OT - missed thank-you notes

[Sam_2.0]

When DH and I got married, we had our wedding here in MO. About six months later we had a reception in MM where he grew up for all the friends and family there.

For our shower, and the wedding, I did all the thank-you notes within a week of each event. I hate forgetting things, and knew if I put it off I wouldn't get back around to them. When we got back from MM, I had the notes all ready to go. DH helped write most of them, and then I gave them to him to finish (he had to get some of the addresses, and then just drop them in the mail).

Flash forward to this week. I am cleaning out stuff to declutter and get ready to love, and I found the stack of notes!!!!!!! He never sent them out. I am so embarrassed, and he thinks its no big deal. It's been well over a year since the reception. Do I send them off now?

[Sam_2.0]

*NM.

[Deleted]

Yes, late is better than never!

[Deleted]

You are one of them!


LOL

[bluecluessubtlety]

Sam, what did you decide?

FWIW, I would send them late. Your friends will get them and say, great, she isn't an ungrateful wench; just forgetful.

[Deleted]

Blues.... you must be bored.

[Sam_2.0]

You are one of them!


LOL

What do you mean, Archie?

Blues - I will send them out. So embarrassed by the whole situation though!! But lesson learned - just make sure they get sent out next time & dont give them to DH!

[bluecluessubtlety]

I am bored. And wondering why you're on WIR.

I agree Sam. But better to be embarassed and well thought of for getting them out eventually, than to have someone harbor some resentment they don't verbalize over you never thanking them.

[Deleted]

Apr 4, 2011 13:30:51 GMT -5 bluecluessubtlety said:

I am bored. And wondering why you're on WIR.

I use the New Topics button to see the newest posts across all boards. I do't even look at what forum they are on. I don't go onto individual forums very often.

[bluecluessubtlety]

Apr 4, 2011 13:32:52 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Apr 4, 2011 13:30:51 GMT -5 bluecluessubtlety said:

I am bored. And wondering why you're on WIR.

I use the New Topics button to see the newest posts across all boards. I do't even look at what forum they are on. I don't go onto individual forums very often.

Or you're exploring your feminine side. It's ok.

Go argue with me in the other place. I'm bored.

[kjsh]

sam - I discovered this with a stack of thank you notes for gifts received after the baby was born. Unfortunately one of the 2-3month late notes is to my aunt who is very much into etiquette and mail. At least for this I can blame it on baby brain.

[suziq38]

Yes.
Also, if you have email addresses, take a picture of the cards, and send it to them.
They will understand and get a good laugh as well.

[debtheaven]

Sam you should DEFINITELY send them ASAP, as is.

I would also be honest on email or FB with those people you are in close touch with. I'd make the effort to call some others (maybe people from the older generation) on the phone. Again, be honest and explain what happened.

I am a firm believer in honesty generally being the best policy. So l'd laugh it off, but also apologize, and tell them the truth: you have learned your lesson and you won't be entrusting your DH to send out any more "thank yous" anytime soon.

Because that is the truth, right? You certainly don't want to be reposting here in a six months or a year about how you found the thank yous for the baby gifts. I'm sure you'll want to mail those out yourself. But that's another reason you need to send the wedding thank yous out sooner rather than later, ie yesterday.

Hugs! No harm done, but IMO it's always better to be both honest and proactive.

[Sam_2.0]

I would also be honest on email or FB with those people you are in close touch with. I'd make the effort to call some others (maybe people from the older generation) on the phone. Again, be honest and explain what happened.

If only I actually knew any of these people....most of them I have only seen on that one day when they showed up to the reception. I was thinking of attaching a small note to them before sending out, apologizing for the delay & explaining the situation. Hopefully that will work!

[seriousthistime]

Some people are very attached to waiting for the thank-you note. I am not one of those people. If I were to get your thank-you note now, I would think, huh, must be a duplicate because I must've gotten one a year ago. Or I'd think it got lost in the mail.

But I am probably not typical. I have relatives who practically hang out at the mailbox waiting for thank-you notes. So, go ahead and send them now, and put the word out about what happened. It will eventually filter back to all the important people why the notes were late.

[Clever Username]

I say mail them.
I'd add a quick note to the back of the envelope too. Something to the effect of:

"For better or worse" in action. I love Hank today as much today as I loved him the day I wrote this note.
Despite his recently acknowledged phobia of mailboxes.

FYI - I think postage went up since then, make sure you check your stamps

[bluecluessubtlety]

Apr 5, 2011 11:29:20 GMT -5 Clever Username said:

I say mail them.
I'd add a quick note to the back of the envelope too. Something to the effect of:

"For better or worse" in action. I love Hank today as much today as I loved him the day I wrote this note.
Despite his recently acknowledged phobia of mailboxes.

FYI - I think postage went up since then, make sure you check your stamps

Haha. Love that.

[mizbear]

Take a pic of the stack of cards, photoshop it to labels or little label size pics and stick it in every one of them! With clever's quote!

And so great coming from a guy!