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Post by swamp on May 10, 2016 12:32:21 GMT -5
It depends on who is asking and what they want to borrow.
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ArchietheDragon
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Post by ArchietheDragon on May 10, 2016 12:34:23 GMT -5
I am not nice enough or social enough for people to feel comfortable asking me, but if they did, I would let them borrow my stuff.
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Post by tloonya on May 10, 2016 12:37:28 GMT -5
I am not nice enough or social enough for people to feel comfortable asking me, but if they did, I would let them borrow my stuff. You just saying that because you know they wouldn't ask you (according to your self-description) What a shocker though...
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Post by tskeeter on May 10, 2016 12:45:17 GMT -5
I was reading a cycling forum and a question about loaning bicycles got some interesting responses. Some people would rather loan someone their car than their bike lol. I kind of understand that though. I don't consider myself selfish, but I am funny about loaning things. Some things I'll loan pretty much anyone without a second thought. Some things, it depends on who's asking and what they want to borrow. I don't like letting anyone use my car. I'd rather just give them a ride if I can. It's too easy to bust tires and/or bend the wheels on my car if you're not vigilant about avoiding potholes and the streets here have plenty of potholes. I've bent a few myself and it's a PITA taking care of the problem. I stopped loaning my lawn equipment when I had to go get my hedge trimmers back so I could use them and then had to go buy another cord because they'd cut mine and didn't replace it. And no, I wouldn't loan my bike to someone that's not "into" bikes. Then again, someone that's into bikes wouldn't want to borrow mine. On the flip side, I don't ask people to borrow their stuff either. If I need it or want it, I go buy it. Maybe if it was something expensive that I'd only need once to get something done, I might ask (if I could afford to replace it if I broke it lol), but I can't think of what that might be at the moment. On the other forum, a lot of people seemed to think that people that don't share their personal belongings freely are stingy and materialistic. What do YMers think? Some things I'll lend, other things not. It depends on my personal attachment to the item and how upset I would be if something happened to the item. Back in my racing days, I wouldn't lend you one of my bikes. Each bike had gone through extensive adjusting and customization to fit it specifically to my physiology so I could comfortably ride races more than 100 miles long. I didn't want anyone adjusting my bikes to suit themselves so that I would have to spend weeks returning things to their original settings. And I certainly didn't want someone to damage the custom built bike frame that I waited over six months to have built. I'd lend you my new car before I'd lend you my bike.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on May 10, 2016 12:46:59 GMT -5
I am not nice enough or social enough for people to feel comfortable asking me, but if they did, I would let them borrow my stuff. You just saying that because you know they wouldn't ask you (according to your self-description) What a shocker though...
Probably true.
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Post by NoNamePerson on May 11, 2016 7:49:13 GMT -5
I loaned my car to a friend in 82. It wound up as an $87,000 claim due to wreck. Can I say I don't even let someone back my car out of a parking space.
But really, I can't remember that last time I borrowed something and even rarer that someone ask to borrow anything.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2016 22:07:05 GMT -5
I give but never loan. Last time I loaned was expensive luggage and I didn't see it again b/c it was seized as evidence after a K-9 thought it smelled very interesting at the airport. Not sure what part of don't use my bags for your baggage the borrower didn't understand but that cured me for sure.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 11, 2016 23:29:37 GMT -5
I must give off the "I'm not very helpful" vibe because I never have people asking me to borrow anything. Or the 'I'm scary' vibe. Maybe they're afraid. tee-hee...
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Post by toomuchreality on May 11, 2016 23:39:50 GMT -5
People are always asking to borrow my camper which drives me nuts. I hardly ever use it and take meticulous care of it. The last time my uncle and nephew took it they ripped a couple snaps out and somehow gouged the cabinet doors packing up. That's why they ask you and not Joe Blow! I have the same problem. That along with "She's so nice. I think I'll ask TMR..." Ugh. Once the mgr of the apts I live in told me, another one of the residents had asked her if they could borrow a saw. She told them no and referred them to me. (Maybe TMR has one you can borrow.) At the time, this particular neighbor wasn't speaking to me, so she didn't ask me. (Whew! LOL) I promptly asked the mgr not to refer people to me again, as I don't like to loan my stuff out. She hasn't.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 11, 2016 23:44:01 GMT -5
Something little? Absolutely. Like a book or my roaster or pressure cooker...stuff like that. I'd never let someone borrow my car. Not because I'm selfish, but because I have this fear of them getting into some sort of horrible accident and me getting sued because my insurance didn't cover for whatever reason. If people did something to your car - good luck having them admitting it! I don't think it happening. Unless there is a huge damage... Yeah. Like police report huge. The last time I loaned my car out, it was to a neighbor who said he had a job interview. I didn't feel well, so didn't want to take him. I later found out it was to go get drugs. Never happened again! If he'd been caught in my car... Ugh!
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Post by tloonya on May 12, 2016 3:13:55 GMT -5
If people did something to your car - good luck having them admitting it! I don't think it happening. Unless there is a huge damage... Yeah. Like police report huge. The last time I loaned my car out, it was to a neighbor who said he had a job interview. I didn't feel well, so didn't want to take him. I later found out it was to go get drugs. Never happened again! If he'd been caught in my car... Ugh! Feel your pain
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Post by milee on May 12, 2016 6:18:13 GMT -5
I give but never loan. Last time I loaned was expensive luggage and I didn't see it again b/c it was seized as evidence after a K-9 thought it smelled very interesting at the airport. Not sure what part of don't use my bags for your baggage the borrower didn't understand but that cured me for sure. I'm so confused. If it wasn't to carry their baggage, what would the person need to borrow luggage for? What were they going to use the luggage for if not to carry their stuff? And - OK I'm being naïve/nosy here - but if the luggage just smelled interesting, wouldn't the borrower get it back after it had been searched? Assuming they didn't actually have anything illegal in there. If they did have something illegal in there, guess it makes sense that it would all be seized. But that then brings up the question of why you'd loan expensive luggage to drug mules or people dumb/desperate enough to carry contraband. Need more info.
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Post by Deleted on May 12, 2016 20:41:21 GMT -5
I give but never loan. Last time I loaned was expensive luggage and I didn't see it again b/c it was seized as evidence after a K-9 thought it smelled very interesting at the airport. Not sure what part of don't use my bags for your baggage the borrower didn't understand but that cured me for sure. I'm so confused. If it wasn't to carry their baggage, what would the person need to borrow luggage for? What were they going to use the luggage for if not to carry their stuff? And - OK I'm being naïve/nosy here - but if the luggage just smelled interesting, wouldn't the borrower get it back after it had been searched? Assuming they didn't actually have anything illegal in there. If they did have something illegal in there, guess it makes sense that it would all be seized. But that then brings up the question of why you'd loan expensive luggage to drug mules or people dumb/desperate enough to carry contraband. Need more info. Two college-educated, white-collar, executive level young professionals we worked with at the time. Their first trip to Europe, they had only smaller bags for local weekending, backpacking trips, etc. so we didn't mind loaning them our larger suitcases. They didn't deal, just used recreationally. I think they were just very naive about the tolerance of both U.S. and European customs officials for recreational drugs. Although DH and I didn't use (still don't), recreational use among professionals was extremely common and acceptable in our area.
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