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Post by justme on May 27, 2016 16:06:59 GMT -5
I'm jealous* of all you people that don't twitch when people confuse jealous and envious. :-p Hey, it's at least in the same neighborhood. Watching my husband trying to come up with a word and spitting out things I can't even word associate with, that's twitch worthy. Frighteningly, I'm getting better and better at guessing where he's going, even if he's 3 states away with his word choices. True! There's just an advice column I read that just yesterday had this huge day long discussion on the difference due to that days letter. Was thinking of that as soon as I saw this.
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Post by swamp on May 27, 2016 16:09:40 GMT -5
I'm jealous* of all you people that don't twitch when people confuse jealous and envious. :-p Hey, it's at least in the same neighborhood. Watching my husband trying to come up with a word and spitting out things I can't even word associate with, that's twitch worthy. Frighteningly, I'm getting better and better at guessing where he's going, even if he's 3 states away with his word choices. are we married to the same guy.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on May 27, 2016 16:13:44 GMT -5
Hey, it's at least in the same neighborhood. Watching my husband trying to come up with a word and spitting out things I can't even word associate with, that's twitch worthy. Frighteningly, I'm getting better and better at guessing where he's going, even if he's 3 states away with his word choices. are we married to the same guy. I think mine has a little more hair and a few more bad habits. I'll trade you a couple of those for the Disney obsession.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2016 16:41:18 GMT -5
Most of my life I've been jealous of girls, who had their Moms. Mine passed away when I was 10, and it had a profound impact on me.. But I believe there is good in every loss and feel I was a better mom and grandma because of it. I feel much love for and from the family I helped to create and for that I'm really grateful.
I also have been jealous of people who have high energy; I don't. I have hypothyroidism. I'm glad that they have a pill I can take that gives me some of the energy I'm naturally lacking, and at least stops the migraines (which is how I was diagnosed @ 28.)
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Post by Miss Tequila on May 27, 2016 16:58:08 GMT -5
At one point I was jealous of my friend because she had a perfect life. Her husband made a boatload of money (not only from his job but from his real estate investing), they lived in a huge house, belonged to the country club...and she didn't work! of course, with my envy also came fear about what would happen to her if they divorxed
Fast forward 15 yeas. He cheated on her and she is stuck living there for financial reasons (not sure if there is a prenup or what). It goes to show that you really don't know what goes on in someone's marriage. She was a cpa at one point but hasn't worked since her son was born and he just graduated high school
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Post by simser on May 27, 2016 17:00:55 GMT -5
I'm jealous of people with job, families, a clean house, and people who don't move across the country every 4 years.
It's been a rough week. As I don't have any of those things and am facing moving-again- it sucks. This'll be the 6th state in 11 years (assuming my next job is out of state).
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2016 17:15:25 GMT -5
I've always been a little envious that other people don't seem to worry about money as much as I do. Even DH doesn't worry about it. It really isn't that they are in debt to the their eyeballs or anything similar to make me feel better. It just doesn't concern them. They go with the flow.
I wish I could do that.
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Post by Miss Tequila on May 27, 2016 17:24:58 GMT -5
I've always been a little envious that other people don't seem to worry about money as much as I do. Even DH doesn't worry about it. It really isn't that they are in debt to the their eyeballs or anything similar to make me feel better. It just doesn't concern them. They go with the flow. I wish I could do that. Im the same as you. What cracks me up is I get xomments from people that assume they know what I make and they are envious of what they think my income is. Yet they have nicer cars and blow their money and more stuff than me. Not a care in the world about their futures. Still not sure why they are envious since they have more material things than me....then again, Im not worried about paying next month's mortgage payment
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Post by cronewitch on May 27, 2016 17:29:31 GMT -5
I envy my little brother and his sweet wife. 48 years married now, she seems the perfect wife, clean house, children 45-47 now that love them, 2 grand kids. My brother does whatever she wants him to do always has, sometimes he does it before she even knows she wants it and she takes care of him too. Both hard working, beautiful home, retired, travel, love each other. He has prostate cancer now with radiation but they are going to Cancun on vacation and have SS and pensions and 403B plan so plenty of income. She and her daughter find fun things to do on Groupon, he helps the kids remodel and does what ever his wife wants done and kids will help. Seems a perfect life with big family dinners, she has 5 siblings left with kids and grand kids.
I can't be them, I am too lazy to do all that work and entertaining and no kids and don't like to travel but it would be nice to be them. If I wasn't lazy I would get some kids maybe teens with babies. I would like to have a baby but have someone else do the work part and take them away when I was tired of them.
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Post by tskeeter on May 27, 2016 17:41:22 GMT -5
Isn't it interesting how people who have made poor decisions are so often jealous of and resent people who have made better decisions? What were the better decisions in this situation? I this case, it would appear possible that some of the better decisions may have been avoiding teenage pregnancy, buying a house that was easy to afford on the family income, the security that comes with staying in the community you grew up in, etc. Whether or not these were "better" decisions probably depends on the perspective of the person exhibiting jealousy, as what is better is a bit subjective.
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Post by tskeeter on May 27, 2016 17:55:03 GMT -5
I'm jealous of people with job, families, a clean house, and people who don't move across the country every 4 years. It's been a rough week. As I don't have any of those things and am facing moving-again- it sucks. This'll be the 6th state in 11 years (assuming my next job is out of state). Hmmm, I found that my frequent cross country moves had a number of advantages. For decades I haven't replaced a worn out appliance, repainted, replaced carpeting, etc. And, I've had the chance to try a lot of regional cuisine. Beef on Weck, chicken wings (before they were popular), and Friday night fish frys in Buffalo, sweet potato soufflé, fried catfish and hush puppies near Atlanta, Italian beef sandwiches and deep dish pizza in Chicago. Yes, moving is disruptive and stressful. But it does present some benefits.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2016 17:55:49 GMT -5
I had a coworker that I'd been friendly with, start acting like she couldn't stand me. I had no idea w what was wrong with her, I'd always been nice to her. Eventually she apologized and said that she was mad at me because I seemed happy, I didn't come to work with black eyes and stuff (she was married to a horribly abusive man at the time) and it just pissed her off. Uhhhh..... ok.
Around the same time, another co-worker did pretty much the same thing, started acting like she hated my guts out of the blue. And finally actually talked to me and told me that she had all these problems (that I already knew about) and it seemed like I didn't have any. She was having problems with her oldest child acting out, her 3 youngest were with an older married man and he'd died not long before she got so hateful toward me. His wife got everything of course and her kids couldn't even get survivor benefits because he was under an older retirement system and had never paid SS taxes and he'd never legally acknowledged them anyway. I told her just because I didnt talk about my problems, it didn't mean I had none.
The irony was that when both of them thought I was so happy and problem free, I was going through hell. Serious medical issues with both my kids, my Mom had been diagnosed with colon cancer, I was beyond broke, scared out of my wits about what would happen with my kids and whether I'd be able to hold everything together by myself. I was pretty damn miserable, I just didn't talk about any of the shit I was going through, and especially not at work.
I must have a helluva game-face.
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Post by Regis on May 27, 2016 18:25:25 GMT -5
I had a coworker that I'd been friendly with, start acting like she couldn't stand me. I had no idea w what was wrong with her, I'd always been nice to her. Eventually she apologized and said that she was mad at me because I seemed happy, I didn't come to work with black eyes and stuff (she was married to a horribly abusive man at the time) and it just pissed her off. Uhhhh..... ok. Around the same time, another co-worker did pretty much the same thing, started acting like she hated my guts out of the blue. And finally actually talked to me and told me that she had all these problems (that I already knew about) and it seemed like I didn't have any. She was having problems with her oldest child acting out, her 3 youngest were with an older married man and he'd died not long before she got so hateful toward me. His wife got everything of course and her kids couldn't even get survivor benefits because he was under an older retirement system and had never paid SS taxes and he'd never legally acknowledged them anyway. I told her just because I didnt talk about my problems, it didn't mean I had none. The irony was that when both of them thought I was so happy and problem free, I was going through hell. Serious medical issues with both my kids, my Mom had been diagnosed with colon cancer, I was beyond broke, scared out of my wits about what would happen with my kids and whether I'd be able to hold everything together by myself. I was pretty damn miserable, I just didn't talk about any of the shit I was going through, and especially not at work. I must have a helluva game-face. Fake it til you make it, Pink.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2016 18:59:27 GMT -5
I had a coworker that I'd been friendly with, start acting like she couldn't stand me. I had no idea w what was wrong with her, I'd always been nice to her. Eventually she apologized and said that she was mad at me because I seemed happy, I didn't come to work with black eyes and stuff (she was married to a horribly abusive man at the time) and it just pissed her off. Uhhhh..... ok. Around the same time, another co-worker did pretty much the same thing, started acting like she hated my guts out of the blue. And finally actually talked to me and told me that she had all these problems (that I already knew about) and it seemed like I didn't have any. She was having problems with her oldest child acting out, her 3 youngest were with an older married man and he'd died not long before she got so hateful toward me. His wife got everything of course and her kids couldn't even get survivor benefits because he was under an older retirement system and had never paid SS taxes and he'd never legally acknowledged them anyway. I told her just because I didnt talk about my problems, it didn't mean I had none. The irony was that when both of them thought I was so happy and problem free, I was going through hell. Serious medical issues with both my kids, my Mom had been diagnosed with colon cancer, I was beyond broke, scared out of my wits about what would happen with my kids and whether I'd be able to hold everything together by myself. I was pretty damn miserable, I just didn't talk about any of the shit I was going through, and especially not at work. I must have a helluva game-face. Fake it til you make it, Pink. I forgot to say that that was all several years ago. I still have problems, just different ones and not so serious.
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Post by ners on May 27, 2016 19:15:29 GMT -5
I was jealous of my DS2. She was unemployed and spent many hours with DS3 who was sick. I had planned a vacation to spend time with DS3. She passed away 2 weeks before my vacation.
I have come to realize that DS2 current financial issue are rooted in this time of unemployment has made me less jealous.
I get jealous of all my coworkers who appear much more efficient than I;
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Post by tloonya on May 27, 2016 23:34:48 GMT -5
I don't know if I jealous of anyone. I had always thought it is kind of stupid to be jealous of other people's life because you really don't know all of their tsurise
(tsu·ris/ˈtso͝oris,ˈtsər/ noun North Americaninformal
noun: tsuris; noun: tsores trouble or woe; aggravation.
I AM jealous of people who smile their ways to the bank but every time I am reading about of wealthy having sick kids or something like that I say 'I am rather to be broke but have my family healthy!' Thanks God!
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Post by tloonya on May 27, 2016 23:37:48 GMT -5
One more. There is black jealousy when you wish it would be taken from them and given it to me...sin! And white jealousy that means 'I wish I had it like they have but I wish it was never taken form them and transferred to me'...just simple 'wishful thinking'
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Post by tloonya on May 27, 2016 23:40:21 GMT -5
I got it! I am jealous of people who found jobs and kept it until retirement. Again...working at the same place for 30 years is not healthy. Scientific study. Yo have to change jobs every 5 years...so...IDK!
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Post by tloonya on May 27, 2016 23:44:09 GMT -5
Also I think I am jealous of the people who has sexual desire for their spouses after 50 years of marriage. But I am always doubt it is true. You can tell anything to anybody. Like is old jewish joke when 2 70 years old jews meeting and convo goes: Moshe, can you get it up at your age? NO way! Me neither but Haim said he can! He has a good memory.
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