MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 30, 2017 10:55:27 GMT -5
It makes me uncomfortable because it seems forced and fake, like someone's trying to prove their desirability or their libido. Affection is one thing; arousal and sex are another. We went to dinner last night with another couple and a single, all good friends. I think I patted DH's arm or shoulder once or twice (he's had a tough week with another basal cell growth diagnosed); the other couple did the same (one of them finally found part-time employment after being laid off months ago). I felt our gestures to our partners were communicating compassion and support-not "let me rip your clothes off right now". I wouldn't call an arm pat a real display of affection. I think kisses without a ton of tongue, arms around each other, hand holding, etc. are perfectly fine in public. Why is showing affection in public so horrible? Does it make us that uncomfortable to see people enjoy their relationships?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2017 14:47:22 GMT -5
I think she did it because this is a small town and she wanted everyone to see that they were together. They are both in their 40s and divorced with school-aged children, so there is nothing wrong with them dating.
I don't think I'd like living in a small town, where everyone knows and gossips about every little thing everyone else does. Not for my PDA habits, which are non-existent, but for my penchant to wander aimlessly about town wearing only an open robe and bear paw slippers. I usually don't mind living in a small town. It's not too bad if you don't get involved with the gossip. I have learned not to believe everything I hear - until I hear the same story several times from different people.
This friend that was showing PDA was so worried about people gossiping, their first few dates were out of town. Then they go to a school event and she gave him a hard-on right in the bleachers. And she doesn't want people to gossip
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2017 14:48:22 GMT -5
It makes me uncomfortable because it seems forced and fake, like someone's trying to prove their desirability or their libido. Affection is one thing; arousal and sex are another. We went to dinner last night with another couple and a single, all good friends. I think I patted DH's arm or shoulder once or twice (he's had a tough week with another basal cell growth diagnosed); the other couple did the same (one of them finally found part-time employment after being laid off months ago). I felt our gestures to our partners were communicating compassion and support-not "let me rip your clothes off right now". I wouldn't call an arm pat a real display of affection. I think kisses without a ton of tongue, arms around each other, hand holding, etc. are perfectly fine in public. Why is showing affection in public so horrible? Does it make us that uncomfortable to see people enjoy their relationships? Does the guy that gets an erection from PDA feel uncomfortable?
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 30, 2017 15:07:32 GMT -5
I wouldn't call an arm pat a real display of affection. I think kisses without a ton of tongue, arms around each other, hand holding, etc. are perfectly fine in public. Why is showing affection in public so horrible? Does it make us that uncomfortable to see people enjoy their relationships? Does the guy that gets an erection from PDA feel uncomfortable?
I'd have to ask him.... If it ever hits the point where I feel like I need a cold shower, I try and remove myself from the situation.
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quince
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Post by quince on Jan 30, 2017 15:22:16 GMT -5
My husband does not get uncomfortable if he gets an erection. Sometimes they happen. Eh. Unless he's wearing sweatpants commando, his jeans/slacks/underwear keep things confined. We don't engage in public foreplay, but there are hugs, kisses, and handholding. I might give his butt a pat when he walks away, too.
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NomoreDramaQ1015
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 30, 2017 15:26:19 GMT -5
My husband does not get uncomfortable if he gets an erection. Sometimes they happen. Eh.
DH said men don't have nearly the control over it women think they do. He said you learn to live with it otherwise you're going to spend an awful lot of your life embarassed. Unless he's wearing sweatpants commando, his jeans/slacks/underwear keep things confined.
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Post by Bob Ross on Jan 31, 2017 9:41:28 GMT -5
Then they go to a school event and she gave him a hard-on right in the bleachers. When in Rome...
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