unfinished knitting projects, laundry, and another pile of paper. Getting those put away or disposed of would give me space for my laptop but it would still be a tight fit and not the most useful space. I also need to clear up the bedroom bookshelf to give myself a bit of space to put paper aside.
I don't know how to post pix (and I'm not sure that I'd want to even if I knew how) but the bookshelf in question is about nine inches deep, two and a half feet wide and four feet tall and almost every available inch within that space has been packed with something made out of paper. Nothing more can fit in and I'm nervous about removing anything because it is unclear how I would get it back onto the shelf.
I don't know if my stories are helping anyone currently posting on this thread. There may be some folks lurking that have let things go as much as I have. I hope to encourage those folks but common sense pretty much tells me that they probably aren't following a de-cluttering thread. As for the rest of you, I rather doubt that the things that I am describing are doing you much good. Maybe you'll be able to tell yourselves that you
haven't let things go as badly as I have. I know that downward comparisons definitely make folks feel better but I'm rather uncertain as to which emotions are being tinged. Maybe you'll just giggle because I'm where you once were and you didn't dare tell anyone that you were ever there.
I want to be encouraging and make people feel better but I don't want to trigger the emotions of fear or disgust while making people feel momentarily better.
Luckily, every other day, I've been able to tackle piles of paper, the vast majority of which can be disposed of without a whole lot of thought. Paper stacks pretty compactly, so it takes a long time to go through it even if 80% is getting binned. I'm not clearing up a whole lot of physical space but I am clearing up a whole lot of mind-space. It feels lovely to pitch something and know that I'm never going to have to handle or make decisions regarding that piece of paper again.
I know that the decisions that I will eventually have to make regarding clothing and everything else, including a whole lot of things that once cost a lot of money are going to be much harder, but right now I am just giddy about the little bits of space opening up.
ETA: I give zero you-know-whats about not donating anything so far. I'm concentrating on getting rid of trash and finding plenty. Sending the stuff that I'm on the fence about to my local Goodwill organization and forcing them to make the decision that it is junk just does not feel right.
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Post by startsmart on Apr 26, 2024 16:03:32 GMT -5
If you spare some good juju think of my little town. We have 2 tornados heading this way and a few minutes away. Dog and I are in the closet and safe for now, praying they’ll shift north to less populated areas.
Watching the live weather and you do not want them to say your town’s name but here we are.
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Post by soupandstew on Apr 26, 2024 16:39:36 GMT -5
If you spare some good juju think of my little town. We have 2 tornados heading this way and a few minutes away. Dog and I are in the closet and safe for now, praying they’ll shift north to less populated areas. Watching the live weather and you do not want them to say your town’s name but here we are. Wherever you are, I'm thinking of you and your community. Please check in later and let us know how things are for you
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Apr 26, 2024 18:43:13 GMT -5
We are sisters in mail delivery hopes and stress! Unfortunately - I am way too far behind on everything to soar after this check arrives, but I will be able to breath a whole lot better!! And i still don't know if I owe any taxes, lol! One reason I stopped bugging the tax person is because if I owe, I can't pay it. So if I am introuble there, then a lot of my breathing room will get siphoned away.. But feeling like everything is on hold until this comes in..... The sooner you file the tax return, the better off you are, even if you can't pay the taxes. And you might have a refund. You want to get the statute of limitations started. what is the statute of limitations for taxes? Is that for when they are auditable?
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Apr 26, 2024 18:43:57 GMT -5
If you spare some good juju think of my little town. We have 2 tornados heading this way and a few minutes away. Dog and I are in the closet and safe for now, praying they’ll shift north to less populated areas. Watching the live weather and you do not want them to say your town’s name but here we are. good juju has been sent!
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