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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 16, 2016 23:30:06 GMT -5
I, of course, go up and down with my moods. I just lost my dearest friend which most people would just laugh about, my cat of 16 years, but she's comforted me through hell and I miss her so much. I'm not a fan of pills so hope I can start weaning myself off them and soon. People who laugh about that are assholes. We will be a wreck the day we lose our dog. I don't see us being able to last very long before adopting another pet to help us get through that time. I am sorry to hear about your cat. I know that has to be so rough. Sent from my SM-G920T using proboards
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Post by mojothehelpermonkey on Apr 17, 2016 12:13:31 GMT -5
I, of course, go up and down with my moods. I just lost my dearest friend which most people would just laugh about, my cat of 16 years, but she's comforted me through hell and I miss her so much. I'm not a fan of pills so hope I can start weaning myself off them and soon. I am sorry to hear about your cat. I know I would be a mess if anything happened to either of my cats. One of them is starting to show his age a bit, but I hope we still have at least a few more years together.
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Post by debthaven on Apr 17, 2016 13:58:47 GMT -5
Zib I'm sorry.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 17, 2016 19:17:56 GMT -5
I, of course, go up and down with my moods. I just lost my dearest friend which most people would just laugh about, my cat of 16 years, but she's comforted me through hell and I miss her so much. I'm not a fan of pills so hope I can start weaning myself off them and soon. I would never laugh about losing a pet. My cats have been my best friends and taken care of me also. I've hurt like hell with the loss of every single one. However, there is one curled up in my lap right now. Zib.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 25, 2016 14:28:11 GMT -5
DH is going to start Wellbutrin this week. I am slightly terrified but hoping for the best!
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Post by chen35 on Apr 25, 2016 15:01:37 GMT -5
I take wellbutrin and really like it. Minimal side effects, and seems to give me the boost I need.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 25, 2016 15:07:12 GMT -5
I take wellbutrin and really like it. Minimal side effects, and seems to give me the boost I need. That is good to hear. I made the mistake of googling... nothing good ever comes from that. People who have success never talk about it on the internet.
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Post by chen35 on Apr 25, 2016 15:51:06 GMT -5
That's true, This is the first time I have
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Post by happyhoix on Apr 25, 2016 16:09:44 GMT -5
Wow, I'm very blessed that I haven't had to deal with depression before, and I have to say, I probably thought, too casually, that it was just 'having the blues.' Reading all your stories, though, I realize how far off I was. My family seems to be more inclined to OCD, which makes them hoard, but somehow I managed to escape that particular family gene, thank goodness.
Very sorry for those of you who have struggled with this issue. Thanks for giving me a better awareness of what it means to be depressed.
And Zib, I'm a wreck when one of my cats dies - very sorry for your loss. People who don't understand how attached we can get to our pets are idiots.
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Post by mojothehelpermonkey on Apr 25, 2016 17:20:28 GMT -5
I tried quite a few different drug combinations. I don't want to brag, but at one point in college I was on 5 different meds. Wellbutrin worked best for me, and that was what I started taking again later when I needed medication. I hope it works for your husband. It's a shame that depression and other mental illnesses are still so poorly understood. Like a lot of other physical illnesses, there is a lot of trouble shooting involved in finding the right treatment for each patient, but at least we have more options now.
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Post by tloonya on Apr 25, 2016 18:33:00 GMT -5
What are your experiences? Have you dealt with depression yourself or had a loved one who suffered? My DH was recently diagnosed - he said some pretty frightening things to me a few weeks back and I pushed him to see a therapist (I have been trying to get him to go for at least a year) I have no experience with depression. I understand anxiety and realize how powerful the mind is and how easily it can trick you into extremely powerful thoughts that aren't true. But I've never had to deal with depression... at least not to my knowledge. I do have an appointment to speak with my own therapist about this, but I'd be interested in first hand experiences if anyone cares to share. Please, tell me how was it all of sudden diagnosed? What made you guys to get evaluate him?
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Post by tloonya on Apr 25, 2016 19:16:34 GMT -5
Had never heard this before until a few days ago from the therapist. I said I do not want any pills because side effect is a suicidal thoughts. She had explained that when people are deeply depressed - they don't have power to execute their suicidal thoughts due to the lack of energy. When they go on a pill - they get better and more energetic - this is time when they are ABLE to commit themselves. I was shocked. Just FYI. Best of luck. Hugs to everyone.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 25, 2016 19:19:13 GMT -5
What are your experiences? Have you dealt with depression yourself or had a loved one who suffered? My DH was recently diagnosed - he said some pretty frightening things to me a few weeks back and I pushed him to see a therapist (I have been trying to get him to go for at least a year) I have no experience with depression. I understand anxiety and realize how powerful the mind is and how easily it can trick you into extremely powerful thoughts that aren't true. But I've never had to deal with depression... at least not to my knowledge. I do have an appointment to speak with my own therapist about this, but I'd be interested in first hand experiences if anyone cares to share. Please, tell me how was it all of sudden diagnosed? What made you guys to get evaluate him? DH thought his biggest stressor was his horrible job, he quit and was still constantly having depressive thoughts like he is worthless, a failure, not good enough, a burden on me, he would be better off dead. The thoughts related to suicide put me over the edge and I gave him a couple of therapists to call and insisted he see someone. Depression is an awful thing that lies to you. On top of everything, he's also dealing with several "situations" that lead to depression as well. He is one of the smartest people I know. He reads everything. He watches documentaries about things that bore my face off. His thoughts are completely off and wrong. depression lies!
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Post by tloonya on Apr 25, 2016 19:29:22 GMT -5
Please, tell me how was it all of sudden diagnosed? What made you guys to get evaluate him? DH thought his biggest stressor was his horrible job, he quit and was still constantly having depressive thoughts like he is worthless, a failure, not good enough, a burden on me, he would be better off dead. The thoughts related to suicide put me over the edge and I gave him a couple of therapists to call and insisted he see someone. Depression is an awful thing that lies to you. On top of everything, he's also dealing with several "situations" that lead to depression as well. He is one of the smartest people I know. He reads everything. He watches documentaries about things that bore my face off. His thoughts are completely off and wrong. depression lies! What is he doing right now job-wise? How old is he? Medical conditions? You can pm me. I think I have something to tell you that might help. Not sure but just might. Hold in there!
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Post by mojothehelpermonkey on Apr 25, 2016 19:37:22 GMT -5
Please, tell me how was it all of sudden diagnosed? What made you guys to get evaluate him? DH thought his biggest stressor was his horrible job, he quit and was still constantly having depressive thoughts like he is worthless, a failure, not good enough, a burden on me, he would be better off dead. The thoughts related to suicide put me over the edge and I gave him a couple of therapists to call and insisted he see someone. Depression is an awful thing that lies to you. On top of everything, he's also dealing with several "situations" that lead to depression as well. He is one of the smartest people I know. He reads everything. He watches documentaries about things that bore my face off. His thoughts are completely off and wrong. depression lies! I worked a terrible job for over a year and was then unemployed for another year after that very recently. Nothing I felt during that time was as bad as how I felt before my depression was treated.
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Post by tloonya on Apr 25, 2016 19:48:37 GMT -5
DH thought his biggest stressor was his horrible job, he quit and was still constantly having depressive thoughts like he is worthless, a failure, not good enough, a burden on me, he would be better off dead. The thoughts related to suicide put me over the edge and I gave him a couple of therapists to call and insisted he see someone. Depression is an awful thing that lies to you. On top of everything, he's also dealing with several "situations" that lead to depression as well. He is one of the smartest people I know. He reads everything. He watches documentaries about things that bore my face off. His thoughts are completely off and wrong. depression lies! I worked a terrible job for over a year and was then unemployed for another year after that very recently. Nothing I felt during that time was as bad as how I felt before my depression was treated. WAIT! It is sound bad but I don't get it...were you depressed during all these times when at horrible job and lay off? When and why were you treated? Was treatment wrong? Why had you even got it if you didn't feel so bad? Just trying to understand. Trust me, have my grounds. Thanks
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 25, 2016 19:57:15 GMT -5
DH is going to start Wellbutrin this week. I am slightly terrified but hoping for the best! Wellbutrin is in my "cocktail" of meds. I take 4 different meds: 2 in the morning and 2 at night. I hope this helps him.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 25, 2016 20:10:08 GMT -5
DH is going to start Wellbutrin this week. I am slightly terrified but hoping for the best! Wellbutrin is in my "cocktail" of meds. I take 4 different meds: 2 in the morning and 2 at night. I hope this helps him. It really helps to hear SUCCESS stories!
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Post by mojothehelpermonkey on Apr 25, 2016 21:08:38 GMT -5
I worked a terrible job for over a year and was then unemployed for another year after that very recently. Nothing I felt during that time was as bad as how I felt before my depression was treated. WAIT! It is sound bad but I don't get it...were you depressed during all these times when at horrible job and lay off? When and why were you treated? Was treatment wrong? Why had you even got it if you didn't feel so bad? Just trying to understand. Trust me, have my grounds. Thanks I was first treated for depression as a teenager, and I found a treatment that worked for me in my early 20s. That was 15 years ago. My point in this post was that despite working a terrible job and then being unemployed for a year, I have actually been happy during that time because I haven't been experiencing clinical depression. I was able to deal with it and didn't feel intense levels of sadness. If I ever feel sad like I did back then again, I will definitely seek treatment.
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Post by Kolt! on Apr 25, 2016 21:42:22 GMT -5
I have been diagnosed with depression before as well. It can really be one of those things that someone doesn't understand until they face it. The unable to get out of bed because it not only emotionally hurts but it physically hurts as well. The thoughts that never stop about being better off dead.
I had dealt with it since I was around eleven years old and I still deal with it every so often. Although not as much as I once had. I can safely say I haven't had a suicidal thought in three years. I still find myself having a hard time getting out of bed sometimes but not so much that I believe I'm better off not here. I know there's a purpose.
And for anyone out there still dealing with those depressing thoughts I'm sorry that you're going through these emotions. But just know you're not alone. Sometimes it feels as if you are and you feel isolated and as if nobody would understand but rest assured someone out there truly does understand your pain.
It can be hard to talk about but get help. Find someone to talk to. Your life is worth so much. Therapy may not work right away and sometimes it takes finding the right therapist which can be hard. But medication can help by boosting things your body is lacking. It won't take effect right away but things get better.. Then they get rough again but get better again.
But NEVER be afraid to seek help. If anyone ever needs someone to rant to as well my pm box is always open.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 26, 2016 5:57:56 GMT -5
Had never heard this before until a few days ago from the therapist. I said I do not want any pills because side effect is a suicidal thoughts. She had explained that when people are deeply depressed - they don't have power to execute their suicidal thoughts due to the lack of energy. When they go on a pill - they get better and more energetic - this is time when they are ABLE to commit themselves. I was shocked. Just FYI. Best of luck. Hugs to everyone. Shit.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 26, 2016 6:49:53 GMT -5
Had never heard this before until a few days ago from the therapist. I said I do not want any pills because side effect is a suicidal thoughts. She had explained that when people are deeply depressed - they don't have power to execute their suicidal thoughts due to the lack of energy. When they go on a pill - they get better and more energetic - this is time when they are ABLE to commit themselves. I was shocked. Just FYI. Best of luck. Hugs to everyone. Shit. I didn't have the energy to touch this one. Sent from my SM-G920T using proboards
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2016 7:30:38 GMT -5
Please, tell me how was it all of sudden diagnosed? What made you guys to get evaluate him? DH thought his biggest stressor was his horrible job, he quit and was still constantly having depressive thoughts like he is worthless, a failure, not good enough, a burden on me, he would be better off dead. The thoughts related to suicide put me over the edge and I gave him a couple of therapists to call and insisted he see someone. Depression is an awful thing that lies to you. On top of everything, he's also dealing with several "situations" that lead to depression as well. He is one of the smartest people I know. He reads everything. He watches documentaries about things that bore my face off. His thoughts are completely off and wrong. depression lies! Depression most definitely makes you believe things that aren't true. The worst thing about it imo opinion is the overwhelming sense of hopelessness. I think hope is what keeps us going when life gets tough, and when someone loses hope about EVERYTHING, you have nothing. I think think that's what leads some people to think they might as well be dead, they don't believe it's possible that things will ever get better. And of all the lies depression makes people believe, that is the absolute worst one. I hope the Wellbutrin helps your husband. If it doesnt, encourage him to keep seeking help until something does help. He's blessed to have a loving wife that has and can recognise the signs that he's not doing well. I'm sure it's hard on you too, to watch him lose faith in himself when you can clearly see all the good things he has going for himself. Hugs to both of you.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 26, 2016 7:40:55 GMT -5
I didn't have the energy to touch this one. Sent from my SM-G920T using proboards Me, either. Um, get you well enough to have the energy to off yourself? Lovely.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Apr 26, 2016 7:47:25 GMT -5
I didn't have the energy to touch this one. Sent from my SM-G920T using proboards What Loony is saying (if you can figure it out) is actually true. There is an increased suicide risk for men especially after beginning antidepressants, which makes it very important that they are talking to a therapist when they start taking the drugs.
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Post by finnime on Apr 26, 2016 7:48:54 GMT -5
sarcasticgirl, I'm so glad your DH is getting help. Wellbutrin is one of my meds, too, and has made all the difference. For some reason the generic version did not work for me as well as the brand name, so my doc prescribes "Aplenzin" - same thing, slightly different dosage that is not available in generic. It takes a little time but once the right meds for you kick in, you do find yourself again. Wish you the best.
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Post by tractor on Apr 26, 2016 8:39:16 GMT -5
I didn't have the energy to touch this one. Sent from my SM-G920T using proboards Me, either. Um, get you well enough to have the energy to off yourself? Lovely. There is some truth to this. I have a friend who studied suicide from a clinical standpoint. Most happen when people start feeling better and can think things through. They will usually share their plan with someone. If anyone ever tells you exactly how they plan to do it, and you know they used to be depressed, that's the time to call 911 and get them some help. Most people think they are kidding, but in reality, if they have a clear vision of how they will do it, in their mind it's already done.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Apr 26, 2016 9:09:05 GMT -5
Me, either. Um, get you well enough to have the energy to off yourself? Lovely. There is some truth to this. I have a friend who studied suicide from a clinical standpoint. Most happen when people start feeling better and can think things through. They will usually share their plan with someone. If anyone ever tells you exactly how they plan to do it, and you know they used to be depressed, that's the time to call 911 and get them some help. Most people think they are kidding, but in reality, if they have a clear vision of how they will do it, in their mind it's already done. oh dear lord- this is terrifying. honestly, it makes me want to curl up in a ball and cry.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 26, 2016 9:11:56 GMT -5
No kidding, ugh.
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Post by tloonya on Apr 26, 2016 9:13:25 GMT -5
I didn't have the energy to touch this one. Sent from my SM-G920T using proboards Me, either. Um, get you well enough to have the energy to off yourself? Lovely. See when actual therapist tells you that - how should you react? Tell her 'I don't think so'? Like I am not a doctor, she is...though it seemed so odd to me as well.
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