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[naughtybear]

I am unable to process emotion right now and really just want to run away. Like REALLY. Do many of you get this feeling?

[OldCoyote]

When I feel overwhelmed, I sit down with a piece of paper, list the pros and cons of what choices I have.

I can see what needs to be done,  Sometimes It has been hard,

[NoNamePerson]

I did once and I moved to Austin, TX. My son said to me "if you are running away it won't work" 

He was right!   Long story 

ETA now I just say piss on it cause it will pass, but OldCoyote probably has the better way. 

[sesfw]

I've been in that spot a couple of times

I couldn't physically run away so I just had to tell myself to keep breathing one second at a time.

I've always been grateful the Bible says ........ 'And it came to pass'

The Bible has never said ............ 'and it came to stay'

Just remembering this has gotten me through a couple of really rough patches.

Good luck .......... and don't forget to breathe

[NancysSummerSip]

Running away isn't necessarily wrong, provided you have some idea of a path.

I am in the process now, as far as changing jobs is concerned. I will be going from full time/corporate to a variety of freelance/part-time gigs and pursuing a new career altogether. Just getting up and running like a brainless banshee won't fix anything.

You can run, and maybe even hide for awhile - but you still need general goals and plans and some focus. Eventually, you get tired of running and have to stop somewhere. It's always nice if the place you stop is a place you'd like to stay awhile - even if it isn't exactly to plan.

[Works4me]

For me, the problem with running away is everywhere I go there I am.

[Deleted]

In the final analysis, I have always been the "thing" I was trying to run away from.  I'm still working on the fix for that and right now I really want to do the "hide under a rock" thing so I just don't have to deal with folks.  But I can't so I'm just hanging in. Wish I had more for you.

[naughtybear]

I was able to spend the weekend trying to process. I may or may not have made one situation worse, that remains to be seen but it funnily enough did relieve some stress.

[Green Eyed Lady]

I wish I could help. I'd probably find out more about myself, too. However, I don't know what it means exactly to "process" emotions, so I can't help. Glad you seem to have figured out some of it over the weekend.

[sesfw]

((((((((((( NB ))))))))))))))) mega hugs my friend

[shanendoah]

I understand completely. Over that last 10 months, I cannot tell you how many times I have wanted to get in the car and just drive away. Or perhaps crawl under the blankets and just stay there.
But running or hiding from the problem won't solve the problem. It will still be there looming over me.
I have spent a lot of time these last 10 months just putting one foot in front of the other - not processing anything, not feeling anything, just being numb and doing what I need to do to not make things worse.
As I have said elsewhere, the best advice I have gotten, and something that has really worked for me, has been to give myself permission to breakdown. When things start getting truly overwhelming, I schedule a time to have a breakdown. I let the people around me know that's what's going on, and I just am as mad and sad and hurt and whatever I need to be for an evening or a day, and that really helps me then get back to the point that the next day, I can put one foot in front of the other again.

But it's been bad. In January, my BFF fell and broke her arm. And I was jealous, jealous because she got to have time off without it being a choice/her fault. And that sounded really nice, if I could just have a couple weeks where I couldn't keep certain commitments, and it wouldn't be my fault. And just earlier this week, I found myself thinking, as I was realizing that I needed to schedule my annual exam, that it would be kind of nice if I was diagnosed with cancer, because that situation would take some very difficult decisions I have in front of me and actually make them very clear cut, and once again, it wouldn't really be "my fault", it would be the circumstances dictating the choices.

Is this healthy? No. Absolutely not. But it is where I'm at, and I simply have to do my best to recognize the unhealthy thoughts and move past them.

But it sure would be nice not to have to make some of the decisions in front of me, or to have those decisions dictated by outside factors. 

[naughtybear]

Lots of love to Shane. Thanks to all for the support. I think I have been spoiled by being married so long and having him to depend on. Now I don't and all the usual emotions of friendship and kids and relationships I am having to deal with and process by myself since the divorce. While married I shared that emotion, now I have to own it.