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Post by Apple on Apr 24, 2016 13:43:41 GMT -5
When I went on my vacation last year, I made a private photo album and only let local friends who knew I was going, or people who lived across the country see the photos. I made it open to friends after I got home, no way was I going to advertise the house would be empty for five weeks. You went on vacation for five weeks with one carryon?
I've got to re-read that thread to get ideas for packing.
Five weeks, nine countries My son and I each had a carry-on. We had a laptop bag and my purse as well, the purse for daily outings, the laptop bag because it protected my little chromebook and the kindle better. We did laundromats and sink laundry! I even packed my DSLR...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2016 13:51:06 GMT -5
I still get a kick out of women in their 40s that change their relationship status three or four times a year, and it's always with different men.
Maybe they should hide this status. Or change it to "unstable".
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Post by Tiny on Apr 24, 2016 14:10:59 GMT -5
But, isn't the FB post from the OP the stereotype or (virtue) that women are suppose to adhere to when they marry? If they got a crappy husband it's STILL their job to stand by them and/or to make the husband's better men?
Isn't there some fantasy/stereotype that a man will CHANGE for a woman he loves? So, if a woman ust stand by her loser boyfriend/hubby long enough he'll come to his senses and will learn to love her enough to change. And they live happily ever after.
That FB post is all about re affirming that the woman did her job, stood by her man, no matter how bad he was, she made him a Better Man and the Powers That Be will shower her with praise.
YECK....
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 24, 2016 14:50:05 GMT -5
I'd be embarrassed to post what a fool I was because those reading it usually know the true story.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2016 14:54:14 GMT -5
I still get a kick out of women in their 40s that change their relationship status three or four times a year, and it's always with different men. Maybe they should hide this status. Or change it to "unstable". What does being in their 40's have to do with it? It's ok if you're in your 20's or 30's to man hop, but not in your 40's?
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Post by NoNamePerson on Apr 24, 2016 15:00:45 GMT -5
I still get a kick out of women in their 40s that change their relationship status three or four times a year, and it's always with different men. Maybe they should hide this status. Or change it to "unstable". What does being in their 40's have to do with it? It's ok if you're in your 20's or 30's to man hop, but not in your 40's? That's when I started "man hopping" . I was 39 when I got divorced and after taking stock and settling down I hit the streets running so to speak just about on my 40th birthday which happened to fall on Mardi Gras day. The whole city turned out and had parades and partied all day long in my honor
I hate to think what my status would have been if there had been FB but then again I wouldn't have had time for such trivial matters - I was busy man hopping!!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2016 15:41:05 GMT -5
What does being in their 40's have to do with it? It's ok if you're in your 20's or 30's to man hop, but not in your 40's? That's when I started "man hopping" . I was 39 when I got divorced and after taking stock and settling down I hit the streets running so to speak just about on my 40th birthday which happened to fall on Mardi Gras day. The whole city turned out and had parades and partied all day long in my honor
I hate to think what my status would have been if there had been FB but then again I wouldn't have had time for such trivial matters - I was busy man hopping!!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2016 15:52:28 GMT -5
I still get a kick out of women in their 40s that change their relationship status three or four times a year, and it's always with different men. Maybe they should hide this status. Or change it to "unstable". What does being in their 40's have to do with it? It's ok if you're in your 20's or 30's to man hop, but not in your 40's? If it is high school girls, or even in their 20s, to me it would be more understandable. They are young and having fun. To me grown, mature women trying to prove their worth look silly changing their status every few months. It's almost like the OP - Look everybody, I am in a relationship. Oops, that one didn't work, but look, this guy likes me. Oops, that one didn't work out, but now this guy likes me, and on and on and on. Look at how popular I am! I wonder to myself why they need to let everyone know. I don't care that they date around, but why bother updating FB? I am probably wrong. I usually am.
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Post by Apple on Apr 24, 2016 16:51:31 GMT -5
What does being in their 40's have to do with it? It's ok if you're in your 20's or 30's to man hop, but not in your 40's? That's when I started "man hopping" . I was 39 when I got divorced and after taking stock and settling down I hit the streets running so to speak just about on my 40th birthday which happened to fall on Mardi Gras day. The whole city turned out and had parades and partied all day long in my honor
I hate to think what my status would have been if there had been FB but then again I wouldn't have had time for such trivial matters - I was busy man hopping!!!
You are my role model! My son should be moving away for college in another year (I hope), and I'll be 38. Perfect time to start the man hopping, since I'll no longer have a kid at home and can finally just go "party" (lol at me actually partying though, I can barely get through half a beer.) I think man hopping at any age is fine if it's your thing. However, at some point I think it's time to stop the constant relationship status oscillation on facebook.
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Post by Tennesseer on Apr 24, 2016 17:02:23 GMT -5
But, isn't the FB post from the OP the stereotype or (virtue) that women are suppose to adhere to when they marry? If they got a crappy husband it's STILL their job to stand by them and/or to make the husband's better men? Isn't there some fantasy/stereotype that a man will CHANGE for a woman he loves? So, if a woman ust stand by her loser boyfriend/hubby long enough he'll come to his senses and will learn to love her enough to change. And they live happily ever after. That FB post is all about re affirming that the woman did her job, stood by her man, no matter how bad he was, she made him a Better Man and the Powers That Be will shower her with praise. YECK.... I think the other women in the OP story figured him out and...
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Post by tloonya on Apr 24, 2016 17:57:04 GMT -5
I can't stand any of the "Share [or Post} if you love your husband, your kids, your sister, your job, your computer . . . whatever." No one has ever been healed because they got a million likes on Facebook. My main complaint is that these posts trivialize important things. I do love my husband, and the whole world should already know that because of the way we interact. I do care about kids with cancer who have no legs, but "liking" their picture is too easy and does nothing to help them or the campaign to end cancer. These are the internet equivalent of "Honk if you love Jesus." I always thought Jesus wanted a little more proof than that. Rant over. I always like your posts. I can't forget one on my co-worker's car (top notch IT pro high management guy) 'Are you following Jesus this close?' Funny! Stupid! Unapropriate! Which one is describing it most?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Apr 24, 2016 19:51:09 GMT -5
What does being in their 40's have to do with it? It's ok if you're in your 20's or 30's to man hop, but not in your 40's? If it is high school girls, or even in their 20s, to me it would be more understandable. They are young and having fun. To me grown, mature women trying to prove their worth look silly changing their status every few months. It's almost like the OP - Look everybody, I am in a relationship. Oops, that one didn't work, but look, this guy likes me. Oops, that one didn't work out, but now this guy likes me, and on and on and on. Look at how popular I am! I wonder to myself why they need to let everyone know. I don't care that they date around, but why bother updating FB? I am probably wrong. I usually am. [ No, Im with you....and I am a single woman in my 40s. I don't post personal stuff at all on facebook. People didn't even know I was getting a divorce until a year later when I went back to my maiden name. The ones that crack me up are those that ajr their dirty laundry on facebook....bitching about the cheating asshole, they are done with men, blah blah blah. And then two days later they are posting crap like the OP!lol
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2016 19:53:56 GMT -5
I love FB. Somedays, because I can visit with folks I don't get to see often because of geographical distance.
I hate FB. Most days, because I see that many of my geographic neighbors are major azzhats.
12-31-2016. The day I can not visit our neighborhood FB page.
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Apr 25, 2016 13:16:50 GMT -5
What does being in their 40's have to do with it? It's ok if you're in your 20's or 30's to man hop, but not in your 40's? That's when I started "man hopping" . I was 39 when I got divorced and after taking stock and settling down I hit the streets running so to speak just about on my 40th birthday which happened to fall on Mardi Gras day. The whole city turned out and had parades and partied all day long in my honor
I hate to think what my status would have been if there had been FB but then again I wouldn't have had time for such trivial matters - I was busy man hopping!!!
Me too, 39 when I divorced and was only beginning to "man hop". However, I did not alert everyone via Facebook whom I was hopping that week.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Apr 25, 2016 13:25:02 GMT -5
I hate most of this sappy stuff on FB. There's a time and place for these things, and 99% of the time, it's not there. You know what? When I have something to say to my husband, I tell him directly, not a whole bunch of other people. For realz.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Apr 25, 2016 13:28:41 GMT -5
That's when I started "man hopping" . I was 39 when I got divorced and after taking stock and settling down I hit the streets running so to speak just about on my 40th birthday which happened to fall on Mardi Gras day. The whole city turned out and had parades and partied all day long in my honor
I hate to think what my status would have been if there had been FB but then again I wouldn't have had time for such trivial matters - I was busy man hopping!!!
Me too, 39 when I divorced and was only beginning to "man hop". However, I did not alert everyone via Facebook whom I was hopping that week. There was the advantage of NOT having FB, phones without cameras back then Now that I am way over the hill and started man hopping I just might be bragging all over the place to anyone who would listen and possibly believe Heck, I might even hire a skywriting plane "NoName is Man Hopping"
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 25, 2016 13:31:06 GMT -5
I hate most of this sappy stuff on FB. There's a time and place for these things, and 99% of the time, it's not there. You know what? When I have something to say to my husband, I tell him directly, not a whole bunch of other people. But how would I get people on my side then? I did get him once. He told me he was going to do the dishes when he got home. I got on during a slow moment at work and saw that he was playing candy crush. I asked him how were the dishes coming. His reaction was pretty funny.
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Post by billisonboard on Apr 25, 2016 13:31:57 GMT -5
... Isn't there some fantasy/stereotype that a man will CHANGE for a woman he loves? So, if a woman ust stand by her loser boyfriend/hubby long enough he'll come to his senses and will learn to love her enough to change. And they live happily ever after. .... The way I heard it was "Women marry men thinking they will change. Men marry women thinking they won't."
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Post by imawino on Apr 25, 2016 13:44:26 GMT -5
I just saw this, and it's annoying as hell (or maybe I'm just jaded, lol). I was reading it, and thought, yes, it's all "her" (the ex girlfriends') fault--she failed to do everything for him, and took him for granted, and failed to become the kind of partner he needed. Why was that a failure? Maybe it just wasn't a good fit. Maybe he did stuff that just wasn't forgivable. Then I looked at who posted it, and realized I didn't know that person (it showed up because a friend "liked" it). She had tagged her husband (who I also didn't know). I did laugh a little when I saw his comment beneath it: Yes, these women who left a drug abusing alcoholic were all to blame for failing to appreciate him. Good for him for cleaning up and making a relationship work, and I think his comment was "classy" and accepting of the role he played, not just blaming the "crazy ex girlfriends". But I think she's a dick for posting what she did (and that's not just because it was a "copy and paste" status, lol.) Just post that you are thankful that his past led him to you, and all the failed relationships led to your happiness and ability to value what you have. You don't need to be a smug ass about it. This seriously made me queasy. People really must not exercise comprehension skills when copying and pasting this kind of nonsense because thinking "I will do anything to keep him and make him stay." is NOT healthy! Really? Anything at all? To MAKE him stay? ugh. Gross.
Look, it's fine to love your partner, really. But how 'bout just tell them privately like a normal human being and not make the rest of us sick? What is wrong with people?? Were they always this ooky and stupid and desperate for attention or did Facebook make them that way?
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Post by siralynn on Apr 25, 2016 13:48:30 GMT -5
I haven't seen the post that OP mentioned shared on my feed, but I'll admit that I Facebook-bragged about my husband the other day. But he made banana bread from scratch and it was beautiful!!!!!
ETA: And ridiculously delicious.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Apr 25, 2016 14:33:35 GMT -5
I have to get Facebook. I'm missing too much good stuff.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Apr 25, 2016 14:48:19 GMT -5
I only have 24 friends on FB. 7 of those are RL friends and the rest are cyber friends that I have been online with since 96. Some post where they've been and all the usual stuff that gets posted. Lots of cat posts. The only time someone post anything personal is in a private group that the cyber friends belong to but it doesn't get really personal.
I have no problem with hiding a post if I think someone I am on with might be offended by what someone else posts on my wall.
I don't post diddly squat about what is going on with me. I'm way to private. Don't have a picture of me nor answered any of the tell us about yourself question.
I did actually post a picture once about football season about to start and one person actually said something like "OMG NoName actually posted something.
I only have FB to keep up with my best friends daughter, gk's and ggk's instead of them sending me pics thru email.
Now I will admit that there are 3 FB friends that I would like to meet in person and will get around to it one of these days
ETA: I do enjoy seeing some of the stuff pEEps post but I can just scroll past the political, religious, save the world posts. No biggie!! I'm not that far away! ETA: The man hopping visual is just too much
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