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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2016 19:50:47 GMT -5
Well, my aunt did not argue about me giving her an anniversary party so maybe that's a good sign. The bad sign was that she said she didn't think she'd be around for her 60th. . Tonight after dinner I'm giving "the talk." I hope it goes well. They are likely to think you're an angel, when it's all said and done. Thank you for showing your love, not just saying the words. When I'm doing something nice for someone and they ask why, I simply say "because I can and that makes me happy". So far, no further explanation has been required. Good luck!
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2016 19:53:33 GMT -5
Even I was fainting at $1700. But I was at Walgreens and a son was paying $750 for his Dad's $15,000 drug. Darn one year supply of little blue pills. I wish Dad would just act his age! Sounds like he is trying to!
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Post by CCL on Jul 7, 2016 20:12:30 GMT -5
Good luck and I hope your aunt does well with her treatments. Myself, I would just tell them hubby left you some money and you want to gift it to them , like everyone has said, out of love. They might surprise you and be totally relieved and grateful that you are able to help.
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Post by tcu2003 on Jul 7, 2016 20:26:56 GMT -5
Good luck, zib! I tend to think that saying it's because you love them and can never repay them for everything they've ever done for you , but you want to help and this (helping pay for treatment) is something you can and want to do might work. It's essentially what we did with my mom to cover most my dad's funeral. She'd missed a ton of work during his cancer due to treatments and out of town hospitalizations, so their e-fund was basically empty, and I didn't want her to stress about it. While my mom never would have asked and tried to refuse it, I insisted and took my checkbook to the funeral home so she basically didn't have a choice.
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Post by tskeeter on Jul 7, 2016 20:53:01 GMT -5
Darn one year supply of little blue pills. I wish Dad would just act his age! Sounds like he is trying to! But, but, he's 86. If he keeps this up he's going to get thrown out of another assisted care facility.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 7, 2016 21:33:48 GMT -5
Sounds like he is trying to! But, but, he's 86. If he keeps this up he's going to get thrown out of another assisted care facility. Only if he's lucky!
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 7, 2016 22:35:51 GMT -5
It went easy peasy. I worried for nothing. I told them to tell me if they needed more. Doubt they will but I'll be back in a month for anniversary and will know more then. I can't believe how I worried and stressed and for naught!!! Too funny.
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Post by tskeeter on Jul 7, 2016 23:57:25 GMT -5
But, but, he's 86. If he keeps this up he's going to get thrown out of another assisted care facility. Only if he's lucky! That's part of the problem. He's known as Grandpa Lucky.
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Post by Jaguar on Jul 8, 2016 0:57:21 GMT -5
zibazinski, I've always known that you have a heart of gold. Yeah you're tough, but you're a softie too.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 8, 2016 2:39:16 GMT -5
zibazinski , I've always known that you have a heart of gold. Yeah you're tough, but you're a softie too.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2016 3:32:13 GMT -5
zibazinski, I've always known that you have a heart of gold. Yeah you're tough, but you're a softie too. She has cats. Of course she's a softy!!
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 8, 2016 8:46:42 GMT -5
Just the one now but he's such a love even though he snores and farts.
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Post by dannylion on Jul 8, 2016 11:09:13 GMT -5
It went easy peasy. I worried for nothing. I told them to tell me if they needed more. Doubt they will but I'll be back in a month for anniversary and will know more then. I can't believe how I worried and stressed and for naught!!! Too funny. I'm glad it went well, Zib. Isn't that typical, though? The thing we've worried and stressed about and made elaborate plans and contingency plans and lists of "what ifs" turns out to be a non-issue. Life is weird.
I hope this is a good omen and that your aunt's treatments will be successful so you will have them both in your life as long as possible.
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Post by CCL on Jul 8, 2016 13:46:58 GMT -5
It went easy peasy. I worried for nothing. I told them to tell me if they needed more. Doubt they will but I'll be back in a month for anniversary and will know more then. I can't believe how I worried and stressed and for naught!!! Too funny. That's great news! Now all they need to focus on is getting well. I'm sure your help will really make a difference for them, not just financialy, but also by eliminating some of the stress of the situation.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 8, 2016 18:49:50 GMT -5
It went easy peasy. I worried for nothing. I told them to tell me if they needed more. Doubt they will but I'll be back in a month for anniversary and will know more then. I can't believe how I worried and stressed and for naught!!! Too funny. Happy it went well and hope your aunt gets better. I hope you have your aunt and uncle and the farting cat in your life for many years.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2016 20:09:04 GMT -5
It went easy peasy. I worried for nothing. I told them to tell me if they needed more. Doubt they will but I'll be back in a month for anniversary and will know more then. I can't believe how I worried and stressed and for naught!!! Too funny. I'm glad it went well, Zib. Isn't that typical, though? The thing we've worried and stressed about and made elaborate plans and contingency plans and lists of "what ifs" turns out to be a non-issue. Life is weird.
I hope this is a good omen and that your aunt's treatments will be successful so you will have them both in your life as long as possible.
Ain't that the truth! Glad it went so well Zib-you are a blessing to them.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 8, 2016 20:24:50 GMT -5
That farting cat! The cat sitter texted me that she looked all over the house for the evil smell but couldn't find anything. I had to admit it was him. She laughed and laughed. I hope I don't lose her as a sitter.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 8, 2016 20:25:32 GMT -5
I'm glad it went well, Zib. Isn't that typical, though? The thing we've worried and stressed about and made elaborate plans and contingency plans and lists of "what ifs" turns out to be a non-issue. Life is weird.
I hope this is a good omen and that your aunt's treatments will be successful so you will have them both in your life as long as possible.
Ain't that the truth! Glad it went so well Zib-you are a blessing to them. They are a blessing to me.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 9, 2016 19:30:30 GMT -5
That farting cat! The cat sitter texted me that she looked all over the house for the evil smell but couldn't find anything. I had to admit it was him. She laughed and laughed. I hope I don't lose her as a sitter. A good pet sitter can be hard to find. Wish I could find a ferret sitter!
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 9, 2016 19:31:54 GMT -5
I'd sit them. They're a hoot!
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 9, 2016 19:45:40 GMT -5
I'd sit them. They're a hoot! Thanks! I think so too. I'm just a few miles from you though.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 9, 2016 20:42:35 GMT -5
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 11, 2016 22:54:34 GMT -5
Zib, this is a caring loving thing to do. If you talk to them, just stress that you love them and am grateful that you are able to help. There is really no need for this to be humiliating. I know and I do love them but I know how I'd feel and they're going to feel the same way. They're 80 and almost 80. Old school. My uncle will feel less of a man because he can't take care of his wife. This money doesn't even begin to repay them for the love and other things they have done for me. Deleted post because you already talked to them!
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 11, 2016 22:56:56 GMT -5
I kind of did. I waffled it so badly but in the final analysis, They very easily accepted it. I was a bit surprised. You think all sorts of scenarios and plots and then you don't have to use any of them.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2016 15:03:08 GMT -5
Zib, I'm glad they accepted your generosity gracefully. If you don't mind my asking- how did people with Medicare and a supplement end up with such huge out-of-pocket costs? So far nothing like that has happened with my parents (and Mom has been treated for breast cancer) or DH. I ask this as a future Medicare beneficiary myself!
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 12, 2016 19:48:27 GMT -5
Zib, I'm glad they accepted your generosity gracefully. If you don't mind my asking- how did people with Medicare and a supplement end up with such huge out-of-pocket costs? So far nothing like that has happened with my parents (and Mom has been treated for breast cancer) or DH. I ask this as a future Medicare beneficiary myself! I don't know but the PA came in and said what my Aunts copay would be so I assume she had someone check it out.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 12, 2016 20:06:45 GMT -5
Well, they have Medicare and another insurance as a co pay but I couldn't figure out how to plug in both and see what it'd be. Do they have a medicare supplement, or medicare MAPD? It makes a big difference.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 12, 2016 20:08:46 GMT -5
It's called Health Net or something like that.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 12, 2016 20:19:20 GMT -5
It's called Health Net or something like that. I went to health net website and it looks like they sell both. I specialized in health insurance for years. If you can find out if it's a supplement with part D or a medicare advantage (MAPD) plan, I can walk you through them. The coverages for Medicare products are federal government mandated, so the coverage will be the same. I can also tell you about her getting a medicare/medicaid combo and not having this issue going forward. PM me if you need any help. I'd be glad to do it.
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Post by plugginaway22 on Jul 12, 2016 20:19:43 GMT -5
Are they Veteran benefits? Thought that HealthNet was one of those.
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