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Post by naughtybear on Jun 21, 2017 8:23:16 GMT -5
Sometimes I wish I could get over myself and buy a lovely red dress, or any other color beside black.
Anyone else here is ONLY a black dress wearer?
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 21, 2017 8:26:06 GMT -5
I wear black dresses. And red dresses, and pink dresses, and so on. If you want to wear a red dress, wear a red dress.
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Post by naughtybear on Jun 21, 2017 8:31:33 GMT -5
I want too but can't do it.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 21, 2017 8:37:51 GMT -5
Start slow: black with red accessories. Then gradually wear more red (or any other color you want).
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Post by naughtybear on Jun 21, 2017 8:47:13 GMT -5
I really just thought at my age I would be so much more secure about my body image but alas two more black dresses ordered.
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Post by billisonboard on Jun 21, 2017 8:53:23 GMT -5
I really just thought at my age I would be so much more secure about my body image ... Like I tell kids, just hanging out at school doesn't get you educated. You have to do the work.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 21, 2017 8:59:07 GMT -5
I want too but can't do it. You can. You just choose not to. I don't wear yellow. Why? Because I have yellow undertones in my skin and it makes me look yellow. I can wear it, I just choose not to.
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Post by naughtybear on Jun 21, 2017 8:59:14 GMT -5
Not sure what that is supposed to mean but ok.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 21, 2017 8:59:36 GMT -5
Is there really a point to this thread?
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 21, 2017 9:00:14 GMT -5
Not sure what that is supposed to mean but ok. It means get over yourself and put on something red or shut up about it.
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Post by naughtybear on Jun 21, 2017 9:13:58 GMT -5
Not sure there are points to some threads on here Andi, why are you being such an ass? I am making a conversational post. Feel free to STFU if you have nothing nice to say and obviously you don't.
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Post by billisonboard on Jun 21, 2017 9:14:01 GMT -5
Not sure what that is supposed to mean but ok. It means get over yourself and put on something red or shut up about it. And if the comment was directed at my post, it means that time on planet won't get you over your body image issues. You have to work to overcome them. I don't know if that means counseling in your case, taking the baby steps like Tennesseer suggests, or just getting over it like andi9899 says.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 21, 2017 9:19:09 GMT -5
Not sure there are points to some threads on here Andi, why are you being such an ass? I am making a conversational post. Feel free to STFU if you have nothing nice to say and obviously you don't. No you're not. You start meaningless threads pretending to ask for advice and when people give it to you, you say that's not what you were asking for. Either that or you say that's not what you said. Why start them at all? And no one gives a flying fuck what color your clothes are. So feel free to STFU as well because nobody cares.
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Post by suesinfl on Jun 21, 2017 9:28:18 GMT -5
Not sure there are points to some threads on here Andi, why are you being such an ass? I am making a conversational post. Feel free to STFU if you have nothing nice to say and obviously you don't. Well, I guess it like what I tell my kids. You ask a stupid/silly question, the chances are very great that you will receive a stupid/silly answer.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jun 21, 2017 9:31:14 GMT -5
95% of clothes I leave the house in are black or blue jeans. I can actually list on 1 hand the pieces that are outside of that. I have 1 hot pink cotton blazer-ish piece that I get a lot of compliments on when I wear it, which has always been the case when I wear pinks or reds. I'm not sure if its because its so rare, or if I actually look better in those. I don't own many clothes and wear them until they really are worn out. Keeping the color scheme and style simple makes it less obvious that I am rotating through the same 7 work shirts for 2-3 years. I don't make time to put outfits together and doubt I ever will. I was thinking this weekend it would be nice to have a summer dress for weekends out, so I may try to get a nice dark blue something that would work for that. I have wanted red mary-janes for years now. I really should just do it, at least this fall.
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Post by Ava on Jun 21, 2017 9:39:04 GMT -5
I wear a lot of black simply because it's easy to combine with other colors and it looks elegant. I generally wear black pants with a colorful top. I like black but I don't want to look sombre.
Believe me, my body type is not ideal but I am learning to love, accept and forgive myself. When I meet new people, I notice that those that give me the head to toe judgemental look are always women. I don't care anymore what people think about my body. I have also decided I won't be one of those women who judge others' physical appearance.
I am planning on buying several fun and colorful shoes in the near future.
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Post by Tiny on Jun 21, 2017 9:43:58 GMT -5
I wear black all the time - but I also always wear something red at the same time. Started the habit in HS when someone criticized my "black wardrobe". Hey, even if you can't see it - I'm wearing red. If there was a color darker than black I would wear that.
OK, that said. I decided to branch out color wise years ago... and it was hard. The suggestion to start wearing accessories in different colors (or maybe just a top or bottom in a different color (or pattern) is helpful. You need to get use to seeing yourself in the mirror in other color combinations.
I've been told red is a flattering color for me - as is "royal blue" or "sapphire blue" and dark greens. My favorite color is yellow but it's really hard to find a variation of yellow that looks ok on me. I try pairing those colors with black to change up what I wear.
FWIW: I had a few weeks convalescing at home and I bought an old fashion "house coat" like my mom wore in the 60's/70's... in a gosh awful pale blue plaid. Because I thought it might be more comfy to wear if PJs were too uncomfy. I finally, in desperation, wore it... and OMG! it was so comfy! and awesome. I was really wishing I could find something like it that was a little more Black. Or just more Goth (maybe with some little skeletons with pink bows or something... ) I'm kind of horrified by the whole experience - the awful color AND the fact that I was wearing an old fashion "house coat". (But it was comfy)
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Post by giramomma on Jun 21, 2017 9:49:43 GMT -5
Most of my dress clothes are black. It's also concert dress for musicians, and I usually wear black pants for church. Like raeoflyte (mabye?) I tend to wear at least some part of my outfit that's black. But I do the capsule thing so all my outfits are mix and match. Life is easy that way. Last year, I did go out of my comfort zone and I bought a short (knee length) dress that was white and had a blue Hawaiian print. Chaps from Kohls. It fits well, still, even though my middle is starting to get wonky these days. It wasn't the color that bothered me, but the shortness. I haven't worn anything knee length to work for at least 5-7 years. Now, I have two pieces. (A chap's jean skirt that I bought instead of khaki capri's for work.) I did buy a blue dress for BIL's wedding. But, I won't really have an occasion to wear that again.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jun 21, 2017 9:50:56 GMT -5
Start with some black with a pattern. Whatever pattern you like. Something that contrasts. Maybe a contrasting cuff or hem line. Obviously, black does hide some flaws but only if it fits correctly. As someone else said, add a bit of jewelry like a necklace or something. Mostly...don't stress on it. If you like black, wear black.
I don't wear much white. I don't hate white - I just think it's incredibly boring. Plus, the only time a spill coffee is when I wear my white capris. Dress for yourself. Wear what you feel comfortable in. If that is black...that's ok.
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Post by suesinfl on Jun 21, 2017 9:52:46 GMT -5
I bought the ones like that has snaps after my kids were born. It made things a lot easier. I wish I had one now, trying to use the restroom with a bad knee and on crutches it would make things easier.
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Post by chen35 on Jun 21, 2017 9:55:00 GMT -5
I don't think black (at least up by your face) is a flattering color for most skin tones. If you start wearing colorful tops, my guess is that you'll get a lot of compliments, which will help with insecurities a bit.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jun 21, 2017 10:02:14 GMT -5
Here's something I don't understand, naughty. Every single time you post a thread, someone comes in to take out their apparent anger issues on you. Every. Single. Time. It's usually a different person each time, but it's the same MO. My question is why you choose to respond to them and stomp off instead of responding to those of us who are actually trying to give you some suggestions for the issues you propose.
Your board life - your way to post. I just don't understand it. Lesson learned.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 21, 2017 10:05:00 GMT -5
I don't wear a lot of black it is too high contrast for me. If I do wear black it can't be the main focus of my outfit, it has to hitch a ride with more flattering colors.
I struggle with yellow. I love yellow but finding a tone that flatters my skin is hard. So instead of trying to find a piece of clothing in yellow I pick up accessories will yellow in them.
Shoes are a great place to put an unflattering color because the farther away from your face the color is the more forgiving it will be. This theory only applies to accessories, don't attempt to do pants in an unflattering color because that will achieve the opposite effect since the pants cover a larger portion of your body.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jun 21, 2017 10:13:14 GMT -5
What's the worse thing that can happen if you wear another color. Color police will show up, the earth will stop spinning on it's axis, sun won't rise In in that case stick to black. Then when you die your kids can bury you in flaming red and purple suit.
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Post by giramomma on Jun 21, 2017 10:15:55 GMT -5
FWIW, for me, color has little to do with body image. I find that the style/cut of the dress is far more important in that department.
I don't buy clothes online. I have to see them on me...because they all don't fit the same. I'm pretty shocked at how something looks oK on a hanger in a cut that will generally work on me, and yet, it doesn't fit well.
I suspect that also could be because I stick to lower quality items. Chaps is about as fancy is I get.
I think if I were to dress exclusively in Calvin Klein (designer I wore for bil's wedding)...or some other higher end label, I'd be more willing to wear clothes purchased online.
While I don't get bored with clothes easily, I would get bored wearing the same 8 work outfits for 10+ years buying higher quality clothing that never wears out. And I have a high tolerance for boredom.
As it is, I usually can get 2-4 years out of my dumb kohl's shirts..That's like 72 wearings. That's enough for me to get my money's worth of the of the clothes.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Jun 21, 2017 10:21:42 GMT -5
An xbf once said my closet looked like a rainbow. I don't wear much black, or earth tones either, but I wear a little bit of everything. Couldn't imagine head to toe black, though. I generally like to balance it out by going lighter on top or bottom.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 21, 2017 10:22:09 GMT -5
I used to have black coats, black shoes, black bags, etc. all the time. A couple of years ago I bought the CUTEST pair of Nine West red and white polka dot heels and haven't looked back since. I have flats in various colors and patterns now - red plaid, bright red with gold trim and grommets, electric blue, navy blue with polka dot bow. My current purse is bright orange, and one of my fall jackets is houndstooth.
Re: clothing... I do wear a decent amount of black (especially now that I'm slacking in the food department), but I wear plenty of colors too. I stay away from bright yellow and bright green. Other than that, I own and wear stuff in all colors.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 21, 2017 10:23:29 GMT -5
FWIW, for me, color has little to do with body image. I find that the style/cut of the dress is far more important in that department. I don't buy clothes online. I have to see them on me...because they all don't fit the same. I'm pretty shocked at how something looks oK on a hanger in a cut that will generally work on me, and yet, it doesn't fit well. I suspect that also could be because I stick to lower quality items. Chaps is about as fancy is I get. I think if I were to dress exclusively in Calvin Klein (designer I wore for bil's wedding)...or some other higher end label, I'd be more willing to wear clothes purchased online. While I don't get bored with clothes easily, I would get bored wearing the same 8 work outfits for 10+ years buying higher quality clothing that never wears out. And I have a high tolerance for boredom. As it is, I usually can get 2-4 years out of my dumb kohl's shirts..That's like 72 wearings. That's enough for me to get my money's worth of the of the clothes. let me just say that that quality of Calvin Klein clothing is not much better than the stuff you'd find in the typical clothing or department store. Believe me, I know.
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Post by dannylion on Jun 21, 2017 10:31:25 GMT -5
I wear mostly black with the occasional addition of another dark color like purple or dark green or blue. I have a lot (a LOT) of arty jewelry, big pins, earrings, rings, bracelets, etc., and wearing mostly black or another dark color makes it easier to accessorize with my fun jewelry, of which I always wear too much, but I don't care. I like it. And nothing matchy, matchy. My jewelry is generally color coordinated among the different pieces worn together, but never a matchy, matchy set. Ick. So, I see black as a suitable background for another form of self expression. Also, you never know when Ninja mode will be required, so it's best to be prepared.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jun 21, 2017 10:31:37 GMT -5
I wear a lot of black, hands down the majority color in my wardrobe. I also wear other colors, and I accessorize with colorful earrings and/or necklaces.
If I'm wearing color it's most likely green, some sort of dark red, some sort of purple, or mustard yellow. I do have a couple of orange dresses, recently discovered that's a good color on me!
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