anxiety tummy distress (vent)

[MJ2.0]

I have it right now. I hate it.

I just bought my CAD textbook off Amazon (used, of course), and I've been looking at the tools I'll be using to draw stuff. Oy.
Also, the guy I've been seeing - let's just call him GG for Golf Guy (he is assistant superintendent of a golf course - is supposed to be coming over tonight for dinner. We were supposed to hang out last Tuesday night after work, but I guess he had a really horrible day and cancelled. He was nice about it, but still. Now I'm worried I'll get cancelled on again. I hate that I care about this so much, but I do.

UGH UGH UGH!!!

[Miss Tequila]

Listen to me....if he cancels on you then it is his loss. You are an awesome person and he should be worried that YOU will be cancelling on him!

As for the CAD stuff...I don't know much about it. But you are smart and you got this girl! Don't let self-doubt tank you

[MJ2.0]

do bathroom pit stops count as quiet time?

At least this is my last week as supervisor and at full time. But I have a lot to do in my off days leading up to the first day of classes. I'm excited and also dreading it at the same time.

[Deleted]

Aug 16, 2016 13:35:28 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

do bathroom pit stops count as quiet time?

At least this is my last week as supervisor and at full time. But I have a lot to do in my off days leading up to the first day of classes. I'm excited and also dreading it at the same time.

Imodium

You can do this. We all know this and you do too!

[WholeLottaNothin]

I second the Immodium suggestions. Or Pepto. I have tummy issues when I get stressed too. Never hurts to have either med on hand anyway.

[MJ2.0]

Aug 16, 2016 13:20:30 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

Listen to me....if he cancels on you then it is his loss. You are an awesome person and he should be worried that YOU will be cancelling on him!

As for the CAD stuff...I don't know much about it. But you are smart and you got this girl! Don't let self-doubt tank you

aww, thanks!


I did get some tea to settle my stomach.  I'm at work and don't have access to Pepto, but I do have it at home.

[Regis]

I learned CAD (twice, in fact - both AutoCAD and Microstation) and I'm no genius.  You've got this with no problem!

[MJ2.0]

GG had to work a pretty long day and canceled. I'm not terribly surprised but of course I'm a little disappointed. But what can you do? He was, again, nice about it. We usually hang out one day on the weekend so at least there's that.

[justme]

Not much you can do. You either roll with it or decide you're over it and stop it.

[toomuchreality]

Sorry things didn't work out with GG tonight. I'm glad he was nice about it. And I'm glad you'll have other opportunities to spend time with him.

Please take care of you.   → You, your wants and needs, do matter!

[Jaguar]

MJ2.0, you are a very smart woman, not only can you do this, but you will do this and succeed. Congrats on going forward, you're a winner!

[Deleted]

I went back to school when I was 34.  It was one of the best times of my life.  I felt so empowered over my future.   Then I decided nursing sucked and wasn't for me. 

But hey, I got my bachelors degree finally and it was still an awesome time. 

You'll do better than I did.  I panic chose a career path based strictly on the fact that I knew jobs were plentiful and paid well.  I knew going in it was going to be a struggle for me, I just figured I'd do it anyhow. 

[swasat]

Really now! 

A guy had a hard day at work and cancelled meetup plans. We all have bad days when we don't want to hang out with anyone. There are days when I come back from work and tell DH and kids to leave me alone for a few hours so I can diffuse all the tension from work. Doesn't mean I am avoiding them.

Better he explained the situation and cancelled, than him being there all grumpy and un-involved. When DH and I were dating there were times I cancelled on him a quite a few times as I was a graduate student in addition to having full time job. There were days I just didn't have the stamina to hang out with him. He cancelled on me continuously for 3 weeks because he had crazy deadlines at work.

I don't think cancellations mean he is just not into you. I wouldn't read too much into it.    Give the guy a fair chance. 

[Deleted]

Twice in a week is pretty bad when you're in the first dating stage.  Usually you're all about seeing each other then no matter how bad your day was.  But, my opinion in dating and men is pretty much worthless.

[justme]

Twice in a row though? It might not be that he has other girls lined up or anything, but I'd take it as he's not super into me. I've rallied before when I felt like crap and was tired but had plans with a guy I liked, and have had some do that too. Usually with the caveat of I'm so tired can we just watch a movie or something.

Not saying him if he's still fun to hang out with, but I'd file it away as a little note.

[Deleted]

If he cancelled twice, he has another woman. 

I was dating someone who professed their love to me but always managed to disappear or cancel. I found out he was/is in a long term relationship with some other woman.

I found a new guy who always wants to get together and is even willing to drive the 3 hours to get to my house. He's coming out for a week today so we can go deer hunting and rockhounding/camping. Can't wait.

Cheater still texts me regularly, and I ignore him. At some point perhaps he will stop, or I will just block him. Probably should do that anyway. 

[MJ2.0]

FYI, It wasn't twice in one week. It was once last week and once this week. But we still saw each other on the weekend both weekends. I know that he does not have a gf. He tells me he's only dating me, but I suppose he could be dating other girls. I don't like that, but we're not in a relationship so he's free to do that if he wants.

[janee]

I wouldn't write him off yet, either. I agree that it has been so hot, I do not have much energy in the evenings.

I agree with all the comments about you being smart and capable. You'll handle it once you get started. It's the unknown that is always anxiety-producing (at least for me!).

I have a mental exercise I do when I am worrying/anxious about something. I picture a flow chart (yes, I have a little geek in me). I ask myself "Is there something I can do about ____". If they answer is NO, then I try like heck to forget about it. If the answer is "YES" then I spend a few minutes making a plan with some options. Knowing what I can do helps me calm down and get back to sleep. I've been training myself that if the answer is NO, I just have to accept it and let it go. It's a hard lesson but it does work! 

Good luck!

[MJ2.0]

He also has to start work at 5am and is outside for most of the day. I think he ended work just before 6pm. Working 5am-6pm outside in this heat would make me immediately zonk out after work. He assured me that it's not me at all and that he does really like me.

So I guess I'm an idiot or whatever because I believe him and will probably hang out with him this weekend.

[Deleted]

Aug 17, 2016 9:29:43 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

FYI, It wasn't twice in one week. It was once last week and once this week. But we still saw each other on the weekend both weekends. I know that he does not have a gf. He tells me he's only dating me, but I suppose he could be dating other girls. I don't like that, but we're not in a relationship so he's free to do that if he wants.

Ok, twice in 7 days.   That's still a week to me. 

[janee]

I defy anyone to work 5 am to 6 pm outside in this heat and then want to get together. 

If you like him, just take it as it happens. Sounds like he is being honest with you.

[MJ2.0]

Aug 17, 2016 9:37:38 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Aug 17, 2016 9:29:43 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

FYI, It wasn't twice in one week. It was once last week and once this week. But we still saw each other on the weekend both weekends. I know that he does not have a gf. He tells me he's only dating me, but I suppose he could be dating other girls. I don't like that, but we're not in a relationship so he's free to do that if he wants.

Ok, twice in 7 days.   That's still a week to me. 

Fair enough....

[justme]

I still think most players are pretty good at scheduling and don't do last minute cancellations. Maybe once they feel you're solidly on the hook and won't care?

[Opti]

Aug 17, 2016 9:39:00 GMT -5 janee said:

I defy anyone to work 5 am to 6 pm outside in this heat and then want to get together. 

If you like him, just take it as it happens. Sounds like he is being honest with you.

I don't remember a week ago, but it was pretty humid and oppressive yesterday. I wouldn't want to see anyone if I had been outside all day.

[toomuchreality]

Aug 17, 2016 9:52:29 GMT -5 Opti said:

Aug 17, 2016 9:39:00 GMT -5 janee said:

I defy anyone to work 5 am to 6 pm outside in this heat and then want to get together. 

If you like him, just take it as it happens. Sounds like he is being honest with you.

I don't remember a week ago, but it was pretty humid and oppressive yesterday. I wouldn't want to see anyone if I had been outside all day.

 


Plus, he'd have to shower and change, before he could go. When you're tired/drained, and it's hot outside, doing that, in time to make it for dinner and hang out, would be difficult.

I can see why a few people have said to kick him to the curb. But I can also see why she hasn't and isn't yet. Since we don't know ALL the details, but we do know MJ2.0 isn't dumb as a rock, I tend to think she right.

Besides, it's not like there's an urgent need to show the guy the door, asap. I say give the guy a chance. If you change your mind about him, you can always kick him to the curb at a later date.



Whew- I'd be history, if people hadn't been willing to give me a chance now and then.
You don't automatically/instantly, or at the stroke of midnight, turn into a doormat.
It's okay to be nice on occasion.  Jeepers!


Cheers y'all!     -Hey, it's almost noon. It's all good!  Well, okay. It's almost 11. <picky, picky, picky>  

[wvugurl26]

If I worked 5am to 6pm outside in the heat, the only thing I'd want is a shower and my bed. I like the tax season analogy. His job will slack off as it gets cooler.

[MJ2.0]

day #2 of tummy upset!

Not about GG really, but I am wrapping up my last FT week at work. I am somewhat relieved but it seems like anything that could go wrong IS going wrong. We do have our guy that was on STD now working from home full time, so that is a HUGE help. But Problem Child is still tooting along and not doing her fair share of the workload. I've had to forward her emails she should be handling, plus the busy season is kicking up PLUS my managers want to squeeze every last drop of supervisory/managerial stuff out of me before 12:30pm Friday.

I am also about to choose a new health insurance plan. I'm stressing about how the hell they can charge these crazy premiums and you still have to put out an assload of money if you actually need to go to the doctor/hospital. Highway robbery! I have a PCP, ob/gyn, hematologist, and opthamologist (specialist) and trying to make sure they are all covered under whatever plan I get is also an issue. Will probably start a thread about that.

sorry for the TMI but I have been to the bathroom about 5 times already. Best weight loss plan ever.

[MJ2.0]

Aug 17, 2016 12:26:34 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

If I worked 5am to 6pm outside in the heat, the only thing I'd want is a shower and my bed. I like the tax season analogy. His job will slack off as it gets cooler.

he said he's on more of a normal schedule around the middle of fall - close to November.  Right now he works a 10/2 schedule - works for 10 days, gets off 2 days... Basically he's only off every other weekend.  I told him I'd be murdering people if I worked that much!

[Lizard Queen]

Tea is a bit of a diuretic, so I'd ease off of that. Can you eat a little bread or toast? Stress gives me an acidy feeling tummy, and that seems to help me.

[MJ2.0]

Aug 17, 2016 13:59:46 GMT -5 @sroo4 said:

Aug 17, 2016 12:32:18 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

day #2 of tummy upset!

Not about GG really, but I am wrapping up my last FT week at work. I am somewhat relieved but it seems like anything that could go wrong IS going wrong. We do have our guy that was on STD now working from home full time, so that is a HUGE help. But Problem Child is still tooting along and not doing her fair share of the workload. I've had to forward her emails she should be handling, plus the busy season is kicking up PLUS my managers want to squeeze every last drop of supervisory/managerial stuff out of me before 12:30pm Friday.

I am also about to choose a new health insurance plan. I'm stressing about how the hell they can charge these crazy premiums and you still have to put out an assload of money if you actually need to go to the doctor/hospital. Highway robbery! I have a PCP, ob/gyn, hematologist, and opthamologist (specialist) and trying to make sure they are all covered under whatever plan I get is also an issue. Will probably start a thread about that.

sorry for the TMI but I have been to the bathroom about 5 times already. Best weight loss plan ever.

None of this is your problem anymore.  Don't let it stress you out.   Do what you can but it is wildly expected that employees check out for good about 3 days before their last day.    Clean off your desk,  make notes on where things stand, and keep forwarding the emails. 

I would TOTALLY do that, but I'll still be here 3x/week. If I was leaving for good, I'd be wearing the bedazzled "I QUIT" sweatpants and giving everyone the finger as I left.