The Bridezilla of All Bridezillas?

[Artemis Windsong]

I'm wondering what kind of wedding two mimes have.

I would not attend a winter wedding where no coats were allowed.

[happyhoix]

Dec 13, 2022 17:02:13 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

I am thinking off season pricing is the reason DN3 is getting married in mid March.  At least it's indoors at a facility I know will be heated.

The place where DN1 got married was outdoors and they only book weddings for the warmer months.  However, only the bride and groom are protected in case of rain.

I went to one of those. Wedding was outside, guests were supposed to pass through a room with a big table with food, then go out the back, down a flight of stairs to a huge deck overlooking a beautiful valley. No shelter except for a small overhang over the drinks table and over the DJ and his equipment. Beautiful hot summer day until the bottom fell out and we had one of those hot southern 20 minute downpours that soaks everything and then moves off quickly, leaving everything steaming like the Amazon. It started just as the guests were coming through the buffet area, and everyone refused to go outside, causing a sweaty jam up around the buffet table as people tried to juggle plates and not get squished.

Happy to say that was 20 years ago and the wedding was a huge success, though. And they have a great story to tell their kids.

[thyme4change]

My niece just announced her wedding will be the Sunday before Thanksgiving in Massachusetts. I am pretty sure it is all indoors, but I still want to buy a nice coat like Kate Middleton wears. I want to look all classy and shit. Unfortunately, buying winter coats in Phoenix is rough.

I did go to Nordstroms last weekend and got 2 coats that aren’t what I want for the wedding, both on sale - 110 bucks - not bad!

[Tennesseer]

Dec 30, 2022 22:32:40 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

My niece just announced her wedding will be the Sunday before Thanksgiving in Massachusetts. I am pretty sure it is all indoors, but I still want to buy a nice coat like Kate Middleton wears. I want to look all classy and shit. Unfortunately, buying winter coats in Phoenix is rough.

I did go to Nordstroms last weekend and got 2 coats that aren’t what I want for the wedding, both on sale - 110 bucks - not bad!

Massachusetts born and raised boy here. Do bring a heavy winter coat. There can be snow on the ground that time of year.

[daisylu]

Dec 30, 2022 22:32:40 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

My niece just announced her wedding will be the Sunday before Thanksgiving in Massachusetts. I am pretty sure it is all indoors, but I still want to buy a nice coat like Kate Middleton wears. I want to look all classy and shit. Unfortunately, buying winter coats in Phoenix is rough.

I did go to Nordstroms last weekend and got 2 coats that aren’t what I want for the wedding, both on sale - 110 bucks - not bad!

🤣

[Deleted]

Dec 9, 2022 11:20:38 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

That one I'd tell the bride go F herself and that's the end of that friendship.  Who the F has an outdoor wedding in New England in WINTER?

Even if she allowed me a coat screw that shit.  I HATE winter, loathe it.  It's clear I'm just an accessory to enhance your delusional vision of a perfect wedding day.  Anyone who won't take my or anyone else's well being into account all for the sake of a perfect wedding is not someone I want to be friends with. 

Those were my thoughts exactly.  I saw way too many posts on theknot.com when I was planning my wedding that were made by brides obsessed with "MY Day", "MY girls" (bridesmaids), etc.  Sometimes the groom seemed like an incidental accessory.  And I could not imagine planning all or part of a wedding outdoors without a plan if the weather was less than perfect.  My nephew married a young woman who was a social media influencer wannabe and the wedding was held at a venue in Charleston, SC at the #1 venue there according to Martha Stewart.  The ceremony and the dancing afterwards were outdoors.  She had a biology degree but was unemployed and hasn't worked since so the cost was borne by her parents and my nephew.  Her Dad went into debt to finance the production and asked my brother if he'd foot the bill if a tent became necessary.  (He would have, but the weather was perfect.)

Dec 9, 2022 20:44:53 GMT -5 happyhoix said:

Sure - imagine some Victorian type dresses, red plaid skirts, boots, short jackets with mutton sleeves, black fake fur muffs instead of flower bouquet - there’s lots of creative and beautiful outfits they could wear.

But what would those outfits have cost? And please don't tell me they could wear them again and no one would ever guess they were bridesmaids' dresses.

[thyme4change]

Jan 2, 2023 20:24:45 GMT -5 @athena53 said:

Dec 9, 2022 11:20:38 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

That one I'd tell the bride go F herself and that's the end of that friendship.  Who the F has an outdoor wedding in New England in WINTER?

Even if she allowed me a coat screw that shit.  I HATE winter, loathe it.  It's clear I'm just an accessory to enhance your delusional vision of a perfect wedding day.  Anyone who won't take my or anyone else's well being into account all for the sake of a perfect wedding is not someone I want to be friends with. 

Those were my thoughts exactly.  I saw way too many posts on theknot.com when I was planning my wedding that were made by brides obsessed with "MY Day", "MY girls" (bridesmaids), etc.  Sometimes the groom seemed like an incidental accessory.  And I could not imagine planning all or part of a wedding outdoors without a plan if the weather was less than perfect.  My nephew married a young woman who was a social media influencer wannabe and the wedding was held at a venue in Charleston, SC at the #1 venue there according to Martha Stewart.  The ceremony and the dancing afterwards were outdoors.  She had a biology degree but was unemployed and hasn't worked since so the cost was borne by her parents and my nephew.  Her Dad went into debt to finance the production and asked my brother if he'd foot the bill if a tent became necessary.  (He would have, but the weather was perfect.)

Dec 9, 2022 20:44:53 GMT -5 happyhoix said:

Sure - imagine some Victorian type dresses, red plaid skirts, boots, short jackets with mutton sleeves, black fake fur muffs instead of flower bouquet - there’s lots of creative and beautiful outfits they could wear.

But what would those outfits have cost? And please don't tell me they could wear them again and no one would ever guess they were bridesmaids' dresses.

If they got cute coats, they should be able to wear them again. I don’t think ‘bridesmaids coats’ are a recognizable thing.

[Deleted]

Jan 2, 2023 22:03:26 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

If they got cute coats, they should be able to wear them again. I don’t think ‘bridesmaids coats’ are a recognizable thing.

Agreed on the coats but some of the items in your example (Victorian type dresses, red plaid skirts, black fake fur muffs) probably won't be worn again. Muffs are for Victorian ladies who have someone to carry their packages and drive their carriages!

I'm not a fan of matchy-matchy bridesmaids in single-use dresses. Bridesmaids come in all shapes and sizes and they're occasionally pregnant. It can get horrendously expensive if you add in shoes, whatever headpieces are in vogue, etc.
My sister was my only attendant in both of my weddings and I told her to wear what she wanted. She looked perfectly nice. If I'd had a larger wedding I might have asked them all to wear the same color and length but choose their own dress/gown.

[thyme4change]

Jan 3, 2023 9:17:47 GMT -5 @athena53 said:

Jan 2, 2023 22:03:26 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

If they got cute coats, they should be able to wear them again. I don’t think ‘bridesmaids coats’ are a recognizable thing.

Agreed on the coats but some of the items in your example (Victorian type dresses, red plaid skirts, black fake fur muffs) probably won't be worn again. Muffs are for Victorian ladies who have someone to carry their packages and drive their carriages!

I'm not a fan of matchy-matchy bridesmaids in single-use dresses. Bridesmaids come in all shapes and sizes and they're occasionally pregnant. It can get horrendously expensive if you add in shoes, whatever headpieces are in vogue, etc.
My sister was my only attendant in both of my weddings and I told her to wear what she wanted. She looked perfectly nice. If I'd had a larger wedding I might have asked them all to wear the same color and length but choose their own dress/gown.

That wasn’t my post - but for sure. I was just thinking they could buy coordinated coats and different shoes. But, if you knew from the beginning it was going to be cold - why pick a light dress and sandals? My wedding was in November, in Phoenix and inside and I still put my girls in a kinda wintery dress and closed toe shoes.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jan 3, 2023 9:17:47 GMT -5 @athena53 said:

Jan 2, 2023 22:03:26 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

If they got cute coats, they should be able to wear them again. I don’t think ‘bridesmaids coats’ are a recognizable thing.

Agreed on the coats but some of the items in your example (Victorian type dresses, red plaid skirts, black fake fur muffs) probably won't be worn again. Muffs are for Victorian ladies who have someone to carry their packages and drive their carriages!

I'm not a fan of matchy-matchy bridesmaids in single-use dresses. Bridesmaids come in all shapes and sizes and they're occasionally pregnant. It can get horrendously expensive if you add in shoes, whatever headpieces are in vogue, etc.
My sister was my only attendant in both of my weddings and I told her to wear what she wanted. She looked perfectly nice. If I'd had a larger wedding I might have asked them all to wear the same color and length but choose their own dress/gown.

Eh my BFF had a medieval wedding that required a certain look.  Definitely not stuff I have ever worn again BUT she kept the price reasonable enough I didn't mind cooperating.   

Or the bride could purchase items like the muffs herself if having a winter wonderland wedding is that important to her.

OR she could have had it indoors so she could have the dress she wanted.  OR she could just allow people to wear coats and accept that when you have a winter wedding you aren't getting the outdoor pictures you would in warmer weather.  If she wants pictures without coats that bad arrange a time to do them indoors.

There are lots of ways she could have compromised but chose not to.  To me that shows what kind of person/friend the bride really is.  I'm not a person I am an accessory to her special day.   I get horrible nerve pain after COVID if I get cold enough the moment she had a tantrum about open toed shoes in winter I'd be out.

[happyhoix]

Jan 2, 2023 20:24:45 GMT -5 @athena53 said:

Dec 9, 2022 11:20:38 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

That one I'd tell the bride go F herself and that's the end of that friendship.  Who the F has an outdoor wedding in New England in WINTER?

Even if she allowed me a coat screw that shit.  I HATE winter, loathe it.  It's clear I'm just an accessory to enhance your delusional vision of a perfect wedding day.  Anyone who won't take my or anyone else's well being into account all for the sake of a perfect wedding is not someone I want to be friends with. 

Those were my thoughts exactly.  I saw way too many posts on theknot.com when I was planning my wedding that were made by brides obsessed with "MY Day", "MY girls" (bridesmaids), etc.  Sometimes the groom seemed like an incidental accessory.  And I could not imagine planning all or part of a wedding outdoors without a plan if the weather was less than perfect.  My nephew married a young woman who was a social media influencer wannabe and the wedding was held at a venue in Charleston, SC at the #1 venue there according to Martha Stewart.  The ceremony and the dancing afterwards were outdoors.  She had a biology degree but was unemployed and hasn't worked since so the cost was borne by her parents and my nephew.  Her Dad went into debt to finance the production and asked my brother if he'd foot the bill if a tent became necessary.  (He would have, but the weather was perfect.)

Dec 9, 2022 20:44:53 GMT -5 happyhoix said:

Sure - imagine some Victorian type dresses, red plaid skirts, boots, short jackets with mutton sleeves, black fake fur muffs instead of flower bouquet - there’s lots of creative and beautiful outfits they could wear.

But what would those outfits have cost? And please don't tell me they could wear them again and no one would ever guess they were bridesmaids' dresses.

I was thinking of my wedding and my sisters wedding- we made our bridesmaids dresses, wasn’t that expensive. My point was more that you could take an attractive outer coat, add a long skirt that could hide long johns and warm shoes and still have an attractive wedding party that would be so much happier that they aren’t freezing, if you really want a winter wedding.

Speaking of bridezillas, I saw an article about a bride who canceled her wedding because not enough people were willing to pay the 1600 per person’entrance fee’ she was charging, and another who was so frazzled at trying to plan her own wedding she quit her job to devote herself to it full time, but was angry her DF was refusing to get a second job to help pay for the 80,000 wedding that she had ‘always wanted.’

Hope that guy saw the giant red flag and bailed.

[Opti]

I saw that $1600 entrance fee one. Crazy. Most folks want to celebrate your wedding not finance an extravagant dream wedding.

[happyhoix]

I never got the ‘I always wanted this so all y’all need to give me money to make it happen’ idea.

I feel like everyone on this thread needs to get together to buy me a pony….

[billisonboard]

How about a prorated refund guarantee zeroed out at the couple's 50 year anniversary?

[Deleted]

Oh Lord, won't you buy me a Mercedes Benz?
My friends all drive Porsches, I must make amends
Worked hard all my lifetime, no help from my friends
So, oh, Lord, won't you buy me a Mercedes Benz?

Oh Lord, won't you buy me a color TV?
Dialing For Dollars is trying to find me
I wait for delivery each day until three
So, oh, Lord, won't you buy me a color TV?

Oh, Lord, won't you buy me a night on the town?
I'm counting on you Lord, please don't let me down
Prove that you love me and buy the next round
Oh, Lord, won't you buy me a night on the town?

Maybe the bride grew up with this as background noise

[finnime]

soupandstew