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Post by Shooby on May 12, 2016 20:01:09 GMT -5
Stopping dead in your tracks is called a "jump stop". And, it is a very common move that we teach our kids. There are times to do a full layup and times to do a jump stop. And, for younger kids, it is actually easier for them to do a jump stop and usually results in a basket. If you son banged into him, that is unfortunate but that does happen and that would most likely be charged as a foul to your son. If the other boy lowered his shoulder and bodychecked him in some way, then that is an offensive foul. My kids have played bball since elementary. And, there have been some very brutal, physical games, no question.
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Post by justme on May 12, 2016 23:29:19 GMT -5
I honestly would have to see it to make a call. Hockey and basketball are both contact sports, but what's legal in one is not in the other.
If it was a shoulder check I'd venture to say not kosher because basketball back when I played it was more of a hip check thing. We inky based shoulders on rebounds. That is girls bball though.
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Post by gooddecisions on May 13, 2016 6:31:35 GMT -5
As a life-long athlete, no I never expected another player or player's parent to pay for my injury. It's sports, injuries happen. Cushion your sports budget to account for it or sign him up for golf...or chess.
There was a super competitive girl on my rugby team who had a bad attitude. She really wanted my position and was my lifter. I'm 99% sure she intentionally dropped me in a line-out. The fall tore a ligament in my knee and I was out the rest of the season. It never crossed my mind to bill her for my doctor and PT costs.
I can't even imagine having the conversation. So awkward if you go to the parent and say, so that tooth cost me $500- it was your son's fault, are you going to pay it? That conversation probably won't go well. If she pays (unlikely), she'll be disgruntled every time she sees you and if she doesn't, you'll be disgruntled every time you see her.
Sorry you're going through this. There is always one a-hole on the team.
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Post by tractor on May 13, 2016 7:45:52 GMT -5
Just another observation, all the pro players (maybe college too) wear mouth guards to protect their teeth. It's a good idea for anyone playing contact sports.
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Post by giramomma on May 13, 2016 8:58:07 GMT -5
For me, if my son (or any of my kids) caused another child bodily harm, especially even if there was a wiff of being done on purpose, I would offer to pay.
If my kids break something of mine, they have to figure out away to make amends. If we are at the grandparents house, and the kids break something that's not theirs, they make amends.
If my kids break another kids' toy, either on accident or on purpose we figure out away to make amends.
If my kids hurt each other, either physically or emotionally, they have to make amends.
When it comes time for my kids driving, if they cause an accident, there will be amends.
Personally, I don't think one kid harming/hurting/breaking another child in sports is exempt from making amends. How is breaking someone's tooth less serious than breaking a toy?
My son accidentally clocked a catcher with his bat because he wasn't paying attention. My son, once he realized what was going on, went over and apologized immediately and shared some concern over said child. He got a warning. Do that again, and you are out. I did not say "oh come on, what's the problem? It was an accident and sports are violent. Look, the catcher was wearing a helmet. Let's get on with it."
I said "Dude, you'd better watch it. You get thrown out, and that's on you. I'm not fighting it. If this continues, we're going to rethink your playing." I saw DS apologize, and since the child was physically OK, I thought that was enough. Had there been worse injuries, I would have pursued it.
I'm thinking I must be in the minority.
When did making amends for doing others harm go out of style?
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Post by milee on May 13, 2016 9:14:44 GMT -5
For me, the key point was the intention.
If this was just normal play or even just rough play in normal sports, then that would fall into the "these things happen in sports" category. But OP is describing an intentional act where one kid chose to deliberately hurt the other. That's not OK outside sports and it's not OK in sports. Just because two kids are involved in a sport doesn't transform the situation into a combination of the Lord of the Flies and Thunderdome, where the kids get to eat the kids they don't like and the first one to get to the chainsaw wins.
It would be reasonable to suggest that OP talks to the head coach about the issue because the head coach probably either saw what happened or will talk to others to verify the OP's interpretation. If most witnesses think it was a jump stop or other normal play, then this falls into the "these things happen in sports" category and there's no reason to discuss addressing the issue with the other kid or money because there was no intentional action. On the other hand, if other witnesses also saw a deliberate act where one kid chose to hurt the other outside the rules (which is what OP believes happened), then it would be really irresponsible not to discipline the other kid because that would send the message that any time you put on a uniform you can do whatever you want and it will be excused because you're an athlete and hey, sports are dangerous.
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Post by kittensaver on May 13, 2016 9:28:19 GMT -5
For me, the key point was the intention.
If this was just normal play or even just rough play in normal sports, then that would fall into the "these things happen in sports" category. But OP is describing an intentional act where one kid chose to deliberately hurt the other. That's not OK outside sports and it's not OK in sports. Just because two kids are involved in a sport doesn't transform the situation into a combination of the Lord of the Flies and Thunderdome, where the kids get to solve their problems however they see fit and the first one to get to the chainsaw wins.
It would be reasonable to suggest that OP talks to the head coach about the issue because the head coach probably either saw what happened or will talk to others to verify the OP's interpretation. If most witnesses think it was a jump stop or other normal play, then this falls into the "these things happen in sports" category and there's no reason to discuss addressing the issue with the other kid or money because there was no intentional action. On the other hand, if other witnesses also saw a deliberate act where one kid chose to hurt the other outside the rules (which is what OP believes happened), then it would be really irresponsible not to discipline the other kid because that would send the message that any time you put on a uniform you can do whatever you want and it will be excused because you're an athlete and hey, sports are dangerous. We have some good friends with a son who is still to this day a gifted athlete. About a decade ago when he was a senior in HS (and a brilliant left-handed pitcher who had both college and pro scouts showing up at his games), he ran to cover a play at home base. The kid coming in for the slide was one with whom he'd had an "intense rivalry" since pee-wee t-ball league. I was not there, but everyone who was said the kid sliding in appeared to take deliberate aim at this young man's upper body. As a result, our friend had his left arm broken in two places, very effectively ending both his pitching career and his college athletic scholarship chances. "Everybody" knew (and saw) the intent, but of course nothing could be "proven," so nothing was done. It's way too easy to say 'oooops, sorry, injuries happen' and get away with hurting another badly. At least our friend got excellent medical attention (he was treated by the orthopedic group that also treats the Lakers, Clippers and Dodgers), converted to first base/utility outfield, played 2 years in NCAA Division I and today plays in the Frontier League in the Midwest. But we all wonder how it coulda-woulda-shoulda turned out
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Post by tallguy on May 13, 2016 11:33:55 GMT -5
Well, first, what I would do is probably a lot different than what you can do. I'm a big, tall guy who played the game for a long time....
"Hey, coach? Did you see that play last week where your son hit my kid and broke his tooth? That looked intentional to me. Did you see it and what did you think?"
"I know that you have noticed his behavior this season. What we do with kids is teach them how to play the game the right way and how to have fun. That is our job as parents and coaches. And I am concerned about your kid and his attitude."
"Look at me. Is there any doubt in your mind that I know what I'm talking about? I played in high school, I played in college, I played after college, I've played with people who played professionally overseas, and I've played against people who played professionally here. I know this game, and I know how to play it. And I will tell you flat-out right now, your kid is neither big enough nor good enough to be this much of a sh**. If he continues to play the game like this he will get his ass kicked. Repeatedly. And badly. So, either you can talk to him, or I can talk to him. Or..., you and I will have a problem. Up to you." ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Now for your part as the parent of the kid that got hurt....
I would not request payment for the bills. I would not try to take up for my child as being "picked on." That may (will) make him appear weaker and likely make him more of a target. If he enjoys the game, help him get better. Buy him a rubber basketball that he can take outside if he doesn't have one yet. Practice dribbling and handling it. He won't be a target if he can at least do that much without turning it over every time. And honestly, if he is in his second year of organized basketball and can't dribble yet I would question how much he really wants to play. I was dribbling a ball and using a couple of different neighbors' driveways to shoot baskets well before I started playing on a team. What does he want from playing?
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Post by tallguy on May 13, 2016 11:46:11 GMT -5
It is also possible that things just happen on a basketball court. I remember a couple of occasions specifically. I was playing in a scrimmage during practice once against someone who didn't have my same history of playing the game. I had the ball down low, and was turning into the lane for a shot. I made it, and the defender started yelling at me like he wanted to fight. He started warning me about throwing an elbow in his chest. I'm like, "What are you talking about? I never threw an elbow at you!" Did I hit him? Who knows? I never felt a thing, and there was certainly never anything intentional.
Another time I was playing in a game and was crashing down the lane to rebound. The ball went in, so I turned to head back downcourt. Almost knocked out one of my own teammates who had been coming down the lane as well. He went down immediately. Things happen.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 13, 2016 11:56:18 GMT -5
I'm ashamed to admit this is exactly what I was thinking. I got cleated intentionally once. She found out what it felt like when I came up to bat. I'm not proud of that but I'm damn sure she thought twice before doing it to anybody else.
God knew what he was doing when he decided I should NOT have kids.
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Post by gacpa on May 13, 2016 12:45:25 GMT -5
I would tell this kid's parents what happened just to see what they say and how they react. I would base further action or non action on their response. If they also behave like jerks, I definitely would not let my child go back to that team. Who needs the aggravation of dealing with people like this?
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Post by CCL on May 13, 2016 14:01:06 GMT -5
For me, if my son (or any of my kids) caused another child bodily harm, especially even if there was a wiff of being done on purpose, I would offer to pay. If my kids break something of mine, they have to figure out away to make amends. If we are at the grandparents house, and the kids break something that's not theirs, they make amends. If my kids break another kids' toy, either on accident or on purpose we figure out away to make amends. If my kids hurt each other, either physically or emotionally, they have to make amends. When it comes time for my kids driving, if they cause an accident, there will be amends. Personally, I don't think one kid harming/hurting/breaking another child in sports is exempt from making amends. How is breaking someone's tooth less serious than breaking a toy? My son accidentally clocked a catcher with his bat because he wasn't paying attention. My son, once he realized what was going on, went over and apologized immediately and shared some concern over said child. He got a warning. Do that again, and you are out. I did not say "oh come on, what's the problem? It was an accident and sports are violent. Look, the catcher was wearing a helmet. Let's get on with it." I said "Dude, you'd better watch it. You get thrown out, and that's on you. I'm not fighting it. If this continues, we're going to rethink your playing." I saw DS apologize, and since the child was physically OK, I thought that was enough. Had there been worse injuries, I would have pursued it. I'm thinking I must be in the minority. When did making amends for doing others harm go out of style?IME, when you sign your kid up for a competitive sports team. Is this a competitive or recreational league?
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Post by tallguy on May 13, 2016 15:14:03 GMT -5
These kids are nine. There is no reason for it to be really competitive yet. Give them a couple years to learn the game and have fun. Turn them ON to sports, not OFF of them.
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Post by aprilleigh on May 13, 2016 15:26:46 GMT -5
OK, so an update:
My husband was sick yesterday, so I went to practice. Head coach talked to me as soon as we got there. What he saw was a bit different from what my husband saw. He said the other kid elbowed my kid in the mouth, on purpose. And the dad (assistant coach) saw the same. So the dad pulled the kid for the rest of the season, saying that that was the most unsportsman-like action he's seen, and showed that his son was not mature enough to be playing. Which is exactly what we would have done, but would also have made our son apologize.
I honestly think that the kid's parents didn't realize how bad my son got hurt. The coach called Wednesday night to check on my son, and didn't know the tooth was broken; they just saw the blood. So, I still sort of raise my eyebrows that the other parents didn't call to check, but only sort of. I also had the thought: in such a sue-happy society, maybe they're afraid we'll sue if they admit fault or anything like that, so maybe that's why they don't want to call. We totally wouldn't but they don't know that!
I am absolutely not seeking repayment. Like I said, I feel like it falls under "my kid, my responsibility". But, if my kid hurt someone, I would offer to pay. I just thought it was a weird internal double standard, and wanted to see what other people thought. Also, the boards have been kind of slow, and hey, here's something to talk about!
And, for what it's worth, this is not a competitive league. It's just through the school. In fact, they don't even keep score, which I think is dumb, but a whole different topic!
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Post by tallguy on May 13, 2016 15:41:46 GMT -5
I'd do it that way if I were dealing with nine-year-olds. As I said before, you want them to learn the game the right way and to have fun. The goal is to have them enjoy playing and being active when they're 12, 14, 16, 20, or 35. It is NOT to quit at ten or eleven because it's not fun any more. They have a lifetime to deal with competition, and winning shouldn't really be the main goal for a couple more years. Once you hit 12 or 13 there will be other priorities for the really good players. Lesser players start to fall away, but they can still maintain an interest in being physically active. Far better than having that interest killed early because they "weren't good enough."
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Post by Ryan on May 13, 2016 15:50:02 GMT -5
I have a hard time picturing this happening just because the adults seem to reign in the kids pretty well in our league. Still though, if this guy was being a real prick to the kid (yelling at him, being overly aggressive), then you should just bring it up in practice by telling the coach "You know, I don't really like how your son is treating my kid". I wouldn't pursue any medical expenses though.
Does your son like playing b-ball? I'm just curious because that does seem like the type of sport that puts the pressure on the individual a little more than other sports.
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Post by Shooby on May 13, 2016 16:33:55 GMT -5
I have also seen a lot of intentional, unfair, on purpose brutal play. DH and I coached a youth league at the Y. We wanted to teach FUNDAMENTAL basketball to young kids. We were assured that this was going to be that type of league. However, it turned out to be a brutal smack down league. We told them we wouldn't be back next year. It was ridiculous. Young kids were literally getting tackled and knocked to the ground. It was absurd. I am all for aggressive, hard basketball, but you don't play that type of basketball with kids who have little to no skills. They can't learn anything if they are getting knocked to the ground. Anyway ,the following year, we were asked to come back and coach. Fine, we said, but we are going to set up some ground rules. First, NO pressing. Kids who have never played basketball aren't ready to handle a press. We want good reffing. We WANT fouls called. How can kids learn if you don't call the game the right way? We want 3 sec, traveling, double dribble, etc all of that called so we can teach the kids. Anyway, it started OK, then we got some idiot coaches who turned it into another smack league so we are now done with that.
Now, keep in mind, you have to define what the league is. The youth league we coached were pretty much nonathletes. Kids who won't play in school. Kids who never played sports. So, we wanted that to be a fun learning experience. DH and I also coach an elementary league, however that is a competitive league. You need to EARN your spot. You need to improve, work hard, and be able to help the team. And, sorry, but, you will play on the floor when you really apply yourself in practice. As a coach, that is where you learn. You don't learn in the game, you have to prepare BEFORE you get into the game. So, yes, some kids don't try, they aren't really there for the right reasons and they will get very limited playing time. This isn't the Soviet Union so no, your kid isn't going to play as much as other kids who are better. You want to play more? Make yourself better. Show me that you are practicing and working hard. And, every year, there is a nonstarter kid, one who barely can play, but that works HARD and becomes a starter by the end of the year. That has happened every season. And, also, some talented kids get lazy and drop off by the end of the year and they get to sit more.
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Post by tallguy on May 13, 2016 17:46:56 GMT -5
I have also seen a lot of intentional, unfair, on purpose brutal play. DH and I coached a youth league at the Y. We wanted to teach FUNDAMENTAL basketball to young kids. We were assured that this was going to be that type of league. However, it turned out to be a brutal smack down league. We told them we wouldn't be back next year. It was ridiculous. Young kids were literally getting tackled and knocked to the ground. It was absurd. I am all for aggressive, hard basketball, but you don't play that type of basketball with kids who have little to no skills. They can't learn anything if they are getting knocked to the ground. Anyway ,the following year, we were asked to come back and coach. Fine, we said, but we are going to set up some ground rules. First, NO pressing. Kids who have never played basketball aren't ready to handle a press. We want good reffing. We WANT fouls called. How can kids learn if you don't call the game the right way? We want 3 sec, traveling, double dribble, etc all of that called so we can teach the kids. Anyway, it started OK, then we got some idiot coaches who turned it into another smack league so we are now done with that. Now, keep in mind, you have to define what the league is. The youth league we coached were pretty much nonathletes. Kids who won't play in school. Kids who never played sports. So, we wanted that to be a fun learning experience. DH and I also coach an elementary league, however that is a competitive league. You need to EARN your spot. You need to improve, work hard, and be able to help the team. And, sorry, but, you will play on the floor when you really apply yourself in practice. As a coach, that is where you learn. You don't learn in the game, you have to prepare BEFORE you get into the game. So, yes, some kids don't try, they aren't really there for the right reasons and they will get very limited playing time. This isn't the Soviet Union so no, your kid isn't going to play as much as other kids who are better. You want to play more? Make yourself better. Show me that you are practicing and working hard. And, every year, there is a nonstarter kid, one who barely can play, but that works HARD and becomes a starter by the end of the year. That has happened every season. And, also, some talented kids get lazy and drop off by the end of the year and they get to sit more. What the hell??!! Do you know ANYTHING about sports in the Soviet Union or are you just intent on demonstrating your absolute ignorance of anything that even seems like (or can be turned into) a political subject?
Sports there were not egalitarian. Sport was used to support the national image and system. Elite athletes were essentially paid to be athletes. They were assigned to companies or military units, but the only real tie they had would be to collect their paycheck. Elite young athletes in many Communist countries were taken from their families at a young age to be molded into full-time, world-class athletes. Doping programs were apparently widespread. To characterize it as "Everybody plays the same amount of time" in some silly attempt to show capitalism as superior to Communism is wildly incorrect.
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Post by Shooby on May 13, 2016 17:56:18 GMT -5
LOL! It's something we say around here as a joke. Geez.
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Post by gacpa on May 13, 2016 17:59:23 GMT -5
Aprilleigh,
How is your son doing? Is he feeling OK? Has he shared any of his thoughts with you about what happened?
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Post by tallguy on May 13, 2016 18:02:41 GMT -5
LOL! It's something we say around here as a joke. Geez. Okay, so you enjoy looking foolish. Explains a lot.
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Post by Shooby on May 13, 2016 18:04:04 GMT -5
LOL! It's something we say around here as a joke. Geez. Okay, so you enjoy looking foolish. Explains a lot. I wasn't the one having a hissy over my comment, so yeah.
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Post by Shooby on May 13, 2016 18:09:44 GMT -5
We seem to associate 'having fun' with goofing around and playing crappy basketball. The real joy of a sport is learning to do it well. We are at practice for drills and skills. You have fun by learning, working hard and getting better which is the payoff. Yes, 9 yr olds should focus on fundamental skills and drills and learning concepts. My goal as a coach is to raise their basketball IQ. I tell them to think about it like they would math or science. They not only want to learn how to dribble, they need to learn when and why to dribble. When not to dribble. They need to understand the point of defense, which isn't chasing around your man all over the floor, but is to stop your opponent from scoring. Things like that.
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2016 18:25:21 GMT -5
OP, I'm glad the parents realized what their son had done and dealt with his bad behavior.
I have very mixed feelings about team sports and I get what Shooby is saying. I was that kid who cowered in the corner of the gym during a softball game because I REALLY didn't want the ball to fly towards me because I probably wouldn't be able to catch it. We had a gym teacher but I was generally ignored because I wasn't a troublemaker and I sure wasn't a star. I could have used the kind of coaching Shooby describes- being encouraged to do better even though I wasn't athletic scholarship material. And I'd re-phrase "this isn't the Soviet Union" as "this isn't an Everybody Wins contest".
At the age of 50, I was recruited to compete in the local corporate athletics contest when I changed jobs. No team sports- I HATE team sports. The mile run, the half-mile run, the 3-mile bike ride, the 250-m freestyle, even the sprint triathlon- sign me up. They LOVED me because there was so little competition in the advanced age groups for the endurance events that I nearly always got extra points for placing in my age group/company size class. I joined my previous employer's team as a retiree this year and racked up points last weekend in the 5K for the 60-64 age group, even beating out some of them young (60-62) whippersnappers. I was always active, but it's not an exaggeration to say that event has changed my life. I try to improve my times, I test my limits (did my first sprint triathlon at age 55, now do 35-mile charity bike rides), and I'm on a team that wants me!
So, at a ripe old age, I'm seeing the value of being on a team, working hard and challenging myself. Every kid should have that benefit- including learning how to lose. Dealing with people who don't play fair is another life lesson- but it shouldn't happen at such a young age that a kid gets turned off of team sports.
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Post by tallguy on May 13, 2016 18:25:30 GMT -5
With the exception of the first sentence, that is a far better post.
If people think they can only have fun by "goofing around and playing crappy basketball" that is a failure by both players and coaches, and nobody* should associate it that way. As I said about dealing with kids, the responsibility is to teach them to play the game the right way and to let them have fun. Both are essential.
* No, I don't think you associate it that way. I read it as your complaint that some people do. And for the record, I think you often have good things to say in such areas as coaching and parenting. Politics...not so much.
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Post by Shooby on May 13, 2016 19:42:52 GMT -5
With the exception of the first sentence, that is a far better post.
If people think they can only have fun by "goofing around and playing crappy basketball" that is a failure by both players and coaches, and nobody* should associate it that way. As I said about dealing with kids, the responsibility is to teach them to play the game the right way and to let them have fun. Both are essential.
* No, I don't think you associate it that way. I read it as your complaint that some people do. And for the record, I think you often have good things to say in such areas as coaching and parenting. Politics...not so much. DH and I are very passionate about basketball. And, we focus on fundamentals. Kids MUST get the fundamentals in 5th and 6th grade. Those really are the developmental years in my opinion. We have a heavy, heavy focus on fundamentals. Shooting for example. Often, some of them can't quite hit the rim yet. But, it is imperative to teach them the proper shooting techniques. I will have them shoot one handed, one foot in front of the basket. Using 'BEEF", balance, elbows, eyes, followthrough. Sooo important to get that proper motion and the follow thru. I have them shoot and FREEZE with a proper wrist snap and hold it until the ball hits the floor. Then, i teach them to evaluate their shot. When they get they get that down, then we move to 2 hands. I do NOT allow them to walk into the gym and start chucking up a bunch of bricks during warmup time. Muscle memory at this age is very important. And, doing things wrong over and over will set up bad habits. Kids love to dribble. And, good dribbling with ball protection is important. But, good passing is a great skill and even more important.
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Post by Shooby on May 13, 2016 19:45:21 GMT -5
I often get in very heated debates with other coaches. I teach, omg, ZONE defense. Yes, i know that some coaches think it is anathema to youth basketball. However, I have seen so many teams that only teach man to man. And, those kids miss the entire POINT of defense. Which isn't chasing your man all over the floor. The point of defense is to prevent the other team from scoring. Playing some Zone helps kids understand the CONCEPT of protecting the basket as the uppermost goal, not chasing a man around. Yes, i teach man to man as well. But, there is a place for both at that level.
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aprilleigh
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Post by aprilleigh on May 13, 2016 19:51:30 GMT -5
I have a hard time picturing this happening just because the adults seem to reign in the kids pretty well in our league. Still though, if this guy was being a real prick to the kid (yelling at him, being overly aggressive), then you should just bring it up in practice by telling the coach "You know, I don't really like how your son is treating my kid". I wouldn't pursue any medical expenses though. Does your son like playing b-ball? I'm just curious because that does seem like the type of sport that puts the pressure on the individual a little more than other sports. He LOVES playing. But ... he hates having "all eyes on him" so almost every time he gets the ball, he's looking for the fastest way to get rid of it! This is his second season (3rd grade, Winter & Spring) and I really hope he grows out of it. Otherwise, yeah, no one's going to want him on their team.
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aprilleigh
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Post by aprilleigh on May 13, 2016 19:56:37 GMT -5
Aprilleigh, How is your son doing? Is he feeling OK? Has he shared any of his thoughts with you about what happened? He's doing fine, thanks! He's seemed to enjoy bragging about his broken tooth. Boys ... He still has some pain when eating, because he's not paying attention and biting to much with his front teeth. Hopefully we'll get a permanent solution on Tuesday. I did tell him that he could very well have problems with this tooth for the rest of his life, and he was kind of bummed. He hasn't really said much about the actual incident, though. As far as I can tell, he's more concerned about "the tooth" than all the surrounding circumstances. Definitely doesn't feel victimized, or really blame the other kid, and he's not afraid of playing again. Which is all good, I think!
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Green Eyed Lady
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 13, 2016 20:17:50 GMT -5
Aprilleigh, How is your son doing? Is he feeling OK? Has he shared any of his thoughts with you about what happened? He's doing fine, thanks! He's seemed to enjoy bragging about his broken tooth. Boys ... He still has some pain when eating, because he's not paying attention and biting to much with his front teeth. Hopefully we'll get a permanent solution on Tuesday. I did tell him that he could very well have problems with this tooth for the rest of his life, and he was kind of bummed. He hasn't really said much about the actual incident, though. As far as I can tell, he's more concerned about "the tooth" than all the surrounding circumstances. Definitely doesn't feel victimized, or really blame the other kid, and he's not afraid of playing again. Which is all good, I think! I'm very glad to hear your son is doing ok. You sound like a great mom raising a great kid.
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