On Becoming A Widow: Writer Amy Biancolli

[Tennesseer]

I came across the video on the internet and found it interesting. Amy Biancolli, former film critic and now a writer about the arts, describes her widowhood. The video is about 12 minutes long and compelling.

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Wow- parts of this made me cry.  The one thing I can tell you about grieving is that everyone does it differently but I always find something in common with others' stories. 

I'm still wearing my wedding rings (and DH's on a chain) 7 months later but I found her reasons for removing hers interesting.  It may help when I finally decide to remove mine.  I'm thinking maybe the one-year mark.

[Artemis Windsong]

I found the video very informative.  Our city has grief classes and on-going grief groups.  A close friend lost her H. suddenly, unexpected.  She was already a member of the group from her DD's passing 7 y.a.  Her big concern is finances being cut in half.

Someone took a photo of me holding her arm while we walked in the wind on uneven ground.  I regreted not having a coat to wrap her in.  All of us will get through our grieving but it is hurtful and long.

Shorten a long story of losses, I think I fell and broke my wrist because of too much loss in a short time.  I should have known my timing and balance would be off.

 

[sesfw]

Athena ....... after my Bill died I placed his ring with my rings.  His ring fit over the top of my wedding ring and the engagement ring was enough to hold everything together.  I kept wearing them, and finally took them off the day I married my present DH

Since then I had the gold melted down and made into two abstract pendents for the 2 g-dtrs.  I didn't EVER want anyone else to wear them as rings.  They are now in the cedar chest with a note ..... the girls can have them after I'm gone.

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Jun 25, 2017 15:41:00 GMT -5 sesfw said:

Athena ....... after my Bill died I placed his ring with my rings.  His ring fit over the top of my wedding ring and the engagement ring was enough to hold everything together. 

That's what I do now although it's a bit complicated since DH had two rings- the original, which was platinum, and a sterling silver replacement after he lost the first.  (He was losing weight and kept taking it off because he was afraid it would slip off unnoticed).  The second is meaningful because we bought it in Iceland, which we loved, and he wore it in his last days.  I found the original only a few months ago, in a baggie with a few spare pills of various types, a couple of pairs of nail clippers and other miscellany- one of many baggies DH would stick in his case when we traveled.  I was so happy I cried when I found it.

I might eventually have the platinum one cut in half and made into half-hoop earrings.  I did that with a diamond eternity band from my first marriage and was very happy with the results.  I'm going back to Iceland with some of DH's ashes, which I plan to throw off the bow of a whale-watching ship, and have considered throwing the silver ring in with it, but I'm not ready to let go of it- at least not yet.

[Blonde Granny]

As some may remember, I had my rings melted down and the  diamonds reset into an exquisite pendant. I still have DHs wedding ring and I wear it daily on my right hand.