Lizard Queen
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Post by Lizard Queen on Mar 28, 2017 9:44:57 GMT -5
My DB was saying how nice DN is, and provided me this example. Nephew's team recently won medals for hockey, and one of the kids' medals broke off the ribbon. DN switched medals with the kid, saying his "aunt" can fix it.
This "aunt" is my mother's helper is also a professional seamstress. DB is always bringing over random things to get repaired. (Does not pay her. May brings her some fish, along with others, 2 times/year.)
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Post by mmhmm on Mar 28, 2017 10:05:07 GMT -5
Sounds to me like DN is trying to be kind but isn't thinking it through completely. If he does bring it to your mother's helper, I'd suggest you let DN know he'll be required to reward her in some way for her kindness.
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Post by Tennesseer on Mar 28, 2017 10:09:59 GMT -5
My dad was a dentist and what my dental insurance didn't cover, my dad provided for free. This included the work performed by his hygienists who cleaned my teeth. Dad told me to tip (well) the hygienists.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 28, 2017 10:11:08 GMT -5
It took me three times to read OP before I understood what happened
How old is your nephew?
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Post by Lizard Queen on Mar 28, 2017 10:18:26 GMT -5
It took me three times to read OP before I understood what happened How old is your nephew? Sorry, it was not written well. (I was in a rush to get out the door.) I went back and laid out the scenario better. DN is 12 1/2. My issue isn't with him. It is with my DB, who is completely clueless. |
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 28, 2017 10:56:52 GMT -5
It took me three times to read OP before I understood what happened How old is your nephew? Sorry, it was not written well. (I was in a rush to get out the door.) I went back and laid out the scenario better. DN is 12 1/2. My issue isn't with him. It is with my DB, who is completely clueless. Well, your brother should have explained to him that volunteering someone else for a job was not the right thing to do, but if your brother himself doing it - than it might be lost cause. To answer original question - no, I don't consider it kindness, I actually think it's rude. 12 yr old might not understand it and that's OK, but adult should |
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Post by Tiny on Mar 28, 2017 10:57:42 GMT -5
Yes, it was nice that the DN traded medals (DN knew he could get the "broken one" fixed and he was self aware enough to know that it wouldn't 'hurt him' to have a "broken" and repaired medal).
If he does take the medal to be fixed by the 'helper' he does 'owe' her something - a favor or something. He needs to also be KIND to the person who will be helping him fix the medal.
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