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Post by mroped on Sept 1, 2016 16:30:20 GMT -5
Why do they call it "football" when they mostly play the ball by hand? I understand why "soccer" is called football!
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Sept 1, 2016 17:56:14 GMT -5
Awwww...I've been in your shoes twice in the past week. It's all good, but still emotional. I'll warn you to not look at any of his baby pictures any time soon...that was a mistake. :*-( He was home all summer, but it was nice to have s mature young man in the house who would carry on an intelligent conversation with me, we're past the grumpy teenaged years now. He probably won't come home next summer, as I hope he gets an internship somewhere. Hard to let them fly sometimes. Yup, there have been positive personality changes as part of this college journey. But, like you, I'm steeling myself already for the likelihood that neither of mine will come home next summer. Not because they are not welcome -- quite the contrary. Both are pursuing majors for which related summer jobs and internships are more readily available elsewhere. I'm focusing on the fabulous opportunities available to them rather than their absence. I, the first child and first daughter in my family to go away to college, mistakenly went to a huge state university where I lacked the knowledge and skills to take advantage of the abundant opportunities outside the classroom. I'm making certain my own kids make the very most of their college years. That pretty much guarantees that they won't be returning for any stretch of time to our sleepy, little, rural suburb. ;-)
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 1, 2016 20:48:37 GMT -5
Was is DN#6 making such stupid choices?
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Post by countrygirl on Sept 1, 2016 21:13:23 GMT -5
I was first generation college graduate too and it was so difficult with no leadership or direction from anyone that I also did not enjoy a lot.
Son went to college through military, what will his son do? Wish we knew.
His mom is worried, he hears Russian/English at home and Korean all around. They are going to put him in a Korean preschool so he can be with other kids, she is afraid this is all going to delay his speech. Will it? My husband said it might, but won't hurt him, I don't know.
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Post by NastyWoman on Sept 2, 2016 15:44:41 GMT -5
I was first generation college graduate too and it was so difficult with no leadership or direction from anyone that I also did not enjoy a lot.
Son went to college through military, what will his son do? Wish we knew.
His mom is worried, he hears Russian/English at home and Korean all around. They are going to put him in a Korean preschool so he can be with other kids, she is afraid this is all going to delay his speech. Will it? My husband said it might, but won't hurt him, I don't know. countrygirl unless DGS has (occasional) hearing problems (like my DS2 had due to very frequent ear infections) growing up multilingual will not delay his speech. Both my kids grew up that way and, until the ear infections for DS2 started in, there was no impact to there speech development. What I noticed from other kids around us, we were expats so multiple languages were all around us, the only kids that ran into problems were those where the parents "mixed" languages. So for your DGS that would mean sentences that contained a mix of Russian/English/Korean. To help my kids I used to read to them in different languages on alternate days. Sometimes I had the same book in two different languages. Maybe my kids were different from their peers, but I don't think so, but they had very little trouble in any thing thrown at them in either of the three main languages they grew up in.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 2, 2016 15:54:16 GMT -5
Who broke the clock?
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Post by countrygirl on Sept 2, 2016 16:54:09 GMT -5
I think I'm going to bring DD home. I got her today. She is digging at her hair, has sores all over where she is digging at herself, was hungry. They have 2 males in the house working at night or in the evening now. Her gums are getting red so that tells me her teeth aren't getting brushed.
She said they spend their time with the wheelchair man and a new girl that ran away already and on their cellphones.
The type of caregivers they are getting have really been reduced in quality and I think her house mom is going to quit too. DD can't decide about the situation. I mean she isn't concerned about causing infections to her skin and will just dig at her head and not brush her teeth.
We visited at the center here locally and she was not impressed. But we found she can go the number of days a week she wants and on other days they will take her shopping and doing things she wants. I can get her the physical therapy she needs and keep her more active. They took her computer privileges away at the center again, I asked why. She said because they have students that use them, I'm guessing college students that work their and want to use them, this is not the first time. She was sewing and she was digging at a sore with a needle so now they stopped that so she said she is just sitting there all day. I don't like this. She has to be watched but not just take privileges away with nothing else to do.
My husband suggested she go 4 days a week and home Friday through Sunday in case we want to go places which would work.
She was also telling me they grind all the food for 2 of the clients because they have no teeth, I'm sure that ties into the not worrying about brushing. I am not pleased.
We can get respite and we can tailor with the help of the case worker what she needs. She will have to be in a place like this one day but it doesn't need to be yet.
So this is my important decision in life.
She is not on the level of the clients there yet she can't function in normal life. My husband says she could if she would but is to stubborn to do it at her detriment. I said where do you supposed she gets the hardheadedness from, he knows where from. He is just as stubborn. I know she can do more if she would to, what a shame.
I decided if she came home I would stop drinking sodas so she will. This very hard on me. Right now I'm exhausted from the thyroid being out of whack and no sodas, its making me really really tired.
I bought Gatorade, other drinks, fruit cups to eat, some pretzels for her to snack on. She does not like the food there and has lost a lot of weight which is not a bad thing, just a hard way to do it.
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Post by tractor on Sept 2, 2016 18:15:49 GMT -5
I think I'm going to bring DD home. I got her today. She is digging at her hair, has sores all over where she is digging at herself, was hungry. They have 2 males in the house working at night or in the evening now. Her gums are getting red so that tells me her teeth aren't getting brushed.
She said they spend their time with the wheelchair man and a new girl that ran away already and on their cellphones.
The type of caregivers they are getting have really been reduced in quality and I think her house mom is going to quit too. DD can't decide about the situation. I mean she isn't concerned about causing infections to her skin and will just dig at her head and not brush her teeth.
We visited at the center here locally and she was not impressed. But we found she can go the number of days a week she wants and on other days they will take her shopping and doing things she wants. I can get her the physical therapy she needs and keep her more active. They took her computer privileges away at the center again, I asked why. She said because they have students that use them, I'm guessing college students that work their and want to use them, this is not the first time. She was sewing and she was digging at a sore with a needle so now they stopped that so she said she is just sitting there all day. I don't like this. She has to be watched but not just take privileges away with nothing else to do.
My husband suggested she go 4 days a week and home Friday through Sunday in case we want to go places which would work.
She was also telling me they grind all the food for 2 of the clients because they have no teeth, I'm sure that ties into the not worrying about brushing. I am not pleased.
We can get respite and we can tailor with the help of the case worker what she needs. She will have to be in a place like this one day but it doesn't need to be yet.
So this is my important decision in life.
She is not on the level of the clients there yet she can't function in normal life. My husband says she could if she would but is to stubborn to do it at her detriment. I said where do you supposed she gets the hardheadedness from, he knows where from. He is just as stubborn. I know she can do more if she would to, what a shame.
I decided if she came home I would stop drinking sodas so she will. This very hard on me. Right now I'm exhausted from the thyroid being out of whack and no sodas, its making me really really tired.
I bought Gatorade, other drinks, fruit cups to eat, some pretzels for her to snack on. She does not like the food there and has lost a lot of weight which is not a bad thing, just a hard way to do it. My prayers are with you Countrygirl, this can't be an easy thing to deal with. I hope you can find some way to work it all out.
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Post by countrygirl on Sept 2, 2016 19:53:02 GMT -5
Me too, my husband isn't thrilled, but he doesn't see what I see. I would rather we have more of a life but I can't enjoy it worrying about her. They will also drop her at the house if we aren't home with our approval, she is quite capable of staying alone, we just don't want to leave her at night.
I have found the caseworker with the state will set with us and help us design a plan. I have heard nothing but good things about the facility in our nearby community. Even on shopping days they will furnish transportation for her so that's a godsend. If her behavior stays good we can hire help for her if we need it plus access a lot of other programs. The house mom told me don't worry, she knows a lot of providers and if we need for her to go back in she can help with a good one. She is a good person, she was so happy we are getting DD this week as she was going on vacation and was worried about her, she was even rethinking getting another job because she cares about DD. But we can't expect her to stay there just for her, DD will miss her a lot. I'm pretty sure this is what we will do, though will make a decision after our trip the next week or so.
Next decision, we finally got VA for MIL, still a shortfall of $6000 a year and she has one step up to go in care yet, I think $200 to $300 a month more before a nursing home. We have no idea when she will receive her back pay that should pay the extra for a few months.
At least its not $1700 a month shortfall like it was. We have money of hers set aside but it is going. We are thinking of downsizing her apartment, she doesn't use it, is sitting in her sisters room which is one room half the time anyway. This will put them closer together and as DH says tell her its cheaper and that will take care of that. That will help the money to last for a lot longer, we expect her to live a long time.
At least we have solutions for the foreseeable future so that helps, just need to decide what to do, on MIL I think we have no choice.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Sept 4, 2016 9:17:48 GMT -5
Where is Claire Underwood's obviously ginormous closet and how is it that even on spontaneous trips she is able to pull absolutely appropriate and gorgeously stunning outfits out of thin air? Or, are there steamer trunks in that caravan of black Suburbans that chauffeur her everywhere? And, when does she have time to go clothes shopping? She must have a continuous supply of new clothes arriving daily because I've never seen her wear the same outfit twice. I'm almost at the end of season 4 and I've only seen her meet with a stylist once in the whole series!! She doesn't have time to put these flawless outfits together -- how does she do it??!!
I am both unabashedly jealous and genuinely stumped.
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Post by mroped on Sept 4, 2016 16:40:10 GMT -5
Maybe someone else's deciding what she's wearing? Wardrobe people anyone?
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Sept 4, 2016 19:11:08 GMT -5
Maybe someone else's deciding what she's wearing? Wardrobe people anyone? (Eye roll). You say that like she's a fictional character in a fictional TV show and so has wardrobe people at her disposal. Nuh uh. She's real. She's frighteningly, at times, very real. Real people don't have wardrobe people. ;-)
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Post by mroped on Sept 4, 2016 22:53:13 GMT -5
She may very well be a fictional character but that doesn't mean her wardrobe is fictional too because in that case it means she is in fact... well, naked! (naked= word/state that some people fear aparently! )
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Sept 4, 2016 23:28:46 GMT -5
She may very well be a fictional character but that doesn't mean her wardrobe is fictional too because in that case it means she is in fact... well, naked! (naked= word/state that some people fear aparently! ) The logistics just don't work for her to have wardrobe people. Do they travel with her? Do they stay in the Suburbans waiting to spring into action when she needs a on outfit? If her travel l plans change -- and they often do -- do they get store managers to meet them at the store in the middle of the night to buy appropriate outfits? When does she get alterations done? These are important questions. Clearly, the writers on the show haven't looked at the plots from the perspective of how and when does Claire acquire all of those clothes and where does she keep them.
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Post by mroped on Sept 5, 2016 7:04:10 GMT -5
In her "magic purse"! (or on the set)
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Post by Lizard Queen on Sept 5, 2016 7:43:22 GMT -5
Did someone put a hex on my family? Who knew my worrying about my mom's health would've been as good as it gets. My sister has a disease that involves copper, and looks like a concentration camp victim. Just found out yesterday my 45 yo cousin has leukemia. My niece was involved in a freak accident last night as a spectator at a race track, and has at the very least a broken pelvis. Someone take it back!
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Post by Lizard Queen on Sept 5, 2016 8:00:21 GMT -5
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Post by thyme4change on Sept 5, 2016 9:08:48 GMT -5
Why do they call it "football" when they mostly play the ball by hand? I understand why "soccer" is called football! Because rugby was called football back then, and American football is a derivative of rugby. Rugby doesn't have a lot of foot play either - so blame the British, or whoever made that happen. They only stopped calling it football because there were two games that were claiming that name. I think the term rugby has something to do with the name of the ball. Also, if you look at the rest of the sports at the time American football was born, either your foot never came in contact with a ball (baseball) or you were on a horse and hitting it with a mallet. Being on your feet and kicking it during some plays was so much more foot related than those - so it didn't seem like a weird name. But it probably should be called 'goalball' or 'endzoneball' or something like that. Don't worry - American rules football will go the way of boxing and horse racing. It will still be a sport, but it won't be our main sport forever. Of course, that won't happen in my life-time, but it is losing its hold on the American people. Now - Australian rules football - why hasn't that become an international phenomenon? That sport is awesome - best parts of all the other sports mushed together in one fast paced, high scoring, violent game. Perfect!
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Post by mroped on Sept 5, 2016 10:36:23 GMT -5
Rugby, is called that because was first played at the Rugby School and while true that they called it "football", they called it "Rugby Football" and later just simply rugby. They still pun the ball while running so to some extent they play with their feet unlike the American football where they just start the game with a kick or have their kick after touch down. From what I read, football was first called "kick and run" or something like that but I think that sounded childish so some macho man tought that if it is called football that would make it sound manly you know! ( because real men play REAL football where they have to control the ball using their feet. Not to mention that they are men enough as not to wear protective gear and so on! ) Should I keep talking smack about the American favorite sport?
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Post by tallguy on Sept 5, 2016 15:18:51 GMT -5
Rugby, is called that because was first played at the Rugby School and while true that they called it "football", they called it "Rugby Football" and later just simply rugby. They still pun the ball while running so to some extent they play with their feet unlike the American football where they just start the game with a kick or have their kick after touch down. From what I read, football was first called "kick and run" or something like that but I think that sounded childish so some macho man tought that if it is called football that would make it sound manly you know! ( because real men play REAL football where they have to control the ball using their feet. Not to mention that they are men enough as not to wear protective gear and so on! ) Should I keep talking smack about the American favorite sport? Really, dude? You can talk about people flopping in basketball or receivers whining for an interference call in football, but there are no athletes on the planet more pathetic than soccer players who get barely touched and then roll around on the ground like their legs are broken. Then as soon as the referee comes over and gives a yellow card they hop up and run down the field. Pathetic beyond belief!
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Post by mroped on Sept 5, 2016 16:17:24 GMT -5
That's called "theatrical class" and just the best can do it. See Maradona, Platini! Still, that's the best game on the planet. It takes brains and athletic abilities far above any so called "football" player has! Disclaimer: I don't like football for the simple reason that is called football. That shows me that those that play it don't have imagination as to call it something else. Find your own name!!!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 5, 2016 16:59:27 GMT -5
Ho we can my daughter cry at the drop of a hat?
She left Clue at my mom's house. And is crying like her heart is broken.
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Post by milee on Sept 5, 2016 17:09:50 GMT -5
Ho we can my daughter cry at the drop of a hat? Not sure. I'm usually the opposite. Takes a lot to get me to cry and it's really rare and happens at weird things not the usual things. My friends thought it was really funny when I was pregnant because I got all sappy weepy at odd times and they'd never seen me like that. Maybe I'm having some sort of hormone shift (thanks for bringing that up, Hot Flash thread!) because today my son and I were watching a show about the JonBenet Ramsey case and I teared up a little. Not even at the little girl's death - which was horrible - but about what the family went through. It was so sad to see those parents who had lost their daughter and then on top of that were publicly accused of being the ones that killed her. The mom, Patsy, died of cancer having lived the last 10 years of her life in public shame and also never knowing who had killed her daughter. The dad had lost a daughter from a previous marriage to a car accident, lost JonBenet through murder, been (wrongly) publicly accused of molesting then killing her, lost their all savings, couldn't get more work because of the public stigma of being accused of his daughter's molestation and murder, then had his wife die of cancer. In one of those awful ironies, the police publicly cleared the Ramseys and apologized for accusing the family, but that was several years after the mom died. It was a horrible series of events to think about as a parent.
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 5, 2016 17:17:30 GMT -5
It's all over FB and getting shared lasted than his twenty minutes of infamy.
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 5, 2016 17:17:50 GMT -5
Faster not lashed, sorry.
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Ho we can my daughter cry at the drop of a hat? Not sure. I'm usually the opposite. Takes a lot to get me to cry and it's really rare and happens at weird things not the usual things. My friends thought it was really funny when I was pregnant because I got all sappy weepy at odd times and they'd never seen me like that. Maybe I'm having some sort of hormone shift (thanks for bringing that up, Hot Flash thread!) because today my son and I were watching a show about the JonBenet Ramsey case and I teared up a little. Not even at the little girl's death - which was horrible - but about what the family went through. It was so sad to see those parents who had lost their daughter and then on top of that were publicly accused of being the ones that killed her. The mom, Patsy, died of cancer having lived the last 10 years of her life in public shame and also never knowing who had killed her daughter. The dad had lost a daughter from a previous marriage to a car accident, lost JonBenet through murder, been (wrongly) publicly accused of molesting then killing her, lost their all savings, couldn't get more work because of the public stigma of being accused of his daughter's molestation and murder, then had his wife die of cancer. In one of those awful ironies, the police publicly cleared the Ramseys and apologized for accusing the family, but that was several years after the mom died. It was a horrible series of events to think about as a parent. I wanted to watch that but missed it, darn it. Who do they think killed that little girl? I never really thought a parent could kill their own child in the manner she was killed. Always felt bad the way they were accused but who do they think did it?
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Post by milee on Sept 5, 2016 18:17:32 GMT -5
Not sure. I'm usually the opposite. Takes a lot to get me to cry and it's really rare and happens at weird things not the usual things. My friends thought it was really funny when I was pregnant because I got all sappy weepy at odd times and they'd never seen me like that. Maybe I'm having some sort of hormone shift (thanks for bringing that up, Hot Flash thread!) because today my son and I were watching a show about the JonBenet Ramsey case and I teared up a little. Not even at the little girl's death - which was horrible - but about what the family went through. It was so sad to see those parents who had lost their daughter and then on top of that were publicly accused of being the ones that killed her. The mom, Patsy, died of cancer having lived the last 10 years of her life in public shame and also never knowing who had killed her daughter. The dad had lost a daughter from a previous marriage to a car accident, lost JonBenet through murder, been (wrongly) publicly accused of molesting then killing her, lost their all savings, couldn't get more work because of the public stigma of being accused of his daughter's molestation and murder, then had his wife die of cancer. In one of those awful ironies, the police publicly cleared the Ramseys and apologized for accusing the family, but that was several years after the mom died. It was a horrible series of events to think about as a parent. I wanted to watch that but missed it, darn it. Who do they think killed that little girl? I never really thought a parent could kill their own child in the manner she was killed. Always felt bad the way they were accused but who do they think did it?
The show I watched didn't speculate on who was the real killer. But they did mention that when the DA's office finally brought in an outside, very experienced investigator, he discovered several clues that pointed to someone outside the family (which the Boulder police had initially missed.) In the interview with the parents, John also mentioned that several months after JonBenet was killed, there was another case in Boulder where an intruder broke into a family home and was waiting in the daughter's bedroom. In that case, the father discovered the intruder and scared him away before anything happened, but that set of circumstances sounds very similar to one theory of what happened in the Ramsey case. The Boulder police didn't catch that intruder, either and claimed the cases weren't similar since the daughter wasn't killed. There were enough weird details about the case (very strange ransom note, including asking for a very specific, odd dollar amount of ransom which just happened to be the exact amount of a bonus that John Ramsey recently received plus that the killing actually took place inside the house and used materials from the house) to strongly imply that the killer wasn't a total stranger and probably had at least been in the house before or at least met/studied the family. But this particular show didn't make any guesses as to who the killer was.
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