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Post by justme on Jan 18, 2017 23:40:53 GMT -5
Almost 31 and I'd say my most haves are
Steady job, hopefully a career A car - pretty much a need in my city No smoking, of any kind, or drugs Hard preference for not a night/ weekend job (did that, I sacrificed too much sleep) Not a financial train wreck Not an idiot Not a fuck boy Athletic or at least tendencies that way Preferably taller than me because shorter guys fuck my back up when we cuddle on the couch And I figure attractive and funny/gets my humor is a given
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Green Eyed Lady
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jan 19, 2017 11:37:16 GMT -5
My "must haves" change depending on the day. Likes yesterday, one of them was "cannot speak".
But mostly, I just like kind, smart men with similar values. I can find "attractive" in other ways than their physical appearance. A full-time job is a must. Other than that...I'm open to finding out what's on the inside.
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Post by swasat on Jan 19, 2017 12:29:20 GMT -5
My current hate list includes.....people who think group texting and social media is the way to spread awareness about whatever their current belief system is! "Trump is going to end the world!" Send a group text to 25 people, and open a can of worms. "Obama is good riddance!" Send a group text to 20 people and start a religious and racist argument. "Jesus is the only way!" Must include all atheists and agnostics in the group text to piss them off and start a war "If you don't eat all organic and cook from scratch at home, you are willfully putting your kids in death's way" Needs to be sent to all people who don't even cook at home (because what other way than to put them in spotlight) "America is the best, and everyone other person outside America is a blight to human race". Right..... I have started hating texting and social media. It fucking never ends. Common sense and basic decency has gone out the window.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 19, 2017 13:29:53 GMT -5
My current hate list includes.....people who think group texting and social media is the way to spread awareness about whatever their current belief system is! "Trump is going to end the world!" Send a group text to 25 people, and open a can of worms. "Obama is good riddance!" Send a group text to 20 people and start a religious and racist argument. "Jesus is the only way!" Must include all atheists and agnostics in the group text to piss them off and start a war "If you don't eat all organic and cook from scratch at home, you are willfully putting your kids in death's way" Needs to be sent to all people who don't even cook at home (because what other way than to put them in spotlight) "America is the best, and everyone other person outside America is a blight to human race". Right..... I have started hating texting and social media. It fucking never ends. Common sense and basic decency has gone out the window. Are all your friends named Gerald Broflosky?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 19, 2017 13:39:31 GMT -5
My current hate list includes.....people who think group texting and social media is the way to spread awareness about whatever their current belief system is! "Trump is going to end the world!" Send a group text to 25 people, and open a can of worms. "Obama is good riddance!" Send a group text to 20 people and start a religious and racist argument. "Jesus is the only way!" Must include all atheists and agnostics in the group text to piss them off and start a war "If you don't eat all organic and cook from scratch at home, you are willfully putting your kids in death's way" Needs to be sent to all people who don't even cook at home (because what other way than to put them in spotlight) "America is the best, and everyone other person outside America is a blight to human race". Right..... I have started hating texting and social media. It fucking never ends. Common sense and basic decency has gone out the window. hahaha...I think I have hidden 50 or more people on FB...holy fuck people, I don't care what you think about politics!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 19, 2017 13:41:33 GMT -5
My "must haves" change depending on the day. Likes yesterday, one of them was "cannot speak".
But mostly, I just like kind, smart men with similar values. I can find "attractive" in other ways than their physical appearance. A full-time job is a must. Other than that...I'm open to finding out what's on the inside. Similar values is important. I'm a staunch conservative. I can't imagine getting along well with (not killing!) a staunch liberal. We just wouldn't be compatible.
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swasat
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Post by swasat on Jan 19, 2017 13:43:02 GMT -5
Are all your friends named Gerald Broflosky? Fortunately, none of these are friends. A couple are other moms that I am on a group chat with, basically for discussions about kids pickup/drop-off, practices, plans, school volunteering etc. And others are extended family....which are soon going to become "extinct-to-me" family if they don't stop pissing me off soon....
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Miss Tequila
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 19, 2017 13:50:46 GMT -5
Are all your friends named Gerald Broflosky? Fortunately, none of these are friends. A couple are other moms that I am on a group chat with, basically for discussions about kids pickup/drop-off, practices, plans, school volunteering etc. And others are extended family....which are soon going to become "extinct-to-me" family if they don't stop pissing me off soon.... I honestly don't get why people have to push their values onto others? Does a liberal really think that if they keep posting their agenda that one day I will wake up and be all "holy crap, I've seen the light"?? Same thing with conservatives. I don't argue politics in the real world as it is beyond pointless. So I just hide the morons that continue to post their crap.
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Post by hoops902 on Jan 19, 2017 13:59:31 GMT -5
I'm shocked that she can't find a romantic companion... shocked I say LOL!! The "list" is damn unrealistic, I tell ya! She is a lawyer, makes good 6 figure income. But damn, you are 40. Some of it is not even realistic now. - MUST be older than her
- Must NOT "look" older than her
- MUST make more than her (because otherwise....gold digger)
- Can't be divorced
- Can't be a widower
- No one with kids (because you know.....kids....other people's kids....)
- New requirement in the past year - must share all her beliefs (This I can understand)
Just so we're all clear, this isn't actually a list of what she wants in a partner. This is the list that she knows describes a magical unicorn so that the reason she is single is "there are no good men" rather than "I'm unattractive as a partner".
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jan 19, 2017 14:16:49 GMT -5
My current hate list includes.....people who think group texting and social media is the way to spread awareness about whatever their current belief system is! "Trump is going to end the world!" Send a group text to 25 people, and open a can of worms. "Obama is good riddance!" Send a group text to 20 people and start a religious and racist argument. "Jesus is the only way!" Must include all atheists and agnostics in the group text to piss them off and start a war "If you don't eat all organic and cook from scratch at home, you are willfully putting your kids in death's way" Needs to be sent to all people who don't even cook at home (because what other way than to put them in spotlight) "America is the best, and everyone other person outside America is a blight to human race". Right..... I have started hating texting and social media. It fucking never ends. Common sense and basic decency has gone out the window. hahaha...I think I have hidden 50 or more people on FB...holy fuck people, I don't care what you think about politics! DF got mad at me yesterday because I told him I didn't care about the inauguration protests, anti-protests, etc. I have my own problems outside of the circus unfolding in DC.
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Post by Bonny on Jan 19, 2017 14:34:12 GMT -5
"Insist" that their problems are "real" problems while everyone else's issues are......meh! I am undergoing this with a long time friend right now I have known her since high school, very close to her, but over the years she has...changed She has a long history of issues with finding the right guy. Suffice it to say that she has a long list of expectations, and no one guy possesses it all. Basically no one every matches up, like ever. So now, at age 40, she is lonely and constantly complaining about lack of companionship, her motherly instincts, an empty house, an emotional void...the list goes on.... And she has become extremely devout (she was earlier agnostic). Which I have absolutely no problems with, but now I have to hear the rants on how "I" am not supportive enough because I don't participate in her beliefs. WTF WTFreakingF?? I am NOT into religion, I just am not. I am utterly supportive of her following the church and following the rituals.....but now I am being told that I am not supportive enough because I don't ask her during Christmas and each Sunday how the mass went?!?!? Oh, and the only way to show support is to agree with everything. If you even disagree on one item...you are being "cold hearted" My problems in life are also not "problems" because nothing can match up to HER problems. No one can understand her loneliness, or the bad lot she has been given in life. Since I have a husband and kids......that means my problems are not problems enough. Universe give me strength because I am so done with whine. Long term friendship not withstanding, I can only deal so much with "me, me , me". Grow the F up. Either lower your standards and find a man, or just stop blabbering to me about it. /rant I am sure I will have more "I hate people..." stories in the near future. That seems to be my mojo these days. Lol, if not for the age and the fact your friend is an attorney I would think you're talking about my 82 year old MIL
One my favorite stories is from several years ago;
Her: I had a terrible day today! Me: I got laid off (on Valentine's Day) Her: That's too bad, now let me tell you about how awful my day was. DH: Mom, Bonny got laid off; on Valentine's Day! Her: Well I had a terrible day, people were rude to me in a meeting, blah, blah, blah
There is a reason that she was married and divorced three times and has lived alone for over 40 years.
Unfortunately I can't divorce her.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2017 14:40:03 GMT -5
"Insist" that their problems are "real" problems while everyone else's issues are......meh!
Not even two weeks ago, BF's father passed away. That same day my friend's boyfriend of 5 months broke up with her (she is 48). Friend was texting me big, long sobbing texts all weekend. I tried telling her I was busy because BF's father passed away. Eventually I did not even respond to her. Apparently she thought her problem was worse.
That same weekend, a different friend (also 48) went on a first date with a guy. BF ran into them at a café (the day after BF's father passed away). That friend sent me a long text saying since she knows people like to gossip and BF saw her, yes, she went on a date. I responded by telling her BF's father passed away the day before that, so he has other things to worry about right now. She never responded.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2017 17:19:44 GMT -5
When I was 40 and single, I had a list:
1.) must have job
Then I found someone with a job, good looking, and no kids.
He had a list:
1.) must have job 2.) must have her own house (his ex-girlfriend had quit her job and moved in with him, along with her kids)
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Jan 19, 2017 18:21:49 GMT -5
Oh come on nobody is going to comment on the being nearly vegan yet they eat eggs and deer
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 19, 2017 18:39:11 GMT -5
I don't know enough about vegans to comment. I'm not about to eat deer ever.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 19, 2017 18:46:40 GMT -5
I hate when people eat the rest of my chocolate... This is absolutely THE worst . Tiny the world will never be alright as long as it has "chocolate stealing so-and-so's" in it
MarleyKeezy78 the vegan eating the deer and eggs was bad but she had to take a backseat to the chocolate stealers in this world (unless we are talking Hershey's here, but I don't consider that to be real chocolate anyway)
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Post by chiver78 on Jan 19, 2017 19:20:08 GMT -5
can't just fucking grow up and be adults. grr...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2017 19:36:51 GMT -5
I hate when people eat the rest of my chocolate... This is absolutely THE worst . Tiny the world will never be alright as long as it has "chocolate stealing so-and-so's" in it
MarleyKeezy78 the vegan eating the deer and eggs was bad but she had to take a backseat to the chocolate stealers in this world (unless we are talking Hershey's here, but I don't consider that to be real chocolate anyway)
Divine Dark Hazlenut Truffle...
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 19, 2017 19:51:51 GMT -5
This is absolutely THE worst . Tiny the world will never be alright as long as it has "chocolate stealing so-and-so's" in it
MarleyKeezy78 the vegan eating the deer and eggs was bad but she had to take a backseat to the chocolate stealers in this world (unless we are talking Hershey's here, but I don't consider that to be real chocolate anyway)
Divine Dark Hazlenut Truffle... Looks like something I need to try. I am very picky though where chocolate is concerned: one of my brothers is an award winning chocolatier and to top it off Brussels was just a couple hours driving from my home town. Mmmmmmm, you could gain weight there just from walking past the chocolatiers nearde Grote Markt
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Post by chiver78 on Jan 19, 2017 20:03:31 GMT -5
Divine Dark Hazlenut Truffle... Looks like something I need to try. I am very picky though where chocolate is concerned: one of my brothers is an award winning chocolatier and to top it off Brussels was just a couple hours driving from my home town. Mmmmmmm, you could gain weight there just from walking past the chocolatiers nearde Grote Markt for all my negative memories of my time in Belgium (work related), I actually enjoyed the time I spent in Brussels. not at all a minor reason, but I could actually speak to the people there! my French was a bit different than theirs, but I can't hold a candle to anyone trying to speak Flemish. can I ask where your hometown is? you can totally PM me, I don't really want to post the name of the town where I worked. with everything else I've already posted, that particular name would absolutely nail me here for anyone that knows me.
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Post by naughtybear on Jan 19, 2017 20:11:36 GMT -5
I loved loved Belgium, I would do it again. Actually no I wouldn't because it was the last vacation with my ex. It was beautiful.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 19, 2017 20:12:14 GMT -5
chiver78 I am not Belgian but I will PM you my home town. I used to be able to speak French fluently as well as Flemish and its relative Dutch. The latter two are still fine. My French though would need a serious immersion period to come back.
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Post by chiver78 on Jan 19, 2017 20:14:34 GMT -5
chiver78 I am not Belgian but I will PM you my home town. I used to be able to speak French fluently as well as Flemish and its relative Dutch. The latter two are still fine. My French though would need a serious immersion period to come back. I know I remember your screenname of Tulips and Windmills. I know what country you're from! the town I worked in was probably 45 minutes from the closest border crossing, and most of my male colleagues too weekend trips up to the red light district...
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 19, 2017 20:22:32 GMT -5
You had some shall we say "interesting" colleagues. I personally only have know one male with that "hobby" and I scared the bejesus out of him one day by telling him that just because a country denied that they had any AIDS patients, didn't mean that going to their (world famous) red light district for services unprotected was safe.
A few years after that comment, I met the guy again at a party xH and I attended and he took me aside to thank me. He had followed up with testing etc. and he was fine. But I appreciated his thanks since that talk had been very uncomfortable for me.
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Post by Jaguar on Jan 19, 2017 20:26:03 GMT -5
These "type" of people are extremely emotionally draining I find, I just kick them out of my life or else I introduce them to my sister, she's one of these types.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2017 21:34:14 GMT -5
I'm usually a Theo's chocolate bar person, but lately I'm loving that one...
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 19, 2017 21:36:22 GMT -5
I'm usually a Theo's chocolate bar person, but lately I'm loving that one... So am I but for a special reason
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Post by chiver78 on Jan 19, 2017 22:00:36 GMT -5
You had some shall we say "interesting" colleagues. I personally only have know one male with that "hobby" and I scared the bejesus out of him one day by telling him that just because a country denied that they had any AIDS patients, didn't mean that going to their (world famous) red light district for services unprotected was save.
A few years after that comment, I met the guy again at a party xH and I attended and he took me aside to thank me. H ehad followed up with testing etc. and he was fine. But I appreciated his thanks since that talk had been very uncomfortable for me. I had some creepy damn colleagues. there's a reason I have the "creeper hackles" I do. that said, thank you for making those comments.....every person that speaks common sense and just good advice like that is necessary in this world today.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jan 19, 2017 23:43:33 GMT -5
Oh come on nobody is going to comment on the being nearly vegan yet they eat eggs and deer I get it. I don't eat red meat, but I might eat venison and moose if I liked it, but I don't. Animals suffer terribly on factory farms and industrial feedlots. Deer and moose, however, live perfectly normal lives, gamboling though the woods, thinking deer thoughts and doing whatever deer and moose do. Hopefully, the hunter's bullet will be swift and sure. Besides, they often need to be culled or they all starve. So, I have no problem with hunting. The eggs she eats are probably from "free-range" chickens.
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Post by justme on Jan 19, 2017 23:54:16 GMT -5
I need to add an addendum to my list.
He must be OK doing Bottlerock VIP every year. I mean, it seems like it's the mothership calling me home. Year goal is to go next year...need to start saving account.
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