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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 20, 2016 13:29:48 GMT -5
Manners aren't stupid and outdated. So I'd take it you use a fork and knife to eat a drumstick?!  I DO follow all good table manners if I am with people that do the same but if I'm by myself I don't realy care. In our area there are maybe 2-3 restaurants where one should use good table manners but very few people actually do so I'm just doing the exact thing they are doing as not to embarrass anyone or look pretentious. Ofcourse I'm not gonna eat a steak with my bare hands but I'm not gonna try to pick the meat of a drumstick with my fork either. And I can't keep my elbows on the table even if I wanted to! That would mean my plate would be in the midle of the table. Only Donald Trump uses a knife and fork for fried chicken and pizza. That being said, I do try to follow the basic rules of etiquette. Good table manners are nothing to be embarrassed about, and in MY area, most people do use good manners. I don't think using good manners is pretentious...it's just good manners. I find the bolded kind of sad. If you want to talk with your mouth full, while waving around a fork full of food and wearing a hat at the table, knock yourself out. Slurp your soup and lick your plate. No skin off my nose. |
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 20, 2016 13:52:07 GMT -5
Uppity people, mmm. That must include my grandparents who didn't have a pot to piss in until I was around 12 years old but managed to dress decently in public and be polite.
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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 20, 2016 13:56:10 GMT -5
Uppity people, mmm. That must include my grandparents who didn't have a pot to piss in until I was around 12 years old but managed to dress decently in public and be polite. My immigrant parents were dirt poor as well, but always dressed nicely when they left the house, and always stressed the importance of good manners. |
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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 20, 2016 14:43:16 GMT -5
Hardly uppity.
My mother worked as an indentured servant to wealthy European families when she was a young girl. She was always around when their kids were given etiquette lessons, and were told "You may be rich, but you won't get very far in life if you act like you were raised in the stables!"
She learned etiquette that way, and passed it on to her children. And her husband.
You didn't dare sit at her table wearing a hat.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 20, 2016 14:51:24 GMT -5
My mother also grew up poor, but well mannered. If you are enforcing and judging people for scratching their arm in public - you are uppity. I don't care how poor you are. That is way too uptight for 2016. No one cares, except a few uppity people.
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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 20, 2016 15:16:50 GMT -5
My mother also grew up poor, but well mannered. If you are enforcing and judging people for scratching their arm in public - you are uppity. I don't care how poor you are. That is way too uptight for 2016. No one cares, except a few uppity people. I don't give a damn if anyone scratches their arm in public. Your ass is a different matter entirely. |
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Post by mroped on Aug 20, 2016 15:23:13 GMT -5
Talking with your mouth full is just plain disgusting and has nothing to do with table manners. Or flailing your arms while eating with or without a knife. Now, not slurping your soup is good manners and it hapened that I had to go and tell someone to stop doing it. It just drives me nuts! I gotta admit that I never seen anybody licking their plate!  And no, is not bad not having many fancy restaurants around. We don't realy care that much for. In fact there are maybe 3-4 places where we go to. All others are too noisy! |
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 20, 2016 15:26:17 GMT -5
I didn't say all manners are dumb, only the ones that don't have a purpose in today's society. I agree that it is more hygienic if everyone keeps their fingers out of their asshole. If you need to do that in private, and then wash you hands - that is your business.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Aug 20, 2016 15:40:20 GMT -5
Z is dating!  |
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 20, 2016 17:44:52 GMT -5
Z is dating! You missed the story of the pickup in the office. |
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Post by msventoux on Aug 20, 2016 18:03:21 GMT -5
Z is dating! You missed the story of the pickup in the office. I briefly thought "Z" meant Zib and not Zaire. And I missed how she got picked up in some office...or there was an actual pickup truck in an office. Now I get it and am back on track. I need to stop half-heartedly reading the boards and pay more attention.  |
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 20, 2016 18:06:44 GMT -5
You missed the story of the pickup in the office. I briefly thought "Z" meant Zib and not Zaire. And I missed how she got picked up in some office...or there was an actual pickup truck in an office. Now I get it and am back on track. I need to stop half-heartedly reading the boards and pay more attention. No, not me. I do admit I get chatted up when I'm walking DS's girlfriend's dog. He's a cute mini Australian Shepherd and he's an adorable wiggle butt and can't hold his likker!!! Tongue. |
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 20, 2016 18:45:00 GMT -5
Licking the plate. You don't know how hard it is not to with some luscious desserts sometimes.. |
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Post by chiver78 on Aug 20, 2016 19:07:09 GMT -5
Talking with your mouth full is just plain disgusting and has nothing to do with table manners. Or flailing your arms while eating with or without a knife. Now, not slurping your soup is good manners and it hapened that I had to go and tell someone to stop doing it. It just drives me nuts! I gotta admit that I never seen anybody licking their plate! And no, is not bad not having many fancy restaurants around. We don't realy care that much for. In fact there are maybe 3-4 places where we go to. All others are too noisy! 1. disgusting, yes - but part of table manners. some of the other things that have been noted were at one point way more disgusting than they are now (see, scratching arm in public) but talking with your mouth full is still gross. 2. slurping your soup is very rude, but then is encouraged at many Asian noodle shops. I have to remember where I am sometimes lol... |
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 21, 2016 12:17:58 GMT -5
Talking with your mouth full is just plain disgusting and has nothing to do with table manners. Or flailing your arms while eating with or without a knife. Now, not slurping your soup is good manners and it hapened that I had to go and tell someone to stop doing it. It just drives me nuts! I gotta admit that I never seen anybody licking their plate! And no, is not bad not having many fancy restaurants around. We don't realy care that much for. In fact there are maybe 3-4 places where we go to. All others are too noisy! 1. disgusting, yes - but part of table manners. some of the other things that have been noted were at one point way more disgusting than they are now (see, scratching arm in public) but talking with your mouth full is still gross. 2. slurping your soup is very rude, but then is encouraged at many Asian noodle shops. I have to remember where I am sometimes lol... Just had a big bowl of kimchi noodles (not homemade) for lunch. I brake up the noodles so no need to slurp up the noodles. |
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Aug 21, 2016 15:10:26 GMT -5
Z is dating! You missed the story of the pickup in the office. I did read about it. I don't know if this is the same woman or not. Z posted on an irregular basis. I visit hit and miss. |
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 21, 2016 15:46:29 GMT -5
Actually, I'm not sure, either. I just know it's not me.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 21, 2016 15:46:48 GMT -5
Dating or Z's girlfriend
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Post by ZaireinHD on Aug 21, 2016 16:32:38 GMT -5
Funny! let me spin mmHmm broken record before I can continue
Zaire, you brought this to the boards. Nobody here solicited this information from you and those who have posted have tried to give you good advice. There is certainly no need for barbed sarcasm in response. If you don't wish to read comments on what you post here, it's probably best not to post personal issues of this nature. We have no need to know but we care enough about you to try to offer constructive advice where it seems to be needed. Blah and Blah! |
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Post by ZaireinHD on Aug 21, 2016 16:39:02 GMT -5
Z is dating!
I have been out on a few 'dates' from match.com However this thread is regarding a 'date' I was on with a friend that I met at work my friend and I was out having dinner after work and for the first time she told me about my manors. my friend from work hot&sexy as I've nicked named her have ben out several times before on lunch 'dates' but this time was our first dinner 'date' and the first time she has brought this up I began to wonder if I was the same way on my 'date' from match.com? 
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Post by ZaireinHD on Aug 21, 2016 16:42:28 GMT -5
Talking with your mouth full is just plain disgusting and has nothing to do with table manners. Or flailing your arms while eating with or without a knife. Now, not slurping your soup is good manners and it hapened that I had to go and tell someone to stop doing it. It just drives me nuts! I gotta admit that I never seen anybody licking their plate! And no, is not bad not having many fancy restaurants around. We don't realy care that much for. In fact there are maybe 3-4 places where we go to. All others are too noisy! we have a guy - a fat guy that chews with him mouth open. to say the least it's very distracting. but he will say he does this so he can breath. which I don't buy that answer, so I don't ask him why does he chew with his mouth open.
and what about the sipping through a straw just making noise and clearly no drink left?
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 21, 2016 17:00:54 GMT -5
Talking with your mouth full is just plain disgusting and has nothing to do with table manners. Or flailing your arms while eating with or without a knife. Now, not slurping your soup is good manners and it hapened that I had to go and tell someone to stop doing it. It just drives me nuts! I gotta admit that I never seen anybody licking their plate! And no, is not bad not having many fancy restaurants around. We don't realy care that much for. In fact there are maybe 3-4 places where we go to. All others are too noisy! we have a guy - a fat guy that chews with him mouth open. to say the least it's very distracting. but he will say he does this so he can breath. which I don't buy that answer, so I don't ask him why does he chew with his mouth open.
and what about the sipping through a straw just making noise and clearly no drink left?
That's what noses are for, to breathe out of. Don't get me started on straw slurping noises. I'm sure that's trying to be cute and not irritating. |
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Post by ZaireinHD on Aug 21, 2016 17:36:09 GMT -5
So I'd take it you use a fork and knife to eat a drumstick?! I DO follow all good table manners if I am with people that do the same but if I'm by myself I don't realy care. In our area there are maybe 2-3 restaurants where one should use good table manners but very few people actually do so I'm just doing the exact thing they are doing as not to embarrass anyone or look pretentious. Ofcourse I'm not gonna eat a steak with my bare hands but I'm not gonna try to pick the meat of a drumstick with my fork either. And I can't keep my elbows on the table even if I wanted to! That would mean my plate would be in the midle of the table. ok - funny! but yes! I have only once or twice started off using my knife at Pizza Hut the last time I was out on a dinner 'date' with a friend I no longer speak to I was cutting the first slice of pizza, when her daughter (at the time was 10 years old) asked why am I cutting my pizza? I said because it's too hot to bite and I am too hungry to wait for it to cool off
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Post by weltschmerz on Aug 21, 2016 20:42:56 GMT -5
Z is dating!
I have been out on a few 'dates' from match.com However this thread is regarding a 'date' I was on with a friend that I met at work my friend and I was out having dinner after work and for the first time she told me about my manors. my friend from work hot&sexy as I've nicked named her have ben out several times before on lunch 'dates' but this time was our first dinner 'date' and the first time she has brought this up I began to wonder if I was the same way on my 'date' from match.com?
Of course you were! If you're not aware of your bad manors [sic], then you behaved the same way. |
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 21, 2016 20:46:56 GMT -5
Manners, for crying out tears! I know everyone but Zaire knows it's not manors but I can't take it anymore!!  |
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 21, 2016 21:41:02 GMT -5
LOL - I just had to double check and make sure I spelled it right, and I did. Phew.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 22, 2016 9:15:33 GMT -5
I checked also. I know how to spell it but that doesn't mean I always type it correctly. Spelling errors don't bother me as much as "I seen my friend yesterday!" I can't believe how many people say "I seen" instead of "I saw". Makes my teeth hurt.
If you have anymore questions about manners, just come here and ask us. We'll give you about 50 different opinions! |
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Post by swamp on Aug 22, 2016 9:28:47 GMT -5
If you have anymore questions about manners, just come here and ask us. We'll give you about 50 different opinions! I think we are all in agreement that you shouldn't scratch your ass at the dinner table. |
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Aug 22, 2016 9:29:38 GMT -5
If you have anymore questions about manners, just come here and ask us. We'll give you about 50 different opinions! I think we are all in agreement that you shouldn't scratch your ass at the dinner table. This is true. My bad. Only one opinion on the ass-scratching issue.
I think picking one's nose would be another we could agree on.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 22, 2016 9:37:42 GMT -5
If you have anymore questions about manners, just come here and ask us. We'll give you about 50 different opinions! I think we are all in agreement that you shouldn't scratch your ass at the dinner table. Unless you're a dog or a cat. |
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