bean29
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Post by bean29 on Jun 14, 2016 15:33:54 GMT -5
Yes. Hispanic culture is this way. We hug instead of shake hands. Even when meeting someone for the first time. Family function at grandma's? You hug each other when you see each other and again when you leave. We've always been this way, so it doesn't bother me. I married into the Hispanic culture, and DH and I have a lot of social interactions with Hispanic Professionals and relatives and friends. I now have to stop myself from Hugging Non-Hispanics. I think of the Hispanic culture as very warm and loving/welcoming.
DH and I went to a retirement party for a friend of his Dad's about a month ago. I had not seen most of the family for years. They came over hugged us and chatted for awhile. Same with many of the other attendees who we knew but (I) had not seen in years (My DH does business with many of them).
My kids have been brought up in the Hispanic Culture and they know very much to say goodbye to everyone when leaving a party and thank the Host/Hostess and they mostly give out unconditional Hugs too.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 15, 2016 11:41:56 GMT -5
My mother's family is not very touchy feely (they're really not that close at all), but my dad's family is a little closer. I enjoy getting and giving physical affection to and from my close friends and close family (I have really good friends that come from Latino and Italian families, so lots of huggers and kissers). I also welcome physical contact with men that I'm attracted to and have good chemistry with. I also do the occasional hug at work right before we go on a holiday break or if someone I've worked with a lot is retiring/leaving/going away for a while. Other than that, nope.
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Post by flamingo on Jun 15, 2016 13:20:06 GMT -5
I'm not a touchy/feely person at all. I think my DH wishes I was more of a toucher, but it's just not my thing. I'm happy to wave hello, shake hands, high five, but I don't need hello/good bye hugs. Least of all when I see my extended family 3 times a year! They all want to hug me and I'm all like, this is so weird, please stop! I used to work with a woman who couldn't seem talk to me without touching me - hand on my shoulder, touch my arm, etc. Drove me nuts. It was her personality and she did it with everyone, but I wanted to just scream at her to QUIT TOUCHING ME. I now work with a woman who asks me if she can hug me before she does. Which, while sometimes awkward, is nice. At least I have a warning that the touching is coming!
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Post by jeep108 on Jun 15, 2016 13:44:08 GMT -5
I use to like to hug people. After a customer at work decided to grab my boob as he hugged me not so much. Now I keep to only hugging certain people.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2016 13:56:25 GMT -5
I once got reported to retail management by a mom. Her sticky-fingered kid reached up to give me a hug, and I shook my head. Her mom saw the head shaking and asked me what she did. Then she got all upset that I didn't want to hug her beautiful child. I told her quite matter-of-factly that I don't hug people I don't know. "But she's a child . . . !" the mom complained, "And you hurt her feelings." I didn't get in trouble with management, but everyone made fun of me and teased me about kicking puppy dogs. My daughter-in-law and my son liked to stop at Macy's to say hello and give me a group hug, which they both knew I hated. So, no, I'm not touchy-feely.
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Post by steph08 on Jun 15, 2016 14:14:32 GMT -5
No, I'm not touchy feely. I don't like hugging anyone except my DH and my kids. I'll hug my mom and my BFF but that's about it.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 15, 2016 17:59:07 GMT -5
I'm very touchy feely. <<starts chasing all the anti-huggers on the board with arms out>>
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Post by Opti on Jun 15, 2016 18:11:52 GMT -5
I don't consider myself touchy feely but I do like giving hugs within reason. Most of my hugs socially have been with people at church given I am man-less at the moment. People I know in NJ overall are more touch oriented than friends and family of mine in the Midwest.
The Italians and Polish folk at my church sometimes take it past what I can handle. I will do the kissing of someone's cheek but kissing someone on the lips that is not my SO, creeps me out. I love hugging men who aren't creepy, including a gorgeous 6'2" friend at church.
I'm fairly sure one of my love languages is touch.
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