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Post by debthaven on Jan 18, 2020 14:43:32 GMT -5
Which is certainly on the table - but I think far from ideal.
Agreed, but it would allow you to take the job in Kansas if you get it and want it, and perhaps fund some of the deferred maintenance till you make a longer-term decision. It would gain you some time, basically.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 18, 2020 15:10:11 GMT -5
I wouldn't sell the house just for the job in an area you dont have any roots in. Renting it out keeps some options open.
And deferred maintenance is really dependent on the issue. Things you'd do for yourself you might not do for tenants. As long as it isn't causing issues that would make the fix cost more down the road.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 18, 2020 16:39:41 GMT -5
I wouldn't sell the house just for the job in an area you dont have any roots in. Renting it out keeps some options open. And deferred maintenance is really dependent on the issue. Things you'd do for yourself you might not do for tenants. As long as it isn't causing issues that would make the fix cost more down the road. The plan was to cash out refi and do quite a bit of it this spring. But - if I do get/take the job - start date would be around same time and I wouldn't have time for all that - to select contacts and oversee, etc., and if I sell - as you say - the list of tasks would be a bit different if I did decide to fix up before selling. I'm in turmoil because I don't know what I want. Not on any level! Career wise - house wise - retirement wise....How do people make these decisions? There are like a 1000 reasonable possibilities, and I can't see to narrow them down. my recent searches did indicate that some of the houses like mine in the neighbor are getting very fancied up inside....so it was fun to see that and think about what I'd do. I also wonder if that means the area is getting more desirable? SFHs this size are difficult to come by in a good chicago neighborhood. the fixed up ones are 700k and up. Redfin has me at 499 at the moment so that is less than last I checked, so some downward pressures over the past 4-5 months.
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Post by oped on Jan 18, 2020 16:47:34 GMT -5
Get a therapist... honestly, a third person sounding board who can help direct your thoughts and knows the questions you need to ask yourself.
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Post by debthaven on Jan 18, 2020 16:50:20 GMT -5
Also stop torturing yourself until you know more about the job. You may not be offered it, or you may decide you don't want it.
And if they do offer it to you, they may let you work remotely part of the time. (I do know it's not a remote position.) Patience Grasshopper.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 18, 2020 16:54:28 GMT -5
I wouldn't sell the house just for the job in an area you dont have any roots in. Renting it out keeps some options open. This is a good point Rae, thank you. I'm thinking either/or and do it quick - vs - try out the new city for a while/year before I do anything. Makes total sense, but never occurred to me! I could totally click with new job and area and feel great about unmooring myself rather than as conflicted as I am - or I could come to be sure that sweet home chicago was the way to go..... Thanks! I think this is the way to go. I'll explore the opportunity optimistically and if it's a fit I can give it a whirl in a rather low-stakes manner.
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Post by oped on Jan 18, 2020 16:59:25 GMT -5
Also stop torturing yourself until you know more about the job. You may not be offered it, or you may decide you don't want it.
And if they do offer it to you, they may let you work remotely part of the time. (I do know it's not a remote position.) Patience Grasshopper. This is good advice.. but also I think the reason she is so conflicted is because she doesn't have a real plan or idea... its why every possibility takes her off on such extreme tangents... anything is possible and she's not sure what she wants... so really the therapist route is a good thing regardless... first get the plan (albeit a flexible, general understanding of goals and expectations).. then when something comes its easier to see if it fits with 'the plan'...
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 18, 2020 16:59:55 GMT -5
Also stop torturing yourself until you know more about the job. You may not be offered it, or you may decide you don't want it.
And if they do offer it to you, they may let you work remotely part of the time. (I do know it's not a remote position.) Patience Grasshopper. I know - but it does take me a really long time to make these kinds of decisions. I need to decide I'm definitely doing x - then I think it through, plan out, make decisions along that pathway.... next day - I'm definitely doing y, then follow that one. Also - for the interview, I need to be in a good head space, and see a clear path to getting and taking the job - at least while I'm talking with them. Current job was practically handed to me on a silver platter, and I was still a basket case. So......yes.....need to zen on it a bit.
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Post by debthaven on Jan 18, 2020 17:01:50 GMT -5
I agree that a therapist could be a great idea, Oped and Rukh.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 18, 2020 17:23:11 GMT -5
I agree that a therapist could be a great idea, Oped and Rukh. I prefer strangers on the internet.
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Post by debthaven on Jan 18, 2020 18:30:03 GMT -5
I prefer strangers on the internet.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 18, 2020 19:52:18 GMT -5
I agree that a therapist could be a great idea, Oped and Rukh. I prefer strangers on the internet. I've had way better luck with y'alls advice than I ever had in therapy.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 20, 2020 16:29:04 GMT -5
First interview went well. He went automatically onto round two and job shadowing. This company has you do an hour or so of work to see if you will even like it which is not a bad idea.
Second interview was a bust. Drove all the way out there only to be told they already picked their candidate but they "wanted to get to know DH". Then they said "Well we have a job that would be perfect for you BUT it requires a BA and you only have an AA, but we'll be hiring again in 2022!" Why would you even bring up a different position if you know DH doesn't have one of the key requirements and you aren't planning on bending that? Yeah no. Makes me think of when I interviewed with that clinical testing company.
Third alleged offer is still hanging in the air. He said two weeks so DH is giving it two weeks and then he's going to bring it up again. He has told J that we can't keep going on $10/hr indefinitely and that he is applying and interviewing elsewhere. He is interested in the sales job but if no written offer appears in the near future DH is going to have to accept a different position. We can't operate on J's time table. So we'll see there.
Otherwise everything else is hanging out in limbo.
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Post by flamingo on Jan 21, 2020 9:23:55 GMT -5
So now that I've had a few days to process things, my thoughts about my all day Skype interview on friday.
1. 5.5 hours on Skype is a LONG time. 2. Thank God my wonky internet only cut out on the audio portion once. I hate my internet. 3. I really want this job. 4. I have no idea whether I'll move on. I had some REALLY good conversations with some folks, only 1 person that I felt was kinda meh and we didn't mesh. But I keep reminding myself that it was Skype, she was terrible at the technology, and she seemed to be running from appt to appt, so it may not have been a "me thing" at all. 5. The next 2 weeks are going to drag. But they want to move fast, so I'm hopeful I'll actually know something, one way or the other, in 2 weeks.
I really think I can do this job. I think I did a good job of selling myself and answering their questions with good information. They all asked the same basic questions, which is fine, and I can understand why they did that, but I would have thought that each person would have had at least 1 new question for me. It wasn't a panel interview; it was 45 minutes one on one with each interviewer. So it was a lot of repetitive information (for me) throughout the day.
Anyway, I'll just keep chugging along, fingers and toes crossed that I move on to the next stage.
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Post by debthaven on Jan 21, 2020 13:48:44 GMT -5
Wow flamingo I'm sorry I missed that it was 5.5h on Skype! That IS a long time! Fingers crossed for you! This job would mean relocating, right?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 21, 2020 13:58:14 GMT -5
wasn't a panel interview; it was 45 minutes one on one with each interviewer. So it was a lot of repetitive information (for me) throughout the day.
Anyone else tempted to start giving random answers during these types of interviews to see if they actually compare notes with each other?
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Post by flamingo on Jan 21, 2020 14:14:56 GMT -5
debthaven, yes, this job would mean relocating. Which we are fine with, though for the first time ever, relocating feels very overwhelming. Partly because they have expressed that they want to move fast and have an aggressive timeline. NomoreDramaQ1015, by the end, I was so tired and so annoyed that they all had basically the same exact questions, that I wondered if I was managing to even give somewhat the same answers. I couldn't figure out if they were trying to trip me up or trying to see if I was able to be consistent. Once I had some space from it I decided it was none of those and they all just suck at interviewing and didn't bother to consult with the others to see what was being asked. The whole thing was just weird. Not weird enough for me to not want the job, though
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 21, 2020 14:46:52 GMT -5
I can top that. I know someone who sat thru 7 individuals for 3+ hours and the final one was the PI who swore a lot and then threw a book at her head when she didn't figure out the reason he wasn't talking anymore is because he was done. I also interviewed for this job, first person I saw told me to run. I didn't make it to the PI, kinda wish I had because damn.
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 23, 2020 9:58:31 GMT -5
Did an initial phone screen with a recruiter yesterday. It went well. The job is basically what I've been doing for years. The only difference is that it's in the transportation industry, so there will be a learning curve. I've written tons of auto policies in my day. The trucks are just bigger for this job. They're really interested in someone who speaks Spanish which I do. The pay is $10-30K more than I make now. The downside? It's 20+ miles one way. The commute will suck. No more coming home for lunch anymore. I'm hoping that working from home a couple of days a week is possible. Fingers crossed.
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 23, 2020 12:50:12 GMT -5
They want a phone interview.
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Post by Works4me on Jan 23, 2020 21:09:47 GMT -5
They want a phone interview. You have mentioned selling your house in the past so I say go for it! If you get the job and settle in well, you could sell and move, creating a new life for yoyr self now that your girls are grown.
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 24, 2020 5:23:55 GMT -5
They want a phone interview. You have mentioned selling your house in the past so I say go for it! If you get the job and settle in well, you could sell and move, creating a new life for yoyr self now that your girls are grown. I eventually will sell my house. It will be after my grandparents who live next door are gone. Hopefully it's decades from now, but since they're in their 80s, I doubt it.
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Post by flamingo on Jan 27, 2020 11:54:03 GMT -5
Well, I still haven't heard from the job I interviewed for back on the 17th. Not surprising as they told me it would be about 2 weeks, so fingers crossed I hear this week.
In the meantime, I got a call today to schedule a phone interview at another place I put in an application at. So, if nothing else, I have figured out the resume game well enough to get my resume looked at and into consideration.
Fingers crossed one of these opportunities pans out. B/c I just got out of a meeting at my current institution that was a little doom and gloom in regards to budgets. Ugh. Plus, even though I'll weather the budgetary issues here, my current job is BORING. I'm so ready for a change.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 27, 2020 12:04:12 GMT -5
Good luck Flamingo! I hope you get competing offers from them both!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 27, 2020 19:53:46 GMT -5
Well both jobs DH interviewed for are busts. It may be two more months, possibly never for that sales position.
Which pisses me off. DH took this kitchen job on the word that it'd be temporary. Yeah nope.
14 more applications out. He has a phone interview next week. Fingers crossed
In the meantime we're going to have to get real lean. I'm trying not to touch our meager savings if I don't have to. Going to have to play the see how late I can pay bills before I get a fee game for the next couple months.
After that we maybe in trouble. Trying not to let myself think that far ahead.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2020 20:38:02 GMT -5
After that we maybe in trouble. Trying not to let myself think that far ahead. Is this where we remind you to live in the now? Not that you shouldn't be thinking ahead, just that you shouldn't borrow trouble. Lord knows you've got plenty on your plate without anticipating more. Time for the magic wand...
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Post by azucena on Jan 28, 2020 4:14:20 GMT -5
Drama - I know you are a planner like me. Student loans on deferral? Mortgage modifications? I would be gathering info on those type of things and starting to pull the trigger if DH's small check is correct.
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Post by alabamagal on Jan 28, 2020 6:46:02 GMT -5
Drama - I know you are a planner like me. Student loans on deferral? Mortgage modifications? I would be gathering info on those type of things and starting to pull the trigger if DH's small check is correct. Yeah that, definitely on student loans, they would be the first ones to work with. And it seems you are the one to do all the finances, if you get deferral I might not even mention to DH, just keep the pressure on for him to get a permanent job.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 28, 2020 8:24:56 GMT -5
Can I even get a deferral if my spouse is unemployed? I thought it had to be me that is unemployed. I already thought of that and plan to at least ask the worst they can say is no.
Our mortgage is only $585 a month so I am not worried there.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Jan 28, 2020 8:39:35 GMT -5
IBR?
is the student loan payment larger than the mortgage? What are the higher bills you are worried about?
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