nuttytwo
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Post by nuttytwo on Jan 28, 2016 11:39:28 GMT -5
Hey guys. Just checking in. I go before the judge to finalise the divorce on Tuesday, not going to lie I have been having crying episodes and I sometimes am scared shitless. Not sure why because I haven't seen him in over a year and very sporadic texts, mainly regarding the divorce. It really hurts to know he discarded me (how I feel) but I know that I did things also that contributed to this. Now that is a very hard pill to swallow. My advice to all is to fight, I feel it is better to fight for your marriage and know that you did everything you could regardless of pride than to give up and forever have doubts.
My personal life is a mess but it's a beautiful mess. I won't forget and don't regretthe mess and hurt and drama that I have been involved in the last year and a half. I should have written a book, it was wild, I have lived and learned and that is great experience. My time is up for messing around and I need to get it together and move to adulting again
My daughter has started her first REAL job (meaning with benefits and stuff) It's at Citibank, they have an awesomely rated daycare on site, free medical onsite, PTO, sick days, 401k etc. I am very happy for her and will see about getting a job there myself. She started Jan 11 and I am watching bebe until a spot opens at the daycare. I move into my own apartment again March 3 (thank goodness.)
nutty/naggie
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sesfw
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Post by sesfw on Jan 28, 2016 12:12:15 GMT -5
Nutty, I'm sorry you are going through this. And you will get to the other side.
Cry your tears of grief and loss, many times if necessary.
Take a deep breath, clear down to your tummy ...... and know you will get to the other side.
Welcome to our family. We will make you laugh, cry, get mad, make you think. Just like a family should.
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Chocolate Lover
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jan 28, 2016 12:34:44 GMT -5
Good to see you again, Nutty. Hope it goes well for you Tuesday.
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gacpa
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Post by gacpa on Jan 28, 2016 13:33:07 GMT -5
Sending all the positive energy I can muster your way!
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Anne_in_VA
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Jan 28, 2016 13:50:35 GMT -5
I hope everything goes well next week. And welcome back!
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Peace Of Mind
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 28, 2016 16:02:43 GMT -5
Hi Naggie! Thanks for letting us know how you are doing. You've already survived the hardest part in the actual physical break-up. Hopefully getting closure with the divorce/legalities will give you the strength and courage to go to the next step of your life. Congratulations on your daughter's good news and now it's your turn! I agree about fighting as long as it's not the toxic kind. Holding in your "stuff" is not only unhealthy but you can't fix things by not sharing it - even when it's with a frying pan every now and then. Keep us posted as your life turns the next corner and we will celebrate it with you.
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tloonya
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Post by tloonya on Feb 1, 2016 13:12:19 GMT -5
Oy! Please, cry but be strong so he can see what he had lost. Get beautiful and go! Head up and walk like a model!
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