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Post by suesinfl on Feb 2, 2016 14:08:46 GMT -5
I say Oh The Hell NO!! but what do I know. Would you even like doing that type of work? It takes a special person to make a good RN and even though the money would be nice, job satisfaction should also be considered.
Carl, keep your head up, things will come through for you, even though it's frustrating right now. Best wishes for you and all that are looking to make a change in their careers.
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 2, 2016 14:10:23 GMT -5
Nah, there is no bigger supporter for my MIL staying with us than my mother. She feels it is a shame we haven't had a kid in the past 2 years because it would be free daycare. She would be against my MIL moving out vs for it.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 2, 2016 14:24:52 GMT -5
Nothing from the dairy. Assuming everyone is right and DH blew his chances by not taking that first interview. Stuck in the house due to snow. DH is all butt hurt because my dad plowed. He always does its just what ya do to help out family. However DH is taking it as an insult to his manhood and ability to provide for us. Seems like the prior couple of weeks may have been a fluke. Not sure how long things will last. Watching our checking dwindle while making sure we hang onto the tax money in savings. Will need to talk to the daycare director because we have no money after the end of the month. Maritally things still suck, at least we are speaking to each other now. Drama, I'm so sorry. This has to be just dreadful for you and your family. Sometimes, I wish I had a magic wand I could wave and make everything okay for everybody. It hurts to think of people having really hard times and be able only to say "I'm sorry".
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 2, 2016 14:39:26 GMT -5
I say Oh The Hell NO!! but what do I know. Would you even like doing that type of work? It takes a special person to make a good RN and even though the money would be nice, job satisfaction should also be considered.
Carl, keep your head up, things will come through for you, even though it's frustrating right now. Best wishes for you and all that are looking to make a change in their careers.
There is a reason I did not go into medical school to begin with, so definitely would not do it... But she is my mom, got to humor her! Thank you, you guys on here have been a God sent! Having somewhere to come and talk, get some ideas, support... Thank you. Just got to breathe and take it 1 step at a time
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 2, 2016 15:06:44 GMT -5
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 2, 2016 15:12:28 GMT -5
Has anyone had an employer check references prior to even talking about money? The guy I'm supposed to go meet to talk about money later in the week is already calling my references. He hasn't even made me an offer yet. Is that weird?
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Post by emma1420 on Feb 2, 2016 15:57:15 GMT -5
Has anyone had an employer check references prior to even talking about money? The guy I'm supposed to go meet to talk about money later in the week is already calling my references. He hasn't even made me an offer yet. Is that weird? I have. There were a couple of places where I was a finalist (down to two people) and they checked both of our references, before extending any sort of offer. But, it's happened twice in almost 20 years.
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Post by Abby Normal on Feb 2, 2016 16:04:24 GMT -5
Has anyone had an employer check references prior to even talking about money? The guy I'm supposed to go meet to talk about money later in the week is already calling my references. He hasn't even made me an offer yet. Is that weird? We usually check references on the first and possibly second choice applicatants before a final decision is made and an offer extended. Looks for any red flags before we make the offer. I would take it as a good sign.
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Post by flamingo on Feb 2, 2016 16:11:59 GMT -5
Has anyone had an employer check references prior to even talking about money? The guy I'm supposed to go meet to talk about money later in the week is already calling my references. He hasn't even made me an offer yet. Is that weird? We usually check references on the first and possibly second choice applicatants before a final decision is made and an offer extended. Looks for any red flags before we make the offer. I would take it as a good sign. One time, HR didn't check references until after the offer was made. Then, of course all sorts of red flags popped up. Luckily, the candidate hadn't officially started and the offer letter included language that allowed us to rescind the offer, but what a hassle! It was made even worse when HR tried to blame me as the hiring manager for the screw up. Um, no, I had emails from HR telling me that this was their process!! So, I think it's ok, as long as they gave you a heads up as to their process so that you could give your references a heads up.
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 2, 2016 16:16:51 GMT -5
Has anyone had an employer check references prior to even talking about money? The guy I'm supposed to go meet to talk about money later in the week is already calling my references. He hasn't even made me an offer yet. Is that weird? We usually check references on the first and possibly second choice applicatants before a final decision is made and an offer extended. Looks for any red flags before we make the offer. I would take it as a good sign. Ok. I just thought it was weird. He said he was talking to another guy, but then he wanted me to come back and talk about money. So maybe the other guy is out? I don't know. I'm looking elsewhere still. I have an interview for a job tomorrow that I would accept on the spot if they offered it to me.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 2, 2016 16:31:53 GMT -5
All I did since 9 AM till now is apply for jobs, look into jobs, do assessments, 1 phone interview and I am mentally drained.... It is like I worked a full day and it is barely 2 PM. So demoralizing.... I have been at this for 2 weeks, I don't know how people do it for months and avoid being depressed! I can barely fake it now as it is Try 3 years and then we can talk. Why the hell do you think I drink like a fish!?!?!?!?!?!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 2, 2016 17:01:04 GMT -5
All I did since 9 AM till now is apply for jobs, look into jobs, do assessments, 1 phone interview and I am mentally drained.... It is like I worked a full day and it is barely 2 PM. So demoralizing.... I have been at this for 2 weeks, I don't know how people do it for months and avoid being depressed! I can barely fake it now as it is Try 3 years and then we can talk. Why the hell do you think I drink like a fish!?!?!?!?!?! because it tastes good
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 2, 2016 17:57:36 GMT -5
I just scheduled a phone interview for tomorrow for a job I am excited about. It's training agents. I can show someone how to do what I do. Easy! Plus it would come with a full benefits package and agency generally does not.
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Post by chiver78 on Feb 2, 2016 18:09:35 GMT -5
I got a call about a job I applied for and they left me a voicemail; I need to call back later when I am in quiet place... it is a position for store manager at those little conveniences stores / gas stations; like Stewarts, Honey Farms, Cumberland Farms etc. It would call for a paycut but I guess it is better than no job! please come here! there's a Cumby's down the street that had a mgr whose gig was to start up new locations and move onto the next. it now has its long-term manager who just sucks. I'm catching up on this thread now that I'm home.....and I'm so sorry about what happened to you. and everyone else that's dealing with job BS.
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Post by chiver78 on Feb 2, 2016 18:10:18 GMT -5
Not looking in VT, so Sudbury would be the only one. Was not posted when I applied; wonder if I should. The Sudbury store is a goner. It tries to, but cannot, compete with the Roche Bros. on the opposite corner. And, as if that wasn't bad enough, Whole Foods is opening one of their mega-stores directly across the street next year at the old Raytheon site. You'd simply be leading the store into certain oblivion. wait, what? Raytheon closed??
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 2, 2016 18:41:25 GMT -5
And right on cue here comes my mom suggesting I go back to school to become an RN, that has been her solution every single time I've faced any financial hardship or job loss... Ever since I refused to become an MD like my cousin, RN has been her push. She said it is ok if I do not like it but it will be a back up plan, when I have a full time job I can do it 1 day a week or so, and if I ever lose my job I can just pick up more hours there. She wants me to look into it as soon as I get home and get back to her, she is 100% confident that is the solution to all my problems. RN... Lord I love my mother but women. I know she is just trying to be supportive the best way she can. On a good note, I got a call back for the job I did the assessment. They said my assessment/profile came back as the ideal candidate they look to hire and they are forwarding my information to their District Manager and schedule in in person interview. I told my wife and she said... even if they cannot offer you your current salary, remember all we need is 65k and take it! 65k is the word of the day and the mantra... All we need is 65k!!! At least your mom suggests a career. mil called on cue to tell DH that McDonalds is hiring. My favorite is when she circled and ad for a police officer. It said right in the ad they want people under 35. She told DH to lie about his age. Yeah that's going to look good.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 2, 2016 18:43:44 GMT -5
Got a voicemail from the company I faxed his resume to. They called late last evening. Hope we didn't miss the opportunity since its been 24 hours.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Feb 2, 2016 19:20:45 GMT -5
The Sudbury store is a goner. It tries to, but cannot, compete with the Roche Bros. on the opposite corner. And, as if that wasn't bad enough, Whole Foods is opening one of their mega-stores directly across the street next year at the old Raytheon site. You'd simply be leading the store into certain oblivion. wait, what? Raytheon closed?? Just that location, not the company. :-)
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Post by mojothehelpermonkey on Feb 2, 2016 19:25:40 GMT -5
And right on cue here comes my mom suggesting I go back to school to become an RN, that has been her solution every single time I've faced any financial hardship or job loss... Ever since I refused to become an MD like my cousin, RN has been her push. She said it is ok if I do not like it but it will be a back up plan, when I have a full time job I can do it 1 day a week or so, and if I ever lose my job I can just pick up more hours there. She wants me to look into it as soon as I get home and get back to her, she is 100% confident that is the solution to all my problems. RN... Lord I love my mother but women. I know she is just trying to be supportive the best way she can. On a good note, I got a call back for the job I did the assessment. They said my assessment/profile came back as the ideal candidate they look to hire and they are forwarding my information to their District Manager and schedule in in person interview. I told my wife and she said... even if they cannot offer you your current salary, remember all we need is 65k and take it! 65k is the word of the day and the mantra... All we need is 65k!!! At least your mom suggests a career. mil called on cue to tell DH that McDonalds is hiring. My favorite is when she circled and ad for a police officer. It said right in the ad they want people under 35. She told DH to lie about his age. Yeah that's going to look good. , indeed. It's not like the police department won't find out that he lied during a routine background check or anything.
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Post by mojothehelpermonkey on Feb 2, 2016 19:30:55 GMT -5
All I did since 9 AM till now is apply for jobs, look into jobs, do assessments, 1 phone interview and I am mentally drained.... It is like I worked a full day and it is barely 2 PM. So demoralizing.... I have been at this for 2 weeks, I don't know how people do it for months and avoid being depressed! I can barely fake it now as it is It may sound strange, but it does get easier. The first couple of weeks are just such a shock, but eventually you settle into a routine that hopefully doesn't involve too much vegging on the couch with a bottle of wine. A little is fine, just not too much.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Feb 2, 2016 19:46:04 GMT -5
All I did since 9 AM till now is apply for jobs, look into jobs, do assessments, 1 phone interview and I am mentally drained.... It is like I worked a full day and it is barely 2 PM. So demoralizing.... I have been at this for 2 weeks, I don't know how people do it for months and avoid being depressed! I can barely fake it now as it is It may sound strange, but it does get easier. The first couple of weeks are just such a shock, but eventually you settle into a routine that hopefully doesn't involve too much vegging on the couch with a bottle of wine. A little is fine, just not too much. I started a little after 8 this morning, same routine every day pretty much. Mine does get a bit of variation because of freelance work, but I still try to get my butt into the chair and the computer on between 8:15 and 8:30. I have my to-do list ready for tomorrow with a few new job websites to check. My day will be shortened up a little because I need to get a long run in during the late afternoon. When I take a break from the computer (mostly to let DH have some time in the home office by himself on his computer), I have stuff scheduled, like prepping dinner, doing laundry, sweeping, etc. Today I went out and changed over my prescriptions from one pharmacy to another, and picked up a few sale items. It is draining, to be sure...I am in week #4 of this. Make sure you take time to get up and walk away from it throughout the day. There is still an element of shock involved, and it also has some anger with it. And it's OK to let loose some of that anger, provided it's constructive and doesn't hurt anyone. No one expects the happy face all the time. You don't have to lie to the people who know you best. They already know who you are. You may have to lie to the rest of the world in order to get through this. I've had to do that regularly this past month.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Feb 2, 2016 20:41:59 GMT -5
Has anyone had an employer check references prior to even talking about money? The guy I'm supposed to go meet to talk about money later in the week is already calling my references. He hasn't even made me an offer yet. Is that weird? I once arrived home from an interview and had phone messages from two of my three references that the interview I had just left had called. One person, my former supervisor, told me he expected the next call would be a job offer and it was.
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Post by mamasita99 on Feb 2, 2016 20:48:58 GMT -5
Just now checking in, busy 24 hours. Carl, I don't live too far from Fairfax! I had to attend class there tonight, matter of fact. I'm excited for you, HT sounds really interested!
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 2, 2016 20:55:11 GMT -5
All I did since 9 AM till now is apply for jobs, look into jobs, do assessments, 1 phone interview and I am mentally drained.... It is like I worked a full day and it is barely 2 PM. So demoralizing.... I have been at this for 2 weeks, I don't know how people do it for months and avoid being depressed! I can barely fake it now as it is Try 3 years and then we can talk. Why the hell do you think I drink like a fish!?!?!?!?!?! Hats off to you I am on Week 3 (officially Week 2 since first week was paid administrative leave) and it is really not fun... I need to get on a routine or something!
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 2, 2016 20:58:37 GMT -5
Just now checking in, busy 24 hours. Carl, I don't live too far from Fairfax! I had to attend class there tonight, matter of fact. I'm excited for you, HT sounds really interested! Thank you and they do, even my wife reading their invite email and outline was impressed and said she really would not mind if I got that job. Not our first choice, but not a bad choice either! I also reached out to 8 Bit WWBG trough a middleman and it seems he lives around there too. *Fingers crossed*! I still hope to hear from Shaw's before the end of the week!
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 2, 2016 21:01:21 GMT -5
And right on cue here comes my mom suggesting I go back to school to become an RN, that has been her solution every single time I've faced any financial hardship or job loss... Ever since I refused to become an MD like my cousin, RN has been her push. She said it is ok if I do not like it but it will be a back up plan, when I have a full time job I can do it 1 day a week or so, and if I ever lose my job I can just pick up more hours there. She wants me to look into it as soon as I get home and get back to her, she is 100% confident that is the solution to all my problems. RN... Lord I love my mother but women. I know she is just trying to be supportive the best way she can. On a good note, I got a call back for the job I did the assessment. They said my assessment/profile came back as the ideal candidate they look to hire and they are forwarding my information to their District Manager and schedule in in person interview. I told my wife and she said... even if they cannot offer you your current salary, remember all we need is 65k and take it! 65k is the word of the day and the mantra... All we need is 65k!!! At least your mom suggests a career. mil called on cue to tell DH that McDonalds is hiring. My favorite is when she circled and ad for a police officer. It said right in the ad they want people under 35. She told DH to lie about his age. Yeah that's going to look good. Wow... your mom does not hold back! Where was that tough love when your brother was living with them!
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 2, 2016 21:03:00 GMT -5
Got a voicemail from the company I faxed his resume to. They called late last evening. Hope we didn't miss the opportunity since its been 24 hours. Fingers crossed; have him call them back first thing tomorrow.
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 2, 2016 21:10:16 GMT -5
I got an email about an opportunity in KCMO. I replied saying I want to talk about it. The guy calls me and says it's in Kearney. That's almost an hour away! Oh hell no! We don't commute like that around here!
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Post by NastyWoman on Feb 2, 2016 21:13:54 GMT -5
I got an email about an opportunity in KCMO. I replied saying I want to talk about it. The guy calls me and says it's in Kearney. That's almost an hour away! Oh hell no! We don't commute like that around here! Tell him only if this is what he is talking about: www.discovernorthernireland.com/Kearney-Village-Portaferry-P10511
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 2, 2016 21:43:18 GMT -5
I got an email about an opportunity in KCMO. I replied saying I want to talk about it. The guy calls me and says it's in Kearney. That's almost an hour away! Oh hell no! We don't commute like that around here! That's just wrong. KCMO is not Kearney, not even close. False advertising.
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