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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2016 20:52:41 GMT -5
I think you originally confused single with sole.
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andi9899
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 23, 2016 21:10:47 GMT -5
I love my kids so Im not complaining when I say this (nor am i trying to act like a hero) but there is a huge difference between maintaining a home when it is one adult versus kids. My 17 year old and i are in constant battle because she is a slob and Im not a damn maid. My 14 year old is special needs so I still bathe her, etc...yet she isn't as messy as her sister! If it were just me in the house it wouldn't be an issue, but toss in two kids and Im ready to join the circus some days!lol But it is short term and some day I will be an empty nester and miss the shit all over my house (I will, right??lol). You'll miss it some day. When your house is quiet and clean. I'm sure it's unbelievably hard to juggle it all right now. I can't wait for the day I miss the girls.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 23, 2016 21:15:44 GMT -5
@bluester - Life as a parent (single or married), is pretty hard to fully comprehend until you're there. I thought I had done well preparing financially, but the time commitment was the real shock. The physical and emotional drainage is real. My kids were both gone for 5 days last Summer during the week to a Grandparents. It was unbelievable how fast I could get out of the house in the morning without them. I mean it was crazy! There was no fighting in the van on the drive to town and no reasoning (bribing) with younger son while he hung on my leg not wanting me to leave him at school Then after work...I went home...straight home. No running to daycare, no Scouts, no swim lessons, no soccer. When I got home I didn't have to make dinner if I didn't want to, a sandwich was fine. I didn't have to help with homework or give anyone a bath, I cleaned the house without having to stop every 10 minutes to break up fights or attend to some other need and after the house was clean...it STAYED that way. I love my kids, but it was heaven. I hear you. My kid's dad doesn't help so whenever asked to travel for work, I'm all about it. Especially since I don't have to cook and clean.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 23, 2016 21:19:39 GMT -5
@bluester - Life as a parent (single or married), is pretty hard to fully comprehend until you're there. I thought I had done well preparing financially, but the time commitment was the real shock. The physical and emotional drainage is real. My kids were both gone for 5 days last Summer during the week to a Grandparents. It was unbelievable how fast I could get out of the house in the morning without them. I mean it was crazy! There was no fighting in the van on the drive to town and no reasoning (bribing) with younger son while he hung on my leg not wanting me to leave him at school Then after work...I went home...straight home. No running to daycare, no Scouts, no swim lessons, no soccer. When I got home I didn't have to make dinner if I didn't want to, a sandwich was fine. I didn't have to help with homework or give anyone a bath, I cleaned the house without having to stop every 10 minutes to break up fights or attend to some other need and after the house was clean...it STAYED that way. I love my kids, but it was heaven. And that is exactly why I never had kids.
Even in my early 20s I always said "I can barely get myself to work on time, how could I do it with kids."
I love birth control.
My friend is like this. Sge never wanted kids so she never had them. Her husband was ok with no kids if that's what it took to be married to her. I always knew that I wanted kids. I also always knew that I never wanted to get married. Even as a little girl. Different strokes for different folks.
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Post by tloonya on Apr 24, 2016 13:04:21 GMT -5
Methinks you have probably started a heated debate!! What is so friggin complicated? There are Mom and Dad. If ANY I absent ONE is SINGLE. Bored?
I know right? And NO they keep talking...I was talking to greg.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2016 13:11:28 GMT -5
What is so friggin complicated? There are Mom and Dad. If ANY I absent ONE is SINGLE. Bored?
I know right? And NO they keep talking...I was talking to greg. um...Greg didn't even post on this thread.
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Post by tloonya on Apr 24, 2016 13:13:41 GMT -5
I know right? And NO they keep talking...I was talking to greg. um...Greg didn't even post on this thread. HE LIKED MY POST! Enough for me!
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