What to do in your 20s to avoid regrets later?

[daisylu]

Apr 26, 2023 7:02:19 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

I guess it depends on where you live. There's maybe 3 months of really good warm days to sit outside in the sun and enjoy here. It's already been nice and warm in April and now it's cold and rainy.

So yes while I was in Florida last weekend one of our days was a pool day. It was 45 and rainy at home so I don't consider that a waste. There's also no beach at home.

99% of our vacations are to beaches. Close enough to home, but far enough away that we can just relax. Most of our days are spent laying on the beach or swimming in the ocean. We pack up late afternoon, clean up and head out to dinner. We usually then just stroll the town and see the sights. 

We never eat or shop at chains on vacation.

[movingforward]

Apr 26, 2023 7:02:19 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

I guess it depends on where you live. There's maybe 3 months of really good warm days to sit outside in the sun and enjoy here. It's already been nice and warm in April and now it's cold and rainy.

So yes while I was in Florida last weekend one of our days was a pool day. It was 45 and rainy at home so I don't consider that a waste. There's also no beach at home.

That's understandable. When I travel for work and have some down time I will often sit by the pool and read. It is relaxing. It's hard for me to wrap my head around people that just sit  on the beach for 2 weeks though. I know everyone's idea of vacation is different so I'm not trying to dismiss anyone's idea of fun, it's just not for me. A few years ago I went to Hawaii with a group of 8 people. A good friend and her husband did almost nothing except sit on the beach and drink for 10 days straight. The rest of us went hiking in the rain forest, whale watching, seeing the sights, etc. It worked out and was fun for everyone. We would all meet up for dinner each night. I just thought if all they wanted was a beach they could have saved a whole lot of money and gone somewhere a lot cheaper. They have plenty of money though so maybe the expense didn't matter to them. Different strokes for different folks as well.

[laterbloomer]

Apr 26, 2023 6:30:30 GMT -5 movingforward said:

I have never understood that type of "travel" even when I was younger. I can lie in the sun and drink at home. I don't need to pay top dollar and do it somewhere else. Seeing and experiencing as much as possible is what I want to do when traveling.

You obviously don't live with winter lol

[laterbloomer]

Apr 26, 2023 9:34:51 GMT -5 movingforward said:

Apr 26, 2023 7:02:19 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

I guess it depends on where you live. There's maybe 3 months of really good warm days to sit outside in the sun and enjoy here. It's already been nice and warm in April and now it's cold and rainy.

So yes while I was in Florida last weekend one of our days was a pool day. It was 45 and rainy at home so I don't consider that a waste. There's also no beach at home.

That's understandable. When I travel for work and have some down time I will often sit by the pool and read. It is relaxing. It's hard for me to wrap my head around people that just sit  on the beach for 2 weeks though. I know everyone's idea of vacation is different so I'm not trying to dismiss anyone's idea of fun, it's just not for me. A few years ago I went to Hawaii with a group of 8 people. A good friend and her husband did almost nothing except sit on the beach and drink for 10 days straight. The rest of us went hiking in the rain forest, whale watching, seeing the sights, etc. It worked out and was fun for everyone. We would all meet up for dinner each night. I just thought if all they wanted was a beach they could have saved a whole lot of money and gone somewhere a lot cheaper. They have plenty of money though so maybe the expense didn't matter to them. Different strokes for different folks as well.

OK, even when searching for the sun I do something every other day.

[swamp]

Apr 26, 2023 6:30:30 GMT -5 movingforward said:

I have never understood that type of "travel" even when I was younger. I can lie in the sun and drink at home. I don't need to pay top dollar and do it somewhere else. Seeing and experiencing as much as possible is what I want to do when traveling.

I have 2 different kinds of travel. 

1.  Sit on my ass on the beach, shop, eat, maybe go to a museum, zoo, farmer's market, craft show, whatever.  
2.  Adventure.   

Which one I go on depends on my needs at the time.  

[swamp]

And to answer the original question: 

It's OK to be afraid, do it anyway.  

[movingforward]

Apr 26, 2023 10:32:22 GMT -5 swamp said:

And to answer the original question: 

It's OK to be afraid, do it anyway.  

I just turned 50 and I'm telling myself this. I have never done much traveling alone, except for work, but need to start. My BFF, that I travel with a lot, has really bad arthritis and international travel is starting to be out for her. Other friends don't have the money so I'm going to need to start doing some trips alone. I find that a little scary but I'm going to do it anyway. We are never too old to try and get out of our comfort zone.

[laterbloomer]

Apr 26, 2023 11:35:25 GMT -5 movingforward said:

Apr 26, 2023 10:32:22 GMT -5 swamp said:

And to answer the original question: 

It's OK to be afraid, do it anyway.  

I just turned 50 and I'm telling myself this. I have never done much traveling alone, except for work, but need to start. My BFF, that I travel with a lot, has really bad arthritis and international travel is starting to be out for her. Other friends don't have the money so I'm going to need to start doing some trips alone. I find that a little scary but I'm going to do it anyway. We are never too old to try and get out of our comfort zone.

Look for the group Solo In Style on FB. It's women over 50 that travel solo. Really inspiring and lots of good tips.

[movingforward]

Apr 26, 2023 11:45:21 GMT -5 laterbloomer said:

Apr 26, 2023 11:35:25 GMT -5 movingforward said:

I just turned 50 and I'm telling myself this. I have never done much traveling alone, except for work, but need to start. My BFF, that I travel with a lot, has really bad arthritis and international travel is starting to be out for her. Other friends don't have the money so I'm going to need to start doing some trips alone. I find that a little scary but I'm going to do it anyway. We are never too old to try and get out of our comfort zone.

Look for the group Solo In Style on FB. It's women over 50 that travel solo. Really inspiring and lots of good tips.

Thank you! Will do!

I'm thinking my first trip will probably be with a group tour of some sort, so alone but not really alone. South Africa is somewhere I really want to go but would not go completely solo so being part of a group tour seems like the way to go.

I have been to Ireland before and would love to go back for an extended amount of time (4-6 weeks). That would be a place I would feel comfortable traveling alone.

I also can see myself hopping on a cruises alone. Plenty of people to meet and can join up with excursions, but can get some alone time when I want it.

[TheOtherMe]

My first solo trips were group tours.  

Then I got brave enough to travel on my own.  Going to the UK is one big reunion because of all the people I have met from there and Scotland.  If I ever go overseas again, I would be comfortable going there again.

I am picky on roommates.  However, in 1990 I met a woman on a group tour to see Paul McCartney in Liverpool and London.  We have been roommates on Paul tours all over the US and the UK.  I would definitely room with her.  We know each other's quirks.

I'm fine with solo travel.  I prefer it to being with people I don't enjoy.

ETA:  I will never travel with my sister again.  Not after her refusing to pay half of the expenses of getting to Toronto.  I now know what she is capable of and will not be treated like that again.  If I am doing all of the driving, you can at least buy half of the gas.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Apr 26, 2023 6:30:30 GMT -5 movingforward said:

I have never understood that type of "travel" even when I was younger. I can lie in the sun and drink at home. I don't need to pay top dollar and do it somewhere else. Seeing and experiencing as much as possible is what I want to do when traveling.

I can't do beach vacations either.  I mean, a day here or there, but I get bored to tears beyond that.  Even when I go to destinations known for that like Puerto Rico or Hawaii I have to be out and about most of the time.

[TheOtherMe]

I really did not enjoy my vacation two years ago when I spent 5 days holed up in a hotel in pain because the Toddler gave me hand, foot and mouth disease.  That is not my idea of a vacation.  I had plans for the area and  did do one but only because it was outside and I wouldn't be exposing anybody.

I didn't plan on spending 5 days there.  After that, I didn't do what I had planned on the way home.  I just wanted to get home.

[tskeeter]

Apr 26, 2023 12:14:36 GMT -5 movingforward said:

Apr 26, 2023 11:45:21 GMT -5 laterbloomer said:

Look for the group Solo In Style on FB. It's women over 50 that travel solo. Really inspiring and lots of good tips.

Thank you! Will do!

I'm thinking my first trip will probably be with a group tour of some sort, so alone but not really alone. South Africa is somewhere I really want to go but would not go completely solo so being part of a group tour seems like the way to go.

I have been to Ireland before and would love to go back for an extended amount of time (4-6 weeks). That would be a place I would feel comfortable traveling alone.

I also can see myself hopping on a cruises alone. Plenty of people to meet and can join up with excursions, but can get some alone time when I want it.

Spent seven weeks in Ireland in 2018.  I’d do it again in a New York minute.

Stayed in a couple of Air B&Bs outside of Dublin.  Rented a manual transmission car to get around.  (Rental on a manual is about half the cost of an automatic.  I know how to drive a manual.  And I’m a bit ambidextrous, so shifting left handed wasn’t hard for me to learn.)

If you’re doing a fair amount of running back and forth to Dublin, etc., lodging within walking distance of a train station is really convenient.  At one of the locations we stayed, we took the bus in and out of Dublin.  The bus stop was only about three blocks from the B&B, but made several stops, so it wasn’t as fast as the train.

Since we’d been to Ireland before, we weren’t hitting the major tourist sites.  We used notations on maps, guides from the Irish tourist board, information from literature racks at places we were visiting, and even road side signs to plan our explorations.  This was a day by day process, with very limited advance planning.  (Think “what do you want to do tomorrow” over dinner and “did you see that sign?”).  As a result, we did and saw things beyond the normal tourist things.  Attended a theater performance by the local, all Ireland award winning, theater troupe.  Attended a traditional music festival and an Irish ceili (an Irish square dance using a traditional sequence of steps).  Took a pass on the professional bicycle race due to the cold and rain that day.  Explored castle and monastery ruins and manor houses galore.  Hung out and chatted with the staff of the bog center.  A real education on European bogs and an invitation to attend a performance of the band one of the staff was a member of.  More hanging out and chatting with the weaver at a woolen goods shop we stopped in to.  Stumbled across a traditional music session in a pub where we stopped for a beer after dinner.  Joining in on an “after wedding” celebration at a local bar/restaurant, as about 60 or so celebrants and other patrons sang along with the band’s rendition of Sweet Caroline.  Yes, we did hit some major tourist sites (Newgrange), but it wasn’t your Gran’s typical bus tour.  (We’re saving that for next year, when we take a troupe of a dozen or so family members on their first visit to Ireland).

[movingforward]

Apr 27, 2023 14:36:50 GMT -5 tskeeter said:

Apr 26, 2023 12:14:36 GMT -5 movingforward said:

Thank you! Will do!

I'm thinking my first trip will probably be with a group tour of some sort, so alone but not really alone. South Africa is somewhere I really want to go but would not go completely solo so being part of a group tour seems like the way to go.

I have been to Ireland before and would love to go back for an extended amount of time (4-6 weeks). That would be a place I would feel comfortable traveling alone.

I also can see myself hopping on a cruises alone. Plenty of people to meet and can join up with excursions, but can get some alone time when I want it.

Spent seven weeks in Ireland in 2018.  I’d do it again in a New York minute.

Stayed in a couple of Air B&Bs outside of Dublin.  Rented a manual transmission car to get around.  (Rental on a manual is about half the cost of an automatic.  I know how to drive a manual.  And I’m a bit ambidextrous, so shifting left handed wasn’t hard for me to learn.)

If you’re doing a fair amount of running back and forth to Dublin, etc., lodging within walking distance of a train station is really convenient.  At one of the locations we stayed, we took the bus in and out of Dublin.  The bus stop was only about three blocks from the B&B, but made several stops, so it wasn’t as fast as the train.

Since we’d been to Ireland before, we weren’t hitting the major tourist sites.  We used notations on maps, guides from the Irish tourist board, information from literature racks at places we were visiting, and even road side signs to plan our explorations.  This was a day by day process, with very limited advance planning.  (Think “what do you want to do tomorrow” over dinner and “did you see that sign?”).  As a result, we did and saw things beyond the normal tourist things.  Attended a theater performance by the local, all Ireland award winning, theater troupe.  Attended a traditional music festival and an Irish ceili (an Irish square dance using a traditional sequence of steps).  Took a pass on the professional bicycle race due to the cold and rain.  Explored castle and monastery ruins and manor houses galore.  Hung out and chatted with the staff of the bog center.  A real education on European bogs and an invitation to attend a performance of the band one of the staff was a member of.  More hanging out and chatting with the weaver at a woolen goods shop we stopped in to.  Stumbled across a traditional music session in a pub where we stopped for a beer after dinner.  Joining in on an “after wedding” celebration at a local bar/restaurant, as about 60 or so celebrants and other patrons sang along with the band’s rendition of Sweet Caroline.  Yes, we did hit some major tourist sites (Newgrange), but it wasn’t your Gran’s typical bus tour.  (We’re saving that for next year, when we take a troupe of a dozen or so family members of their first visit to Ireland).

That sounds amazing! My best friend and I went to Ireland back in 2014. We stayed in Dublin for 3 nights, then rented a car and drove to Galway where we spent 4 nights and then down to Shannon for 3 nights. We hit a lot of the sites like Cliffs of Moher, etc. and also had some days with no plans where we made it up as we went along. We didn't have time to make it south of Shannon. While in Dublin we took a tour up to Belfast (very interesting place!). Overall, it was one of the best trips I have ever taken. I have always said that I want to go back when I have more time. Ten nights was not long enough. Working a regular job makes it super hard to go anywhere for more than 2 weeks at a time. A month in Ireland will probably be one of the first things I do once I ditch working full time.

[Spellbound454]

I'd say

Take all your chances, and if it fails at least you have tried.
You don't want to get old and think "If only"

Make the right decisions based on the information you have available at the time.
and regret nothing.

[haapai]

When it comes to signing up for your first 401(k), just sign up and don't worry too much about optimizing or balancing your portfolio for now.  Getting used to not spending the money is far more important than what you invest it in. 

So just plunk what you can afford into your plan's version of the S&P 500.  That's usually the option with the lowest fees (besides money market funds).  You can always tweak it later but just starting (and never getting used to spending that amount) will put you ahead in the long run. 

Oh hell, you can probably plunk it into money market funds, or just set it on fire.  The really important part is not getting used to spending it. 

 

[zibazinski]

I would not have majored in education and I would have traveled overseas at least once a year.

[NastyWoman]

Hey Zib, how are you doing?

[tskeeter]

Apr 27, 2023 14:58:09 GMT -5 movingforward said:

Apr 27, 2023 14:36:50 GMT -5 tskeeter said:

Spent seven weeks in Ireland in 2018.  I’d do it again in a New York minute.

Stayed in a couple of Air B&Bs outside of Dublin.  Rented a manual transmission car to get around.  (Rental on a manual is about half the cost of an automatic.  I know how to drive a manual.  And I’m a bit ambidextrous, so shifting left handed wasn’t hard for me to learn.)

If you’re doing a fair amount of running back and forth to Dublin, etc., lodging within walking distance of a train station is really convenient.  At one of the locations we stayed, we took the bus in and out of Dublin.  The bus stop was only about three blocks from the B&B, but made several stops, so it wasn’t as fast as the train.

Since we’d been to Ireland before, we weren’t hitting the major tourist sites.  We used notations on maps, guides from the Irish tourist board, information from literature racks at places we were visiting, and even road side signs to plan our explorations.  This was a day by day process, with very limited advance planning.  (Think “what do you want to do tomorrow” over dinner and “did you see that sign?”).  As a result, we did and saw things beyond the normal tourist things.  Attended a theater performance by the local, all Ireland award winning, theater troupe.  Attended a traditional music festival and an Irish ceili (an Irish square dance using a traditional sequence of steps).  Took a pass on the professional bicycle race due to the cold and rain.  Explored castle and monastery ruins and manor houses galore.  Hung out and chatted with the staff of the bog center.  A real education on European bogs and an invitation to attend a performance of the band one of the staff was a member of.  More hanging out and chatting with the weaver at a woolen goods shop we stopped in to.  Stumbled across a traditional music session in a pub where we stopped for a beer after dinner.  Joining in on an “after wedding” celebration at a local bar/restaurant, as about 60 or so celebrants and other patrons sang along with the band’s rendition of Sweet Caroline.  Yes, we did hit some major tourist sites (Newgrange), but it wasn’t your Gran’s typical bus tour.  (We’re saving that for next year, when we take a troupe of a dozen or so family members of their first visit to Ireland).

That sounds amazing! My best friend and I went to Ireland back in 2014. We stayed in Dublin for 3 nights, then rented a car and drove to Galway where we spent 4 nights and then down to Shannon for 3 nights. We hit a lot of the sites like Cliffs of Moher, etc. and also had some days with no plans where we made it up as we went along. We didn't have time to make it south of Shannon. While in Dublin we took a tour up to Belfast (very interesting place!). Overall, it was one of the best trips I have ever taken. I have always said that I want to go back when I have more time. Ten nights was not long enough. Working a regular job makes it super hard to go anywhere for more than 2 weeks at a time. A month in Ireland will probably be one of the first things I do once I ditch working full time.

Your thoughts about an extended post retirement trip are exactly what we did.  Left for Ireland about a week after DW’s last day.  (My way of providing DW an incentive to actually retire.  She delayed for a couple of years after I called it quits.  Then, after she told her employer she was retiring, they asked her to stay through year end, then year end reporting, then a special project.  Having a firm commitment for extended travel was the stake in the ground that made her retirement actually happen.)

One of the things I enjoy about Ireland is how welcoming the residents are.  When DW asked an older fellow if she could pat the dog he was walking, she and my Dad ended up with a short history lesson on that section of the Antrim coast.  Or the small town attorney who interrupted his day to chat about DW’s family history (the attorney’s father had handled the estate of a cousin).  And the genealogy expert who spent time with us several different days and who volunteered to guide us to several graveyards and helped us find the graves of DW’s great, great grandparents.  When we attended the theater performance, the box office manager made a point to introduce us to a long time member of their troupe for a chat about the history of their dramatic society.  A dapper older gent, it was a bit like having a conversation with Peter O’Toole.  Then there was the couple at the pub, who offered to let us park in their driveway so MIL wouldn’t have to walk too far to get to the bus stop.  And the cab driver who thought it was hilarious that we were taking MIL to jail (Kilmainham Gaol).  Seeing the sites was fun, but the memories of the people we met are the real treasure.

[tallguy]

Apr 28, 2023 13:55:52 GMT -5 tskeeter said:

Apr 27, 2023 14:58:09 GMT -5 movingforward said:

That sounds amazing! My best friend and I went to Ireland back in 2014. We stayed in Dublin for 3 nights, then rented a car and drove to Galway where we spent 4 nights and then down to Shannon for 3 nights. We hit a lot of the sites like Cliffs of Moher, etc. and also had some days with no plans where we made it up as we went along. We didn't have time to make it south of Shannon. While in Dublin we took a tour up to Belfast (very interesting place!). Overall, it was one of the best trips I have ever taken. I have always said that I want to go back when I have more time. Ten nights was not long enough. Working a regular job makes it super hard to go anywhere for more than 2 weeks at a time. A month in Ireland will probably be one of the first things I do once I ditch working full time.

Your thoughts about an extended post retirement trip are exactly what we did.  Left for Ireland about a week after DW’s last day.  (My way of providing DW an incentive to actually retire.  She delayed for a couple of years after I called it quits.  Then, after she told her employer she was retiring, they asked her to stay through year end, then year end reporting, then a special project.  Having a firm commitment for extended travel was the stake in the ground that made her retirement actually happen.)

One of the things I enjoy about Ireland is how welcoming the residents are.  When DW asked an older fellow if she could pat the dog he was walking, she and my Dad ended up with a short history lesson on that section of the Antrim coast.  Or the small town attorney who interrupted his day to chat about DW’s family history (the attorney’s father had handled the estate of a cousin).  When we attended the theater performance, the box office manager made a point to introduce us to a long time member of their troupe for a chat about the history of their dramatic society.  A dapper older gent, it was a bit like having a conversation with Peter O’Toole.  Then there was the couple at the pub, who offered to let us park in their driveway so MIL wouldn’t have to walk too far to get to the bus stop.  And the cab driver who thought it was hilarious that we were taking MIL to jail (Kilmainham Gaol).  Seeing the sites was fun, but the memories of the people we met are the real treasure.

My GF did several weeks in Ireland with a friend last year.  Loved it, and especially the people.  

[countrygirl2]

I loved Ireland was there 2 weeks. Went on an OATS tour, limited to 16 people, had a great time. Loved the country.It has a sad history though.

[countrygirl2]

Get a good education and select your partner wisely. Hard to do, but try.

It will smooth the path for you and yours.

And start saving something for your old age.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Apr 26, 2023 9:34:51 GMT -5 movingforward said:

Apr 26, 2023 7:02:19 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

I guess it depends on where you live. There's maybe 3 months of really good warm days to sit outside in the sun and enjoy here. It's already been nice and warm in April and now it's cold and rainy.

So yes while I was in Florida last weekend one of our days was a pool day. It was 45 and rainy at home so I don't consider that a waste. There's also no beach at home.

That's understandable. When I travel for work and have some down time I will often sit by the pool and read. It is relaxing. It's hard for me to wrap my head around people that just sit  on the beach for 2 weeks though. I know everyone's idea of vacation is different so I'm not trying to dismiss anyone's idea of fun, it's just not for me. A few years ago I went to Hawaii with a group of 8 people. A good friend and her husband did almost nothing except sit on the beach and drink for 10 days straight. The rest of us went hiking in the rain forest, whale watching, seeing the sights, etc. It worked out and was fun for everyone. We would all meet up for dinner each night. I just thought if all they wanted was a beach they could have saved a whole lot of money and gone somewhere a lot cheaper. They have plenty of money though so maybe the expense didn't matter to them. Different strokes for different folks as well.

Sometimes, sitting on a beach doing nothing is a perfect way to de stress from life.  When TD dives, this is pretty much what I do as I can’t dive.  
It’s not always about the money.  They did what they wanted to do, you did what you wanted to do.  

[zibazinski]

Apr 27, 2023 16:45:13 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

I would not have majored in education and I would have traveled overseas at least once a year.

Much better. I sold my house and moved to an over 55 building so it’s quiet which I like. I’m going to Scotland and England in August. I’m president of the volunteers at the hospital and very busy with that. I’ve been venturing into the dating scene. So far-yuck. Very clear why these men are single. My son got married and I gave them a reception. Her mother did absolutely nothing, didn’t even show up. I thought my mother sucked but her mother wins the prize for being a pos. My daughter is still busy but not swamped now that covid has calmed down. She’s making more money than most doctors so she’s not about to go to medical school and take a pay cut or lose her income. I converted to Judaism so I can be buried with my late husband. We’ve had a long and marvelous spring which I’ll try to remember when summer comes. Whew! That’s a lot.

[skeeter]

May 7, 2023 19:34:35 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Apr 27, 2023 16:45:13 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

I would not have majored in education and I would have traveled overseas at least once a year.

Much better. I sold my house and moved to an over 55 building so it’s quiet which I like. I’m going to Scotland and England in August. I’m president of the volunteers at the hospital and very busy with that. I’ve been venturing into the dating scene. So far-yuck. Very clear why these men are single. My son got married and I gave them a reception. Her mother did absolutely nothing, didn’t even show up. I thought my mother sucked but her mother wins the prize for being a pos. My daughter is still busy but not swamped now that covid has calmed down. She’s making more money than most doctors so she’s not about to go to medical school and take a pay cut or lose her income. I converted to Judaism so I can be buried with my late husband. We’ve had a long and marvelous spring which I’ll try to remember when summer comes. Whew! That’s a lot.

Wish you would post more often Zib.  Have really missed you!

[azucena]

May 7, 2023 19:34:35 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Apr 27, 2023 16:45:13 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

I would not have majored in education and I would have traveled overseas at least once a year.

Much better. I sold my house and moved to an over 55 building so it’s quiet which I like. I’m going to Scotland and England in August. I’m president of the volunteers at the hospital and very busy with that. I’ve been venturing into the dating scene. So far-yuck. Very clear why these men are single. My son got married and I gave them a reception. Her mother did absolutely nothing, didn’t even show up. I thought my mother sucked but her mother wins the prize for being a pos. My daughter is still busy but not swamped now that covid has calmed down. She’s making more money than most doctors so she’s not about to go to medical school and take a pay cut or lose her income. I converted to Judaism so I can be buried with my late husband. We’ve had a long and marvelous spring which I’ll try to remember when summer comes. Whew! That’s a lot.

remind me what kind of work does your daughter do? interested in careers lately as DD14 is talking about them.

[seriousthistime]

Apr 20, 2023 8:17:08 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Apr 19, 2023 16:13:28 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Don't get laid where you get paid. It's pretty high up on my list of rules to live by.

I love this. Usually I just tell the kids don't shit where you eat.

Don't get your meat where you get your bread.

[Opti]

May 8, 2023 9:48:26 GMT -5 skeeter said:

May 7, 2023 19:34:35 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Much better. I sold my house and moved to an over 55 building so it’s quiet which I like. I’m going to Scotland and England in August. I’m president of the volunteers at the hospital and very busy with that. I’ve been venturing into the dating scene. So far-yuck. Very clear why these men are single. My son got married and I gave them a reception. Her mother did absolutely nothing, didn’t even show up. I thought my mother sucked but her mother wins the prize for being a pos. My daughter is still busy but not swamped now that covid has calmed down. She’s making more money than most doctors so she’s not about to go to medical school and take a pay cut or lose her income. I converted to Judaism so I can be buried with my late husband. We’ve had a long and marvelous spring which I’ll try to remember when summer comes. Whew! That’s a lot.

Wish you would post more often Zib.  Have really missed you!

How many volunteers are you coordinating now?

[giramomma]

May 8, 2023 11:28:05 GMT -5 seriousthistime said:

Apr 20, 2023 8:17:08 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I love this. Usually I just tell the kids don't shit where you eat.

Don't get your meat where you get your bread.

Oh, I needed that laugh.

[zibazinski]

May 8, 2023 9:48:26 GMT -5 skeeter said:

May 7, 2023 19:34:35 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Much better. I sold my house and moved to an over 55 building so it’s quiet which I like. I’m going to Scotland and England in August. I’m president of the volunteers at the hospital and very busy with that. I’ve been venturing into the dating scene. So far-yuck. Very clear why these men are single. My son got married and I gave them a reception. Her mother did absolutely nothing, didn’t even show up. I thought my mother sucked but her mother wins the prize for being a pos. My daughter is still busy but not swamped now that covid has calmed down. She’s making more money than most doctors so she’s not about to go to medical school and take a pay cut or lose her income. I converted to Judaism so I can be buried with my late husband. We’ve had a long and marvelous spring which I’ll try to remember when summer comes. Whew! That’s a lot.

Wish you would post more often Zib.  Have really missed you!

Thank you. I found I was getting depressed and angry when I was involved too much. But I’m smarter about it now.