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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 29, 2016 8:50:19 GMT -5
I know. I would really love to have a stay at home wife. At one point I told DH we should get a mail order bride. I don't even care if he sleeps with her; I don't want to sleep with her, I just want someone else to do all the stuff that keeps the house running and liveable. That's pretty sexist. Why can't a man keep the house running and liveable? dh and I had talk about my career this weekend. He pointed out that we both spend a lot of time on our kindles. I said something about how we feed off each other - that I see him on his kindle and "why should I care when he obviously doesn't give a fuck" and probably sees me and thinks something similar. I think he was suprised by how bitter and pissedI was/am on this. I doubt it will change anything Eta, we started talking about career. I need certificates and/or BA. So we were talking about time and impact of me taking classes.
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 29, 2016 9:07:06 GMT -5
Men are more susceptible to the Cantclean disease. The two most common strains are A (called "Refusetoseedirt") and B (called Toodamnlazy). There is a third strain that seems to be on the rise... C (called Insteadofmywifehavingarealconversationaboutcleaningshejustdoeseverythingherselfandthenhatesmewithouttellingmewhy). And its Latin equivalency? Ad enable.
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 29, 2016 9:10:58 GMT -5
And its Latin equivalency? Ad enable. Latin makes life so much easier to understand.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 29, 2016 9:22:23 GMT -5
That's pretty sexist. Why can't a man keep the house running and liveable? dh and I had talk about my career this weekend. He pointed out that we both spend a lot of time on our kindles. I said something about how we feed off each other - that I see him on his kindle and "why should I care when he obviously doesn't give a fuck" and probably sees me and thinks something similar. I think he was suprised by how bitter and pissedI was/am on this. I doubt it will change anything Maybe both of you could put your kindles down and clean the house together?
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 29, 2016 9:28:02 GMT -5
I have to admit DH kept a clean house and a clean apartment when I first met him all those years ago. We were helping a friend of his son out by bringing some stuff up to MSU when we were going to a basketball game. The kid lived in a pig sty and DH told him he'd never get laid if a girl saw his place!! I seconded that comment very quickly. I didn't even date after the first one guys who didn't keep their cars clean or have enough gas in them to make me feel like we were going to get where we were going and back with some left over. Take some pride in yourself. It shows me you don't. Not interested. Ranks up there with those who go out in public in their pajamas. Yes, you're making a statement alright.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 29, 2016 9:32:32 GMT -5
My dh did keep a clean house. It's pretty easy to keep a place clean if only one person lives there.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 29, 2016 10:00:54 GMT -5
That's pretty sexist. Why can't a man keep the house running and liveable? Men are more susceptible to the Cantclean disease. The two most common strains are A (called "Refusetoseedirt") and B (called Toodamnlazy). There is a third strain that seems to be on the rise... C (called Insteadofmywifehavingarealconversationaboutcleaningshejustdoeseverythingherselfandthenhatesmewithouttellingmewhy). hahahahaha!!!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 29, 2016 10:36:33 GMT -5
That's pretty sexist. Why can't a man keep the house running and liveable? dh and I had talk about my career this weekend. He pointed out that we both spend a lot of time on our kindles. I said something about how we feed off each other - that I see him on his kindle and "why should I care when he obviously doesn't give a fuck" and probably sees me and thinks something similar. I think he was suprised by how bitter and pissedI was/am on this. I doubt it will change anything Eta, we started talking about career. I need certificates and/or BA. So we were talking about time and impact of me taking classes. Ugh, I remember those days well. I know how frustrating it is. I hope you and dh can discuss and come to an agreement that works for the both of you.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Aug 29, 2016 11:54:55 GMT -5
My dh did keep a clean house. It's pretty easy to keep a place clean if only one person lives there. No one would consider me OCD, and I made the conscious decision early on to teach my kids housekeeping skills but to never nag because life is so much more than a spotless house that looks as if no one really lives there. Still, I'm amazed at how clean my house is since the kids left. On Friday. They weren't slobs. It's just that the kitchen was CONSTANTLY in use meaning there were ALWAYS dirty dishes. And they were CONSTANTLY in and out to jobs and work outs and hanging with friends so that the back door area (in the kitchen) was ALWAYS cluttered in the transition. And the volume of laundry was insane. They generally washed their own, but it still cluttered the laundry room and bathroom hamper. In SOME respects, this "kids away" thing is growing on me rather quickly.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 29, 2016 11:56:59 GMT -5
My dh did keep a clean house. It's pretty easy to keep a place clean if only one person lives there. then I am doing something very very wrong.... Well DS is there 4 days, so I guess I have an excuse. YAY!
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 29, 2016 12:17:10 GMT -5
My dh did keep a clean house. It's pretty easy to keep a place clean if only one person lives there. No one would consider me OCD, and I made the conscious decision early on to teach my kids housekeeping skills but to never nag because life is so much more than a spotless house that looks as if no one really lives there. Still, I'm amazed at how clean my house is since the kids left. On Friday. They weren't slobs. It's just that the kitchen was CONSTANTLY in use meaning there were ALWAYS dirty dishes. And they were CONSTANTLY in and out to jobs and work outs and hanging with friends so that the back door area (in the kitchen) was ALWAYS cluttered in the transition. And the volume of laundry was insane. They generally washed their own, but it still cluttered the laundry room and bathroom hamper. In SOME respects, this "kids away" thing is growing on me rather quickly. OCD doesn't mean having a clean house. It means you have obsessions and/or compulsions that interfere with your daily life. Not picking on you specifically, but I can't stand it when people call themselves OCD because they keep a clean house or enjoy cleaning.
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Post by NastyWoman on Aug 29, 2016 13:54:14 GMT -5
I know. I would really love to have a stay at home wife. At one point I told DH we should get a mail order bride. I don't even care if he sleeps with her; I don't want to sleep with her, I just want someone else to do all the stuff that keeps the house running and liveable. That's pretty sexist. Why can't a man keep the house running and liveable? Duhhh---will they get Federal Money for that?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 29, 2016 14:01:37 GMT -5
That's pretty sexist. Why can't a man keep the house running and liveable? Duhhh---will they get Federal Money for that? lol
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Post by tallguy on Aug 29, 2016 15:19:54 GMT -5
I know. I would really love to have a stay at home wife. At one point I told DH we should get a mail order bride. I don't even care if he sleeps with her; I don't want to sleep with her, I just want someone else to do all the stuff that keeps the house running and liveable. That's pretty sexist. Why can't a man keep the house running and liveable? You all do of course realize that it is not MY gender who has a distorted opinion of what is "livable." We live just fine.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 29, 2016 18:58:14 GMT -5
Furthermore, my understanding is gay people make up less than 5% of the population. Lesbians would be an even smaller number than that, hardly the numbers to make up an "invasion" should such a thing exist.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 29, 2016 19:28:45 GMT -5
That's pretty sexist. Why can't a man keep the house running and liveable? You all do of course realize that it is not MY gender who has a distorted opinion of what is "livable." We live just fine. Lol! That is so true
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 29, 2016 23:14:02 GMT -5
I just got through cleaning my aunts house. I don't think it's been cleaned since the last time I was here, over the 4th of July. It's too much for her. It took me two hours to clean her floor and it's still not what I would consider clean. Her frig needs cleaning and cleaning out. The front of her dishwasher needs wiping off. The tablecloth, that has plastic over it, never gets wiped off after a meal so I've started doing it. She needs help cleaning. I need to figure something out.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Aug 30, 2016 6:18:42 GMT -5
Can you find someone to come in every few weeks while you are there? It's hard to help with the day to day stuff from so far away. I bet you could pay them to come clean for her though.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 30, 2016 8:33:22 GMT -5
She kinda lives in the boonies. I've heard that there are organizations that clean cancer patient homes but am unsure how that works. I asked about a family member who lives in the area, his daughter cleaning it (if she would even). No she didn't want a stranger on her house. This is her nephew's daughter, not a stranger. She would be okay with her daughter or her granddaughter cleaning. Well, her daughter is useless and I don't trust her not to take my money and do nothing. As it is she and her husband are contributing nothing but their appetites for her own parents anniversary. Her granddaughter I trust but she's super busy. I've thought about trying to find someone and just having her say she's cancer sponsored and paid for!! Of course how do I set this up long distance? There's that fun thing.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 30, 2016 8:35:25 GMT -5
Then my uncle made a comment about me cleaning while my aunt laid on sofa and read a book. I think it embarrassed him.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2016 9:35:25 GMT -5
I'm guessing reading isn't as taxing physically for a cancer patient as cleaning? Why didn't he do it?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 30, 2016 9:39:00 GMT -5
I'm guessing reading isn't as taxing physically for a cancer patient as cleaning? Why didn't he do it? he must have come down with the Cantclean disease.... sounds like he has a mix of strains A and B.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 30, 2016 9:49:28 GMT -5
He does all the outside work and it's a lot more than the inside work. He more than does half. He does all outside period and it's a lot. They have four acres. Their house is small but just the tile floor took me two hours and it's not all that clean.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2016 9:51:57 GMT -5
It took 2 hours though because it's not regularly done. Maybe she would be ok paying someone to do the outside work because that person isn't in her house? And then he could help out indoors...
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 30, 2016 9:58:47 GMT -5
She kinda lives in the boonies. I've heard that there are organizations that clean cancer patient homes but am unsure how that works. I asked about a family member who lives in the area, his daughter cleaning it (if she would even). No she didn't want a stranger on her house. This is her nephew's daughter, not a stranger. She would be okay with her daughter or her granddaughter cleaning. Well, her daughter is useless and I don't trust her not to take my money and do nothing. As it is she and her husband are contributing nothing but their appetites for her own parents anniversary. Her granddaughter I trust but she's super busy. I've thought about trying to find someone and just having her say she's cancer sponsored and paid for!! Of course how do I set this up long distance? There's that fun thing. Any family or friends willing to help out? You can create a Caring Bridge page and people can sign up to help clean, provide dinner, etc. My stepmom created a page when my aunt was diagnosed with cancer. My uncle kept everyone updated on her treatments and there was a calendar where people could sign up to bring them dinner.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 30, 2016 10:43:28 GMT -5
It took 2 hours though because it's not regularly done. Maybe she would be ok paying someone to do the outside work because that person isn't in her house? And then he could help out indoors... He loves and thrives on that outside work. It's why he's still skinny and healthy. 80 and no meds!
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