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Post by simser on Nov 23, 2016 1:46:20 GMT -5
My best friend in Phoenix passed away today (ish) at 30 years old. I know of someone else from church in STL who died suddenly at 19 on Sunday.
Obviously I'm devastated over my friends passing. I even went through my people I could go talk to over how upset I was and ended up on his name tonight before I realized I could never talk to him again(I found out this morning). He had demons, and while he didn't plan on this (as far as we can tell) the demons were what won. He left behind a mom and a sister... and me. And because we were "just friends", I had to find out through Facebook, and have no right to know anything or tell anyone. He was my rock, and I have no idea if anyone will ever fill his place. It shows me how you can consider someone family, but if you're not, you're not.
Hug those you love. No matter the age, they can leave you in an instant. Tell them you love them, it's the last thing you may ever say to them. Please pray for Matt (my friend) and Kalab (the 19 year old) and their families.
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Post by mmhmm on Nov 23, 2016 1:51:32 GMT -5
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Your dear friend and your church-mate were taken far too soon. Sincere condolences to you and to the families and friends of those who passed.  |
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Post by Jaguar on Nov 23, 2016 2:10:03 GMT -5
So sorry and sending my condolences to you and yours. May both Go Well. |
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Post by lund on Nov 23, 2016 3:13:45 GMT -5
So sorry to hear about your friends' early passing. I wish you strength and calm during the mourning ahead. I hope that you will be able to go to the funerals if you feel so inclined; especially with unexpected deaths, the funeral can offer a way to say farewell. (I know that there are those who prefer not to go to funerals, preferring privacy for grieving, and those who hold private and small funerals.) |
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Post by mamasita99 on Nov 23, 2016 5:04:23 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your losses, simser. prayers of peace and comfort for all who loved them...
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Post by resolution on Nov 23, 2016 5:24:35 GMT -5
I am really sorry for your loss and will pray for you and their families. I hope you are able to find comfort and some kind of closure in the services. It is so tragic when people are taken from us at a young age.
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Post by taz157 on Nov 23, 2016 7:02:17 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss, especially at such a young age. You and their families are in my thoughts and prayers.  |
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Post by CCL on Nov 23, 2016 7:09:46 GMT -5
I'm so sorry.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Nov 23, 2016 7:39:37 GMT -5
I am so sorry. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 23, 2016 8:08:22 GMT -5
simser, I was looking at books on grief in the bookstore yesterday and although I didn't find any I could relate to, there was one called "No Time to Say Goodbye", which might help. DH and I both agreed that having a few months' notice was a gift; I lost my mother last month and him a week ago but both knew it was coming and we had time to process it and talk about it. Huge difference. It's also harder when the person is young. I hope you can get some support by talking with family or other friends of the people you lost. The family of the friend who had "demons" might find it comforting to know how much he meant to you.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Nov 23, 2016 10:21:23 GMT -5
My best friend in Phoenix passed away today (ish) at 30 years old. I know of someone else from church in STL who died suddenly at 19 on Sunday. Obviously I'm devastated over my friends passing. I even went through my people I could go talk to over how upset I was and ended up on his name tonight before I realized I could never talk to him again(I found out this morning). He had demons, and while he didn't plan on this (as far as we can tell) the demons were what won. He left behind a mom and a sister... and me. And because we were "just friends", I had to find out through Facebook, and have no right to know anything or tell anyone. He was my rock, and I have no idea if anyone will ever fill his place. It shows me how you can consider someone family, but if you're not, you're not. Hug those you love. No matter the age, they can leave you in an instant. Tell them you love them, it's the last thing you may ever say to them. Please pray for Matt (my friend) and Kalab (the 19 year old) and their families.  condolences to you all. |
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Post by giramomma on Nov 23, 2016 10:25:48 GMT -5
I'm sorry so sorry.
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Post by janee on Nov 29, 2016 9:52:13 GMT -5
Thank you for the reminder to express those thoughts to those we love. I'm so sorry for your loss and also for the way you found out. It's hard with everything digital for family to always know how or who to contact. Please forgive them and lean on your family and friends for support. It's so hard to lose someone you love.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 29, 2016 9:54:58 GMT -5
Yes, it is.  |
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Post by Bonny on Nov 29, 2016 10:35:07 GMT -5
I'm very sorry for your losses. Both were so young. |
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Post by dee27 on Nov 29, 2016 10:43:45 GMT -5
I am sorry for your loss.
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Post by debthaven on Nov 29, 2016 13:02:19 GMT -5
I am so, so sorry Simser.
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Post by dannylion on Nov 29, 2016 20:36:59 GMT -5
I'm so sorry, simser.
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