imawino
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Post by imawino on Jun 21, 2017 15:58:23 GMT -5
It means get over yourself and put on something red or shut up about it. And if the comment was directed at my post, it means that time on planet won't get you over your body image issues. You have to work to overcome them. I don't know if that means counseling in your case, taking the baby steps like Tennesseer suggests, or just getting over it like andi9899 says. I love this post. Although I also sort of feel like you're telling me I need to haul my ass to the gym after work today. Jerk.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 21, 2017 15:58:49 GMT -5
We just got a Ross less than an hour ago. I've never been. I will say that some people love Ross, Marshalls, TJ Maxx, etc. because they enjoy spending hours raking through racks to find bargains. That's not me! When I go to Ross, I look for the section that says dresses, find my size on the rack and just work my way down. By the time I've finished with my section I usually have a few to try on and then buy the ones that fit. I'm in and out in 30 minutes! Now, if you love to browse and search I'm sure you could spend all day . I'm one of those that loves shopping and could spend all day in these stores. I've found some pretty good deals too.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 21, 2017 16:05:38 GMT -5
naughtybear , why did this response set you off? It brings up a perfectly valid point: if you want to wear dresses in other colors you need to understand WHY you can't bring yourself to do so. Andy doesn't wear yellow because of her skin tones. I don't wear khaki colors because I look like death warmed over when I do. So what is standing in the way of you trying/wearing other colors? A little bit of self reflection can be a good thing you know... x a billion I wore a mustache for much of my adult life. When I retired I grew a goatee. I always wore metallic-framed glasses. I was also going gray. At age sixty-two, My hair was gray, my mustache was gray, my beard was gray, and in the winter my face looked gray and the glasses did nothing to brighten my face. So I shaved off the beard and mustache and got myself black framed glasses. Time to add a bit of drama to my no longer washed out looking face. I got compliments galore from friends and strangers the glasses looked great on me.
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Post by chiver78 on Jun 21, 2017 16:16:21 GMT -5
I wore a mustache for much of my adult life. When I retired I grew a goatee. I always wore metallic-framed glasses. I was also going gray. At age sixty-two, My hair was gray, my mustache was gray, my beard was gray, and in the winter my face looked gray and the glasses did nothing to brighten my face. So I shaved off the beard and mustache and got myself black framed glasses. Time to add a bit of drama to my no longer washed out looking face. I got compliments galore from friends and strangers the glasses looked great on me. I love your frames. at least if that's actually you in your FB pictures.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jun 21, 2017 16:20:04 GMT -5
Ross is hit or miss. I do fantastically at the Myrtle Beach ones. Some of my local ones well I don't even waste my time going in anymore.
I've had good luck lately with the last call section at Macy's getting good work and occasion dresses for under $50.
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Post by chiver78 on Jun 21, 2017 16:21:29 GMT -5
most of my work closet is black and white, patterns/heathered stitching and yarns. this summer, I'm pretty much rotating a handful of dresses that I wear to work with cardigans. I'm pretty much exactly in between sizes, and I'm sick of constantly pulling my jeans back up to where they belong when they sag off my ass.
the last time I wandered into Old Navy (because I'm not done losing weight, I dont' want to spend $$$$$ on clothes) and picked up another white cardigan, I also picked up one in a very bright fuschia. I have gotten so many compliments on that thing, when I wear it with any of the black and white options I already had. it just adds some pop. I'm not someone who is huge on accessories, just the basic pair of hoop earrings and my medical ID. so the pink is the focus point.
naughty - have you tried any LuLaRoe? you can pair a brightly colored/patterned top with a pair of black pants, or a solid colored top with some loud leggings. that might be a good starting point. I picked up some very loud leggings over the winter, to wear under the solid color dresses I'm wearing now this summer. I think that's probably what turned my mind into even considering the bright pink cardigan a few weeks back.
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Post by billisonboard on Jun 21, 2017 16:23:23 GMT -5
And if the comment was directed at my post, it means that time on planet won't get you over your body image issues. You have to work to overcome them. I don't know if that means counseling in your case, taking the baby steps like Tennesseer suggests, or just getting over it like andi9899 says. I love this post. Although I also sort of feel like you're telling me I need to haul my ass to the gym after work today. Jerk. I assure you I am not telling you to haul your ass anywhere. I am telling you that if, through the power of your free will, you don't make it to the gym, I don't want to hear you complaining about having more ass to haul there tomorrow than you have today.
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Post by milee on Jun 21, 2017 16:47:49 GMT -5
And if the comment was directed at my post, it means that time on planet won't get you over your body image issues. You have to work to overcome them. I don't know if that means counseling in your case, taking the baby steps like Tennesseer suggests, or just getting over it like andi9899 says. I love this post. Although I also sort of feel like you're telling me I need to haul my ass to the gym after work today. Jerk. Oh, wow. I had the exact opposite read on it. Guess I'm getting old because I read it as... your body is you. Don't hate you no matter what you look like. Be nice to you. Learn to love you... all of you. If the gym makes you feel good or helps you do something you need to do - go and do it. But don't go to the gym to punish yourself or try to turn yourself into something you're not. You're OK, be OK with you.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 21, 2017 16:51:31 GMT -5
I love this post. Although I also sort of feel like you're telling me I need to haul my ass to the gym after work today. Jerk. Oh, wow. I had the exact opposite read on it. Guess I'm getting old because I read it as... your body is you. Don't hate you no matter what you look like. Be nice to you. Learn to love you... all of you. If the gym makes you feel good or helps you do something you need to do - go and do it. But don't go to the gym to punish yourself or try to turn yourself into something you're not. You're OK, be OK with you. Exactly! Love your rolls!
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Post by Pants on Jun 21, 2017 16:53:49 GMT -5
I wear a lot of black. Not exclusively, but a lot. I also gravitate towards a fair amount of blue, green, gray, white and purple. I have very select pieces in other colors: a red dress, a yellow dress. Some red shoes. But those are fewer and further between.
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Post by tractor on Jun 21, 2017 16:53:56 GMT -5
I like to wear a black dress with pink pumps, but only on the weekends.. You better know how to walk in them. It's so sad watching a man clod hop down the street in his heels. All the guys at the club compliment me on my form, so I guess I'm doing ok 😘
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 21, 2017 17:07:32 GMT -5
I wore a mustache for much of my adult life. When I retired I grew a goatee. I always wore metallic-framed glasses. I was also going gray. At age sixty-two, My hair was gray, my mustache was gray, my beard was gray, and in the winter my face looked gray and the glasses did nothing to brighten my face. So I shaved off the beard and mustache and got myself black framed glasses. Time to add a bit of drama to my no longer washed out looking face. I got compliments galore from friends and strangers the glasses looked great on me. I love your frames. at least if that's actually you in your FB pictures. Could be me, though I prefer to remain an enigma.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 21, 2017 17:39:54 GMT -5
Oh, wow. I had the exact opposite read on it. Guess I'm getting old because I read it as... your body is you. Don't hate you no matter what you look like. Be nice to you. Learn to love you... all of you. If the gym makes you feel good or helps you do something you need to do - go and do it. But don't go to the gym to punish yourself or try to turn yourself into something you're not. You're OK, be OK with you. Exactly! Love your rolls! SSSHHHHHH woman!!! I have so many rolls that they may break out in roll-rivalry and then how will I shut them up? It's not like I can get away from them (no, I am not going to the gym  
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Post by swamp on Jun 21, 2017 18:37:09 GMT -5
I like color
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Post by swamp on Jun 21, 2017 18:39:18 GMT -5
If you really need a babystep, see if you can find a dress in navy--supposed to be way more flattering for most skin tones. The only problem is, what color of shoes do you go with? I have burgundy shoes I wear with blue dresses. I also have hot hot pink and neon green if I'm feeling funky. And leopard print too
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Post by quince on Jun 21, 2017 18:47:15 GMT -5
I wore black all the time in high school. Counselors were concerned because for some reason that means depressed/issues? It was because we had red dirt and black doesn't stain. I kept it up in college because it was what I had and was easy. Now that I'm old and fat I wear whatever the fuck I want. Bright yellow, red, coral, pink. Generally jeans or black bottoms. Being the critter dressed all in black is just as noticeable as being the critter in bright plumage. I do have to make an effort to steer myself toward colors. I tend to actually pick greens/browns/beige if left to my own devices. The color does less for improving how a thing looks on me than the cut. I pick clothing that is flattering and fits. Not too tight (though YMMV on what too tight is) and not baggy and loose. At some point I realized that wearing baggy clothes to hide being fat just makes you look fatter. Wear what the fuck you want. People who will judge you for being fat (or whatever your body issue is) aren't going to hold back just because you aren't dressed colorfully. If you like the way you look in black and think you look best that way, wear that.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Jun 21, 2017 20:12:30 GMT -5
I usually wear black but that's mostly because I buy t-shirts with skulls on them and black is the default color for those. I don't do pink in any variation if I can help it. I do have a short pink spring trench that still fits from my 5-second girly phase but that's about it. Yellow makes me look like I have jaundice and orange, no and I despise green. I last wore green for my sister's wedding (1999), it was NOT flattering. I should have colored my hair orange but didn't think of it until after the wedding. I limit wearing white as I have 2 cats with dark fur, I shed like a bitch and I'm a slob. It's a pain getting food stains out of white. Black hides it oh so well. That said, I have started working out, no gym, in my home office, and am aiming for maybe a nice red dress to wear to my niece's wedding in December. We shall see. And no, there will be no skulls on the dress. I do know where I can get fabric though....hmmm...
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2017 21:05:15 GMT -5
I looove black. And grey. Occasionally a green or deep purple or blue.
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Post by msventoux on Jun 21, 2017 21:27:31 GMT -5
I tend to wear darker colors. If I wasn't a disaster waiting to happen I would wear lighter colors. My last pair of khakis had a stain from a melted chocolate chip that fell off a granola bar. And anytime I wear white the copier or printer at work has a meltdown and I end up having to rip their guts out to get them unjammed and working again...which means toner everywhere.
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Post by teen persuasion on Jun 22, 2017 23:03:43 GMT -5
I consider red a neutral, I have a dozen red sweaters. So I have lots of black and gray and tan to wear with my red sweaters.
I can't wear pastels, I'm way too pale and they just wash me out. In addition to red I tend towards bright colors - electric blue, deep purple, etc., or towards burgundy or charcoal gray. Until recently I didn't have much green, and especially didn't like blue-green mixes like turquoise or teal. But as my hair color has shifted lighter from brunette to more salt and pepper gray, I've gotten complements when I wear a teal sweater, so I'm reconsidering "my" colors. I hate pink with a passion, but my mom loves it and gave me a pink blouse - ok, it's really a shocking fuscia tone, so I can actually put it on without freaking out.
I agree with those who have said fit and style is more important to flattering your body than just color. Try some new things that you'd never usually wear - you don't know how they'll look until you do. If they don't flatter you, don't buy them, try something else. Gifts have gotten me to try things I wouldn't have tried otherwise, like the teal sweater or fuscia blouse. I was a little surprised when DS4 gave me a skinny knit skirt for Xmas, but it works on me better than I expected.
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Post by mamasita99 on Jun 23, 2017 5:11:23 GMT -5
I wear more navy blue or gray instead of black. My closet has shades of pinks, blues, teals. I get lots of compliments with the bright blues and teals, brings out my blue eyes I'm told I don't do accessories, just more crap to take off if there is a crisis with one of the students. The dress code consists of comfortable clothes that don't show too much cleavage, that can easily be washed. This is why I shop for nice brands from the thrift store
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Post by giramomma on Jun 25, 2017 12:55:07 GMT -5
I thought of naughtybear today. I just got back from a celebration at a Hindu temple. Many women were in traditional outfits, which include bare midriffs. There was a critical mass of women, beautifully dressed with bare midriffs that were clearly obese. I was not noticing their weight, to be honest. And neither was anyone else.
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Post by swamp on Jun 25, 2017 13:01:30 GMT -5
I went through a period where my whole wardrobe was basically black, gray, navy overly dumpy clothes. I wasn't happy with myself and you could see it in my clothes.
It's so much more uplifting to wear color. Not that I look like Mimi from Drew Carey, but a colorful top with neutral pants or skirt with funky shoes makes you feel so much better. And yeah, I'm chunky. So what? I am what I am and fuck you if you think I should hide.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jun 25, 2017 14:29:10 GMT -5
I went through a period where my whole wardrobe was basically black, gray, navy overly dumpy clothes. I wasn't happy with myself and you could see it in my clothes.
It's so much more uplifting to wear color. Not that I look like Mimi from Drew Carey, but a colorful top with neutral pants or skirt with funky shoes makes you feel so much better. And yeah, I'm chunky. So what? I am what I am and fuck you if you think I should hide.
At the Mimi comment, and a To the rest of post.
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